Considerate husbands/partners

EvaD84 · December 2015

I'm 36w5d pregnant and hubby just said he thinks its a good idea we wat out every 2nd night so i'm not pressured into making dinner every night with my body being sore from all the usual late pregnancy aches n pains..

I hear and read too often other pregnant women complaining about the attitude their men give them about not doing more housework and just laying around all day but i don't think we hear enough about the good considerate men that understand the physical and emotional stress and discomfort we are/have been throughout pregnancy...

I aint complaining getting every 2nd day off cooking... Thats like holidays for me....

ambercakes92 · December 2015

I talk to my ex via text every day, but usually just a hello, have a good day, good night type of deal. Every few days he will call me on the phone or Skype me, and we will talk for hours about any and everything. It makes me really happy. He doesn't have a lot of free time, and it makes me feel good that he's willing to spend that time on me as often as he does. He really doesn't have to talk to me about anything aside from baby. He's a great guy!

maddisonwallace · December 2015

my husband has done so many sweet things this entire pregnancy. Not to mention his attitude has been awesome 99% of the time even when I know I was being a total brat. But yesterday I was so tired I seriously could not even get the energy to peel myself off the couch. I texted him saying I was randomly craving Chikfila, and he took his only break time from work to sit through the drive through and got me exactly what I wanted (including my large Coke, which really bothers him if I drink it because he thinks it will give baby diabetes. lol). I know it doesn't sound very significant, but my husband sells cars, so every moment he's not at the dealership is a moment that he's giving up a potential sale. My love language is quality time, so it made me feel extra special that he took that time to come be with me and cater to my craving when he could've just told me to go get it myself.

ariasbabyblog · December 2015

I'm exhausted and walking up and down the stairs wears me out and hurts (I have spd). We have a 2.75 yr old that I am a SAHM for, and if I can get one chore done, it's a fantastic day. Laundry is too much of a multi-step process running up and down stairs, so lately my DH has taken to doing the laundry. The fact that I don't have to ask him means a lot to me and means I have enough energy to take care of other household needs.

Also, he doesn't say a whole lot when I start worrying about contractions. He lets me time them without mocking or saying that I'm worrying too much and if I decide to go to L&D it is entirely my decision. That might not seem like a good thing, but my husband is very much into managing expectations, so it would not be out of character for him to say something like, "You are just being hopeful and they are going to send you home." He is being supportive by saying nothing, if that makes any sense.

Ljohn43 · December 2015

My husband has been sleeping on the sofa every night for about a week now so I can Try to get better quality sleep. He also wakes up early before work (5:30ish) every morning to make both of us breakfast and packs my lunch for work. I usually get bacon, scrambled eggs, and half a toasted English muffin - not too shabby! I also realized that I haven't done dishes in about three weeks. He's been silently doing them since I'm so tired in the evenings. He's always been good about dishes, but he is really going the distance now! It really means a lot to me!

Aanderson812 · December 2015

My sweet husband is quick to offer me all the foot massages I desire. It's been awesome. After work it's such a treat.

nackie · December 2015

Mine DH been walking the dog for me whenever he can since walking is getting to be super painful and the dog likes to pull on her leash

adcc43 · December 2015

I am currently 37 weeks, 5 days, and have been doing pretty good with keeping up with house work. The one thing I am having a really hard time with is bath for my 2 and 3 year olds. My husband has been really good about stepping in and helping out. I just have to remember to speak up. If I don't ask or say something he won't always step in. This is not bc he doesn't want to help out, it is he doesn't know unless I say something!!

Achae · December 2015

My husband tries to get little tasks for me like refilling my water so I can stay sitting and rest since I have SPD. He tries to help with DD but she just wants me and only accepts help from him on her terms.

