@dolewhipper I am REALLY uncomfortable with all the articles that are like "when you visit the new family, clean their house!" I'm sure it's lovely and I always bring food when I visit a new family, but I really don't want anyone to think that I expect them to do any of that.
@dolewhipper I've already recruited a couple people to help with frozen crock pot meals before the big day. I found an awesome list somewhere of like a months worth of meals, plus the shopping list, you can freeze and just thaw and throw in the slow cooker in the morning and you're done. I think that's significantly better than registering for paid meal plans etc lol. That's just awful. And I asked my best friend and my mom who are both down for an afternoon of throwing ingredients into ziploc bags lol
@dolewhipper I am REALLY uncomfortable with all the articles that are like "when you visit the new family, clean their house!" I'm sure it's lovely and I always bring food when I visit a new family, but I really don't want any to think that I expect them to do any of that.
I washed dishes for my SIL, and changed the babies (twins)and feed them so she could shower. It was the little things.
Maybe it's a control thing for me, but I don't even like the way my husband folds the towels, so I'll be damned if someone comes over to my house and tries to clean it.
Do you want to offer me something I'll really enjoy after this pregnancy is all said and done? Wine and the stinkiest of soft cheeses. Bring me all the wine and hang out with me in my pj's while we drink wine and eat stinky cheeses and watch murder t.v. shows.
@dolewhipper I am REALLY uncomfortable with all the articles that are like "when you visit the new family, clean their house!" I'm sure it's lovely and I always bring food when I visit a new family, but I really don't want any to think that I expect them to do any of that.
I washed dishes for my SIL, and changed the babies (twins)and feed them so she could shower. It was the little things.
I think it's an amazing gift to give, I just would feel so weird asking for it!
My mom is similar in that many people think she's is just the most giving person in the world...it's all an act to make herself look good. She'd bend over backwards for a co-worker (as long as there's an audience or somehow she'd get recognition for it) but if I ever asked for a small favor she'd act as if I was taking advantage of her, or that I was inconveniencing her and never let me live it down.
Just stay true to what feels right for you and your hubby and don't let anyone guilt you into doing something youre not comfortable with.
Describes my mom to a "T". Even the apologies that aren't really apologies, and playing the concern parent by contacting other family members. MH and I have been together for almost ten years, and I remember about 2 years into dating, she was seriously pissing me off, so I went off on her. She ended up calling him, and talking about how she was so concerned with my behavior and stuff. She was the only one I was flipping out on, everyone else I was fine with. The crazy part, is that my older sister is the same way, yet complains about how my mom is. So I have two of them coming at me......all.the.time. My mom will call my sister to complain, then call my aunt, my aunt will call me to tell me that my mom is upset about XYZ, and around the circle it goes. After years of the drama, my favorite uncle (my mom and aunt's brother), hardly comes around anymore. For holidays, he will show up and stay for a max of two hours, and then takes off. He never gives them specific details about happenings in his life, and when they start gossiping to him, he just changes the subject or pretends he has to go to the bathroom (so he can leave and then come back to hopefully a different convo). My younger brother moved four hours away, so he doesn't have to deal with it as much (my older sister is two hours away, but I am only 10-15min away). I have taken notes from my uncle, and leave questions about my life extremely vague, removed all family members from my FB account (so they cannot see what I am doing and then get pissed that they weren't invited, or complain about things we are doing when it comes to our lives). It sucks to have to feel like you are always walking on eggshells, careful to not say too much.
In all honesty, I feared having a little girl, with how my relationship is with the female members of the family (my dad doesn't have much family). To grow up with no emotional attachment to members of the same sex in your family, and to always feel like your feelings are never valid, it was hard. Well, I ended up having a girl, but I am trying everything to make sure that her feelings are always heard (we talk about them each night), and I never try and convince her that she shouldn't feel a certain way. Hopefully when she grows up, we have a better relationship than my mom, sister, aunt, grandma and I ever had.
I'm interrupting this bitch fest for a PSA - maternity pants, guys. Maternity pants.
I'm a FTM and just got a pair in my stitch fix box and I have no intention of ever taking them off again. They're basically stretchy gloriousness masquerading as jeans. Hubs is super jealous and wants to know if he can get comfy ass fat pants too. I know some of you STMs out there have already been advocating this and I just want to say that I'm now a believer.
