June 2016 Moms

All these naming posts

Is there any way we can consolidate all the posts about boys/girls names so everyone doesn't start their own? Now that people are finding out the gender there seems to be a few popping up every day...
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Re: All these naming posts

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  • Perhaps we could have one thread where everyone links to their post on the baby names board? That way for those that are interested, they can still be involved with all the individual baby naming posts but without it cluttering the bmb
  • edited January 2016
    The baby names board is definitely more harsh than the June 2016 group, for sure! I feel so much safer here, here I would likely never post my baby name over there!
  • stisnd6 said:

    I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.

    To be fair some of the name ideas that show up over there are atrocious. People come looking for unbiased opinions, others give them. I would rather hear what a group of people (who don't care about my feelings being hurt by being told my name choices suck) actually think about my name choices than give my kid a name that sounds awful to many people.
    This is why I posted over there. One of the names didn't go over well but we may still use it. It's a legit name at least.
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  • They don't bother me too much. At least each post has different names for the most part so it's not the same, "is not puking normal?" barrage of identical threads.

    I don't usually comment on them, but if it's a poll, I'll vote. If I were to be stuck in between names, I'd probably go to the baby names board myself, but I can understand why some people don't.
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    edited January 2016

    stisnd6 said:

    I personally do not like the baby names board. I don't even like reading them. Those people seem so full of themselves. They go around making fun of people's names, even the ones no one asked opinions about, just ones they've heard recently. There's one way to say you don't like a name, like "that's not my style" rather than the way they act and right "Barf!!" Who made them the name experts? Get over yourselves please lol.

    To be fair some of the name ideas that show up over there are atrocious. People come looking for unbiased opinions, others give them. I would rather hear what a group of people (who don't care about my feelings being hurt by being told my name choices suck) actually think about my name choices than give my kid a name that sounds awful to many people.
    I just meant there is a thread for "Names you have seen" so no one said "Hey do you like this name?" They just are bashing names they've seen recently. I understand crazy ones like "Airwrecka" (Erica), but I honestly love the name Charleigh. I always loved the name Charlie for a girl and my name is Ashleigh so that's how I want to spell it. And I was just reading the post and all of a sudden there were like 10 people gagging at that name and saying very mean opinions. I like different names, I always hated being 1 of 20 Ashleys. But after seeing their cruel comments, I didn't go back. They said if you spell "Ashley" any other way, it means you are and idiot and can't spell, well in all actuality Ashleigh has old roots as well.
    Anyways, this is just my opinion. I don't mind seeing name post in this group. I feel it's more welcoming and if we don't like it, we say it in a polite way. That is all :)
  • I'm bored with the frequent baby name posts, but I just don't comment on them. Other people comment so they seem to be liked and I don't have issue with people posting here and/or on the baby names board.

    Side note: I honestly don't understand why anyone would care what other people think about the name you choose for your baby, let them gag away. I'm one of two people in the US with my first name and I'm sure people thought my parents were nuts, but it's perfect for me and I love it! My siblings all have popular/traditional names and they like theirs too.

    Pick the name the works for you and your kid. If people don't like the one DH and I have chosen, and I know many won't, IDGAF. Of course, I'm not opening threads asking for opinions on it either and we aren't torn between two names. So I don't really have a dog in this fight. ;)
  • @Bringmemylongswordho

    As I said, I didn't ask for their opinion on the name. Just stumbled upon it being brought up in my conversation. I just think they sound full of themselves bashing names. As for roots, I don't want to go look it up, but I know my family is from England and that is the way it's been spelled. Leigh is very common in England. I know it's been around a lot longer than the 60s.
  • @Bringmemylongswordho
    Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.
  • stisnd6 said:

    @Bringmemylongswordho
    Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.

    I am so terribly sorry I asked you for sources to back your claims and possibly learn something.
  • I'm okay with them as long as they don't get out of hand as more and more people find out if they're having a boy or girl. A few a day is tolerable. If it starts to be more than a few new ones/day, then I think just posting a link to the names board in the thread may be sufficient to redirect them to a more appropriate place.
  • I don't have an opinion about the naming posts except to say that I am so stressed out about picking a name! Does anyone else just feel completely overwhelmed? Part of me wants to just wait until the baby is born and see what names "feels" right, but obviously if we go in without at least a short list of names we'll never be able to decide on a name.
  • I've lurked enough bmbs to know this one wasn't a naming post, but people debating the name posts. You're going to get name posts either way on a bmb, since it's what people are thinking about. As I deal with lots of small children, I have a lot of opinions (like about the Jackson trend). I just don't care to get into it here, but people have been good about naming their threads so you don't have to opt in to those.
  • stisnd6 said:

    @Bringmemylongswordho
    Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.

