I would definitely like to get to know you here a little better first. Some people won't join this board until later, some of us will have losses, and some will simply lose interest. This board's dynamic will change a LOT over the next several months.
I'm on a FB spinoff from DS's BMB and I can honestly say those women are legitimately some of my closest friends today. But it's a small, close-knit group of less than 40 people. I would love to find something like that again but I don't think now is the right time, Internet safety aside.
And, FWIW, we had a legitimate catfish on DS's BMB who was a trusted and well-liked member of the group. She faked a premature birth of twins and death of one. It was awful.
Just...ugh. Don't do it. Yes, privacy is a concern, but when something goes down (notice I said "when" instead of "if"....because something WILL go down), it's never, ever pretty and usually ends up with people taking sides, very hurt feels, and general ugliness.
Weed out the crazies first. Sure, some might get through, but due diligence and all of that.
I'm in a fb group for my Oct 14 BMB. They have been such great "friends" to have over the course of my pregnancy and mommy time. I'm all for joining another FB group once this group is more established and we see how things go.
I agree with what many of you said above. I never joined the fb group for my son in N14 group because of some of the concerns listed above... And I really wish I had joined. This time I would enjoy the community of similarly staged moms. I agree that waiting a bit sounds like a good idea. People can eb & flow on these boards so a bit more time I think would be helpful.
My A14 group has a very active FB group, and I love all of the members. We waited till the 3rd trimester to form the FB group, and thus far, no crazies. I'd suggest waiting till then to form the group, just so you don't end up giving your information out to someone like the infamous LadyAbigail.
Our s13ers are still very close but we didn't make a group until after our babies were born. It takes a long time to weed out the crazies and trust me they are here. It's good to get to know each other some first.
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Also team weed. Ha. See what I did there? But seriously...my last BMB imploded because of a catfish situation and it was uuuggggly. Don't be trustin' folks too easily. I get that if people are going to catfish, they simply will, but like a pp said, due diligence and all. It doesn't hurt to be cautious.
When a private fb group is started, count me in! My O12 group started pretty early. Yes there was drama at times and yes we had a few oddballs BUT that being said, they too were weeded out and there are still 120 awesome ladies left and many have become close friends. We set up some rules to avoid lurkers that never posted and a few other ground rules. But all in all, i have really enjoyed my fb group over the past (almost) 4 years.
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I'd join a fb group. I joined one from my Nov/14 baby, and I have made some amazing friends. Yes, there has been drama, yes there has been bully's, yes there has been explosions and people taking cheap shots, but doesn't that happen anywhere? Just my opinion, when one is created I'd love to join!
I'd join. My Feb 12 group is still going strong and I consider those ladies friends. Yes there were some crazies, they eventually went away. I believe if someone wants my info bad enough, they'll find a way to get it. Count me in when we make one!
I made a separate thread. I will create a group if those of you who want to join please either pm me or comment on the thread I started "Facebook group" again you don't have to join if you don't want to, you can choose to join later or not join at all. It's just a nice way to support one another, in my opinion
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I'm on a FB spinoff from DS's BMB and I can honestly say those women are legitimately some of my closest friends today. But it's a small, close-knit group of less than 40 people. I would love to find something like that again but I don't think now is the right time, Internet safety aside.
And, FWIW, we had a legitimate catfish on DS's BMB who was a trusted and well-liked member of the group. She faked a premature birth of twins and death of one. It was awful.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Just...ugh. Don't do it. Yes, privacy is a concern, but when something goes down (notice I said "when" instead of "if"....because something WILL go down), it's never, ever pretty and usually ends up with people taking sides, very hurt feels, and general ugliness.
Weed out the crazies first. Sure, some might get through, but due diligence and all of that.
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I agree that waiting a bit sounds like a good idea. People can eb & flow on these boards so a bit more time I think would be helpful.
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