TTCAL - Weekly Check In - 1/4/16

strickland8052 · January 2016

Welcome to TTCAL! This thread is a great place to jump in and introduce yourself.

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new):

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.):

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions?

strickland8052 · January 2016

Welcome to TTCAL! This thread is a great place to jump in and introduce yourself.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Started spotting today, so AF should be here soon. That means I'm moving off the bench and into the WTO. Yay!!! So glad that we are one step closer to trying again.

3. GTKY: Any New Year's Resolutions? Live more in the present (stop overplanning for the future) and be less timid at work. I'm starting an improv class next week, and I think it will be helpful to both of these goals.

chloe97 · January 2016

2. Benched and AF just will not come! I've been cramping like crazy, today it's as about bad as the worst AF, but not blood. Anyone else have these issues post-D&C. I've been temping and I'm either 15, 10, or 7 Dpo. I never temped a full-cycle, so I have no idea what my typical LP looks like. I'm starting to freak out about worst possible scenarios, so any words of experience that this is normal would be appreciated!! I really don't want to contact my Dr.
3. GTKY-To go out to eat less. DH and I have been doubling our already sizable food and drink budget the last 3 months. You would think with me being pregnant and unable to drink, it would've decreased, but nope! We want to save a larger percent of our income this year, in (hopeful) preparation for a baby.

BornReady · January 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.):
WTO here. Starting to temp again this month which should be interesting. I'm currently bed-sharing with a coughing little person which has been challenging in terms of getting solid chunks of sleep for a good chart. Hopefully, my body is ready to behave itself this month.

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? Be more mindful! I have a bad tendency to fixate on the future and past mistakes. Especially with this whole TTC thing, worrying I waited to long to have kids, focused too much on school/work etc. makes me mental. I am working on using my mindful skills to focus on gratitude, and staying present in my life. My friend shared this quote with me when I was talking about my resolution, it helps keep me focused.
Cohen said: 'We are in such a hurry to grow up, and then we long for our lost childhood. We make ourselves ill earning money, and then spend all our money on getting well, again. We think so much about the future that we neglect the present, and thus experience neither the present nor the future. We live as if we were never going to die, and die as if we had never lived.'

penelope4612 · January 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Still benched.

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? None specifically, but DH and I have been working on losing weight for the past month or so and I hope we both are able to continue that until we both get to a place where we are more happy with that.

RiverSong15 · January 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched. On CD10 following MC, and finally stopped bleeding/spotting, thank goodness. I think that will help my mental state. Otherwise, I'm not doing great mentally today. I got a Save The Date for a good friend's wedding over the weekend and her wedding date is what my effing EDD would have been. I'm thinking of throwing the damn thing in the trash, frankly. Her wedding is in the middle of bumblef--k nowhere too (I'm talking a 5 hour flight followed by 6-7 hours of driving). Grumble grumble. I also checked out her wedding website, and seeing who she chose as BMs was hurtful - I thought we were as close as a couple of the women she chose, but I guess not. That left me tossing and turning last night, so I slept like crap. Happy Monday....

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? Nope. It's just one more thing to fuel my guilt/failure complexes. Clearly I'm having a good day today...

@chloe97 - what does FF say about your chart? If you attach it here, I'd be happy to help with interpretation.

@BornReady - I like that quote. That's something I need to work on myself.

ETA: forgot to add I spent 2 hours sobbing on the bathroom floor after drinking too much on NYE. I guess my resolution is to not do that again.... Like I said, it's a rough week for me.

dpjennifer · January 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): TWW, nearing the end of it so in a few days should know which way it goes.

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? None for me. I like to deal more with either short changes or lifestyle changes as needed throughout the year.

PeggyOlsonFTW · January 2016

2. I have no idea. I thought I'd be in TWW til at least tomorrow, but I started cramping and spotting last night. I figured CD1 would be today, but I'm still just randomly spotting. Guess we'll wait and see.

