Is there any way we can consolidate all the posts about boys/girls names so everyone doesn't start their own? Now that people are finding out the gender there seems to be a few popping up every day...
Perhaps we could have one thread where everyone links to their post on the baby names board? That way for those that are interested, they can still be involved with all the individual baby naming posts but without it cluttering the bmb
I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.
I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.
To be fair some of the name ideas that show up over there are atrocious. People come looking for unbiased opinions, others give them. I would rather hear what a group of people (who don't care about my feelings being hurt by being told my name choices suck) actually think about my name choices than give my kid a name that sounds awful to many people.
The baby names board is definitely more harsh than the June 2016 group, for sure! I feel so much safer here, here I would likely never post my baby name over there!
I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.
To be fair some of the name ideas that show up over there are atrocious. People come looking for unbiased opinions, others give them. I would rather hear what a group of people (who don't care about my feelings being hurt by being told my name choices suck) actually think about my name choices than give my kid a name that sounds awful to many people.
This is why I posted over there. One of the names didn't go over well but we may still use it. It's a legit name at least.
DS 9/2/13 was a BFP from an IUI! Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
They don't bother me too much. At least each post has different names for the most part so it's not the same, "is not puking normal?" barrage of identical threads.
I don't usually comment on them, but if it's a poll, I'll vote. If I were to be stuck in between names, I'd probably go to the baby names board myself, but I can understand why some people don't.
The baby names board is definitely more harsh than the June 2016 group, for sure! I feel so much safer here, here I would likely never post my baby name over there!
Most of TB, other BMBs included, are much harsher than the June board actually, its not just the names board.
I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.
To be fair some of the name ideas that show up over there are atrocious. People come looking for unbiased opinions, others give them. I would rather hear what a group of people (who don't care about my feelings being hurt by being told my name choices suck) actually think about my name choices than give my kid a name that sounds awful to many people.
I just meant there is a thread for "Names you have seen" so no one said "Hey do you like this name?" They just are bashing names they've seen recently. I understand crazy ones like "Airwrecka" (Erica), but I honestly love the name Charleigh. I always loved the name Charlie for a girl and my name is Ashleigh so that's how I want to spell it. And I was just reading the post and all of a sudden there were like 10 people gagging at that name and saying very mean opinions. I like different names, I always hated being 1 of 20 Ashleys. But after seeing their cruel comments, I didn't go back. They said if you spell "Ashley" any other way, it means you are and idiot and can't spell, well in all actuality Ashleigh has old roots as well. Anyways, this is just my opinion. I don't mind seeing name post in this group. I feel it's more welcoming and if we don't like it, we say it in a polite way. That is all
I'm bored with the frequent baby name posts, but I just don't comment on them. Other people comment so they seem to be liked and I don't have issue with people posting here and/or on the baby names board.
Side note: I honestly don't understand why anyone would care what other people think about the name you choose for your baby, let them gag away. I'm one of two people in the US with my first name and I'm sure people thought my parents were nuts, but it's perfect for me and I love it! My siblings all have popular/traditional names and they like theirs too.
Pick the name the works for you and your kid. If people don't like the one DH and I have chosen, and I know many won't, IDGAF. Of course, I'm not opening threads asking for opinions on it either and we aren't torn between two names. So I don't really have a dog in this fight.
I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.
To be fair some of the name ideas that show up over there are atrocious. People come looking for unbiased opinions, others give them. I would rather hear what a group of people (who don't care about my feelings being hurt by being told my name choices suck) actually think about my name choices than give my kid a name that sounds awful to many people.
