We are doing something a little different this time. Both times in the past we did a gender reveal and waited on revealing the name until birth. This time we liked a unisex name and once my husband and I found out the gender we were positive we wanted the name. So for our 3Rd child, we are telling people the name and not the gender, so that will be the surprise.
We announced our name as soon as we had it to ward off name suggestions. Because we tell people her name will be Elizabeth Marie there's not a lot of space for suggestions. Before when we said we weren't sure on a name people were annoying with their suggestions. Now I think people are afraid of being offensive so they hold back.
I really don't want to share, especially with MH's kids. The name isn't standard and I really don't feel like dealing with suggestions, gross looks or comments about why we can't use a normal name. I told one person 3 names that were on the list and when the name came out she said "Well I guess you could always call her a nickname."
But! Super important! If you tell anyone, make sure they don't monogram things with baby's full first name!!!
First, it's a gamble: the name could change--sex mix-ups still happen all the time.
Second, it makes the stuff useless for future kids or hand-me-downs.
Third and most important, it's a security risk. Strangers will learn the name of your baby and can use that to run scams from identity theft to kidnapping. I know that sounds paranoid, but it does happen and why, in this age of identity theft in particular, would you make it easier for the baddies to do the bads?
If you have monogram-prone relatives, make sure they keep it to initials or restrain themselves entirely.
My mom and mil are really great and say its my baby I get to name. My mom just said just please don't name the baby Unes ( not sure how to spell it). But what name do you think I told her I liked a few days later? My poor mom can't take a joke
By the way, I told everyone the names I like Eleanor and Harrison, but I told my husband we could name a girl Eva if she had red hair ( like his grandma)
We haven't decided on a name yet, but we've been telling family our ideas. Which I totally regret! Even my most tactful family members have been super judge-ey. My MIL told us Max sounded like a truck driver. My sister said William sounded stuffy. If I ask what you think, then I have to be ready for your reaction, but I haven't asked for opinions. I've only shared the names when people have asked me about them. Anyhow, now if we name our baby Max, I'm going to always wonder what MIL thinks. So, I get now why people often keep it a secret.
My mom and mil are really great and say its my baby I get to name. My mom just said just please don't name the baby Unes ( not sure how to spell it). But what name do you think I told her I liked a few days later? My poor mom can't take a joke
Eunice?
We won't be telling anyone. For one, we have yet to even have a serious discussion about it (our latest joke is calling them Banaynay and Papaya). For two, I don't want to deal with all the Judgy McJudgersons. For three, I want to reserve the right to change my mind.
This will be my fourth child. I can tell you that every name we had chose for our previous children people had an opinion on it. Now that they are named the names everyone hated, they all love it. Also, anyone who asks and says I should name baby xyz... Dh and I just say "yeah that's what it will probably be." FIL thinks he actually named this one Caleb, it's hilarious (the situation, not the name).
My mom and mil are really great and say its my baby I get to name. My mom just said just please don't name the baby Unes ( not sure how to spell it). But what name do you think I told her I liked a few days later? My poor mom can't take a joke
Eunice?
We won't be telling anyone. For one, we have yet to even have a serious discussion about it (our latest joke is calling them Banaynay and Papaya). For two, I don't want to deal with all the Judgy McJudgersons. For three, I want to reserve the right to change my mind.
Yes!! Thank you! I wondered why I couldn't find it lol, starts with an e.
I don't mind thinking it through with people but once we narrow it down I'll be keeping mum until it's time. I like to hear people's reactions because they might think of things I won't, like mean nicknames. Pregnancy brain is a b*%$ when trying to think cleverly. I have made it clear that opinions don't mean you are swaying me, I mean us . We did the deed, I carried the weight, we'll be picking the name, thank you.
The few times I began to discuss names (we are going with family names) I received a lot of unwanted feedback. I don't have much of a filter to begin with, so I'm just going to keep it mum to avoid any unnessecary smack downs.
We had decided on Samantha for our little girl and told our family right away. I am really glad I did too because now I get to hear my niece asking about Samantha all the time!! She's OBSESSED with the baby. She always asks when she's going to be here and where she is, ie.. pointing to my belly or "up here" (my boobs! lol). She came up to me the other day with her favorite stuffed animal and said, "this is my baby, her name is Samantha!" I just love it so much!!
I still haven't posted anything on facebook about it and now feel weird about announcing seeing it's so far along.. I think this kid might never be "public" on social media.
We have shared the name w/friends and family; and I won't lie people (my MIL) have strong opinions. But we like the name and really don't care what other people think!!!
We settled on boy and girl names long before we knew which one we were having. Now that we know it's a boy, we also know his name will be Alexander, so that's that, no reason not to tell people who ask. It's a family name so the future grandparents are all pretty happy with the choice, and they're the only people whose opinions matter (besides ours, obv!).
We had chosen names way before we got pregnant (that took 2 years...). Last year, we drove down to the in laws in Florida (a 20+ hr drive) and had made a short list with a favourite for each (Rosalie for girl, Eliott for boy; we needed names that worked in both English and French). We told people right away, before even knowing the sex. A good friend of mine who's also pregnant sort of too frequently asked whether we were sure of the names and kept on suggesting some others/sending me links to baby names. After I said that was pretty much set in stone (except for the middle name), that sort of ended there. We're having a boy in the end and have called him by name, and the few times people have asked about it, we explained that we liked that it worked in both languages and that we could call him 'Eli' for short. I think when people know you've decided and there's no changing your mind, it just kind of ends there (or our family and friends know better than to argue with me, either way ). If you leave the door open by saying you're not sure, well get ready for suggestions!
