Is the car seat fight a dad thing? When we got discharged I had buckled Henry in properly and went to the bathroom. I came out and SO had taken him, removed the preemie insert (the kid weighed 4 13) and had the chest buckle on his belly with loose straps. All because "he looked uncomfortable". He still complains that the insert doesn't look right but knows not to argue.
Halfway into pushing my husband asked the nurse if the hospital TV will show the broncos game LOL. I didn't hear him but everyone else did and got a kick out of it.
Is the car seat fight a dad thing? When we got discharged I had buckled Henry in properly and went to the bathroom. I came out and SO had taken him, removed the preemie insert (the kid weighed 4 13) and had the chest buckle on his belly with loose straps. All because "he looked uncomfortable". He still complains that the insert doesn't look right but knows not to argue.
It must be because SO is constantly loosening the car seat straps and moving the chest buckle down.
The I'm tired complaining kills me. LO is 5 days old tonight and exclusively breastfed and has decided she hates sleep at night. DH complained several times to his family that he was so tired because he didn't get to nap. He didn't nap because he was watching star wars with his family! Which means I didn't nap. I watched our other kids so he could go. Arggg. Also he does not get up with her so how are you so tired!'
Since 4:45am my ds has been campaigning to wake up - the 5yr old- not the newborn. So fine, we get up about 5 - I have the new baby in the K'tan, got ds breakfast & am now folding a pile of laundry. Where's dh? Sleeping. For 10 freaking hours straight now.
Anything more useless than a husband? I think not.
If my husband ignores our screaming son one more time... I will need a shovel and an alibi. When I ask him what's wrong he says he doesn't know and goes back to his phone/video game/model. He doesn't always do this. But when he does it boils my blood. Also, I make him get up in the middle of the night to burp our son or get me another onsie when he pees on himself. That's mostly out of anger because he was sleeping.
The car seat strap must be a dad thing for sure because my husband also doesn't want me tightening it. I keep telling him the chest plate needs to be higher!
The other say he tells me "oh the baby has a double chin just like his mom!" -__-
Just thought I'd update you that dh has since taken 2 naps for a grand total of 12 hours rest within 24 hours. He may or may not be competing with my baby for most time asleep in a 24-hour period. Time for a glass of wine!
My DH took 2 weeks annual leave when our DD was born. The first night he stayed and wad great and did everything because I couldn't due to the CS!. For the following 2 nights he opted to go home each night because he wanted a good night sleep.
We get discharged from hospital and while on his 2 weeks annual whenever our DD was crying for whatever reason he would come to me and say " Um your daughter is crying!" and expect to attend to her while he continued to play the PS. Now Never would I be just sitting down relaxing! I would be cleaning bottles, washing etc! But was great with her when people were around! I kindly brought this to attention and he has improved 100%
My husband complains about being tired. To me. The nearly 42 week pregnant lady who hasn't slept in months and who gets up with our 3 year old every night when he decides to pop into our room. Oh, you're tired? Well you better get your sleep babe. After taking a nap after work I'm sure your exhausted.
Yesterday his tummy "hurt" so he wouldn't drive me to Costco and acted like keeping our son with him while I went out was asking so much. Being nearly 42 weeks, this baby come literally at anytime. I don't want to have to drive to the hospital with a baby crowning.
My mom thought I was being a little irrational but did her job and complained with me.
When I got home I told him about all the great stuff they had and that I would have bought him if he had come.
Oh man to PP with husbands majorly slacking how are you not freaking out. I must have much less patience. This is also our third and I think I remember having to lay down the law with number 1. This time when we got home I told him my expectations for the next two weeks and that we could rediscuss roles at that point. He was just like oh I have to do all that and I said "yep, my priorities are nursing, sleeping, keeping the older kids from being jealous and helping with the house if I can" he has been pretty good since then. Maybe knowing his jobs helped. He has had a few ridiculous moments but I guess he's a man.
Las night my hubby asked if I thought the baby would come today. He knows I've been stressed about people asking when he's coming, a all these annoying question I get (and I'm only one day over due) and he asks me this. I was so mad at him!!!
I was having irregular contractions for about 10 days before I finally went into labor. I would obviously keep my husband updated on them and every time I would say maybe they were picking up a bit he would say well I'm sure you aren't in labor. Finally when they started getting stronger and 5-7 min apart I said it's probably the real deal and he didn't believe me again! I was in bed and would deep breathe through each one and he was like well let me know how it's going, and went in the garage... Gee thanks! I finally called my midwife and she said to come in and he says that he has to shower. OMG! I was so annoyed. Oh and I was 7cm when we got to the hospital and she was born 1h19m later. Doh!