I just meant there is a thread for "Names you have seen" so no one said "Hey do you like this name?" They just are bashing names they've seen recently. I understand crazy ones like "Airwrecka" (Erica), but I honestly love the name Charleigh. I always loved the name Charlie for a girl and my name is Ashleigh so that's how I want to spell it. And I was just reading the post and all of a sudden there were like 10 people gagging at that name and saying very mean opinions. I like different names, I always hated being 1 of 20 Ashleys. But after seeing their cruel comments, I didn't go back. They said if you spell "Ashley" any other way, it means you are and idiot and can't spell, well in all actuality Ashleigh has old roots as well. Anyways, this is just my opinion. I don't mind seeing name post in this group. I feel it's more welcoming and if we don't like it, we say it in a polite way. That is all
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If you don't want to hear other people's opinions on a name, you don't ask. If you only want to hear nice things, don't ask. Its impossible to please everyone with your name choice, because everyone has an opinion. You either own up to the name you pick or you don't. Those of us who post there regularly do not "bash" names of legally named children by other posters on a thread ( As in, if poster A says her DD's name is Sailor, and wants opinions on DD 2, Moon or Captain, we won't say "wow, Sailor sucks." We'll probably say that both names are very themey, or that Moon and Captain aren't good names). Any other name though is fair game. And if on another thread someone asks for opinions on Sailor, it's fair game.
In any case, I would love to see the old roots of Ashleigh compared to Ashley, because I haven't seen any actual evidence on that? It's listed on BTN as a feminine variant, but has no recorded usage before 1965 according to the SSA.
As I said, I didn't ask for their opinion on the name. Just stumbled upon it being brought up in my conversation. I just think they sound full of themselves bashing names. As for roots, I don't want to go look it up, but I know my family is from England and that is the way it's been spelled. Leigh is very common in England. I know it's been around a lot longer than the 60s.
As I said, I didn't ask for their opinion on the name. Just stumbled upon it being brought up in my conversation. I just think they sound full of themselves bashing names. As for roots, I don't want to go look it up, but I know my family is from England and that is the way it's been spelled. Leigh is very common in England. I know it's been around a lot longer than the 60s.
Leigh is a completely separate beast than -ley, for starters Leigh is a standalone name, not a part of a name. What proof do you have of Ashleigh having historical roots compared to Ashley?
I was all ready to say I find the naming post a little irritating, only because they remind me I am not having a girl (we were really hoping for one). But the above name patrol chick just sidetracked me and inspired me to add at least 7 extra vowels my baby's name so I can research it's true history.
I don't mind the naming posts, either. Especially if it's a poll. I like to see what people are naming their babies, mostly because we can't come up with one name! I think if we keep limiting what people can post, there will be no posts to read!
I'm okay with them as long as they don't get out of hand as more and more people find out if they're having a boy or girl. A few a day is tolerable. If it starts to be more than a few new ones/day, then I think just posting a link to the names board in the thread may be sufficient to redirect them to a more appropriate place.
This board is fairly slow. There are hardly enough new posts every day to push anything off to the second page and make people miss seeing posts.
If you consolidate name posts, the thread will quickly get very long, confusing, and very useless. Each poster is asking about names for a particular gender, style, family significance, and to go with a specific last name and sibling names. Responses to one person's name questions are not likely to help anyone else with theirs. It's not like consolidating symptom posts where lots of people have the same symptoms and need the same answers.
I don't have an opinion about the naming posts except to say that I am so stressed out about picking a name! Does anyone else just feel completely overwhelmed? Part of me wants to just wait until the baby is born and see what names "feels" right, but obviously if we go in without at least a short list of names we'll never be able to decide on a name.
This is a public board, anyone can read it and comment. There's no exclusivity, unless it's a private group.
I dislike baby names on this board, but I don't open them. I like the baby names board, and as a teacher, I'll tell you exactly what teachers will say in the staff lounge about your kid, based solely on their name. People judge, that's life. Some names aren't my style and that's fine, but there's a reason some countries have approved lists.
Plenty of people that state they don't like baby name posts still opened this one to see what it was about... It's like when there is a gift wrapped, you have to open it to see what's inside.
Anyway, I am all for people posting. Once things get consolidated to one big thread I never read them anymore.
I am all for posting whatever you like wherever you like.
