Strangers say the darnedest things...

HoosOnFirst · December 2015

Strangers said crazy things when we were pregnant.

But I bet they say even more annoying things now! Post 'em here!

My pet peeve is that when I bring LO out, if she's not in pink or purple, people think she's a boy 100% of the time. Despite crazy long eyelashes! I don't mind, just think it's odd...

KaLikeAWind · December 2015

This month I have had a lot of this conversation -
Them: omg how cute! How old is he?
Me: he will be 6 months old on the 24th
Them: poor guy! That's a rough time to have a birthday!

caitlincunn · December 2015

Hahah ^^ dumb people..
Yesterday we were at the grocery store. My fiancé realized he forgot to grab burger buns so I took the stroller with lo to get them. This lady stops me and keeps asking all these questions because her grandson is almost 6 months. Sorry lady, have to get back to the checkout

hudson202 · December 2015

hoodoll82 said:
Strangers said crazy things when we were pregnant.

But I bet they say even more annoying things now! Post 'em here!

My pet peeve is that when I bring LO out, if she's not in pink or purple, people think she's a boy 100% of the time. Despite crazy long eyelashes! I don't mind, just think it's odd...

This! A lot of LO'S clothes are hand-me-downs and not over the top pink. So I am often told how cute my little boy is. And asked how old my little fella is. She once was wearing a green dress and I got the same "he's so cute"

She also wears a lot of OSU gear (DH and I both went there) and that is what makes me the most irrationally mad. Boys do not own OSU! Girls can wear scarlet and grey if they want to!

KaLikeAWind · December 2015

It actually makes ms irrationally angry how every single item of clothing meant for girls has pink on it.
Anybody see that Adam Ruins Everything about gender norms? It was good.

KarasTwin · December 2015

We were in Walmart on Sunday and DH was pushing LO in the stroller. There was a kiosk set up where they were selling newspaper subscriptions. The lady asked if we were feeding him fertilizer and told me that I needed to slow down feeding him so much. Then when we told her he was born weighing 9 lbs and 5 ounces she judgingly looked at me and said, Mom, did you have diabetes? No, I didn't. My kid is healthy and thriving and the doctor isn't concerned, so sell your newspaper and shut up.

beckyk9109 · December 2015

We took our girls for pictures with Santa and they had on a pink plaid top and black pants. One had a pink headband with a flower attached and the other had the same headband but white. I can't even tell you how many people said, "aw, a boy and a girl! I guess you're done having kids then" ... First off, they're both wearing flower headbands and matching in pink so clearly they're both girls. Second, i didn't know it was a crime to have another kid after having twins?

mjschenk · December 2015

If it makes you feel better my little boy has been asked if he was a girl.

But I can't stand going to the store every time, ok almost every time someone jokes about buying my baby like really?

Sammy K · December 2015

I love that in the span of 15 min I can have separate conversations of "She's so big, I can't believe she's 6 months!" And "She's so little, I can't believe she's 6 months!"

She's 50% across the board. Except for hair (like 10%) and smiling (easily 95%).

ksimo6 · December 2015

Everyone comments on LO's big head. He's off the chart, just like his sister. It doesn't bother me, but can we please talk about his dimples and the fact that he smiles all the time please!?!?!

My 6 year old nephew is in the state for the holidays and told me yesterday that my son probably weighs more than his sister because his head is SO HUGE. It made me laugh hysterically! He's probably right!

caitlincunn · December 2015

Omg my dd is the same way! Huge head. Always was above 99 percentile. Lo is average, I think yesterday it was 70 percentile.

mlindzz · December 2015

I'm not sure if it's because this happens to everyone, but strangers love to tell me what they think my son needs. 'He's hungry, tired, hot, cold, etc.'. Umm.. you don't know my son or what he needs. Please stop.

ElRuby · December 2015

An older lady told me LO had beautiful eyes.... She was sleeping.... I just said thank you and smiled.

KaLikeAWind · December 2015

Up here total strangers love to tell me 'oh mama, you'd better bundle me up against the cold!'
On the one hand, I get it. But on the other, its like 42 degrees out, he is in long sleeves and footed clothing, I have a small cotton blanket around his legs, and I am literally going 6 steps from the door of the restaurant to the door of my car. I'm not going to use a thick blanket and his fleece car cover and all that for 10 seconds of walking, just to have him roast in the car during the drive home. He's already a little furnace as it is, he runs hot and if he gets too warm he breaks out. So, how 'bout you trust me that I ALSO don't want my kid to freeze, but I know more about him and my commute than you do, random person.

devyns2nd · December 2015

ElRuby said:
An older lady told me LO had beautiful eyes.... She was sleeping.... I just said thank you and smiled.

I just laughed out loud. I can't handle situations like this. DH says I'm rude because I can.not. hide my reaction.

alcrimmins · December 2015

People constantly call LO a boy, even when she's wearing pink or purple. I'm used to it now, but she has a giant pink monster that hangs from her car seat for her to play with.