KFrob · December 2015

Mine has been fantastic! I tell him all the time that he is special and not everyone's husband is like him and he doesn't believe me. He's been patient with my moodiness and moments of stupidity with pregnancy brain, he's always trying to satisfy my cravings, sometimes bringing home treats that I didn't even realize that I wanted! He's been doing chores and telling me to sit down and relax. He tells me how beautiful and sexy I am in a way that I actually believe, he's all about getting the house and himself ready for baby. He would do anything for us and give me the world if he could. He really is the best and I know how lucky I am.

cammiedeeann · December 2015

My type-A personality has really gone into overdrive since finding out we're expecting our first. Our leisurely home remodel suddenly HAS to be finished before our LO arrives! He's been working extra shifts to help build up our savings and working on the house on his rare days off... And he's been such a good sport about it!

I think this is a good thread... Because it's so easy to get irritated (I'm cranky, it happens) at the things he DOESN'T do instead of being thankful for all that he does. In the end, they're men, but I think they really do try.

hannahduff3 · December 2015

my boyfriends coming over today just to hold me because I'm in so much pain

cali1710 · December 2015

I cant complain at all about my husband. The whole pregnancy hes been so supportive. He doesnt complain if he gets home and I said cereal is for dinner. He gets me a drink if Im on the couch doesnt let me touch laundry or the vacuum. Given even before pregnancy he was always like this but he is just the best. Ive become a snorer and he doesnt complain, just goes to the other room if it gets bad enough.

juju0592 · December 2015

My hubby has been pretty great. We live on in an apartment on the third floor, and washers/ dryers are on the bottom floor- so he will do laundry for me. He also runs most of the errands during the week because I feel huge and nothing fits now. He also will bring home candy or flowers every other day or so. I might complain but it's just end of pregnancy messing with me.

anightintunisia · December 2015

I'm going to be a meanie and complain but I ask my husband to do chores such a clean the dog crap (I don't mean crap either) outside and do the kitty litter. He tells me to remind him but even when I do he makes a hundred excuses and then sits on his xbox one all night. In the end I end up going in the backyard and cleaning up all of the dog mess that has been hidden from sight in the grass. I even had to put our baby bed together myself because he wouldn't do it. I am tired of his laziness. I try to do as much as possible but everything hurts and when I'm done with chores everything hurts even more. I love my husband but sometimes I wonder who the pregnant one is. Sorry to rant...I am at my wits end.

mamabear89071516 · December 2015

Hubby has been amazing. He goes to get me whatever I desire, and has been doing most of the daily chores, since I'm still working full time and have 0 energy to most days. He lets me nap after work, and comes and sits on the edge of the bed and chats with me if I need to lay down. He doesn't awesomely deal with my crabbiness but ya win some ya lose some right?

fishsticks-n-custard · December 2015

Hubbie has been really sweet about my bump recently. He loves rubbing it and has been saying "Ok little baby. We've seen Star Wars so I'm ready for you to come out now. I want to cuddle you." Right now he's repainting the break fast nook; mainly because he didn't like the color but I think it's also his way of nesting.

roziek · December 2015

I like this thread @EvaD84 My hubs has been super supportive throughout this whole (first) pregnancy. He does the dishes, always offers to cook (even though I'm still doing it), cleans up around the house and randomly surprises me with flowers and chocolates! Love him to pieces

wish you ladies a great last few wks!

littlecrimsonjester · December 2015

My husband has been the most amazing man in the world. We are buying a house and obviously are about to have a baby, our first. My boss has cut my hours completely, leaving my husband our only income. Despite ten hour days at a very physical job he still pampers me. I do very little around the house due to exhaustion and these awful leg cramps yet he thanks me for each little thing. I would never get through this pregnancy without his support and love

EvaD84 · December 2015

Wow lovely comments ladies and to hear how ur partners are helping out in their little ways...

I have the past 2 weeks been making focaccia which hubby and stepson love to eat... Thats kind of my treat to them - the baking because i know at times i'm not well, not in the mood and will be at the hospital for a while but they never complain...

Hubby is excited to meet our daughter because daughters always seem to be more affectionate of their dads... Step son is too independent and i guess hubby misses that affection..

nickicb7 · December 2015

I love this thread! I think it's important to take time to appreciate our spouses, and I agree a lot of women forget to do this, and get roped into the bash my Husband discussions. As a teacher I find the other women in the staff room can get really toxic about this. Does my husband drive me crazy at times? Absolutely! Do I sometimes get irritated just listening to him speak? Yes, just yesterday in fact. BUT he is the most amazing man I know! I love him to death and there is no way I'd be where I am in this pregnancy with out him.

