Maybe not a U/O but I hate how negative people are at pregnancy! Yes it's not a bundle of kittens all the time but when people say "just you wait" or similar things it makes me ragey. You have no idea what people went through to get there, so maybe don't be so negative about the whole thing.
This goes for when you have babies and children too. Suddenly people want to tell you how much it sucks.
I agree. It annoys me when I say something positive or negative about MY pregnancy and the person responds with "JUST YOU WAIT".
I don't like original holiday songs written by artists, I think they're cheesy and awkward. I like original songs that are old or re done. Just stick to the classics. I also don't like Taylor Swift's Christmas music, I turn the station when she comes on now.
I'm going to post this before I read everyone else's and forget what I wanted to say. I can't stand the stupid reindeer antlers with red noses people put on their cars. I equally despise the wreaths people put on their cars. It looks dumb!!
OH! Another one I had are those stupid stick figure families on the back of people's cars. NO ONE CARES about your family.
There is a car in my neighborhood with one of these stickers. Mom and Dad must be divorced as the "mom" sticker has been scrapped off. Makes me LOL every time I see it.
haha I have seen one like that too, except the dad was missing. It's also really dumb when they have their dogs and cats on there too. They couldn't think of something better to spend their money on?
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
I don't get all the drama that can surround finding out the sex/gender of the baby.
I see/hear a lot of complaining about gender reveals.. when to have one, how to do it, etc. Also, people that are Team Green, but complain about how hard it is.
If you want to have a reveal, do it.. and the same for Team Green, but if it's causing you stress, make a different (less stressful) plan!
DH and I are going to find out at the anatomy scan, and we'll probably just send a text to our family and friends saying "It's a ___!"
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
1000% agree with the "just you wait" comments - I think what bothers me is that when people say "just you wait" you can see their barely concealed at your future suffering. Occasionally, when people are being particularly bad, I play my miscarriage card - "Well, that sure sounds better than losing a pregnancy, so... " Usually shuts people up pretty quick.
I can't quote because TB won't let me, but I thin there's a difference between commiserating, or being grumpy sometimes and saying "just you wait". I've said how excited I am about such and such and had people say "oh just you wait." I think problem is when people seem like they want to scared you or whatever. Or the "well you'll never sleep again" umm duh, babies wake up a lot and we will be running on very little sleep, but I'm sure I will sleep again at some point. People are just so negative.
eta: of course we all know pregnancy isn't a basket of rainbows, but it's also not forever.
My kids sleep All.The.Time. I got lucky. They always have. Over my 2 current kids we'be had a total of 2 months of sleepless nights. You never know.
I am one of the people that you would hate then. I use my check book for big purchases at the grocery story because it helps me keep my account balanced easier. I do make sure everything but the amount is filled out before I have to pay, though.
I also use my check book to pay bills mostly. It just helps me stay organized!
See, that part makes it fine to me.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
I'm going to post this before I read everyone else's and forget what I wanted to say. I can't stand the stupid reindeer antlers with red noses people put on their cars. I equally despise the wreaths people put on their cars. It looks dumb!!
OH! Another one I had are those stupid stick figure families on the back of people's cars. NO ONE CARES about your family.
But have you seen the car eyelashes?!?! Nothing makes me want to go ape shit on someone more than that. What is going on in this world that these exist.
I'm going to post this before I read everyone else's and forget what I wanted to say. I can't stand the stupid reindeer antlers with red noses people put on their cars. I equally despise the wreaths people put on their cars. It looks dumb!!
OH! Another one I had are those stupid stick figure families on the back of people's cars. NO ONE CARES about your family.
But have you seen the car eyelashes?!?! Nothing makes me want to go ape shit on someone more than that. What is going on in this world that these exist.
I'm going to post this before I read everyone else's and forget what I wanted to say. I can't stand the stupid reindeer antlers with red noses people put on their cars. I equally despise the wreaths people put on their cars. It looks dumb!!
OH! Another one I had are those stupid stick figure families on the back of people's cars. NO ONE CARES about your family.
But have you seen the car eyelashes?!?! Nothing makes me want to go ape shit on someone more than that. What is going on in this world that these exist.
Ugh, yes. I hate those too! It's a vehicle, why are there eyelashes for it??
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
1000% agree with the "just you wait" comments - I think what bothers me is that when people say "just you wait" you can see their barely concealed at your future suffering. Occasionally, when people are being particularly bad, I play my miscarriage card - "Well, that sure sounds better than losing a pregnancy, so... " Usually shuts people up pretty quick.