I have gotten so annoyed with people telling me LO is hot or cold that I have snapped! I went on a 5 minute tirade on a lady this summer while we were on a walk b/c she kept telling me LO was too hot. I asked her how her labor went and if her contractions were bad, was she tired from getting up with LO every 2 hours at night to feed her. She quickly got the point and now just politely smiles and waves when we walk by.

ksimo6 · December 2015

ElRuby said:
An older lady told me LO had beautiful eyes.... She was sleeping.... I just said thank you and smiled.

Fing creepy!!

I also had a waitress tell me that it was ok that my son had a pink squishy doll to play with because "people will think he's a sensitive guy". Wtf? He's a baby. It's squishy and has a rattle. I'm sure he does not give two shits what color it is.... Nor do I!

staceyfern · December 2015

At my stepsons basketball game my husband was bouncing LO on his lap. An older ref came over and asked if he could have a turn. So creepy!!!

corndogrobot · December 2015

I was with my 4 year old son and my baby and the ladies behind me were talking about me and said "it just breaks my heart to see young mothers"
I'm 36.
I turned around and said "I'm not that young."They were so embarrassed that I busted them talking about us. Then they tried to compliment me on how young I look. Whatever, lady. Shut your mouth and Go away.

47923ang · December 2015

mellymar said:
Up here total strangers love to tell me 'oh mama, you'd better bundle me up against the cold!'
On the one hand, I get it. But on the other, its like 42 degrees out, he is in long sleeves and footed clothing, I have a small cotton blanket around his legs, and I am literally going 6 steps from the door of the restaurant to the door of my car. I'm not going to use a thick blanket and his fleece car cover and all that for 10 seconds of walking, just to have him roast in the car during the drive home. He's already a little furnace as it is, he runs hot and if he gets too warm he breaks out. So, how 'bout you trust me that I ALSO don't want my kid to freeze, but I know more about him and my commute than you do, random person.

All of this. My mother is the worst at it.

cbrtncanadian · December 2015

@mellymar we are the same way... LO is a furnace if I cover him up with a blanket he sweats buckets especially head and neck area I try not to overheat him in the car and car seat but it's a fine balance between looking like I'm freezing him and keeping him comfortable.

A lady said the other day that she should get pregnant again so she didn't have to deal with her period (after telling me she already had 6 kids at home that she was tired of taking care of) I screamed a little inside....

And as for LO we don't get too many offhandedly comments..

queequeg09256 · December 2015

So I super hate having conversations with random people about my baby. So they are like oh she's cute I say 'thanks' and leave it there. Like really I don't know you we don't need to have a long conversation about how old she is or you tell me I won't get to sleep at night or whatever. I know they are just being polite so I answer nicely but I never like make any conversation back really. I think it's the introvert in me saying you seem like a nice person but I'm good. Good thing I live in the Pacific Northwest people here do not randomly comment on others lol. Smile nod and move on

jesscmv · December 2015

I went to carters today to return something and of course found something else to buy. When I put the 2 exact outfits on the counter the lady asked me if I knew that they were the same size. I told her I indeed did and I have twins, while pointing at my babbling twins in the stroller. Really?!

Oh and then there was an intense older lady at the grocery speaking another language to my girls and kissing their feet......yeah, I just stood and did nothing staring lol.

mindaa · December 2015

423ang said:

mellymar said:
Up here total strangers love to tell me 'oh mama, you'd better bundle me up against the cold!'
On the one hand, I get it. But on the other, its like 42 degrees out, he is in long sleeves and footed clothing, I have a small cotton blanket around his legs, and I am literally going 6 steps from the door of the restaurant to the door of my car. I'm not going to use a thick blanket and his fleece car cover and all that for 10 seconds of walking, just to have him roast in the car during the drive home. He's already a little furnace as it is, he runs hot and if he gets too warm he breaks out. So, how 'bout you trust me that I ALSO don't want my kid to freeze, but I know more about him and my commute than you do, random person.
All of this. My mother is the worst at it.

Ha-ha, my parents are the opposite - Always wanting to take LO for a walk in the cold, while he's congested (Like go hang out outside like they did in the summer. I do quick walks into the store all the time).

mishmardhiono · December 2015

People always trying to pinpoint a race in our baby. Me &I my husband were out and an older woman said I didn't get a look in and my daughter was very black, wtaf? A. My husbands not black, b. My child's not black but c. We don't know you, why are you commenting on my daughters skin colour as if it's an issue?

Also the size thing, she's so big, she's so small. People ask how she is, I say a great baby. "Oh that won't last enjoy
Your sleep it gets bad at 1 week, 1 month, etc." your wrong but even if you were right why burst my bubble and have me worrying about things I can't control anyway. I hate everyone's "warnings"

When Maya was really little maybe 3 weeks old this woman stopped and stared at her for about 30 seconds in the supermarket and then told me I would never know how lucky I was. Broke my heart for the poor woman but you don't know our journey to having her. Don't just assume that she's unappreciated because you tho k she was an easy conception.

