I feel like I need to walk around with a sign that says "yes this is our third baby, yes my kids will only be 5 and 2 when the baby arrives, no it wasn't a mistake, yes it will be a lot of work, no it will not ruin my life, keep your stupid comments to yourself!"
Seriously, almost everyone I tell we are having another reacts in the same way, very negatively as if they are consoling me instead of congratulating. My parents are the worst of all. Yesterday I saw my dad for the first time since the announcment and his only comment was "so...congratulations? That's scary". Um, thanks dad? My mom has yet to say anything positive about the baby, even when my 4 year old is excitedly talking about it she stays quiet. It's not like I ever ask them for help or anything! They live 3 hours away, it really doesn't affect their lives. Can't they jut suck it up and pretend to be nice?
It's making it hard to get really excited when everyone is so negative. I've only talked to maybe 3 people who have been actually supportive.
I just needed to vent, and dh doesn't really get it. Seeing my parents yesterday and their negativity put a damper on my otherwise great Christmas
Re: Vent!!
I guess what I'm trying to say is it's hard to not feel supported, but remember people's opinions and actions are a reflection of where they are in their lives and how they relate to themselves - not at all a reflection of you or what you should be doing in and with your life. If and when at all possible, surround yourself with those who are supportive of and excited for you and we always have your back in here!
DD1 born 11/2014
DD2 born 6/2016
DS-7
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)