One of my co-workers whines, and whines, and WHINES about how he gets no sleep, doesn't have time to watch a movie, can never read a book, basically can't do a single thing because he has two young kids. His wife is a SAHM and she makes his lunches, does his laundry, etc., so I have a hard time sympathizing.
There's been at least ten occasions where I was so close to saying, well there are plenty of people, myself included, who would love a baby to keep them up at night. I've never had the guts to say it though.
I just can't wait until we have this baby and can show him that you can actually take your kids out of the house and enjoy the world WITH them.
I hate them as well but I will admit that one time my DH and I put these on my MILs VW beetle without her knowing and let her drive around all day until we told her. Oh how we laughed...
This is a useless one, but I kinda hate when the threads get super long like the baby names one or the tell us your babies sex one. I get overwhelmed and then it bothers me when it gets derailed and it's hard to find anything. It makes my type A brain want to explode. Haha
Same here, I don't even read those threads. Like the where you are from one. I saw 8 pages and was like nope. That's the thing though, I actually want to read the baby names thread. And I like that everyone puts their baby's sex in one thread so we don't have a million a day. But it just makes my head spin haha. I can't keep up with the quote boxes and who said what
My UO: I hate when the dad doesn't show up at baby showers. Okay, I get that he probably couldn't get any of his friends to come and play shower games and hang out, so he probably didn't want to be there. But these people are here to give gifts to your child (which is now shit you don't have to buy). Show a little respect and at least show up to help open gifts, thank the hosts/guests, and help load the car! On this same note, I hate that baby showers tend to be all about the new mom-to-be. In most cases (though I understand not all), there are two people about to become new parents. Which brings me back to my original point that the dad-to-be should be there. Same goes for wedding showers that tend to be bride-to-be centered events (hopefully with the nationwide legalization of same sex marriage, this and other archaic wedding/baby shower traditions will begin to change), but I'm getting off topic...
I hate it when people screw up perfectly good glazed or chocolate glazed donuts.. don't put stuff in it or flavors or sprinkles. Ugh.
Let me add to this and say I hate when people ruin perfectly good pastries in general. We had a cookie exchange at work and far too many perfectly good chocolate chip cookies were ruined with fruit combinations.
I hate it when people screw up perfectly good glazed or chocolate glazed donuts.. don't put stuff in it or flavors or sprinkles. Ugh.
Let me add to this and say I hate when people ruin perfectly good pastries in general. We had a cookie exchange at work and far too many perfectly good chocolate chip cookies were ruined with fruit combinations.
I so agree with this! I hate bits of fruit in desserts and fruit in chocolate chip cookies would ruin it for me. Stick to the classics people. Haha
I hate it when people screw up perfectly good glazed or chocolate glazed donuts.. don't put stuff in it or flavors or sprinkles. Ugh.
Let me add to this and say I hate when people ruin perfectly good pastries in general. We had a cookie exchange at work and far too many perfectly good chocolate chip cookies were ruined with fruit combinations.
I so agree with this! I hate bits of fruit in desserts and fruit in chocolate chip cookies would ruin it for me. Stick to the classics people. Haha
Someone brought in chocolate chip cookies the other day and they had raisins hidden in them. Literally the worst thing ever.
1000% agree with the "just you wait" comments - I think what bothers me is that when people say "just you wait" you can see their barely concealed at your future suffering. Occasionally, when people are being particularly bad, I play my miscarriage card - "Well, that sure sounds better than losing a pregnancy, so... " Usually shuts people up pretty quick.
One of my co-workers whines, and whines, and WHINES about how he gets no sleep, doesn't have time to watch a movie, can never read a book, basically can't do a single thing because he has two young kids. His wife is a SAHM and she makes his lunches, does his laundry, etc., so I have a hard time sympathizing.
There's been at least ten occasions where I was so close to saying, well there are plenty of people, myself included, who would love a baby to keep them up at night. I've never had the guts to say it though.
I just can't wait until we have this baby and can show him that you can actually take your kids out of the house and enjoy the world WITH them.
Hmmmm I am the worker while DH is the SAHD. He does all the above, laundry cleaning etc. I NEVER have time to read a book watch a movie - it took DH and I 3 nights to get through the first Star Wars movie! I finally was able to start reading a book about a week ago, the first time since having my daugher who is now 20 months old - after a loss.