I'msorrymsjackson · December 2015

Not a stupid thing at all, but wanted to share. We were going through security at the airport yesterday (which was surprisingly easy for holiday travel), and the tsa agent asked if our LO is our only one. When I said yes, she said, "oh my gosh, you need to have at least four more! He's so cute!"

All of the agents yesterday were awesome when they could have been super cranky with the crowds. They let us go in a special line, which wasn't a line at all, listened when we told them the stroller base wouldn't fit through the scanner, and smiled and talked to LO. Best traveling experience so far!

mamameghan · December 2015

I feel like people are so judgmental because I have a toddler and Twins. I get "oh you must be sooo busy" and "that's a lot of work mom!"

You don't think I know this? Do you think I put in a request to have 3 kids under 2? It took us 3 years to conceive out first so we wanted to start trying just after DD's birthday! Well, one lucky try later and surprise! Twins! Now stop making a big deal

beckyk9109 · December 2015

@jjvanwagner25 omg that happens all too often. I'll have my girls and almost every time I'm buying clothes the cashier says, "do you know you have two of these?" ... I really don't understand people.

Sammy K · December 2015

I give twin moms a lot of credit. People say stupid things and I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. I'm sure you hear the same stupid crap all the time.

virginiaunicorn11 · December 2015

A woman asked my baby's name. I told her (it's not common, but not made up or super unusual), and she said, "Well... That's alright. In this town, you hear all kinds of crazy things."

Um, thanks?

She's a friend of MIL, who was there. When the woman walked away, DH remarked that was a funny reaction. MIL said, "Oh, she's probably just trying to be nice."

Wha?!

I get what MIL is saying, though. For the most part, I think people just want to engage a cute baby, and most people are just awkward creatures, so... These situations are bound to happen! I usually just smile and say Thank You, no matter how weird, and then carry LO away.

thay33 · December 2015

this didn't happen to me... But a friend of mine who had a baby 4 days before I did, was at a store and a lady probably in her mid 40s told her her baby was super cute. And then proceeded to ask if she could hold her...To which my friend said no sorry and went on with her shopping. I find that crazy to be honest. If a complete random stranger asked to hold my baby I would be kinda creeped out.

jessieR358 · December 2015

thay33 said:
this didn't happen to me... But a friend of mine who had a baby 4 days before I did, was at a store and a lady probably in her mid 40s told her her baby was super cute. And then proceeded to ask if she could hold her...To which my friend said no sorry and went on with her shopping. I find that crazy to be honest. If a complete random stranger asked to hold my baby I would be kinda creeped out.

People are nuts. I'd say no too. You have no idea if that person has an alterior motive to kidnap your child! I may be slightly paranoid.

HoosOnFirst · December 2015

LO has kinda crazy hair - it's starting to grow out but it looks like it just sticks out everywhere like she's a mad scientist. But honestly I wish it wasn't the #1 comment from strangers. "Oh, that's wild hair!"

aj1327 · December 2015

hoodoll82 said:
LO has kinda crazy hair - it's starting to grow out but it looks like it just sticks out everywhere like she's a mad scientist. But honestly I wish it wasn't the #1 comment from strangers. "Oh, that's wild hair!"

I'm jealous of babies that have any hair! Haha.

I feel you though. I get so sick of hearing, "that's a big boy!"

It's all I can do to not say, "No shit, Sherlock."

RaiEliJusHell1369 · December 2015

Ok so not a stranger but my grandmother, who's never met my son asked me if I was BFing. When I told her no she told me how horrible it is that I'm not BFing and couldn't understand how I live with myself. Really? OK?

I've also been asked how much time I spend with him because if I'm around my son won't look at anyone else and if he can't see me he cries- forever. I'm with my son more than I'm not, I'm not sorry I'm his person. I'm a good mom damnit, who are you to question my whereabouts?

Ugh can I just drop kick people in the throat? You know, for asking stupid questions.

YouAreMySunshine15 · December 2015

@RaiEliJusHell1369 you're his mom. He's supposed to be seeking you out. It's what babies do.

Yesterday, I was out shopping for clothes for myself. LO was being crabby and screaming in the dressing room and the sales floor. When I went to the register, the older lady behind it was like "either he's really hungry, or he's just being a man." 1. My baby is a girl and was clearly dressed in pink. 2. What a derogatory and sexist comment. It just rubbed me the wrong way, but maybe I'm being overly sensitive.

mishmardhiono · December 2015

Sjeff0816 said:
@RaiEliJusHell1369 you're his mom. He's supposed to be seeking you out. It's what babies do.

Yesterday, I was out shopping for clothes for myself. LO was being crabby and screaming in the dressing room and the sales floor. When I went to the register, the older lady behind it was like "either he's really hungry, or he's just being a man." 1. My baby is a girl and was clearly dressed in pink. 2. What a derogatory and sexist comment. It just rubbed me the wrong way, but maybe I'm being overly sensitive.

Ohh I call people out of they are employees in any situation. You should of asked her if they are the views of the company. It's a pretty quick way to snap them out of it. As soon as you put your uniform on you are no longer bob, you are Walmart and anything you say or do is presumed to be the opinions and values of Walmart.

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