DH does all the hard things. Lifting, moving, pushing. Our dog is a puller so he won't let me walk him anymore and on days when he has to go to work he would get up an hour early to take the dog for a walk so I dont have to. Thankfully we finally found something to solve the pulling issue. He helps me with anything I'm doing, or at least offers. Always hangs out close by, just to be near me. He sends me for manicures and never questions the money I spend on LO (or anything really). He loves me and cuddles me and always tries to make me comfortable!

Meg920 · December 2015

My husband has been so wonderful too. He has been working overtime 50-60 hour weeks and he has cleaned our carpets and floors, he cooks dinner when he is home and he takes special care of our fur baby. I think it's amazing that he is working so much, but he never makes me feel alone in this pregnancy. He has been a huge support system and overall wonderful human being. I am one lucky girl, and so is our daughter.

nlwz123 · December 2015

My husband has been awesome. He has definitely taken responsibility for a greater number of chores around the house, will make meals when he's available (he works later than me, so it's kind of hard with dinner. I'm basically hungry when I get home), and has given me a countless number of massages in the last few months.

mrsgetz4000 · December 2015

My husband is the best. He rubs my back and feet everyday. I've had a lot of back pain and its getting worse. He loves to feel the baby kick. I feel like tweedle dee fron Alice in wonderland but he still tells me I'm sexy. He has insisted i cut my hours back at work and doesn't complain when i don't cook dinner. He's working 80 hours a week, wrapping Christmas gifts and finishing up renovations. He bathed all 3 dogs last night too!!

maureenmce · December 2015

This is a great thread that's helping my depression right now! My husband has been wonderful and I've realized lately that he's more than happy to do anything I need, I just have to let him. I can't really walk right now, more than a few steps at a time, due to very painful sciatic nerve pain, and it's been really hard for me. I'm very active and independent and like to take care of things myself. After a trip to Target last night that ended in tears and horrible pain, I decided to just accept the fact that I literally can't do all of the things I want to do right now and decided to just focus on what I can do and have my husband do the rest. So I told him today what I needed and he cleaned the entire apartment, did all of the laundry, set up the car seat base and is working on the stroller now. He's also taken over all of the dog walking and grocery shopping.

It's hard for me not to do this stuff, but I so appreciate him doing it, as well as getting me food and water and whatever else I need, whenever I ask. Truly lucky to have such a great partner I can rely on during times like these, so I'm going to remind myself of that whenever I'm tempted to have a pity party for myself.

PedsIsHardcore · December 2015

My SO puts up with my nonsense and not wanting to be touched at all. It's my birthday and I don't celebrate it, but he wanted to do something special for me. Since I can only work 4 hours a day things are tight so he sold his own stuff off, but managed to hurt himself in the process all so he could take me to a hockey game. I love love love hockey, but I am on restrictions and the game would be packed. Just not going to happen while pregnant because people are drinking beer and I could trip and just no. All I wanted was pizza with extra cheese and I get to go get my nails done tomorrow! Just a manicure since I'm a nurse, but it helps relieve some anxiety, so yays!

mrscammack · December 2015

My husband constantly asks how he can help and what I need, he encourages me to nap when I'm tired and take it easy - even though I feel like I should be doing more around the house. He won't complain if dinner is s frozen pizza or takeout and he's taken to doing the vaccuming since I was about 20 weeks, and just added the laundry and cleaning the bathroom to his list of chores after I had a labour scare last week. He really does it all, even though he works 50hr weeks and I could not be more grateful to have a partner who understands how physically and mentally draining this whole experience has been and is willing to go above and beyond to make sure baby and I are rested and healthy

great thread, it's nice to hear so many ladies have wonderful partners sounds like a lot of our babies have wonderful parents to look forward to!