At Thanksgiving before we knew the sex everyone was jumping in with suggestions or worse "don't name him/her _____!" We found out we were having a boy on December 23 and on the way down to Christmas MH and I decided we didn't want any more name suggestions or to have any additional names taken off the table so if/when anyone brought it up we agreed to say thanks but we are all set on names, no suggestions needed. It kind of worked when the topic inevitably came up but my MIL was somehow able to get across her disdain for naming the baby after my husband's paternal grandfather which actually is a leading contender for us. Pretty frustrating and I asked MH to talk to her about it so we can hopefully find out the root of the issue and put it back on our shortlist. Family!!!
I slipped and told my mom and sisters our front runners for both boy and girl names and they gave all sorts of opinions. Ugh. Luckily, they completely forgot about it and now that we know we are having a little girl, we are keeping her name under wraps. It is tough because MH, my son and I all refer to her as Baby Luna at home so I have to catch myself and say "Baby Girl" when we are with family. I love the name Luna so much and don't want them to ruin it for me! We are going to tell a very dear family friend who kept our son's name a secret. She recently moved out of state and has been super bummed she hasn't been able to see us or catch up as often as she would like so I figure that letting her in on the name will be a nice little surprise for her. But, in general, everyone except Bumpies, will have to wait until the little lady makes her appearance to know her name.
We are telling family and friends in person, but keeping it off social media. I am pretty active on Facebook and Instagram and my husband requested we keep it a "social media secret" until the little guy is born. When people ask, we tell them pretty much... but if it's someone we don't know very well we say that we're still throwing ideas around
@southerngirlgetsfit ... When we told our Mother In Law our name she said, "Well make sure you have a back up!" I asked my husband... is that just helpful advice, or does she HATE the name!?!? HAHA
@Kit&Cat Ugh don't you hate that. We weren't telling a single soul our choices then for the holidays three of my aunts got my two choices out of me. They went on for nearly an hour how I should choose one or the other. But I'm almost 100 % decided on the name they didn't like. Oh well!
And the first thing my mom said when I told her we were having a girl was "That's so exciting! So what will her name be? Not (insert name I planned to use), I hope" lol...she laughed because that's just her being silly, kind of. I didn't take it personal because it was my mom but anyone else would've gotten a punch to the throat. She doesn't like the name but doesn't care either way if we use it. She'll get used to it!
Definitely not. My niece has a different name than my SIL originally wanted bc my MIL threw a s&%t fit when she told them. I have already warned my family, if you don't like it I don't care. When she is born just tell me" how wonderful" and keep your opinions to yourself.
My brother and SIL kept my niece's name a secret (we mostly all loved it anyway) but once she was born my SIL's cranky grandmother made some comment about, "Another horrible name I'll have to get used to." (My SIL's niece on her side is Zoey, which apparently grandma didn't like, and she didn't like my niece's name, Maeve, either.) So sometimes people will just be jerks no matter what.
Re: Are you telling the name ahead of time?
This time we liked a unisex name and once my husband and I found out the gender we were positive we wanted the name. So for our 3Rd child, we are telling people the name and not the gender, so that will be the surprise.
DD: 05/14/16
But! Super important! If you tell anyone, make sure they don't monogram things with baby's full first name!!!
First, it's a gamble: the name could change--sex mix-ups still happen all the time.
Second, it makes the stuff useless for future kids or hand-me-downs.
Third and most important, it's a security risk. Strangers will learn the name of your baby and can use that to run scams from identity theft to kidnapping. I know that sounds paranoid, but it does happen and why, in this age of identity theft in particular, would you make it easier for the baddies to do the bads?
If you have monogram-prone relatives, make sure they keep it to initials or restrain themselves entirely.
We picked out our future children's names ages ago, I think before we were even married!
DS: Born 5-17-16
We won't be telling anyone. For one, we have yet to even have a serious discussion about it (our latest joke is calling them Banaynay and Papaya). For two, I don't want to deal with all the Judgy McJudgersons. For three, I want to reserve the right to change my mind.
We had decided on Samantha for our little girl and told our family right away. I am really glad I did too because now I get to hear my niece asking about Samantha all the time!! She's OBSESSED with the baby. She always asks when she's going to be here and where she is, ie.. pointing to my belly or "up here" (my boobs! lol). She came up to me the other day with her favorite stuffed animal and said, "this is my baby, her name is Samantha!" I just love it so much!!
I still haven't posted anything on facebook about it and now feel weird about announcing seeing it's so far along.. I think this kid might never be "public" on social media.
And the first thing my mom said when I told her we were having a girl was "That's so exciting! So what will her name be? Not (insert name I planned to use), I hope" lol...she laughed because that's just her being silly, kind of. I didn't take it personal because it was my mom but anyone else would've gotten a punch to the throat. She doesn't like the name but doesn't care either way if we use it. She'll get used to it!
BFP #2: 10/8/14, EDD: 6/22/15, MC: 11/13/14 (D&C)
My brother and SIL kept my niece's name a secret (we mostly all loved it anyway) but once she was born my SIL's cranky grandmother made some comment about, "Another horrible name I'll have to get used to." (My SIL's niece on her side is Zoey, which apparently grandma didn't like, and she didn't like my niece's name, Maeve, either.) So sometimes people will just be jerks no matter what.