I will say that he's great now that she's here and a huge help with our son. But seriously that drove me crazy!
He did not do a thing in the hospital while I was supposed to be recovering after just giving birth, he slept at night and didn't get up once. I got a total of four hours of sleep the entire hospital stay between baby at night and visitors during the day.
And then to top it off. Our first night home, he puts in freaking EAR PLUGS. Our second night home (last night) baby was awake from 11-6 before I finally woke him up. I was so pissed and he had the balls to a start a fight and make me feel like shit. I had myself a good cry in the bathroom (from my stitches, not him) just to make him feel a little guilty and then he finally cooperated and took over baby duty so I could sleep. But he goes back to work tomorrow and I already know he's going to come home and complain about being so tired and he won't do a damn thing. This is going to be fun. (:
I asked my DH to take out the garbage from our bathroom. He then asked me if I could stop making so much garbage. Okay, I'll stop leaking from every orifice of my body because it's so inconvenient for you.
DH has generally been a big help, but there have been 2 times that I was breastfeeding while he was playing video games and I needed to bolt to the bathroom (too many stool softeners maybe?). He said, "can't you just take her with you?" I told him no and handed her off to him. Afterwards I asked him if he would like to go to the bathroom holding her to his chest. Figure out those dynamics. He has stopped questioning me.
I'm not the only one!! DH has changed two diapers since we've been home 5 days ago!! Like are you for real right now?
Our little guy had a rough night and he had the nerve to ask ME to move into the living room with him 1. No 2. He needs to learn sleep time from play time 3. When he's 6 months old and won't sleep, I will remember this
He can't be bothered to do a single thing during the night because he "doesn't have boobs" guess whose going to start pumping? BOOM
Lurker from Jan 16...a few weeks ago my DH and I were talking about how we were going to handle things after LO arrives. He has been sleeping a lot on the couch lately because he says the bed hurts his back. I said when the baby gets here we're definitely going to have to both tag team for that week (that's all he is taking off of work). He was like "What do you need me in there for?" Really? Hmmmm I don't know...let me think, squeezing baby out of my Vjay, stitches, hemis, bleeding everywhere, EBF, still taking care of our 2 other children, etc. etc. I just can't think of a reason!!! No you go ahead and get a full night's sleep every night on the couch there buddy. Okay, rant over!
Re: Stupid $hit my SO said
Where's dh? Sleeping. For 10 freaking hours straight now.
Anything more useless than a husband? I think not.
The other say he tells me "oh the baby has a double chin just like his mom!"
-__-
We get discharged from hospital and while on his 2 weeks annual whenever our DD was crying for whatever reason he would come to me and say " Um your daughter is crying!" and expect to attend to her while he continued to play the PS. Now Never would I be just sitting down relaxing! I would be cleaning bottles, washing etc! But was great with her when people were around! I kindly brought this to attention and he has improved 100%
Yesterday his tummy "hurt" so he wouldn't drive me to Costco and acted like keeping our son with him while I went out was asking so much. Being nearly 42 weeks, this baby come literally at anytime. I don't want to have to drive to the hospital with a baby crowning.
My mom thought I was being a little irrational but did her job and complained with me.
When I got home I told him about all the great stuff they had and that I would have bought him if he had come.
I like him again.
I will say that he's great now that she's here and a huge help with our son. But seriously that drove me crazy!
Going crazy over here. This is not the old days where u think you just have to work. I return to work and school. I DIDN'T MAKE THIS BABY BY MYSELF!!
And then to top it off. Our first night home, he puts in freaking EAR PLUGS. Our second night home (last night) baby was awake from 11-6 before I finally woke him up. I was so pissed and he had the balls to a start a fight and make me feel like shit. I had myself a good cry in the bathroom (from my stitches, not him) just to make him feel a little guilty and then he finally cooperated and took over baby duty so I could sleep. But he goes back to work tomorrow and I already know he's going to come home and complain about being so tired and he won't do a damn thing. This is going to be fun. (:
Our little guy had a rough night and he had the nerve to ask ME to move into the living room with him 1. No 2. He needs to learn sleep time from play time 3. When he's 6 months old and won't sleep, I will remember this
He can't be bothered to do a single thing during the night because he "doesn't have boobs" guess whose going to start pumping? BOOM
We got into it but I still love him though
Really? Hmmmm I don't know...let me think, squeezing baby out of my Vjay, stitches, hemis, bleeding everywhere, EBF, still taking care of our 2 other children, etc. etc. I just can't think of a reason!!! No you go ahead and get a full night's sleep every night on the couch there buddy.
Okay, rant over!