Moms of two or more

Re: Moms of two or more

• crispy11 member

  January 2016

  I don't really remember if my first was more snuggly when I was pregnant with my second. She was definitely young though and I didn't have any trouble snuggling her with my big belly. She was 22 months when #2 was born so she wasn't particularly gentle with me! I think the baby stays relatively protected

  DD1 6.2011 
  DD2 4.2013 - vbac
  DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
  Baby #4 due 9.2018

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• bookworm982 member

  January 2016

  My DD is three and she is obsessed with pregnancies and babies. She's already a constant cuddle bug, and I know that she'll be obsessively touching my belly as soon as she knows a baby is on the way. She was only two when DS2 was born, and the last month of pregnancy she would come up to my belly and tell him quite sternly that he needed to come out now. I agreed!
  
  I've never worried about my older kids hurting my baby in utero. The are so well protected in there that it would take a lot for a cuddly toddler to do any damage. Plus, I know how much time I will be spending with a newborn, so I don't want to give up any time with my current little ones while they still have more attention.
  
  If you are nervous, pregnancy is a good time to practice being gentle with the baby. A big brother book about pregnancy might help. Then you'll already have the idea somewhat set when you bring home the baby that came out of mommy's tummy.
  

  Mommy to N (3), J (2), and C (10 months). LO4 is due in mid-September.
  

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• izzetoot member

  January 2016

  Thats so crazy because Ive noticed my 19 mo being super clingy and snuggly lately.  My DH says its because he knows!  Im not super worried about him jumping all over me yet but once I get bigger Ill prob talk to OB about it.  I do think theres so much cushion there that it will take a lot more than a 20lb toddler to do any harm

  
  

  
  
  
  

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• mommytimesfour member

  January 2016

  DS had just turned two when I got pregnant with my DD, so he was too young to really understand what was going on. This was 3 years ago, so I can't remember specifics but I don't remember him being extra clingy. If anything it was me who was extra clingy with him since his days of being my only baby were coming to a close. I bought him a few baby and brother related books that we would read frequently. He did much better with the transition than I ever thought he would do.

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• Sporty1216 member

  January 2016

  Thanks for the tips and reassurances! I love how much he wants to be with (and on!) me, and I figured I was probably being paranoid, but it feels good to have at least gotten the question out there!
  
  I love the various ideas about transitioning him to big brother mode too. Whenever we see a little baby, he is totally obsessed. I know he's going to love having one of his very own (though I'm sure he will miss being the sole focus of my attention too). I'm excited to really savor the next 8 months with him. I will certainly take all the cuddles I can get.

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• irishblessings916 member

  January 2016

  My 4 year old is the same. Wants to be on me all the time. Especially when DF is trying to play around with him. He always comes to me as if I'm "base" lol.

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• backoffunicorn member

  January 2016

  I think they go through stages of being super attached. My 2 yr old went through a very clingy stage at 22-23 months and that was before I was pregnant. She tends to always want me by her side but I remember that being an extra clingy time. I've been concerned too with what happens if she hits my stomach a little too hard when she's trying to get in a better position while I'm carrying her but have been trying to reassure myself with the LO has tons of padding especially now.

  
  

  
  

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