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July 2016 Moms
PinkLady2015
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Let the rage begin....
Weekend Bitchfest
PinkLady2015
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Let the rage begin....
Re: Weekend Bitchfest
A co-worker just named their daughter Sawyer Maree... what the actual hell is that????? There are so many beautiful, lovely, strong, insert whatever adjective you want girl names... this just bothers me to no end. It makes me so sad. A friend of mine has the most adorable gorgeous little girl and her name is Dylan. It makes me cringe every time I hear it.
It's times like this I'm glad this is an internet forum, because I couldn't even type that with a straight face....
Meanwhile, in normal people land, my mother is shocked and flattered that I want her middle name as a girl child's middle name.
Thankfully, my husband is just as fed up with mother-in-law's bullshit.
Id have a hard time not laughing out loud at that...
So I emailed her and explained that she's friends with some of my friends who don't know yet and they can see it on fb, and that I wanted our closest friends to find out before the fb randos. I also explained how to use messenger for private messages, apologized for freaking out, and thanked her again for deleting. I even had hubby read it to make sure it was nice. I know she's gonna be super pissed anyway, but not much I can do.
Now I'm in a really bad mood and just want to go shopping. Ha!
Anyway. Moms. Smh.
(Edited to add paragraphs - original was rage writing!)
My dad has a son with his first wife. She was a drug addict turned whore.
Their son, a Jr, followed in Mommy Dearest footsteps. So my dad's name legacy has a jail record as long as the Mississippi. And since my daddy was a Sr, we could get calls from the police, jail, creditors.... all for him. We got good at screening calls.
The douche ruined all 'Jr's or 'honoring people' by reusing a name.
I feel awful for your father. It has to be hard watching a child he loves destroy his own life.
Eta: my DD has a name that I personally think is great on either sex, but I am not naïve enough to think everyone agrees with me
I understand there are plenty of 'gender neutral' ones that can go either way, but if I met a woman who said her name was Paul I would be terribly confused and assume I misheard her.
I wouldn't name my son Abigail and I wouldn't name my daughter Thomas...
That being said, some names in that trend I'd consider guilty pleasures (I used to love Avery for a girl) but in general they just aren't my cup of tea. I also get a little ragey when parents say oh well I wanted my daughter to be strong so I named her a boy name, as if a little Rosie couldnt kick ass and take names just as well.
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 since September 2015
We had something going on at our house and both mommy dearest and MIL were chatting on the couch. MIL knew when we went into the hospital to have DD, but nobody else did, until my sister was sent a picture message late into the night. I stumbled into this convo to overhear my mom (in a snotty tone) say "Yeah, and then _____ shows me this picture on FACEBOOK of PhoebeJune in the hospital having the baby! And I thought, well that's real nice to find out that way!!" I said "Actually, that was a text message, it wasn't on Facebook..." to which she responded "Well.....whatever..." The pregnancy hormones took over, and pretty soon I had diarrhea of the mouth. I fought back and said "No....not 'whatever!'....if you are going to bitch and complain about what happened, maybe get your facts straight on HOW it actually happened. There is a huge different in a text message, and a Facebook post. But since you were already butthurt and complaining about you not wanting to find out through Facebook before I even hit my second trimester, its like you have it trapped in your head that THAT is really how things went down...." My daughter is four now. FOUR! She is still annoyed that she wasn't "in the know" about every little thing that was going on, wasn't invited to be there when I had the baby, etc.
My MIL asked me today, when I am going to tell my side of the family about the pregnancy. Ummm....never. I will eventually have to, as they live close and I see my mom twice a week. But if I lived further away, I wouldn't say a word until there was a baby in my arms. I don't want to deal with the negativity of several of my family members. And I know that once I start telling, I will have to tell those family members last, because they are the type that will start calling everyone and spreading the word, and then tell people "act surprised when they tell you!" I am crossing my fingers I can hide it until at least 20 weeks....HAHA
This is the nail on the head for me. It is frustrating that traditionally male names are seen as superior/stronger/bolder/whatever than traditionally female names. Fiona can be as strong as Frank.
Meanwhile, I lucked out in the IL department, as they have never been anything but supportive. They keep our secrets, they send over food a couple of nights a week (since they know I have a hard time in the kitchen), they respect our privacy (they literally live in the house next door!), and I never heard one negative thing come out of my MIL when I was struggling as a new mom. She always just said "You are trying your best, and doing what works for you guys...." I don't know what I would have done if I had a horrible MIL/FIL, on top of having an overly dramatic and judgmental mom.....
Our house isn't in great enough shape right now for a party and I am not feeling shelling out hundreds to rent a kid space for 90 minutes. And she's starting preschool next week so it's a lot happening. I will also bring in cupcakes to her new class. She's 3, she'll be fine without a big party. She'll have cake. Cake is all this kid desires in life.
I feel like toddler parties are just way overboard.
https://echorecovery.blogspot.com/2013/08/tactics-narcissistic-personality-disorder-mother.html
My mom is similar in that many people think she's is just the most giving person in the world...it's all an act to make herself look good. She'd bend over backwards for a co-worker (as long as there's an audience or somehow she'd get recognition for it) but if I ever asked for a small favor she'd act as if I was taking advantage of her, or that I was inconveniencing her and never let me live it down.
Just stay true to what feels right for you and your hubby and don't let anyone guilt you into doing something youre not comfortable with.