I've lurked enough bmbs to know this one wasn't a naming post, but people debating the name posts. You're going to get name posts either way on a bmb, since it's what people are thinking about. As I deal with lots of small children, I have a lot of opinions (like about the Jackson trend). I just don't care to get into it here, but people have been good about naming their threads so you don't have to opt in to those.
I love the June board. I love how we pretty much post anything we want and no one really attacks us, as I've seen on other boards. Boards should be fun and supportive, in my opinion. As for the baby name posts, I usually skip them, as I already know what I'm naming my son, but they don't bother me at all.
@Bringmemylongswordho Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.
I am so terribly sorry I asked you for sources to back your claims and possibly learn something.
@Bringmemylongswordho Ashleigh does not owe you an explanation on her name. If you're so interested in learning something then go do the research yourself. If you're convinced the SSA is the end all be all then great, move on.
To clarify - I didn't mean to restrict people posting, or suggest they go somewhere else. I've just noticed that several fall under a generic "I need boy names". I don't mind the polls.
@Bringmemylongswordho Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.
I am so terribly sorry I asked you for sources to back your claims and possibly learn something.
@Bringmemylongswordho Ashleigh does not owe you an explanation on her name. If you're so interested in learning something then go do the research yourself. If you're convinced the SSA is the end all be all then great, move on.
She doesn't owe me an explanation, but my research suggests her original claim that Ashleigh is a historical variant instead of a modern invention is wrong. And I wouldn't care except she originally knocked the entire name board as being mean, cruel and full of ourselves while insinuating we were wrong about Ashleigh being a modern invention. It doesn't make any sense that a name with historical usage would only show up as registered with the SSA (which is 5 of a gender a year) in the 60s. I am not infallible nor an expert, but will gladly change my stance when shown proper evidence.
@Bringmemylongswordho
Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.
I am so terribly sorry I asked you for sources to back your claims and possibly learn something.
@Bringmemylongswordho
Ashleigh does not owe you an explanation on her name. If you're so interested in learning something then go do the research yourself. If you're convinced the SSA is the end all be all then great, move on.
She doesn't owe me an explanation, but my research suggests her original claim that Ashleigh is a historical variant instead of a modern invention is wrong. And I wouldn't care except she originally knocked the entire name board as being mean, cruel and full of ourselves while insinuating we were wrong about Ashleigh being a modern invention. It doesn't make any sense that a name with historical usage would only show up as registered with the SSA (which is 5 of a gender a year) in the 60s. I am not infallible nor an expert, but will gladly change my stance when shown proper evidence.
I got curious so I looked up the English version of the SSA. They only appear to publish the top 100, though. Ashleigh shows up on the girl's list in 1994. Ashley is on the boy's list in 1984 and '94. (The list I downloaded is every 10 years from 1904 to 1994.) I don't really see Ashleigh as having historical usage as Ashley has historically been a boy's name and the "leigh" is at least feminine if not modern. But maybe?
I'm off to read through the boy's list for inspiration...
I don't tend to care what people post as long as they at least do a little work in describing the post in the subject line. The ones that say "question" "thoughts" "opinions" "is this normal" those irk me. I think it makes it more difficult to search those topics which helps lead to redundant posts and I see them similar to click bait. I don't know if I want to read them so I click on them just to find out it is one of many posts of the same exact topic.
Also, I did not know you could provide a link if you have posted a topic on other boards. Ive been running across so many identical posts between here and 2nd tri. I can never tell if the people are posting double for more information, different opinions, more support, etc. I like the ones who say "I posted this in my BMB but wanted to hear other insights as well" or something like that.
