We had a co-ed shower. No cutesy games, but we did have a corn hole tournament.
We did this for our bridal shower that my MIL insisted on throwing and fully plan to do another co-ed party for the baby shower she'll throw. Just another BBQ with awkward gift opening attached.
I don't need a Go Fund Me, because I'm gonna win Friday's $700 million Powerball jackpot.
My UO: I get mildly annoyed with people who complain both about people resurrecting old threads in the same breath as their complaining about no one using the search function. You can't be mad someone didn't use the search function and then get mad when they go and use the search function and end up resurrecting a post from November.
Another UO: I hate generic sliced bread. I love artisan bread, ciabatta bread, Amish white bread, Italian bread, rolls, etc. But the stuff you buy in the fake-ass loaves pre-cut (the kind all the rest of the normal people buy)- I can't stand it. I also hate peanut butter and jelly. A PB&J sounds the absolute worst. I take it back though- I can eat regular people sliced bread only in a grilled cheese.
@MotherOfDucks@born2run911 I HATE icing. The ONLY one I will eat is Pillsbury Whipped vanilla. The rest are way too sweet or buttery. I also don't like cheesecake - I don't like cream cheese in general.
I completely agree that showers are the WORST. I was so uncomfortable at my wedding shower with own family. I was so awkward. And then to make it even worse - my husband grew up in a super small town. They do a wedding shower at the church and PUT AN AD IN THE LOCAL PAPER announcing it. So I had to sit in the front of room with about 75 people I had never met. There were definitely older women that came and brought a few tea towels from their house so they could socialize and eat the free food. Painful.
Me: 31 | DH: 37 Married January 12, 2013 TTC since July 2013 Fertility Treatments January 2014 - June 2015 Took a break to prepare for IVF Surprise BFP - September 2015 - MMC at 6 weeks, 5 days Another surprise BFP - November 2015 - EDD: July 8th!
I'm not against showers because even though we're "working professionals" we're not exactly white collar live in the suburbs with a Lincoln and an Audi, so I will take every last pack of diapers and every single onesie that someone wants to give us. Buying two of all the things makes a shower a very helpful thing in my life and I am grateful to get one.
My UO: I get mildly annoyed with people who complain both about people resurrecting old threads in the same breath as their complaining about no one using the search function. You can't be mad someone didn't use the search function and then get mad when they go and use the search function and end up resurrecting a post from November.
I hear what you're saying, but I don't think the resurrected ones that annoy people are really the ones people are using the search function for. Like, resurrecting the dog killing posts. That's not a result of someone searching about dog killing. I mean, I hope it isn't. It's just people who are bored and browsing pages back and deciding to comment on a dead and beaten horse. That's what irks people, I think.
If it's truly a resource someone's researching for and they resurrect it for that, I don't think anyone here minds at all.
MY UO is that I hate when people comment and say that there needs to be a tmi warning. If someone is talking about discharge there is no need for a tmi warning. We are on a pregnancy website so some things should come with the territory. Now if the something dark green and smells like a trash truck is coming out of someone, then I can see a need for a tmi warning.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
My UO: I get mildly annoyed with people who complain both about people resurrecting old threads in the same breath as their complaining about no one using the search function. You can't be mad someone didn't use the search function and then get mad when they go and use the search function and end up resurrecting a post from November.
I hear what you're saying, but I don't think the resurrected ones that annoy people are really the ones people are using the search function for. Like, resurrecting the dog killing posts. That's not a result of someone searching about dog killing. I mean, I hope it isn't. It's just people who are bored and browsing pages back and deciding to comment on a dead and beaten horse. That's what irks people, I think.
If it's truly a resource someone's researching for and they resurrect it for that, I don't think anyone here minds at all.
My UO: I get mildly annoyed with people who complain both about people resurrecting old threads in the same breath as their complaining about no one using the search function. You can't be mad someone didn't use the search function and then get mad when they go and use the search function and end up resurrecting a post from November.
Since I'm pretty sure this is directed at me, let me clarify. What I actually said was that I appreciated the use of the search function. There was no complaint on my end about lack of the search function, because it was obviously used.