3. Eat better, cut back on wine, more time reading and utilizing my new coloring book.

ceclarlinetlo · January 2016

@RiverSong15 I'm so sorry your having such a tough time right now. I hope this week is better. Big hugs to you.

m6agua · January 2016

2. WTO, CD 6. This is my second AF/cycle since my MC and my body seems to slowly be getting back to normal.

3. I don't have a resolution but I am starting Whole30 today to get in better shape and loose the weight I have packed on since the MC. Also since everything I have been super aware of my surroundings and things I do. So I am trying to listen better and not interrupt people.

strickland8052 · January 2016

Sorry you are having a tough week, @riversong15!

PeggyOlsonFTW · January 2016

I'm sorry @RiverSong15 My cousin is getting married this spring and I keep thinking about how at first I didn't know if I'd be able to go because I was going to have a 6 week old baby then and now I won't. She also told me for years that I would be in her wedding (she was in mine) and when it came down to it, she didn't ask me. We started growing apart because I was tired of being the only one to reach out and plan things with her when most of the time she'd back out at the last minute. It really sucks.

I say trash the save the date. You know when her wedding is. You don't need a visual reminder of it!

GoldenTMama · January 2016

Sorry @RiverSong15 I hope this week gets better for you, but we are allowed to be grumpy (especially on Mondays).

2. We are still technically benched and watching my temp chart closely. Thankfully my temp has been over 98 since (i think) I O'ed, which is what my acupuncturist wanted to see. But I am only 5dpo, so hopefully the (relatively) higher temps stay around for a while.

3. Cook at home more again, get back into a regular workout schedule, read more, and keep up with my daily organization. My first MC in April hit me pretty hard and the 2nd knocked me down again. Although emotionally I am doing SO MUCH BETTER, having 2 MCs this year really kicked me off of my normal routines and I have been horrible at getting back to my old self. 2016 is my year for getting back on track with health, fitness, and even at work.

I hope this will be a great year for us all!

RiverSong15 · January 2016

Thanks for the support @ceclarlinetlo @strickland8052 and @PeggyOlsonFTW

I think the STD will be going in the trash tonight!

AmMcc12 · January 2016

Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Well DH and I decided that we would NTNP this cycle. Nurse said to wait 3 months, but also said that years ago we wouldn’t have even known I was pregnant so I don’t see the need in waiting, because “years ago” we wouldn’t have waited if we didn’t know I was pregnant… anyway I’m on CD16

GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? We got Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University for Christmas and are planning on managing our money better and getting out of debt. We took the first steps and cut up our credit cards last night

megsbrock · January 2016

Status: WTO. Currently on CD6, and had a period that was lighter/shorter than normal. Stopped in the middle for a day and then finished last night. I am trying to take it as a good sign that ovulation will come a few days earlier than usual

@m6agua looks we are on the same cycle day...

GTKY: no official resolution, I find they stress me out a little bit since they are hard to keep!! Just surviving this whole TTCAL process, day by day, getting out of bed and getting on with life and moving in a positive direction - this is enough of a resolution for DH and I.

@RiverSong15 Sorry to hear you are having a crappy week; from the sounds of all that you have going on I would be feeling very grouchy too. Hugs.

Healthy New Year to all of you. One foot in front of the other.

cjs260 · January 2016

@RiverSong15 Don't be afraid to lean into those feelings of a poop-tastic day. Allow yourself to feel what naturally comes to the forefront, especially the ones that you're "supposed" to feel guilty about, like anger and jealousy. I think those are the feelings you have to just feel to get them out of the way. I still have those days, but they come less often and last not as long, so there is hope.

2. Tomorrow (1/5/16) marks 8 weeks from the terrible day and it seems as if I have finally regulated again. **knocks on wood** 4 consecutive days of not even the tiniest bit of spotting and even a change in my CM. So, of course I'm just WTO. My cycle used to be pretty short (25d) but who knows if that'll continue to be the case or what. I'm temping, testing with cheap OPKs (with heavy duty expensive ones at the ready in case I get a positive on a cheapy) and praying for an O. DH and I have this cycle and next (even though next month may be pushing it) to catch one, before we have to take a couple month hiatus TTC. I have a huge conference in November that's across the country, and I would really like to go if I can. We may or may not change my mind on this issue.