@Bringmemylongswordho Hey! How ya doin' friend? Remember me? Hey look...I really appreciated your input on the name I suggested. Seriously, I did. But I can't figure out if you like to push buttons or if you really care THAT much what people name their children that you must find all the bad namers on every board and bring them to justice!? I specifically went to the baby name board to ask about a name I was thinking about KNOWING that the the name board is not particularly friendly toward unconventional or non-traditional names. I went there specifically because I wanted honest reactions and feedback about name-associations....that is what I got...and I appreciated it---and it didn't hurt my feelings one bit. I laughed at the sarcastic remarks. I spent enough time on the name board before posting to know I wasn't going to get a "good-game" on my virtual rear. BUT...for real...to lurk over here and back this girl into a corner for the -leigh ending and demand proof and all? It's just a little too much. I feel like there are better battles to fight than whether or not Ashleigh spells her name with a -ley ending or a -leigh ending. I mean---do your dishes need a scrubbin'? does your laundry need to be folded? Or maybe just take the night off--hang up your name-saving superhero cape for a second and relax. Babies will be born today and tomorrow with names you despise and you can't save them all. Just let it go. Just like you name-boarders demand that people don't get too sensitive when you totally burn a name they like, don't get too sensitive when someone thinks the name board frequenters are a little heavy-handed in their feedback/ cruel or harsh. You might defend your "cruelty" by saying you don't address legally named children's names in a negative way... BUT technically EVERY name posted on that board is SOMEONE'S kid's name in the world and a name that PROBABLY belongs to at least a small group of bump-visiting women's already born children...so you are, in fact, judging real legally named children's names in front of their mother's faces when someone suggests a name to give your opinion on. Just because someone hasn't revealed to you what their other children's LEGAL names are, doesn't mean those names/those children are invisible or "fair game" to be pounced on and torn apart. Do you get what I am saying?
Helpful name feedback is: "Not my style", "This name is associated with ______to me" "Did you realize, that rhymes with "____"? "I don't particularly like it".... instead of: "historically, that name does not exist. that is not a name. Your child is doomed to have an identity because his/her name cannot be traced to a small farm in Ireland in the early 18th century. Blah blah...etc" Clearly the person asking is not concerned with repeating history's spelling-so your attempts to align everyone's name with historical authenticity is in vain. Just say you do or don't like it and then go get a kitten out of a tree or something to feel important.
@Bringmemylongswordho Hey! How ya doin' friend? Remember me? Hey look...I really appreciated your input on the name I suggested. Seriously, I did. But I can't figure out if you like to push buttons or if you really care THAT much what people name their children that you must find all the bad namers on every board and bring them to justice!? I specifically went to the baby name board to ask about a name I was thinking about KNOWING that the the name board is not particularly friendly toward unconventional or non-traditional names. I went there specifically because I wanted honest reactions and feedback about name-associations....that is what I got...and I appreciated it---and it didn't hurt my feelings one bit. I laughed at the sarcastic remarks. I spent enough time on the name board before posting to know I wasn't going to get a "good-game" on my virtual rear. BUT...for real...to lurk over here and back this girl into a corner for the -leigh ending and demand proof and all? It's just a little too much. I feel like there are better battles to fight than whether or not Ashleigh spells her name with a -ley ending or a -leigh ending. I mean---do your dishes need a scrubbin'? does your laundry need to be folded? Or maybe just take the night off--hang up your name-saving superhero cape for a second and relax. Babies will be born today and tomorrow with names you despise and you can't save them all. Just let it go.
Just like you name-boarders demand that people don't get too sensitive when you totally burn a name they like, don't get too sensitive when someone thinks the name board frequenters are a little heavy-handed in their feedback/ cruel or harsh. You might defend your "cruelty" by saying you don't address legally named children's names in a negative way... BUT technically EVERY name posted on that board is SOMEONE'S kid's name in the world and a name that PROBABLY belongs to at least a small group of bump-visiting women's already born children...so you are, in fact, judging real legally named children's names in front of their mother's faces when someone suggests a name to give your opinion on. Just because someone hasn't revealed to you what their other children's LEGAL names are, doesn't mean those names/those children are invisible or "fair game" to be pounced on and torn apart. Do you get what I am saying?