Basically she wakes up at 6am, I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, while making breakfast and getting ready for work. I work. I get home about 5pm where I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, she goes to bed around 6:30, while DH makes dinner. I then help out with chores - folding laundry or what have you. We get to bed around 8ish where DH and I watch a TV show - currently watching Frasier - this is our together time. Lights out around 830 - 9is depending on how we feel. And we are lucky, DD generally sleeps right through. I would dread to think how I would feel if DD was a constant waker! FX this one is like DD, but I don't expect that.
Yep I get you have had a rough time, but you are doing exactly what pisses you off to someone else! Life can be tough and sometimes we all need to complain a wee bit to get through! It sounds to me like your coworker is spending plenty of time with his kids rather than doing things on his own, so good on him.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
I have another one. UO....I'm not changing the rules of my house because it's a "party". I don't have alot of rules, but they will be followed. All toys stay in the toy room, any toy that leaves the toy room is confiscated. No playing on the stairs. No playing with the picture frames or other decorative items on the end tables. That's it. I have 3 rules. They don't need to change just so you don't have to get your happy butt up and walk to the play room so your kid can show you whatever they want to show you. "It's a party" does not translate to "no rules, whoohoo!" Because when it does, all of a sudden the rules take 3 weeks to relearn. No. Walk your happy butt downstairs to your kid, and respect the rules of my house.
I have another one. UO....I'm not changing the rules of my house because it's a "party". I don't have alot of rules, but they will be followed. All toys stay in the toy room, any toy that leaves the toy room is confiscated. No playing on the stairs. No playing with the picture frames or other decorative items on the end tables.
That's it. I have 3 rules. They don't need to change just so you don't have to get your happy butt up and walk to the play room so your kid can show you whatever they want to show you. "It's a party" does not translate to "no rules, whoohoo!" Because when it does, all of a sudden the rules take 3 weeks to relearn. No. Walk your happy butt downstairs to your kid, and respect the rules of my house.
Does this mean that my "no pants are the best pants" rule can apply at our Christmas party this year?! YES!!
I have another one. UO....I'm not changing the rules of my house because it's a "party". I don't have alot of rules, but they will be followed. All toys stay in the toy room, any toy that leaves the toy room is confiscated. No playing on the stairs. No playing with the picture frames or other decorative items on the end tables.
That's it. I have 3 rules. They don't need to change just so you don't have to get your happy butt up and walk to the play room so your kid can show you whatever they want to show you. "It's a party" does not translate to "no rules, whoohoo!" Because when it does, all of a sudden the rules take 3 weeks to relearn. No. Walk your happy butt downstairs to your kid, and respect the rules of my house.
I'm just curious, your kids are only allowed toys in their play room, so the rest of your house is a toy free zone? I just cant picture that
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
My uo is I hate living in a large space. I know it's the American dream to live in giant house but I just don't like it. It's so much to clean! Then you just feel the need to fill it with stuff which costs money you could be using on an awesome vacation. Plus in a smaller space you actually are forced to spend time with the people you live with instead of everyone just disappearing to their rooms. I'm going to be so glad when we're done renovating this house and move to a smaller space!
I have another one. UO....I'm not changing the rules of my house because it's a "party". I don't have alot of rules, but they will be followed. All toys stay in the toy room, any toy that leaves the toy room is confiscated. No playing on the stairs. No playing with the picture frames or other decorative items on the end tables. That's it. I have 3 rules. They don't need to change just so you don't have to get your happy butt up and walk to the play room so your kid can show you whatever they want to show you. "It's a party" does not translate to "no rules, whoohoo!" Because when it does, all of a sudden the rules take 3 weeks to relearn. No. Walk your happy butt downstairs to your kid, and respect the rules of my house.
Wow. I'm glad I'm not coming to your party. I understand rules but as a hostess, it's also about accommodating your guests for a short amount of time so they feel comfortable. I have strong memories associated with how I've been treated at the homes of friends and family and my ultimate goal with guests is to make them feel comfortable so they want to return. I can't imagine enforcing this during a party...
1000% agree with the "just you wait" comments - I think what bothers me is that when people say "just you wait" you can see their barely concealed at your future suffering. Occasionally, when people are being particularly bad, I play my miscarriage card - "Well, that sure sounds better than losing a pregnancy, so... " Usually shuts people up pretty quick.
One of my co-workers whines, and whines, and WHINES about how he gets no sleep, doesn't have time to watch a movie, can never read a book, basically can't do a single thing because he has two young kids. His wife is a SAHM and she makes his lunches, does his laundry, etc., so I have a hard time sympathizing.
