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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    I'm also hesitating to tell the world. I like my set up right now thank you very much! I know people will be excited but my grandma has no filter and I'm thoroughly expecting an inappropriate "wow that was quick, how much were you doing it?" (we got married in early June) type of thing from her.
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  • NicknShanNicknShan member
    On the hesitation train here too.  Only close family and friends know.  My hubs wants a big facebook announcement... I am delaying...

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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    NicknShan said:

    On the hesitation train here too.  Only close family and friends know.  My hubs wants a big facebook announcement... I am delaying...

    FFFC: I drink too much caffeine.

    DH wants one too but is okay with waiting until I'm ready to do one. My mom/MIL on the other hand, are chomping at the bit to be able to tell everyone they've ever met. Hopefully everyone will respect our "nothing on Facebook until we put something up ourselves" request.
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  • NicknShanNicknShan member
    @Sgoldberg247 my MIL loves to tell everyone too.  I just told her she can tell her friends as long as EVERYONE KNOWS NOTHING ON FACEBOOK.  It made her happy.  And I like to make my MIL happy.
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    NicknShan said:

    @Sgoldberg247 my MIL loves to tell everyone too.  I just told her she can tell her friends as long as EVERYONE KNOWS NOTHING ON FACEBOOK.  It made her happy.  And I like to make my MIL happy.

    It's been a "no telling anyone" situation to make sure my extended family finds out from us but once they know I'll be okay with them telling whoever as long as it stays off facebook so we can tell others in our own time.
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  • ahernandez16ahernandez16 member
    Sgoldberg247 said:

    I'm also hesitating to tell the world. I like my set up right now thank you very much! I know people will be excited but my grandma has no filter and I'm thoroughly expecting an inappropriate "wow that was quick, how much were you doing it?" (we got married in early June) type of thing from her.

    My great grandmother is the same way! She was the only one made the "wow, that was quick! You guys must've been busy" comments (to my face, anyway, we got married mid May) and also asked DH if he was sure he was the father. If she wasn't almost 90, I'd smack her.
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  • mkemommymkemommy member
    I'm pissed at American Airlines right now.  I want to use my miles for a flight for H's Christmas gift and several of them aren't posting until Monday...I don't want to buy more miles to purchase the flight but I'm *just* this much short.  I hope the flight is still available on Monday.  Using miles is like running a freaking obstetrical course. 
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  • purplefan1purplefan1 member
    I agree about being hesitant to tell. Only my sister, BIL, boss, and receptionist at work know (she is super Catholic so I told her so she would pray for us...and also so she would adjust my schedule when needed because of sickness). In the early weeks I was itching to tell people, but now I feel all shy about it or something. Maybe just my hormones messing with me. We are telling family on Christmas eve and Christmas day in person and will ask that they not tell anyone yet either. Then plan on telling friends when we see them. Still not sure if I even want to do a fb announcement. I think it would be amusing to just have a baby and randomly post on Facebook somewhere down the road a picture of my new family and have a bunch a "friends" be like....wait. What just happened.
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    shannonrnbsn said:
    I'm pissed at American Airlines right now.  I want to use my miles for a flight for H's Christmas gift and several of them aren't posting until Monday...I don't want to buy more miles to purchase the flight but I'm *just* this much short.  I hope the flight is still available on Monday.  Using miles is like running a freaking obstetrical course. 
    And unfortunately they don't offer an Epidural for this type of obstetrical course...
    Lol... totally unintentional but hilarious spelling error on my part.
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  • sparklecharliesparklecharlie member
    @June2016BabyW I'm feeling the same way! Super shy about saying anything but originally was chomping at the bit to tell. I'm not making a FB post, but maybe afterwards post a picture with the words "ta da! Look what we made!" And confuse everyone. I don't know why it's so hard to tell people!
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  • meggymemeggyme member
    Sgoldberg247 said:

    NicknShan said:

    On the hesitation train here too.  Only close family and friends know.  My hubs wants a big facebook announcement... I am delaying...

    FFFC: I drink too much caffeine.

    DH wants one too but is okay with waiting until I'm ready to do one. My mom/MIL on the other hand, are chomping at the bit to be able to tell everyone they've ever met. Hopefully everyone will respect our "nothing on Facebook until we put something up ourselves" request.
    How is this not just common courtesy? So far my family and friends have posted not so subtle posts about it without coming straight out and announcing it for us. My sister posted a "best aunt" mug and when my long time friend saw it and I was forced to tell her, she turned around and posted a picture of the two of us saying she was so excited for my news. Hmmm... I wonder what news a married woman of child bearing age could have that you wouldn't be able to come right out and say?