Helpful name feedback is: "Not my style", "This name is associated with ______to me" "Did you realize, that rhymes with "____"? "I don't particularly like it".... instead of: "historically, that name does not exist. that is not a name. Your child is doomed to have an identity because his/her name cannot be traced to a small farm in Ireland in the early 18th century. Blah blah...etc" Clearly the person asking is not concerned with repeating history's spelling-so your attempts to align everyone's name with historical authenticity is in vain. Just say you do or don't like it and then go get a kitten out of a tree or something to feel important.
I am pretty liberal on names and spelling, since I have a common name with a slightly different spelling. There are people in the world with my exact spelling, it's just not the most common. Just like there are plenty of people named Ashleigh even though it's not the most common spelling. I's not like she is the only person in the world with that spelling. I honestly don't understand why people have a problem with slightly different spelling as long it's not ridiculous like Airwrecka (like a pp said above).
Names I do not care for: Neveah (ugh), Princess, Jaxxxon. Did you know that Cam Newton just named his kid "Chosen".!
Some people on the bump have problems with naming girls boy names. I actually think it's cute, and not a huge deal, but to each their own.
I think the problem with the naming posts like "do you prefer Jonathan or James", is that they are both perfectly acceptable names. So unless you tell us your last name and there is a reason why one name should be excluded, why does it matter? I prefer James, but I had an ex named John so I would never name my kid that, but that has nothing to do with you and your child. Someone else may be a teacher and she might have had a terrible kid in her class named James. As long as the kid won't be named James James, I don't think a lot of us can give anything but our opinions.
@Bringmemylongswordho why are you even here? You said you are lurking, so I'm assuming this isn't even your BMB
Because this is a public Internet forum and people can post where they want to post.
This. I like to read name threads no matter what board they are on. I'm pretty sure I don't have to belong to a particular month board to have an opinion or offer advice on names.
@Bringmemylongswordho Hey! How ya doin' friend? Remember me? Hey look...I really appreciated your input on the name I suggested. Seriously, I did. But I can't figure out if you like to push buttons or if you really care THAT much what people name their children that you must find all the bad namers on every board and bring them to justice!? I specifically went to the baby name board to ask about a name I was thinking about KNOWING that the the name board is not particularly friendly toward unconventional or non-traditional names. I went there specifically because I wanted honest reactions and feedback about name-associations....that is what I got...and I appreciated it---and it didn't hurt my feelings one bit. I laughed at the sarcastic remarks. I spent enough time on the name board before posting to know I wasn't going to get a "good-game" on my virtual rear. BUT...for real...to lurk over here and back this girl into a corner for the -leigh ending and demand proof and all? It's just a little too much. I feel like there are better battles to fight than whether or not Ashleigh spells her name with a -ley ending or a -leigh ending. I mean---do your dishes need a scrubbin'? does your laundry need to be folded? Or maybe just take the night off--hang up your name-saving superhero cape for a second and relax. Babies will be born today and tomorrow with names you despise and you can't save them all. Just let it go. Just like you name-boarders demand that people don't get too sensitive when you totally burn a name they like, don't get too sensitive when someone thinks the name board frequenters are a little heavy-handed in their feedback/ cruel or harsh. You might defend your "cruelty" by saying you don't address legally named children's names in a negative way... BUT technically EVERY name posted on that board is SOMEONE'S kid's name in the world and a name that PROBABLY belongs to at least a small group of bump-visiting women's already born children...so you are, in fact, judging real legally named children's names in front of their mother's faces when someone suggests a name to give your opinion on. Just because someone hasn't revealed to you what their other children's LEGAL names are, doesn't mean those names/those children are invisible or "fair game" to be pounced on and torn apart. Do you get what I am saying?
Helpful name feedback is: "Not my style", "This name is associated with ______to me" "Did you realize, that rhymes with "____"? "I don't particularly like it".... instead of: "historically, that name does not exist. that is not a name. Your child is doomed to have an identity because his/her name cannot be traced to a small farm in Ireland in the early 18th century. Blah blah...etc" Clearly the person asking is not concerned with repeating history's spelling-so your attempts to align everyone's name with historical authenticity is in vain. Just say you do or don't like it and then go get a kitten out of a tree or something to feel important.