ETA I used to live by PETA HQ in Norfolk, they're all a bunch of lunatics. Not too long ago they stole a little girl's chihuahua off of a family's front porch and killed it. The guy had a camera on the porch and caught them red handed. They denied denied denied for a few days, then came back with a gift basket saying "sorry, we totally took the dog and then euthanized it". They only admitted it because lawyers got involved and they were caught on camera. Freaking awful.
My UO: I get mildly annoyed with people who complain both about people resurrecting old threads in the same breath as their complaining about no one using the search function. You can't be mad someone didn't use the search function and then get mad when they go and use the search function and end up resurrecting a post from November.
Since I'm pretty sure this is directed at me, let me clarify. What I actually said was that I appreciated the use of the search function. There was no complaint on my end about lack of the search function, because it was obviously used.
Actually...
I didn't notice you doing anything- so my post wasn't directed to you. It wasn't directed at anyone, actually, just a generalized observation. You guys are ruining my UO with logic! Stop it!
My OU for the day: I am sick and tired of the old "lazy government employee" crap. I'm a government employee and have been for over 8 years, most of us get paid peanuts compared to private sector and we are neither lazy nor stupid. The majority of us actually go the extra mile for a lot of supremely ungrateful people every single day. I've never heard this phrase LinzerBinzer mentioned about 'close enough for government work' but I can assure you it does not exist in my workplace. I realize you were talking about a slightly different topic, so this isn't directed at you LinzerBinzer, but the whole subject makes me grumpy after having been shit on for 8 years. No matter what the subject is, it's always the government's fault (or the lazy gub'mint employee).
Rant over.
My husband and MIL are both government employees (different jobs) and both work really hard and go the extra mile. Both make decent wages but are by no means rolling in money. DH gets a lot of jokes like "My taxes pay your wages" (his response "my taxes pay my own wages too") and a lot of implications that he is lazy and doesn't work very hard, neither of which are true. Mostly he can laugh it off or joke back but it always annoys the hell out of me.
Words like va-jay-jay, vag and referring to your vagina as "downstairs" or similarly is silly to me. We all seem to be grown up enough to have gotten pregnant. I think we can be grown up enough to use the word vagina.
On the shower tip, I say milk it for all its worth. It is somewhat awkward but I could care less.
I have spent thousands on weddings, babies and the general life decisions of those I love. It has been my pleasure but now I'm ready for my turn.
I know it's an antiquated tradition that started out when people didn't cohabitate and had little to no household possessions. But most of the people who come genuinely care and want to wish you well.
Before my son, I would have jumped on the I-don't-like-showers bandwagon, but I actually really enjoyed my baby showers. I was nervous that it was going to be a repeat of my super awkward bridal showers where I sat there and everyone watched me open presents I had picked out for myself... like it was Christmas and I was the only one who got anything. But with the baby showers, I felt like no one was actually looking at me, which was so nice - they were all too into how cute the stuff was and wanted to pass around all the little clothes, etc. That being said, I was also lucky that both my SIL and MIL respected my wishes and didn't do the "guess the mom's belly size" game or anything embarrassing of that nature. However, I second @elenabrentin that I am a much bigger fan of throwing showers than being thrown one.
On the shower tip, I say milk it for all its worth. It is somewhat awkward but I could care less.
I have spent thousands on weddings, babies and the general life decisions of those I love. It has been my pleasure but now I'm ready for my turn.
I know it's an antiquated tradition that started out when people didn't cohabitate and had little to no household possessions. But most of the people who come genuinely care and want to wish you well.
This is definitely true and something I will keep in mind. I know Dh's family and mine are over the moon about this and almost feel like it's a bit of welcoming into grandparent land as well for the rents. But honestly, I feel like getting a poster that reads "if you ask 'does that come in my size???' your immediately getting taken out back and suffocated with one of the diaper things that looks like a cake"
Words like va-jay-jay, vag and referring to your vagina as "downstairs" or similarly is silly to me. We all seem to be grown up enough to have gotten pregnant. I think we can be grown up enough to use the word vagina.
I feel the same way about prego, preggers, etc. for pregnant. We're not 3 years old, we're adults, we can say the whole word.
My UO is that I really don't get home births. I guess it's not so much an UO, because it's not that I think people are wrong for doing it, I just can't understand the desire to do it and how it doesn't scare the hell out of a person. Plus the mess - do you just throw stuff away after?
Words like va-jay-jay, vag and referring to your vagina as "downstairs" or similarly is silly to me. We all seem to be grown up enough to have gotten pregnant. I think we can be grown up enough to use the word vagina.