    My FFFC: my grandmother is in hospice care and I'm staying home this weekend instead of driving 7 hours to visit. I've felt too overwhelmed lately by too many things happening in a short amount of time to travel again this weekend. I'm a little conflicted about it, but decided I need the down time.
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  • Kballew10Kballew10 member
    I am the opposite of most of you, I am so ready for people to know so that I don't have to keep lying and hiding things!  I just don't want to have to tell them all... which leads me to:

    My FFFC: I was supposed to have plans with a friend tomorrow, but she had to cancel because their family Xmas plans changed.  I am disappointed not to see her, but kind of glad that I don't have to tell her in person.  I LOVE our Xmas cards because it took the awkwardness out of the "announcement".  I'm glad that their family will get a card just like everybody else and I can just hang out with her once they know!
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    @meggyme that's exactly what I'm afraid of. My MIL has already been liking things that, to me, are a little much. Newborn photoshoots (not of friends just generic ones that she sees) or other baby related things that probably are innocuous if you aren't in the loop but are too close for comfort for me. I'm worried what'll happen once she gets the all clear with her friends, people posting stuff about her becoming a grandma will definitely clue people in. DH's siblings are both single and in college so the likelihood of it being related to one of them is slim. Also so sorry to hear your grandma isn't doing well.

    I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't want to do a big Facebook thing. I'd rather tell the people we care to tell and then let everyone else find out through pictures with a bump or baby announcements but my mom/MIL think I'm crazy for wanting that.
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  • meggymemeggyme member
    @Sgoldberg247 my biggest concern is that I haven't told my boss yet. While I don't have many Facebook work friends (for reasons such as this) I have one that is well connected at work and has a habit of taking it upon herself to publicly congratulate people on personal accomplishments/events on her page.
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  • NLewis1NLewis1 member
    meggyme said:

    @Sgoldberg247 my biggest concern is that I haven't told my boss yet. While I don't have many Facebook work friends (for reasons such as this) I have one that is well connected at work and has a habit of taking it upon herself to publicly congratulate people on personal accomplishments/events on her page.

    That is completely inappropriate of her regardless of the accomplishment or event :/
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    NLewis1 said:

    meggyme said:

    @Sgoldberg247 my biggest concern is that I haven't told my boss yet. While I don't have many Facebook work friends (for reasons such as this) I have one that is well connected at work and has a habit of taking it upon herself to publicly congratulate people on personal accomplishments/events on her page.

    That is completely inappropriate of her regardless of the accomplishment or event :/
    Yeah, it's pretty bad. It's not even her personal Facebook page, but a page for an engineering society she runs, which is made up in large part of people from my company. She frequently shares people's posts/articles or says happy bday/anniversary to people.
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    WinniethePoohsPants said:

    I'm almost glad there has been so many "guess the sex" threads, BUT only because it's gotten to a point that EVERYONE is getting so irritated by it that even our WK has stopped defending them.  I'm enjoying our united front.

    I noticed that too! I'm worried for what's to come as we get closer to the window where people can get elective scans or their anatomy scan though...
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  • HBamama2BHBamama2B member
    I'm also over telling people. And don't really want a fb announcement. Every time someone at work comes up and says wax cutesy a little bird... I'm like, yeah, pregnant rah! Riiiight.. RBF. It's getting to feel like Miranda in sex and the city faking my: "Oh boy it's a boy!" I'm excited but, kinda just wish no one knew.l so I could just be pregnant without the sudden dramatic increase in dear friends.

    Mine: I've caught myself using my pregnancy to my advantage, and I don't feel bad. Examples:

    1) I'm eating grilled cheese and ff today even though I don't feel sick. If anyone asks, I plan to blame ms.

    2) I made DH stay in bed an extra ten so he could cuddle me and 'put his hand on my belly and bond' but really I just wanted to sleep in and have first crack at the shower.
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  • Kballew10Kballew10 member
    @HBamama2B - You're not alone.  I do still have some nausea, but probably could have vacuumed the house before DH got home today.  2 dogs + 3 weeks without vacuuming = seemed like too much work
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    WinniethePoohsPants said:

    I'm almost glad there has been so many "guess the sex" threads, BUT only because it's gotten to a point that EVERYONE is getting so irritated by it that even our WK has stopped defending them.  I'm enjoying our united front.

    Lol....I wouldn't mistake silence for consensus. Yes, the sex threads are frustrating but i still think people are often immature and unnecessarily rude, just can't be bothered anymore.
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    MsBeachNJ said:

    I'm over people telling me what they think I'm having... I'm 13 weeks, I barely have a bump and I've yet to dress in any way that suggests that I am pregnant for anyone to see how I'm carrying (and isn't it way too early to be carrying a certain way yet?). I legit get mad at people for making comments/guesses on what I'm having... I know it isn't even the tip of the iceberg of whats to come, I just hate how people look you up and down and judge your body & then say based on some #ssbackards theory that you're having a boy or a girl... I'm not finding out - I won't find out until June so please, entertain yourself elsewhere! 

