Moving here from July '16

aevan011 · December 2015

Hi ladies, a quick intro....Hubby & I were thrilled to find out we were expecting baby #1 very soon after beginning TTC. Unfortunately, it just wasn't our time. At 10 weeks, the doctor confirmed that the pregnancy was not viable. Even though we spent the first few weeks knowing that there is a very real chance of loss, and we were told at 9 weeks that only a sac was seen on the U/S, it still breaks our hearts. I guess no amount of realistic thoughts can convince your heart not to hurt.

Anyways, I'm scheduled for a D&C on Friday, and I am terrified. But these boards have helped me already by answering a lot of my questions. For those who have had the procedure, I know recovery time will vary, but should I expect any major pain following? How many days did you stay home from work?

decoycandy · December 2015

So sorry for your loss. Seems there are a lot of us July 2016 people here.

Fingers crossed all us ladies get better news in 2016.

chloe97 · December 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. I Also lost my baby at 10 weeks and had a D&C 2 weeks ago.

I was really nervous leading up to the surgery, but recovery was fairly easy. I stopped bleeding 8 or 9 days after the surgery and I never needed more than a panty liner. I was in pain immediately after the surgery- but it was like really bad menstrual cramps. I took Advil the first day and the 2nd day I needed nothing at all. I've found that the emotional recovery has been far more challenging than the physical recovery. Give yourself a day or 2 after the surgery to recover (mine was in a Friday and I was fine to work Monday). Even though you should be fine physically, give yourself time to recover emotionally as well. I'm still struggling, but it's getting better.

briannef90 · December 2015

I'm sorry for your loss. Mine was due July 18th.

I didn't have a D&C, but I gave myself time off from work. I normally have Thursdays off, but that is the day I found out the bad news. I ended up taking Friday, the weekend, Monday and Tuesday. I went back to work Wednesday. It really helped me to recover some both physically and emotionally.

aevan011 · December 2015

We found out on Monday, and that's my usual day off. I really just wanted to take the whole week off, but I emotionally struggled through tues-today. Came home every afternoon and just exploded with all the pent-up emotion of the day. Which isn't healthy, I know. My d&c is tomorrow and I think I may ask to return next Wednesday.

I'm sorry for everyone's losses, as well. Thank you all.

cheverian87 · December 2015

so sorry for your loss!

BooksForMe23 · December 2015

So sorry! I'm in a similar boat. I just moved over here from August '16. Please keep us updated on how you're doing.

susykat77 · December 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any experience with a D&C but I definitely needed a few days after my MC with cytotec. I felt less emotionally overwhelmed after it occurred but physically I needed to rest. Big hugs.

BaylieGirl · December 2015

I just moved over from July 15 too. I go in on Monday to discuss the options of Dand C, taking pills, or waiting for it to naturally pass. Right now I just want this to be OVER. I hate still being in this my body's pregnant but no baby stage.

mrslittlemac · December 2015

also former July 16 here.... I'm so sorry for all of your losses. I'm going through it too, and I wouldn't wish this on ANYONE. It is torture. Hugs to you all, may you find your peace. It is a very, very hard time of year to lose a baby.

RubyRedPirate · December 2015

I'm so sorry honey, I also moved over here from the July '16 board. I just had my D&C yesterday, loss at 8w. The procedure itself was really fast and painless, took a nap during anesthesia and it was done. The waiting before everything was the worst because you want it over but at the same time you don't. After we got home my husband and I put away the ultrasound and pregnancy journal I had. We cried and snuggled the rest of the day. So far I haven't been in pain at all, I just start to bleed if I'm on my feet too long so I realized I need to lay around as much as possible. I was told to stay off my feet for 3 days and pelvic rest for two weeks. I go back to work on Tuesday as long as I'm feeling up to it.

Im thinking about you love.

aevan011 · December 2015

Had the D&C yesterday, got there at noon, and although I was scheduled for 2pm, it was pushed back til about 4pm because my doc was the one on call and was handling others' deliveries. The worst part was really the waiting...I was freezing, the cytotec they gave before the procedure made me miserable, and the nurse who counsels women about loss kept coming in and opening up our emotions beforehand. We didn't get home until almost 8pm. I'm sore this morning and just tired. They wrote me out of work until Wednesday, thankfully.

I think the finality of it has now set in, I can't ignore that the pregnancy is over. So emotionally I'm having a harder time now. My mind can't pretend that everything is okay. I'm just letting myself cry.

Thank you all, I didn't tell anyone but my best friend and in-laws, so I'm glad I found this board.

Cubslove12 · December 2015

I'm also from July, I had a blighted ovum. Only a sac no embryo. They thought it would pass naturally only part of the space did. I have a D&C scheduled for Tue now... I just want it over and there to be closure. I hate having to go in for all these ultra sounds

leasaj · December 2015

My D & C was last Thur. I am just now regaining feeling in my left leg. The procedure itself was OK. Had very little bleeding, some cramping, but numb leg. It is now regaining feeling. Dr said it could be due to pinched nerves due to inflammation and that it's fairly common. I never heard of this side effect....it sucks.

monkey41 · December 2015

I was also on the July 16 board with our 1st pregnancy. Found out last Monday that the heartbeat had stopped at 9w2d. Was given 2 doses of cytotec Tuesday then Friday, neither of which worked. I think I was able to work through the emotions all last week. Finally had a D&C this morning and am so happy it's finally over. I'm sorry OP's D&C was a long process. Mine was short and sweet. Got there around 7:30 AM. Was driving away by 11 AM ready for a little lunch and ready to see friends again.

Ken&Anna · December 2015

So sorry for your loss! I also moved over here from July '16. I found out at my 7 week appointment that there was just an empty gestational sac with a yolk sac and nothing else. It was heartbreaking. I'm blessed to have a healthy 3-year old at home, who gives me hope that eventually I will have another LO but this one was just not meant to be. If it would help any of you, I just wrote two blog posts on my personal blog about my experience so far. They are available here:

https://mylittlepoppyseed.wordpress.com

ceu · January 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a d&c in late November at 9w0d. It was very smooth, and easy to recover from. I'm a worrier, and was not the easiest patient! The only thing that was a complication for me was minor burning with the first two or three urinations, some mild constipation, and my hand became swollen afterward because of the IV. I took the compression bandage off too soon I guess. Other than that, I had absolutely no pain. Take care of yourself. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

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