EvaD84 · December 2015

Thanks for all the comments ladies... Its so nice to read all ur lovely examples... I know our men aren't perfect and they probably piss us off too but nice to know they are carrying their weight...

Lots of men out there who wouldn't and i feel sorry for those women stuck with them...

cyanope · December 2015

Love this thread! DH and I have been together for 11 years (married for 5), and in that WHOLE time, I can honestly say that he has been pretty near perfect as a partner. That fact has been amplified through pregnancy. He has been working extra hours to save up before baby, and despite being tired/overworked helps me EVERY night in the kitchen. He helps make dinner, and does all of the clean up so I can rest. Also, whenever he sees me cleaning the house he asks, "what can I do to help?" He does ALL of the laundry and ALL of the dishes (although...he's always done these two). He gives me back massages on the regular, and is constantly patting my belly and "talking" to baby girl (and by talking, I mean YELLING into my belly button). He set up baby girl's entire nursery (painted, set up the crib/dresser, hung everything), and still asks me daily, "okay, what do we need to do next?" He wants everything done, ready, and perfect before she arrives, just like I do. He encourages me to nap, and just coddles me overall. If I ask for something, he makes it happen. He's pretty freaking fantastic, and I know how blessed I am to have him!

mrsgetz4000 · December 2015

@cyanope i really did laugh out loud when you said he yells into your belly button. Because my husband does the same thing. Its adorable and hilarious

gelor0979 · December 2015

My DH has not even once rubbed my back or given me a massage.. BUT he asks me if I am Okey and need help in getting up during the night and takes me to my favorite makeup stores. It was so cute to see only one man in a long line in sephora hehe. No one's perfect so I like and appreciate anything nice he does.

ondabianca · December 2015

Before winter break, mine was going outside every morning before I left for work (I leave about 30 minutes before him) to warm up my car and defrost. For Christmas, he got an automatic car starter installed so that when he isn't around and my little Bean is we can enter a warm car.

He'll also give me shoulder and back rubs when I'm extra achy even though he has an issue in his wrist.

Very small things, but nice.

anightintunisia · December 2015

My husband was great today. He let me rest since I've been throwing up and made me soup and kept me hydrated with juice and water. We are watching all of my favorite movies while he rubs my feet. Feeling so loved right now.

cawalp · December 2015

My husband has been super nice to me and always giving me what I want. Even if it's frozen yogurt for the 4th time this week. He sometimes will rub my feet and even though he's terrible at it, it helps more than nothing at all. He always does whatever I ask even if he complains or takes forever to do it, so I try to appreciate him as much as possible.

EvaD84 · December 2015

Mine has started helping with cooking like stirring the pots on weekends. He can't cook but he's a good stirrer and peeler which is better than nothing especially now everytime i get up or stand for long times its easy to get a sore back... So hubby helps me to speed up cooking so i'm not standing up a long time..

EzrieeMay · December 2015

My husband is an a.s.s but he means well. Lol

sterlinggirard · December 2015

Thank the heavens you have a good man. Not all of us can say that. I sometimes ask myself, what have I done to deserve emotional cruelty from my baby's father. God Bless you & your family. I like to know there are still a few kind good men out there.

EvaD84 · December 2015

Gentlemen are very hard to find nowadays but i'm lucky i waited out and refused to settle for anything less...

alishasbaby · December 2015

I understand.

maddisonwallace · December 2015

My husband picked out the CUTEST pair of socks for our son. He has a pair just like them, and I am obsessed with them. For two weeks this sock has been missing and I was so upset (yes over a sock) that I couldn't find it. Hubs found it this morning while ironing his work clothes. This is such a huge deal to me. I was practically in mourning over this stupid sock. Lol. HUBBY IS A SAINT

jem8407 · December 2015

Like most of you are stating, I absolutely love this thread!
I too have been blessed with the actions and level of caring from my DH. He has always been pretty wonderful but ever since pregnancy he is the most amazing man ever.
I really hope that I can be the best Mom, dog Mom, and partner once our LO is here; that is how I think I can keep up.

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