I hate GoFundMe. There is aid out there for when people really need it, and I understand your house burned down/your baby has a ton of medical bills/the breadwinner died and they're high and dry and that sucks. But that doesn't mean I should give my money to you to do who the hell knows what with it.
Especially for ridiculous things. You need a plane ticket to see your friend in NYC? You lost your job because you got caught stealing and don't have rent money? Life happens, and before there was the internet people figured out what how to adult. I get that disasters happen and I'm all for giving my money to good causes, but asking random internet strangers or your FaceBook friends? Give me a break. I'm feeling sorry for you and your family, I empathize, and they will be in my thoughts and prayers, but no.
Omg yes. I have a friend who started a GFM for her road trip around the US. The worst is the people who contribute to it. Gag. I saw another woman on facebook who needed 22k for her IVF. I can totally sympathize, infertility is heart breaking, btdt. But her situation is straight dumb. Her insurance covered it at first but not anymore since she turned 26 and got cut off from daddy's plan. Oh and she just got married, by the looks of it her wedding was beautiful and looked expensive. What happened to the days when people worked hard for their money and earned it? I'm so tired of this world feeling so entitled.
I'm looking forward to having a shower. It's time to recoup some of the money I've spent on countless shower gifts as I'm one of the last ones to have a baby out of my immediate friend group. Also, it's less stuff that we'll have to purchase and people just want to celebrate the baby so why not let them even if it is a little bit awkward. I also dont mind the games but I don't want anyone guessing how big my belly is lol.
My UO is I love Beyoncé!! I've seen her in concert twice and it was amazing! She's a terrific entertainer.
I don't like showers (wedding or baby) or registries. I've never had one, and I find the whole idea a bit turnoffish, especially among employed professional adults in their 30s. That is probably my most unpopular opinion.
To go along with this, I think it's tacky to have second showers. I know people do it, and it's not my favorite. I am personally doing a registry for this LO purely so DH and I can get the completer coupon from Target towards the end so we can buy those items at a discount. My kids will be 6.5 years apart, but I saved most baby items, so we don't need a lot. I will feel extremely awkward if any of my family tries to hold a shower. Just my thoughts!
I don't like chocolate much. I'll eat chocolate ice cream (small amounts, seldom) and one or two m&m's at once, but that's about it. I despise brownies.
And I think it's weird to have white icing on chocolate cake. Chocolate icing on white cake is fine, but not the other way around. It's gross.
I also think that you can be really uncomfortable at the idea of being thrown a shower (center of attention, asking people for their time/money) and still be incredibly grateful that people WANT to throw you a shower and buy you things.
(ETA: And you can hate shower games and still be grateful.)
Words like va-jay-jay, vag and referring to your vagina as "downstairs" or similarly is silly to me. We all seem to be grown up enough to have gotten pregnant. I think we can be grown up enough to use the word vagina.
What about sleeve of wizard?
QBF
This. Also I've had to have my vagina and breast checked out so often lately. I think I'm making OTHERS uncomfortable by whipping it out as fast as I do. I'm like "hey doc what's this." Once you have kids modesty goes out the window, at least for me it did.
@MDmomma1217 I agree, unless there is a big age gap. People who have a second shower after like 2 years is annoying. You should already have all the big stuff. If I go to those showers, my present is much less awesome than the first.
What about baby showers for the 2nd that ask guests NOT to bring gifts and maybe books for their children OR just show up and have fun? Are those okay?
Most of my friends are FTMs and no one has ever thrown a second one, so I'm not sure how to feel! I guess I am okay with either situation I mentioned above. However if they do ask for more clothes, I would definitely be wondering where the clothes from the first baby went.
@chanfa A few of my friends have had brunches or little celebrations for second babies that didn't involve registries. Those were awesome. It's nice to celebrate the new baby, but if it's a second child (especially close), they probably don't need much.
My UO is that I really don't get home births. I guess it's not so much an UO, because it's not that I think people are wrong for doing it, I just can't understand the desire to do it and how it doesn't scare the hell out of a person. Plus the mess - do you just throw stuff away after?
...What do you think is happening during this birth? Lol
We will throw the mom a shower for her first. Once they have more children, they get a diaper shower.