    I am so terribly sorry I asked you for sources to back your claims and possibly learn something.
    @Bringmemylongswordho
    Ashleigh does not owe you an explanation on her name. If you're so interested in learning something then go do the research yourself. If you're convinced the SSA is the end all be all then great, move on.
  • To clarify - I didn't mean to restrict people posting, or suggest they go somewhere else. I've just noticed that several fall under a generic "I need boy names". I don't mind the polls.
  • @Bringmemylongswordho why are you even here? You said you are lurking, so I'm assuming this isn't even your BMB
  • @Bringmemylongswordho Wow, you sound real mature. Please go back to your board. Don't lurk to find problems.
    I am so terribly sorry I asked you for sources to back your claims and possibly learn something.
    @Bringmemylongswordho Ashleigh does not owe you an explanation on her name. If you're so interested in learning something then go do the research yourself. If you're convinced the SSA is the end all be all then great, move on.
    She doesn't owe me an explanation, but my research suggests her original claim that Ashleigh is a historical variant instead of a modern invention is wrong. And I wouldn't care except she originally knocked the entire name board as being mean, cruel and full of ourselves while insinuating we were wrong about Ashleigh being a modern invention. It doesn't make any sense that a name with historical usage would only show up as registered with the SSA (which is 5 of a gender a year) in the 60s. I am not infallible nor an expert, but will gladly change my stance when shown proper evidence.
    I got curious so I looked up the English version of the SSA.  They only appear to publish the top 100, though.  Ashleigh shows up on the girl's list in 1994.  Ashley is on the boy's list in 1984 and '94.  (The list I downloaded is every 10 years from 1904 to 1994.)  I don't really see Ashleigh as having historical usage as Ashley has historically been a boy's name and the "leigh" is at least feminine if not modern.  But maybe?   

    I'm off to read through the boy's list for inspiration...


    https://www.ons.gov.uk/ons/rel/vsob1/baby-names--england-and-wales/index.html

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  • I don't tend to care what people post as long as they at least do a little work in describing the post in the subject line. The ones that say "question" "thoughts" "opinions" "is this normal" those irk me. I think it makes it more difficult to search those topics which helps lead to redundant posts and I see them similar to click bait. I don't know if I want to read them so I click on them just to find out it is one of many posts of the same exact topic.

    Also, I did not know you could provide a link if you have posted a topic on other boards. Ive been running across so many identical posts between here and 2nd tri. I can never tell if the people are posting double for more information, different opinions, more support, etc. I like the ones who say "I posted this in my BMB but wanted to hear other insights as well" or something like that.
  • @Bringmemylongswordho Hey! How ya doin' friend? :) Remember me? Hey look...I really appreciated your input on the name I suggested. Seriously, I did. But I can't figure out if you like to push buttons or if you really care THAT much what people name their children that you must find all the bad namers on every board and bring them to justice!? I specifically went to the baby name board to ask about a name I was thinking about KNOWING that the the name board is not particularly friendly toward unconventional or non-traditional names. I went there specifically because I wanted honest reactions and feedback about name-associations....that is what I got...and I appreciated it---and it didn't hurt my feelings one bit. I laughed at the sarcastic remarks. I spent enough time on the name board before posting to know I wasn't going to get a "good-game" on my virtual rear. BUT...for real...to lurk over here and back this girl into a corner for the -leigh ending and demand proof and all? It's just a little too much. I feel like there are better battles to fight than whether or not Ashleigh spells her name with a -ley ending or a -leigh ending. I mean---do your dishes need a scrubbin'? does your laundry need to be folded? Or maybe just take the night off--hang up your name-saving superhero cape for a second and relax. Babies will be born today and tomorrow with names you despise and you can't save them all. Just let it go. 

    Just like you name-boarders demand that people don't get too sensitive when you totally burn a name they like,  don't get too sensitive when someone thinks the name board frequenters are a little heavy-handed in their feedback/ cruel or harsh. You might defend your "cruelty" by saying you don't address legally named children's names in a negative way... BUT technically EVERY name posted on that board is SOMEONE'S kid's name in the world and a name that PROBABLY belongs to at least a small group of bump-visiting women's already born children...so you are, in fact, judging real legally named children's names in front of their mother's faces when someone suggests a name to give your opinion on. Just because someone hasn't revealed to you what their other children's LEGAL names are, doesn't mean those names/those children are invisible or "fair game" to be pounced on and torn apart. Do you get what I am saying? 

    Helpful name feedback is: "Not my style", "This name is associated with ______to me" "Did you realize, that rhymes with "____"? "I don't particularly like it".... instead of: "historically, that name does not exist. that is not a name. Your child is doomed to have an identity because his/her name cannot be traced to a small farm in Ireland in the early 18th century. Blah blah...etc" Clearly the person asking is not concerned with repeating history's spelling-so your attempts to align everyone's name with historical authenticity is in vain. Just say you do or don't like it and then go get a kitten out of a tree or something to feel important.
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  • I am pretty liberal on names and spelling, since I have a common name with a slightly different spelling. There are people in the world with my exact spelling, it's just not the most common. Just like there are  plenty of people named Ashleigh even though it's not the most common spelling. I's not like she is the only person in the world with that spelling. I honestly don't understand why people have a problem with slightly different spelling as long it's not ridiculous like Airwrecka (like a pp said above).  

