Support for partners

austinjl · December 2015

Does anybody know of a good website or book for men to support him during my pregnancy? DH seems too think that the Internet opinions are dismissive of men's feelings and concerns at this time. Kind of like, get over it, she's the one growing a baby.

thebigoaktree · December 2015

My husband is an avid Reddit user, I'm assuming that's where he's been going because he's been super calm for this being his first child.

PleaseSendPicklesNow · December 2015

My husband likes to learn the scientific information about pregnancy, like WHY all this progesterone relaxes smooth muscle/slows digestion/makes us bloated and miserable. That way, it makes sense to him when I feel bad.

We've been reading the scientific stuff about pregnancy and fetal development at pregnancy.familyeducation.com together on a daily basis, and he seems to like it. He's been VERY chill (and helpful!), and I think it's because of what he's learned.

austinjl · December 2015

Thanks for the suggestions ladies!!

LifeofLauren2 · December 2015

If he's a little nervous and wants to read a funny book about pregnancy he could try "Dude you're going to be a dad". I've heard it doesn't go into any of the scientific aspects of pregnancy but is a comical interpretation of pregnancy that some guys need.

MillieT09 · December 2015

I love this thread! My dh is feeling the same - a lot of books use humor and he's just not into that aspect of learning about pregnancy. I grabbed "Understanding Your Moods When You're Expecting" by Lucy J. Puryear as well as a super old copy of "The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth" by Sheila Kitzinger (this was my moms in the '80s so some out of date but mostly wonderful information).
I've also been thinking about watching some of those great documentaries on pregnancy and childbirth with him because SCIENCE! And he really does respond better to that way of thinking!

stillcozy · December 2015

DH just got the book the expectant father.

Eta: we didn't want a cheesy sexist book as the reviews of some of the others on here wrote. It gives a month by month scientific talk of what I am going through talks about real things as well such as planning financially and other solid topics.

austinjl · December 2015

I got him Dude you're gonna be a dad for Xmas and he did not like... On the back cover it says something like Time to man up and he's a sensitive soul so that rubbed him the wrong way.

mamafox14 · December 2015

I'm curious about this too. Most pregnancy books I've found that are geared towards fathers are really sexist. "What to expect when your wife is expanding" is awful and makes all men sound like selfish bafoons and women sound like nagging wenches. It really pissed me off actually. My husband has just been reading my books.

Schmooie730 · December 2015

I just got my husband "Commando Dad" written by a guy in the army who had no idea what to expect so he collected a lot of information and his own personal experiences into a book. We haven't completely read it yet but it seems way more straight forward and less....frat boy I guess

Murrington · December 2015

My DH read What to Expect When You're Expecting cover to cover with my first pregnancy. I just occasionally lurked TB, watched Youtube videos on how to pack my hospital bag and figured I needed no other preparation. To each their own. I did appreciate my hubby's throroughness though. He was really calm during labour! I think each dad kind of needs time and space to process in their own way.

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