So my husband and I haven't been trying full out but we also haven't been preventing. Last month we both agreed to actually start charting and trying. Well last night was O and I even got Pre-seed and hubby couldn't ummmm "complete."
Bleh, I feel terrible about this. I know there's other months but it sucks for sure.
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Did you get in some sex prior to ovulation? That's actually a lower pressure way to get in enough sex. That way, your husband isn't "under the gun" to ejaculate on command.
I'd get into some "just for fun" sex prior to your typical O date. That way you are covered & there is less pressure.
Good luck.
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Please dont make your husband feel guilty for his lack of performance. It will only strain your marriage.
Plus, most of the time people get KU from having sex BEFORE ovulating. O day is just the magical day that your egg leaves the follicle. Sperm should be in your tubes waiting to meet it before it even releases from the follicle.
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But definitely put this in the WTO/TWW threads in the future.
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Like PPs said, join in the WTO/TWW threads. They keep me sane.
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
How do you know last night was O? You need three temps higher than the previous six to really confirm that. So you might not have actually O'd yet.
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It happened to us once before we started TTC and I made sure to make him feel extra "manly" next time around.
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October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
OR... and this may be the most adult way to go about it... have a chat with him at a very non-pressure moment. Make sure that the two of you are actually on the same page. I know for me and DH, even though he said he was ready, it took him a few months to really be ready to try. Now he reads my OPK's, asks about my chart, clears his calendar for FW... he's not always as "into it" as I'd like, but at least the job is getting done I guess.
Also, as other posters have mentioned, this is actually more of a WTO or TWW rant type of post. (Doesn't necessarily need it's own whole thread.) Keep charting and join us over there for support!
It's not fair to say it's the "only job" of the spouse/partner to offer his sperm. Sexual issues are an entire package of things.
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Just to ease your mind... In July 2014, I was desperate to conceive after a mc the month before. My O date was the Sunday after I was cleared by my OB to try again after a D&C. I pressured my hubby into sex every other day up til that day, however we were traveling to see his family PLUS I ended up getting some sort of infection thanks to all of the hormone changes that made things smell not too pleasant down there ( sorry tmi). Long story short, I pressured my hubs way too much and he had a hard time finishing the weekend of. I was convinced we missed it that month. BUT I guess the once or twice we did it the week before worked because I was pleasantly surprised to find out I was pregnant a few weeks later. My son is now 8 months old. I'm just lurking on the TTGP board because we are thinking of trying for #2 as soon as I can get my post partum OCD under control.
Best of luck to you! I hope you get a pleasant surprise as well. If not, try not to sweat it (hard, I know). My best advice is to try to take out the stress/pressure and make it fun if you can (I had a hard time with this). Our bodies are more receptive to becoming pregnant when we aren't so stressed out and our significant others have a much easier time if we make it fun and pressure free.
HH probably can't either.
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Maybe also try taking some of the pressure off. Make it more romantic and not just a "must make make baby" session.
Oh god. The orgasm expectation pressure is so real. If I knew conception required my own orgasm, I would never be able to get pregnant.