    Names I do not care for: Neveah (ugh), Princess, Jaxxxon. Did you know that Cam Newton just named his kid "Chosen".!

    Some people on the bump have problems with naming girls boy names.  I actually think it's cute, and not a huge deal, but to each their own.

    I think the problem with the naming posts like "do you prefer Jonathan or James", is that they are both perfectly acceptable names. So unless you tell us your last name and there is a reason why one name should be excluded, why does it matter? I prefer James, but I had an ex named John so I would never name my kid that, but that has nothing to do with you and your child. Someone else may be a teacher and she might have had a terrible kid in her class named James. As long as the kid won't be named James James, I don't think a lot of us can give anything but our opinions. 



  • sdnybrk said:

    @Bringmemylongswordho why are you even here? You said you are lurking, so I'm assuming this isn't even your BMB

    Because this is a public Internet forum and people can post where they want to post.
    This. I like to read name threads no matter what board they are on. I'm pretty sure I don't have to belong to a particular month board to have an opinion or offer advice on names.

    @Bringmemylongswordho Hey! How ya doin' friend? :) Remember me? Hey look...I really appreciated your input on the name I suggested. Seriously, I did. But I can't figure out if you like to push buttons or if you really care THAT much what people name their children that you must find all the bad namers on every board and bring them to justice!? I specifically went to the baby name board to ask about a name I was thinking about KNOWING that the the name board is not particularly friendly toward unconventional or non-traditional names. I went there specifically because I wanted honest reactions and feedback about name-associations....that is what I got...and I appreciated it---and it didn't hurt my feelings one bit. I laughed at the sarcastic remarks. I spent enough time on the name board before posting to know I wasn't going to get a "good-game" on my virtual rear. BUT...for real...to lurk over here and back this girl into a corner for the -leigh ending and demand proof and all? It's just a little too much. I feel like there are better battles to fight than whether or not Ashleigh spells her name with a -ley ending or a -leigh ending. I mean---do your dishes need a scrubbin'? does your laundry need to be folded? Or maybe just take the night off--hang up your name-saving superhero cape for a second and relax. Babies will be born today and tomorrow with names you despise and you can't save them all. Just let it go. 

    Just like you name-boarders demand that people don't get too sensitive when you totally burn a name they like,  don't get too sensitive when someone thinks the name board frequenters are a little heavy-handed in their feedback/ cruel or harsh. You might defend your "cruelty" by saying you don't address legally named children's names in a negative way... BUT technically EVERY name posted on that board is SOMEONE'S kid's name in the world and a name that PROBABLY belongs to at least a small group of bump-visiting women's already born children...so you are, in fact, judging real legally named children's names in front of their mother's faces when someone suggests a name to give your opinion on. Just because someone hasn't revealed to you what their other children's LEGAL names are, doesn't mean those names/those children are invisible or "fair game" to be pounced on and torn apart. Do you get what I am saying? 

    Helpful name feedback is: "Not my style", "This name is associated with ______to me" "Did you realize, that rhymes with "____"? "I don't particularly like it".... instead of: "historically, that name does not exist. that is not a name. Your child is doomed to have an identity because his/her name cannot be traced to a small farm in Ireland in the early 18th century. Blah blah...etc" Clearly the person asking is not concerned with repeating history's spelling-so your attempts to align everyone's name with historical authenticity is in vain. Just say you do or don't like it and then go get a kitten out of a tree or something to feel important.

    Hi.

    No, I don't really care what you or anyone names their kid. This certainly doesn't keep me up at night. ( I find certain naming trends disturbing on a societal level, but that is neither here nor there in regards to this thread) As far as this post. I really don't think I backed stisnd6 into a corner, she claimed something I believed to be erroneous and I asked for proof because, well if I overlooked something I would like to know so that I could change the advice I give when people ask for spelling help. I am sorry if @stisnd6 feels I attacked her. As far as the named kid rule on the name board (which was in place when I started posting there) you couldn't really give much feedback if you couldn't say anything negative about any name ever used because someone who wants to use a name might read it, could you? It wouldn't be very helpful to anyone.

    As far as the rest of your post, my house is clean enough, thank you for your concern. In fact, bump time is my downtime. Waiting in line while running errands, getting a break from taking care of my sick husband, stepping away from the linework that is driving me crazy because it's just not quite right, this is my easy time.

    But hey. It's nice that other posters think I'm so invested in their lives and choices.
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