@PhoebeJune1984 and @PinkLady2015 I also have a mom with NPD. Thank you for the article, it does validate my instinct to cut off contact even more. I don't speak with her, but she skypes DH and he sometimes answers. Right now I am super jealous that you all are announcing on Facebook... I am going to have to try to hide this pregnancy until the birth if I don't want her just showing up at the hospital and my house.
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@PhoebeJune1984 and @PinkLady2015 I also have a mom with NPD. Thank you for the article, it does validate my instinct to cut off contact even more. I don't speak with her, but she skypes DH and he sometimes answers. Right now I am super jealous that you all are announcing on Facebook... I am going to have to try to hide this pregnancy until the birth if I don't want her just showing up at the hospital and my house.
Word. I haven't announced at all....because I am already feeling miserable being pregnant. I don't need to add to it by telling them about it and then having the drama on top of it. I have already been-there-done-that.
My bitchfest for the weekend - women who piss all over the seat and then don't clean it up should be put on home arrest until they are properly house trained. If you are too freaking paranoid to sit down to pee at least be considerate enough to wipe your urine off the damn seat so the next person has a clean place to sit. I get it, you're afraid of germs but IDGAF and all you are doing is leaving your nasty pee all over. Ugh!
(I encountered this TWICE today) and the first time the woman who did it just looked and me and said "you aren't going to want to sit on that seat." I didn't realize what she meant but if I did I would have straight up confronted her ass. Pregnancy rage - activate.
@PhoebeJune1984 and @PinkLady2015 and @matryoshkadoll Add me to the NPD mom camp. It's exhausting, and has made this pregnancy and the idea of having a child even more difficult and stressful.
Totally unrelated but currently binge watching Xfiles with DH *SPOILERS*
WTF Mulder leaves the show for the last 2 seasons and some stupid new guy takes his place completely ruining the duo's dynamic and sexual tension?! I hate this show now!! Why would they let this happen?! You're ruining my lifeeee!!! BRING BACK MULDY! BRING BACK MULDY! *throws self on floor*
Totally unrelated but currently binge watching Xfiles with DH *SPOILERS*
WTF Mulder leaves the show for the last 2 seasons and some stupid new guy takes his place completely ruining the duo's dynamic and sexual tension?! I hate this show now!! Why would they let this happen?! You're ruining my lifeeee!!! BRING BACK MULDY! BRING BACK MULDY! *throws self on floor*
I love xfiles! I remember the same emotional roller coaster!
My husband is having people over tonight to watch some fights. I am not super excited about this as I want to veg out in my pajamas, but whatever. People aren't supposed to come over until 7 and one of his dad's friends who drinks us out of house and home came over an hour and a half early! And then keeps apologizing.
My husband is having people over tonight to watch some fights. I am not super excited about this as I want to veg out in my pajamas, but whatever. People aren't supposed to come over until 7 and one of his dad's friends who drinks us out of house and home came over an hour and a half early! And then keeps apologizing.
Ugh that is the worst! I'd still put my pj's on and say screw em!
My head feels like it is in a vice. This sinus infection is no joke. They have me on antibiotics which are working but this headache will not quit. I know the meds are safe for the baby (prescribing Doctor, OB and Dr Google tell me so) but I feel nervous/guilty and haven't taken anything before during my pregnancy. There is a lot to worry about when you're on the couch for 72 hours. People on bed rest are now saints in my book.
I had high hopes on how 2016 would start and being sick as a dog was not on the agenda. Le sigh...on to bigger and less congested things.
Dr Google actually made me feel better. Said the meds were ok.
That's good I know I google far too much when I am laying around and become worried about pointless things glad you feel better and hope the meds heal you up quick!
My bitchfest is for my best friend. We are the same age and she has an 18 month old. My main reason for being upset is her ultimate lack of support. She keeps telling me how me going back to work full time after the baby is a huge mistake and I won't be able to handle it. Our socioeconomic situations are very different, she is a stah mom and our household requires two incomes to function. I am not bashing her for her choice it all, it works for them but it can not work for us. She just keeps telling me how I won't be able to handle it and I have no idea what raising a child is like. I have asked her several times to catch up this last month, offering to just come to her place since I know it is hard for her to go out with the baby. Recently my husband and I asked her and her hubby if they wanted to do something for the holidays. We even offered to bring dinner to their place if they didn't want to take the baby out. She completely ignored us and never responded. Meanwhile I see from social media that she went out with several of our other mutual friends and never even asked us or responded to my request. I just kind of feel like I'm alone with this pregnancy. My DH and mom are super supportive (MIL sucks but keeps her distance) but I wish I could talk with my close friend about what pregnancy is like and what to look forward too.