3. My NYR is to wear more lipstick. I try to keep my resolutions to something fun, and I normally stick to them very well. I also kinda do "monthly" resolutions throughout the year that are really just goals and more productive - like this month is wake up and go to sleep earlier. Sometimes I'm able to continue them past their month expiration, but I don't feel like a failure if they don't make it into next month's self-improvements, haha!

RiverSong15 · January 2016

Thanks @megsbrock and @cjs260. It helps to hear from all of you on this board. Fingers crossed for both of you now that you are WTO!

Kurtni · January 2016

2. Got my first period since the loss. I was not expecting it to be so heavy and painful, but I'm glad I finally got it none the less. DH is excited and ready to try again but I'm trying to decide if I really am. I may wait another cycle... I'm just afraid I will keep waiting "one more cycle" and never get over the fear holding me back.

3. I made a lot of healthy lifestyle changes when I got pregnant and my goal is just to maintain. I'm still eating well, exercising regularly, I didn't start smoking again and I lost the weight I gained during pregnancy and then some. I just want to keep it up and be the healthiest me I can for the next pregnancy. I'm also going to try and read a book a week. I've done it before and it was actually a fun resolution to keep.

BooksForMe23 · January 2016

Welcome to TTCAL! This thread is a great place to jump in and introduce yourself.

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): Hello! I had a natural miscarriage at about 6 weeks on 12/26. I'm eager to start trying again soon.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? My work is doing a biggest loser contest, and I signed up, although I'm honestly not all that motivated for it.

lilyaster · January 2016

2. I am WTO on my 3rd cycle post m/c. Ovulation seems to be delayed this month and I'm guessing it has to do with recent travelling.

3. I had fun making a "vision board" for 2016 with magazine words and pictures of my goals. Being healthy (food, exercise & sleep) are up there, along with making a healthy baby, and some career goals I'm working on. I put it up in my bathroom where I can be reminded of my goals daily.

MissAmeliaPond · January 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): Looks like I go here now. I just had my first BFP and first CP. I knew it was over on New Year's day, but today is officially CD1. This sucks. I am grateful that this board is here to give and get support!

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Not sure. The nurse practitioner I saw at my doctor's office today was a massive twatwaffle, and was not helpful or compassionate at all. I think I need to have a follow up call with an actual doctor about next steps and when I can try again.

****Question: for CPs, do you need to have any kind of exams before trying again? Is taking a month off necessary physically?

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? Just to get more sleep.

CoonMom · January 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched-MC 12/16; awaiting AF

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? Other than get KU, I guess work on paying down debt. We are pretty good with money but I still want to get better.

*Question* I asked this on the TTC board but I'll ask here as well. I've started temping again this am after taking a month off for my pregnancy and MC. My temp was the lowest it's ever been (97.08). From your experience, will it stay low until AF or is it possible I'll ovulate and see a rise? I've heard some people ovulate after a MC but some don't until AF. I realize everyone is different just wanted some personal experiences. Also how long after your MC did it take to get your AF? I was regular 28/29 day cycles. I hate not knowing when to expect AF.

AL_TwinCities · January 2016

@ashbear720 most doctors only say to wait a cycle after a CP for dating purposes, but if you are temping and know when you ovulate dating a new pregnancy won't be a problem for you.

1. Hello again. DH and I started TTC in spring of 2014. After a BFP and subsequent loss at 5+6 in August 2014, it took us 15 months to conceive again. I made it to 9+4 this time before discovering the MMC.

2. I'm 10+3 and still waiting to miscarry. Had period-like cramps all day today so I think (and hope) it's coming soon. Then we'll be benched until my cycle regulates and start TTC again eventually. We will make an infertility consult appointment as soon as I get AF - we were two weeks away from this appointment when we got our BFP.

3. Pay down debt, exercise 3x/week, meditate regularly. Don't blame myself for this and focus on positives even when in the depths of sorrow.

FireInWonderland · January 2016

@RiverSong15 that is especially rough - I went through that with my best friend - she only included me in her wedding as an afterthought. And we'd been friends for years! I hope you tossed that STD because you definitely don't need the reminder, and I hope you were kind to yourself since getting it! In the meantime, I hope things have gotten better for you and that you are able to move forward positively and leave that negativity behind with 2015 (even if some of it was technically in this new year).