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No, I don't really care what you or anyone names their kid. This certainly doesn't keep me up at night. ( I find certain naming trends disturbing on a societal level, but that is neither here nor there in regards to this thread) As far as this post. I really don't think I backed stisnd6 into a corner, she claimed something I believed to be erroneous and I asked for proof because, well if I overlooked something I would like to know so that I could change the advice I give when people ask for spelling help. I am sorry if @stisnd6 feels I attacked her. As far as the named kid rule on the name board (which was in place when I started posting there) you couldn't really give much feedback if you couldn't say anything negative about any name ever used because someone who wants to use a name might read it, could you? It wouldn't be very helpful to anyone.
As far as the rest of your post, my house is clean enough, thank you for your concern. In fact, bump time is my downtime. Waiting in line while running errands, getting a break from taking care of my sick husband, stepping away from the linework that is driving me crazy because it's just not quite right, this is my easy time.
But hey. It's nice that other posters think I'm so invested in their lives and choices.
Look, the regulars on Baby Names enjoy etymology and the meaning and history of names. Any one lurking the board can deduce that. If you don't welcome that kind of feedback, ask for name advice elsewhere. Stop tagging BMMLSH into this thread just to finger wag. It's pathetic.
Re: All these naming posts
Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
I don't usually comment on them, but if it's a poll, I'll vote. If I were to be stuck in between names, I'd probably go to the baby names board myself, but I can understand why some people don't.
Anyways, this is just my opinion. I don't mind seeing name post in this group. I feel it's more welcoming and if we don't like it, we say it in a polite way. That is all
Side note: I honestly don't understand why anyone would care what other people think about the name you choose for your baby, let them gag away. I'm one of two people in the US with my first name and I'm sure people thought my parents were nuts, but it's perfect for me and I love it! My siblings all have popular/traditional names and they like theirs too.
Pick the name the works for you and your kid. If people don't like the one DH and I have chosen, and I know many won't, IDGAF. Of course, I'm not opening threads asking for opinions on it either and we aren't torn between two names. So I don't really have a dog in this fight.
If you don't want to hear other people's opinions on a name, you don't ask. If you only want to hear nice things, don't ask. Its impossible to please everyone with your name choice, because everyone has an opinion. You either own up to the name you pick or you don't. Those of us who post there regularly do not "bash" names of legally named children by other posters on a thread ( As in, if poster A says her DD's name is Sailor, and wants opinions on DD 2, Moon or Captain, we won't say "wow, Sailor sucks." We'll probably say that both names are very themey, or that Moon and Captain aren't good names). Any other name though is fair game. And if on another thread someone asks for opinions on Sailor, it's fair game.
In any case, I would love to see the old roots of Ashleigh compared to Ashley, because I haven't seen any actual evidence on that? It's listed on BTN as a feminine variant, but has no recorded usage before 1965 according to the SSA.
As I said, I didn't ask for their opinion on the name. Just stumbled upon it being brought up in my conversation. I just think they sound full of themselves bashing names. As for roots, I don't want to go look it up, but I know my family is from England and that is the way it's been spelled. Leigh is very common in England. I know it's been around a lot longer than the 60s.
Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.
But the above name patrol chick just sidetracked me and inspired me to add at least 7 extra vowels my baby's name so I can research it's true history.
If you consolidate name posts, the thread will quickly get very long, confusing, and very useless. Each poster is asking about names for a particular gender, style, family significance, and to go with a specific last name and sibling names. Responses to one person's name questions are not likely to help anyone else with theirs. It's not like consolidating symptom posts where lots of people have the same symptoms and need the same answers.