@AAAG13 when I told my best friend I thought I was pregnant two weeks before my missed period she dead pan tells me it's probably gas and not to be shocked if I didn't get pregnant on the first shot. She was wrong two times. I wouldn't have cared if she wasn't so rude about the whole thing. You realize that you want a positive support system and you don't need someone judging what your going to do in regards to your family.
My head feels like it is in a vice. This sinus infection is no joke. They have me on antibiotics which are working but this headache will not quit. I know the meds are safe for the baby (prescribing Doctor, OB and Dr Google tell me so) but I feel nervous/guilty and haven't taken anything before during my pregnancy. There is a lot to worry about when you're on the couch for 72 hours. People on bed rest are now saints in my book.
I had high hopes on how 2016 would start and being sick as a dog was not on the agenda. Le sigh...on to bigger and less congested things.
Take the damn meds lady! No need to suffer when you can get some relief
I'm sitting here doing mental pacing because the amount of snoot comebacks I have going on will make a grown man cry. I hate people who say they don't judge but then say I'm going to judge your grammar, ok so are you not a hypocrite or are you a hypocrite?
Bitchfest: 2 weeks until the roomie leaves for good, and that can't come soon enough. He keeps bringing his annoying side piece by (his divorce isn't finalized, so she's just the side piece), and she's always getting pissy about what we are watching (you don't live here, biznatch, go watch your own t.v.) and getting really weird when MY female friends come by. 'Who is she? Why is she coming by? Babe, do you know her? Why did she leave that here?' Listen here, slam-swine, you don't live here, you don't even rate girlfriend status, so don't get cray. Also, no, I don't want to hear about your friends' miscarriage or how you REALLY hope we can find out the sex of our baby at the next appointment because it's your birthday. Who are you?
That's what happens when your nearly 30 year old roommate dates some 22 year old that he recruited (btw, he could get in MASSIVE trouble for doing that). He got the 'Unless she's paying rent here then she cannot stay more than 1 night in a row. You guys need to move the drama to her house because she's being weird as shit". Hopefully she feels unwelcome and doesn't come back.
Re: Weekend Bitchfest
Do you want to offer me something I'll really enjoy after this pregnancy is all said and done? Wine and the stinkiest of soft cheeses. Bring me all the wine and hang out with me in my pj's while we drink wine and eat stinky cheeses and watch murder t.v. shows.
In all honesty, I feared having a little girl, with how my relationship is with the female members of the family (my dad doesn't have much family). To grow up with no emotional attachment to members of the same sex in your family, and to always feel like your feelings are never valid, it was hard. Well, I ended up having a girl, but I am trying everything to make sure that her feelings are always heard (we talk about them each night), and I never try and convince her that she shouldn't feel a certain way. Hopefully when she grows up, we have a better relationship than my mom, sister, aunt, grandma and I ever had.
I'm a FTM and just got a pair in my stitch fix box and I have no intention of ever taking them off again. They're basically stretchy gloriousness masquerading as jeans. Hubs is super jealous and wants to know if he can get comfy ass fat pants too. I know some of you STMs out there have already been advocating this and I just want to say that I'm now a believer.
Resume the fest.
(I encountered this TWICE today) and the first time the woman who did it just looked and me and said "you aren't going to want to sit on that seat." I didn't realize what she meant but if I did I would have straight up confronted her ass. Pregnancy rage - activate.
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WTF Mulder leaves the show for the last 2 seasons and some stupid new guy takes his place completely ruining the duo's dynamic and sexual tension?! I hate this show now!! Why would they let this happen?! You're ruining my lifeeee!!! BRING BACK MULDY! BRING BACK MULDY! *throws self on floor*
I had high hopes on how 2016 would start and being sick as a dog was not on the agenda. Le sigh...on to bigger and less congested things.
Married: May 16th 2015
Married: May 16th 2015
This is my pathetic coffee table. I am so stuffed up I can't smell peppermint oil when I steam my face.
Married: May 16th 2015
Married: May 16th 2015
@Natinat6 your instagram post for that picture should be #everythinghurtsandimdying.
@thebigoaktree Be like Harry!
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All my brain says is this to all of that!