@dogmomwantinghuman I ovulated before my first AF after the MC, but every woman is different. We decided not to try and to give my body a break. If you follow your temps and use OPKS you should pinpoint it if it happens, but don't be discouraged if it doesn't. Sometimes your body needs extra time to reset after a traumatizing event like MC or a D&C.

PeggyOlsonFTW · January 2016

@ashbear720 So sorry to see you over here. I waited a month after my d&c, but I was further along and a d&c I think I harder on your body than a chemical. With my chemical, no one told me to wait so I didn't. I say just do whatever you're comfortable with.

@dogmomwantinghuman I ovulate later than usual now. Normal for me was anywhere from day 16-19, now it's day 23-25. I ovulated during my d&c cycle on CD 25. I had only started temping again a few days before, but I was glad that I did and I caught O. The next cycle was CD 23 or 24. That ended in a chemical and this cycle was CD 23. I'd say temp. It's helpful to feel "normal" again and can help you pinpoint any potential problems and/or relieve stress.

queenklau · January 2016

2. TWW/WTO: this cycle is very confusing. This is the first cycle ttc after mc. AF was due today (Monday), but started spotting Friday with light flow Sat. Almost nothing Sunday. Timing & temping wise-this should be AF although it doesn't seem like a normal period. I am waiting until Friday to test in case it is implantation bleeding, but doubt it.
3. My resolution is to "chill". I am very high strung and impatient person, so trying to relax will be my focus for the year.

MissAmeliaPond · January 2016

@AL_TwinCities Thank you for the advice. I am so sorry you are dealing with loss right now, too.

@PeggyOlsonFTW Thanks. I didn't get any instructions at the doctor's office today, so I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet.

RiverSong15 · January 2016

Thanks @FireInWonderland. I'm feeling a bit better this evening. I'm also thinking nice sticky baby thoughts for you!

FireInWonderland · January 2016

RiverSong15 said:
Thanks @FireInWonderland. I'm feeling a bit better this evening. I'm also thinking nice sticky baby thoughts for you!

I'm starting to wig, as I haven't gotten in to see a doc yet. They take so long to even return a phone call through the military system

I'm working on distracting but it's making me more nervous.

RiverSong15 · January 2016

FireInWonderland said:

RiverSong15 said:
Thanks @FireInWonderland. I'm feeling a bit better this evening. I'm also thinking nice sticky baby thoughts for you!
I'm starting to wig, as I haven't gotten in to see a doc yet. They take so long to even return a phone call through the military system I'm working on distracting but it's making me more nervous.

So sorry you're stressed! Remember, you have a positive test, and as long as you aren't bleeding or cramping excessively, there is no reason to think something is wrong. (And even then, things can still be OK).

cjt121413 · January 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): Hi! My MMC was discovered in November at about 8.5 weeks. It would have been my second and DH's first. I'm starting to feel somewhat normal.

3. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): benched. The bleeding lasted for over 40, but my HCG is finally 0 so I'm waiting for AF. Back to (half assed) temping and such.

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions. We are also doing Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. We're working on lowering our debt and getting into a budget routine. I'm also cutting down on carbs and trying to follow the Insulin Resistance diet. We'd love a healthy pregnancy in 2016.

FireInWonderland · January 2016

@RiverSong15 thank you. I keep trying to remind myself exactly that, but I'm not always great at it. I hope things have gotten better for you and you aren't feeling down like you were.

megsbrock · January 2016

@ashbear720 So sorry for your loss...with both of my losses (6w6d, 5w4d), I was told no reason to wait, since my body seemed to be working things out on its own. Therefore if you guys are feeling up to it, I see no reason not to go for it. Hugs.

@klauerinaking seems like a lot of us here are having wonky, light, spotty AFs at various points soon after our losses. Makes me think it's just our bodies getting back to normal and is hopefully nothing to worry about. I am also very high strung and impatient, and going through the TTC and then TTCAL process has really forced me (even if not willingly) to let go of some of these issues, because I was starting to have panic attacks. I had never had them before in my life, and it scared the hell out of me. I know what I'm saying here is not overly helpful, but...you're not alone! My favourite new saying is "one foot in front of the other".