I dislike baby names on this board, but I don't open them. I like the baby names board, and as a teacher, I'll tell you exactly what teachers will say in the staff lounge about your kid, based solely on their name. People judge, that's life. Some names aren't my style and that's fine, but there's a reason some countries have approved lists.
Anyway, I am all for people posting. Once things get consolidated to one big thread I never read them anymore.
I am all for posting whatever you like wherever you like.
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As for the baby name posts, I usually skip them, as I already know what I'm naming my son, but they don't bother me at all.
Ashleigh does not owe you an explanation on her name. If you're so interested in learning something then go do the research yourself. If you're convinced the SSA is the end all be all then great, move on.
I'm off to read through the boy's list for inspiration...
https://www.ons.gov.uk/ons/rel/vsob1/baby-names--england-and-wales/index.html
Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
Also, I did not know you could provide a link if you have posted a topic on other boards. Ive been running across so many identical posts between here and 2nd tri. I can never tell if the people are posting double for more information, different opinions, more support, etc. I like the ones who say "I posted this in my BMB but wanted to hear other insights as well" or something like that.
Just here to high five @CharmBombExplosion because I can.
Just like you name-boarders demand that people don't get too sensitive when you totally burn a name they like, don't get too sensitive when someone thinks the name board frequenters are a little heavy-handed in their feedback/ cruel or harsh. You might defend your "cruelty" by saying you don't address legally named children's names in a negative way... BUT technically EVERY name posted on that board is SOMEONE'S kid's name in the world and a name that PROBABLY belongs to at least a small group of bump-visiting women's already born children...so you are, in fact, judging real legally named children's names in front of their mother's faces when someone suggests a name to give your opinion on. Just because someone hasn't revealed to you what their other children's LEGAL names are, doesn't mean those names/those children are invisible or "fair game" to be pounced on and torn apart. Do you get what I am saying?
Helpful name feedback is: "Not my style", "This name is associated with ______to me" "Did you realize, that rhymes with "____"? "I don't particularly like it".... instead of: "historically, that name does not exist. that is not a name. Your child is doomed to have an identity because his/her name cannot be traced to a small farm in Ireland in the early 18th century. Blah blah...etc" Clearly the person asking is not concerned with repeating history's spelling-so your attempts to align everyone's name with historical authenticity is in vain. Just say you do or don't like it and then go get a kitten out of a tree or something to feel important.
Names I do not care for: Neveah (ugh), Princess, Jaxxxon. Did you know that Cam Newton just named his kid "Chosen".!
Some people on the bump have problems with naming girls boy names. I actually think it's cute, and not a huge deal, but to each their own.
I think the problem with the naming posts like "do you prefer Jonathan or James", is that they are both perfectly acceptable names. So unless you tell us your last name and there is a reason why one name should be excluded, why does it matter? I prefer James, but I had an ex named John so I would never name my kid that, but that has nothing to do with you and your child. Someone else may be a teacher and she might have had a terrible kid in her class named James. As long as the kid won't be named James James, I don't think a lot of us can give anything but our opinions.
No, I don't really care what you or anyone names their kid. This certainly doesn't keep me up at night. ( I find certain naming trends disturbing on a societal level, but that is neither here nor there in regards to this thread) As far as this post. I really don't think I backed stisnd6 into a corner, she claimed something I believed to be erroneous and I asked for proof because, well if I overlooked something I would like to know so that I could change the advice I give when people ask for spelling help. I am sorry if @stisnd6 feels I attacked her. As far as the named kid rule on the name board (which was in place when I started posting there) you couldn't really give much feedback if you couldn't say anything negative about any name ever used because someone who wants to use a name might read it, could you? It wouldn't be very helpful to anyone.
As far as the rest of your post, my house is clean enough, thank you for your concern. In fact, bump time is my downtime. Waiting in line while running errands, getting a break from taking care of my sick husband, stepping away from the linework that is driving me crazy because it's just not quite right, this is my easy time.
But hey. It's nice that other posters think I'm so invested in their lives and choices.