    Not only is it too early to be carrying a certain way, but the way you carry has much more to do with your bone structure, abdominal muscles and whether the baby implanted high or low than what genitals your baby will have. My aunt was convinced she was having a boy as her last baby, every single old wives take pointed to it including how she carried. Pretty positive my cousin is in fact a girl. I'm not looking forward to that aspect of pregnancy at all...
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  • MsBeachNJMsBeachNJ member
    @Sgoldberg247 My sister carried 2 entirely different ways with her 2 pregnancies, the first they were convinced was a boy- it came out a girl! Then her next pregnancy she carried differently (she had lost about 20 pounds and was more in shape over all) obviously as she was "carrying differently" she was having a boy... nope! I have 2 sweet nieces. 
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    MsBeachNJ said:

    @Sgoldberg247 My sister carried 2 entirely different ways with her 2 pregnancies, the first they were convinced was a boy- it came out a girl! Then her next pregnancy she carried differently (she had lost about 20 pounds and was more in shape over all) obviously as she was "carrying differently" she was having a boy... nope! I have 2 sweet nieces. 

    You'd think when they get it wrong twice, they would realize that it doesn't work, no?
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  • AmberLiz99AmberLiz99 member
    My son was invited th a birthday party for his friend tomorrow, and I'm not looking forward to spending the morning with a bunch of 4-5 year olds. Ds is excited, but I'd rather just have the last Saturday before Christmas just to our family.
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  • artlea2013artlea2013 member
    edited December 2015
    I'm worried about going back to work after the baby for a few reasons, but my FFFC reason is:

    I'm going to be uncontrollably jealous of anyone who gets to spend all day with my baby when I can't. Especially if it's either my mother or my MIL. I'd basically rather have a non-relative, professional daycare handling the baby. Grandparents don't mean to, but they can be so smug about their grandkids sometimes and I'm worried about resenting mine or DH's parents for getting to be with my baby when I can't.
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  • ahernandez16ahernandez16 member
    edited December 2015
    ^^ I'm not sure why I can tag you, art&leaadye.  I'm the same way. My mom lives in town and does not work so if I go back to work after this baby the financially responsible thing to do would be to let her watch him/her. She's already basically assumed that's what's happening anyway. I want to work. I don't want to be a full time stay at home mom, but I'd also much rather do day care. I can see my mom getting into the mind set that she's actually raising the baby and therefore she gets the say over me and DH - which is a whole other issue I won't get into. 

    I'm really hoping I can either convince my boss to let me work from home part or even full time or I can get into substitute teaching until the baby is old enough to go to preschool so I can set my own schedule. 
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  • wbwellswbwells member
    Sgoldberg247 said:

    DH wants one too but is okay with waiting until I'm ready to do one. My mom/MIL on the other hand, are chomping at the bit to be able to tell everyone they've ever met. Hopefully everyone will respect our "nothing on Facebook until we put something up ourselves" request.
    My mother-in-law is VERY much on the 'if I can't put it on Facebook then it's not official' train and it absolutely PISSES me off.  Her daughter and I (her sons wife) are due 9 days apart, and after we both announced she put up a Facebook status 'so excited to tell everyone that Papa and I are expecting grand baby number 3 and 4 in June!!'  I wanted to comment 'if you're expecting it then you vomit multiple times a day, have food aversions, bloat etc' but I bit my tongue lol.  We are 90% positive what the sex is of the baby, we have another scan on Wednesday where we should be able to confirm, and I'm REALLY dreading telling her because I don't want everyone to know the gender yet, just family, but she can't keep her freaking mouth shut.  

    Ok.  Rant over lol
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  • HBamama2BHBamama2B member
    @wbwells wow, I'm so sorry. That sounds awful. It's completely ridiculous for her to coopt the announcement that way, and on FB no less. I totally understand your reticence to tell her the sex.
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  • MynaBirdMynaBird member
    @wbwells Totally feel you. My FIL posted on FB about the arrival of our first while I was literally still in the delivery room being stitched up. IT'S NOT THEIR NEWS.
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  • CourtJackCourtJack member
    Re: FB posts....a guy on my softball team posted the very first picture of my daughter after she was born on FB. It was so weird that he thought that was ok that we all just laughed about it. His wife got so mad at him! haha (He was our first visitor...but only b/c he happened to be close by when she arrived...she was born at home).
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  • Emztron500Emztron500 member
    edited December 2015
    I have pretty mixed feelings about announcing too. Just told my parents today and they were so happy, so that was fun and exciting. Also told my one sister who lives out of town. The rest of my family will be at a Christmas party I'm going to tonight so telling them then, and I'm kinda nervous about it! 

    After telling my family tonight and DH's family on Sunday, I'll definitely do a FB post, if only to let my taekwondo instructors know so they'll stop making me do goddamn situps.
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