AL_TwinCities · January 2016

@FireInWonderland thinking of you. I found positive affirmations helpful when I first found out I was pregnant again and was worried. I'd take a few minutes each day to lay with my hands over my belly and say things in my head like "I am happy, healthy and pregnant" and "my baby is doing exactly what he or she needs to be doing to grow, be nourished and thrive" and "I love my baby". It helped me enjoy the pregnancy more and worry a little bit less.

FireInWonderland · January 2016

AL_TwinCities said:
@FireInWonderland thinking of you. I found positive affirmations helpful when I first found out I was pregnant again and was worried. I'd take a few minutes each day to lay with my hands over my belly and say things in my head like "I am happy, healthy and pregnant" and "my baby is doing exactly what he or she needs to be doing to grow, be nourished and thrive" and "I love my baby". It helped me enjoy the pregnancy more and worry a little bit less.

Thank you so much. I'm really struggling with it and all the encouragement helps. You're in my thoughts, too, I wish there was something else I could say to help you. If you ever need to talk you can always PM me.

catiecatp · January 2016

1. Hi - I just experienced my first MC, started Christmas eve/day - we were TTC for 2 months (after 15+ years on birth control) so we're hopeful that this time around we'll conceive just as easily. I'm 33 and we want multiple children... I feel a bit of time pressure

2. officially WTO as of today - just got the green light from my doctor - because we have no idea what my regular cycle is like, we'd have to wait 3-4 months for dating to be useful - so if it happens she says we'll go with a dating ultrasound (like we did with the first pregnancy). Not sure what my HCG levels are, but the u/s this morning was clear. I'm starting back with temping as of yesterday - I think it helped the first time.

3. GTKY: I want to craft daily (I'm a knitter and I spin yarn) - and maybe spend less time on Facebook. In terms of general goals - I need to tidy up my eating habits again.

Aside, please let me know if I break some sort of written or unwritten rule on the boards - I'm afraid of offending someone - I won't say something mean, I'll talk to you as if you're in my living room having coffee/tea - but I feel socially awkward at times

kmtz89 · January 2016

2. Finally got my first AF post natural mc early dec. I was becoming super impatient but I feel like with this my body is finally starting to get normal again. The first day was quite painful but now on day3 and it's an average period. We're excited to jump in full swing to ttc and hopeful!... (not that we were actually *waiting*)

3. I need to get better at blogging regularly... my blog is my main "stay up to date on my life" since I moved halfway around the world.

strickland8052 · January 2016

@catiecatp - Welcome! Sorry for your loss. I'm sure you'll do just fine on this board.

Tippy05 · January 2016

1. I've been here before, but it's been a while so I'll re-introduce myself. Unfortunately, I recognize too many of you from the TTGP board. This whole thing sucks and I'm sorry we're here.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): I'm somewhere between WTO and TWW. I didn't temp this cycle and I think, based on CP/CM that I O'd Monday or Tuesday. I seem to be dropping and drying out so if that pattern continues into tomorrow I'll consider myself in the TWW.

3. GTKY: Any New Year's resolutions? No. I always make a resolution to lose weight and never seem to make it work. I'm at my highest weight ever and am so depressed about it, but still not motivated to go to the gym. At this point, as stupid as it sounds, I feel like I''m too fat to go to the gym and that it'll just be embarrassing. I've gained weight since my mc and that just makes me more depressed. I just can't get out of my own way lately.

RiverSong15 · January 2016

Welcome @cjt121413 and @catiecatp. I'm sorry you find yourselves here, but hopefully this community helps you.

@Tippy05 I'm sorry you find yourself back here. I've struggled with my weight too, yo-yoing back and forth over the last 10 years or so. It's never easy or fun, and I understand the depression about seeing your highest number ever on a scale. You're definitely not too fat for the gym! Do you have a workout buddy you could go with? That's always what helps me the most.

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