There's been at least ten occasions where I was so close to saying, well there are plenty of people, myself included, who would love a baby to keep them up at night. I've never had the guts to say it though.
I just can't wait until we have this baby and can show him that you can actually take your kids out of the house and enjoy the world WITH them.
Hmmmm I am the worker while DH is the SAHD. He does all the above, laundry cleaning etc. I NEVER have time to read a book watch a movie - it took DH and I 3 nights to get through the first Star Wars movie! I finally was able to start reading a book about a week ago, the first time since having my daugher who is now 20 months old - after a loss.
Basically she wakes up at 6am, I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, while making breakfast and getting ready for work. I work. I get home about 5pm where I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, she goes to bed around 6:30, while DH makes dinner. I then help out with chores - folding laundry or what have you. We get to bed around 8ish where DH and I watch a TV show - currently watching Frasier - this is our together time. Lights out around 830 - 9is depending on how we feel. And we are lucky, DD generally sleeps right through. I would dread to think how I would feel if DD was a constant waker! FX this one is like DD, but I don't expect that.
Yep I get you have had a rough time, but you are doing exactly what pisses you off to someone else! Life can be tough and sometimes we all need to complain a wee bit to get through! It sounds to me like your coworker is spending plenty of time with his kids rather than doing things on his own, so good on him.
QBF-----------------
First, I think ranting on a thread that is literally created for that purpose is a lot different than unsolicited complaining at the workplace. Sooo what I did is not the same. It started with me agreeing with PP.
I never said he should be doing other things and neglecting family time. I get that being a parent isn't easy and your time allocations change. He just tries to make his life sound a million times harder than everyone else's. My other coworkers with kids hardly ever complain.
I think the reason it irritates me is because someone will be reading a book over their lunch hour and he will say, "Oh I wish I could read a book. I have kids, so I can't." It'd be different if someone asked him about the books he's read, but it comes off as condescending because other people make time/have time for the activity.
1000% agree with the "just you wait" comments - I think what bothers me is that when people say "just you wait" you can see their barely concealed at your future suffering. Occasionally, when people are being particularly bad, I play my miscarriage card - "Well, that sure sounds better than losing a pregnancy, so... " Usually shuts people up pretty quick.
One of my co-workers whines, and whines, and WHINES about how he gets no sleep, doesn't have time to watch a movie, can never read a book, basically can't do a single thing because he has two young kids. His wife is a SAHM and she makes his lunches, does his laundry, etc., so I have a hard time sympathizing.
There's been at least ten occasions where I was so close to saying, well there are plenty of people, myself included, who would love a baby to keep them up at night. I've never had the guts to say it though.
I just can't wait until we have this baby and can show him that you can actually take your kids out of the house and enjoy the world WITH them.
Hmmmm I am the worker while DH is the SAHD. He does all the above, laundry cleaning etc. I NEVER have time to read a book watch a movie - it took DH and I 3 nights to get through the first Star Wars movie! I finally was able to start reading a book about a week ago, the first time since having my daugher who is now 20 months old - after a loss.
Basically she wakes up at 6am, I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, while making breakfast and getting ready for work. I work. I get home about 5pm where I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, she goes to bed around 6:30, while DH makes dinner. I then help out with chores - folding laundry or what have you. We get to bed around 8ish where DH and I watch a TV show - currently watching Frasier - this is our together time. Lights out around 830 - 9is depending on how we feel. And we are lucky, DD generally sleeps right through. I would dread to think how I would feel if DD was a constant waker! FX this one is like DD, but I don't expect that.
Yep I get you have had a rough time, but you are doing exactly what pisses you off to someone else! Life can be tough and sometimes we all need to complain a wee bit to get through! It sounds to me like your coworker is spending plenty of time with his kids rather than doing things on his own, so good on him.
QBF-----------------
First, I think ranting on a thread that is literally created for that purpose is a lot different than unsolicited complaining at the workplace. Sooo what I did is not the same. It started with me agreeing with PP.
I never said he should be doing other things and neglecting family time. I get that being a parent isn't easy and your time allocations change. He just tries to make his life sound a million times harder than everyone else's. My other coworkers with kids hardly ever complain.
I think the reason it irritates me is because someone will be reading a book over their lunch hour and he will say, "Oh I wish I could read a book. I have kids, so I can't." It'd be different if someone asked him about the books he's read, but it comes off as condescending because other people make time/have time for the activity.