I had two showers. One with my first(DS)at my church. With my second(DD)it was at my sisters house(different city and state then first shower) and it was like 10 people that didn't have the opportunity to go to the first one. It was low key and just family members. This is my third and once again we live in a different city. I don't have anything from the first two because I thought we were done and got rid of everything. I'm getting a lot of hand me downs. I don't plan on buying a ton of stuff. A rock n play, bottles, clothes and diapers. That's about all I need.
@chanfa I think something like that is great! I think it os nice to celebrate mom, but so many of the second showers I have gone to are asking for the big things in a new color, which is an ass move to me. And I like the idea of the diaper party for sure for a second.
Re: UO Thursday
My UO: I get mildly annoyed with people who complain both about people resurrecting old threads in the same breath as their complaining about no one using the search function. You can't be mad someone didn't use the search function and then get mad when they go and use the search function and end up resurrecting a post from November.
Another UO: I hate generic sliced bread. I love artisan bread, ciabatta bread, Amish white bread, Italian bread, rolls, etc. But the stuff you buy in the fake-ass loaves pre-cut (the kind all the rest of the normal people buy)- I can't stand it. I also hate peanut butter and jelly. A PB&J sounds the absolute worst. I take it back though- I can eat regular people sliced bread only in a grilled cheese.
Another: I abhor Velveeta. Gag.
Married January 12, 2013
TTC since July 2013
Fertility Treatments January 2014 - June 2015
Took a break to prepare for IVF
Surprise BFP - September 2015 - MMC at 6 weeks, 5 days
Another surprise BFP - November 2015 - EDD: July 8th!
If it's truly a resource someone's researching for and they resurrect it for that, I don't think anyone here minds at all.
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Since I'm pretty sure this is directed at me, let me clarify. What I actually said was that I appreciated the use of the search function. There was no complaint on my end about lack of the search function, because it was obviously used.
I didn't notice you doing anything- so my post wasn't directed to you. It wasn't directed at anyone, actually, just a generalized observation.
You guys are ruining my UO with logic! Stop it!
Married: October 23, 2010
DS: 8/7/2013
#2 EDD: 6/29/2016, C Section: 6/22/2016
I have spent thousands on weddings, babies and the general life decisions of those I love. It has been my pleasure but now I'm ready for my turn.
I know it's an antiquated tradition that started out when people didn't cohabitate and had little to no household possessions. But most of the people who come genuinely care and want to wish you well.
This is definitely true and something I will keep in mind. I know Dh's family and mine are over the moon about this and almost feel like it's a bit of welcoming into grandparent land as well for the rents. But honestly, I feel like getting a poster that reads "if you ask 'does that come in my size???' your immediately getting taken out back and suffocated with one of the diaper things that looks like a cake"
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I saw another woman on facebook who needed 22k for her IVF. I can totally sympathize, infertility is heart breaking, btdt. But her situation is straight dumb. Her insurance covered it at first but not anymore since she turned 26 and got cut off from daddy's plan. Oh and she just got married, by the looks of it her wedding was beautiful and looked expensive. What happened to the days when people worked hard for their money and earned it? I'm so tired of this world feeling so entitled.
My UO is I love Beyoncé!! I've seen her in concert twice and it was amazing! She's a terrific entertainer.
And I think it's weird to have white icing on chocolate cake. Chocolate icing on white cake is fine, but not the other way around. It's gross.
(ETA: And you can hate shower games and still be grateful.)
QBF
This. Also I've had to have my vagina and breast checked out so often lately. I think I'm making OTHERS uncomfortable by whipping it out as fast as I do. I'm like "hey doc what's this." Once you have kids modesty goes out the window, at least for me it did.
Most of my friends are FTMs and no one has ever thrown a second one, so I'm not sure how to feel! I guess I am okay with either situation I mentioned above. However if they do ask for more clothes, I would definitely be wondering where the clothes from the first baby went.
I had two showers. One with my first(DS)at my church. With my second(DD)it was at my sisters house(different city and state then first shower) and it was like 10 people that didn't have the opportunity to go to the first one. It was low key and just family members. This is my third and once again we live in a different city. I don't have anything from the first two because I thought we were done and got rid of everything. I'm getting a lot of hand me downs. I don't plan on buying a ton of stuff. A rock n play, bottles, clothes and diapers. That's about all I need.