Well I agree that is just annoying, he's one of "those" people.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
Love my car reindeer antlers!!! And makes me smile to see other peoples, but they only go on for couple days max...
Also know what you mean about family car stickers but I was once told they are for emergency services to know who in car? Not sure if that true or not? Thinking for the baby ones- but then point would be to take them out if baby not in car and not sure if people do that? Anyone know if that's true?!!
Re: UO Thursday 12/17
haha I have seen one like that too, except the dad was missing. It's also really dumb when they have their dogs and cats on there too. They couldn't think of something better to spend their money on?
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!I see/hear a lot of complaining about gender reveals.. when to have one, how to do it, etc. Also, people that are Team Green, but complain about how hard it is.
If you want to have a reveal, do it.. and the same for Team Green, but if it's causing you stress, make a different (less stressful) plan!
DH and I are going to find out at the anatomy scan, and we'll probably just send a text to our family and friends saying "It's a ___!"
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
See, that part makes it fine to me.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
let's not forget truck nutz
Dear God these things make me ragey!!!
Ugh, yes. I hate those too! It's a vehicle, why are there eyelashes for it??
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!There's been at least ten occasions where I was so close to saying, well there are plenty of people, myself included, who would love a baby to keep them up at night. I've never had the guts to say it though.
I just can't wait until we have this baby and can show him that you can actually take your kids out of the house and enjoy the world WITH them.
That's the thing though, I actually want to read the baby names thread. And I like that everyone puts their baby's sex in one thread so we don't have a million a day. But it just makes my head spin haha. I can't keep up with the quote boxes and who said what
DD: 05/14/16
I so agree with this! I hate bits of fruit in desserts and fruit in chocolate chip cookies would ruin it for me. Stick to the classics people. Haha
I so agree with this! I hate bits of fruit in desserts and fruit in chocolate chip cookies would ruin it for me. Stick to the classics people. Haha
Someone brought in chocolate chip cookies the other day and they had raisins hidden in them. Literally the worst thing ever.
Basically she wakes up at 6am, I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, while making breakfast and getting ready for work. I work. I get home about 5pm where I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, she goes to bed around 6:30, while DH makes dinner. I then help out with chores - folding laundry or what have you. We get to bed around 8ish where DH and I watch a TV show - currently watching Frasier - this is our together time. Lights out around 830 - 9is depending on how we feel. And we are lucky, DD generally sleeps right through. I would dread to think how I would feel if DD was a constant waker! FX this one is like DD, but I don't expect that.
Yep I get you have had a rough time, but you are doing exactly what pisses you off to someone else! Life can be tough and sometimes we all need to complain a wee bit to get through! It sounds to me like your coworker is spending plenty of time with his kids rather than doing things on his own, so good on him.
That's it. I have 3 rules. They don't need to change just so you don't have to get your happy butt up and walk to the play room so your kid can show you whatever they want to show you. "It's a party" does not translate to "no rules, whoohoo!" Because when it does, all of a sudden the rules take 3 weeks to relearn. No. Walk your happy butt downstairs to your kid, and respect the rules of my house.
Does this mean that my "no pants are the best pants" rule can apply at our Christmas party this year?! YES!!
My uo is I hate living in a large space. I know it's the American dream to live in giant house but I just don't like it. It's so much to clean! Then you just feel the need to fill it with stuff which costs money you could be using on an awesome vacation. Plus in a smaller space you actually are forced to spend time with the people you live with instead of everyone just disappearing to their rooms. I'm going to be so glad when we're done renovating this house and move to a smaller space!
I can't even (Can't even finish a whole sentence??)
That _____ tho
On fleek
Long hair, don't care
Because, ________
I know this stuff is common, but I want to yell at someone every time I read any of these.
Basically she wakes up at 6am, I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, while making breakfast and getting ready for work. I work. I get home about 5pm where I spend about 1.5 hrs with her, she goes to bed around 6:30, while DH makes dinner. I then help out with chores - folding laundry or what have you. We get to bed around 8ish where DH and I watch a TV show - currently watching Frasier - this is our together time. Lights out around 830 - 9is depending on how we feel. And we are lucky, DD generally sleeps right through. I would dread to think how I would feel if DD was a constant waker! FX this one is like DD, but I don't expect that.
Yep I get you have had a rough time, but you are doing exactly what pisses you off to someone else! Life can be tough and sometimes we all need to complain a wee bit to get through! It sounds to me like your coworker is spending plenty of time with his kids rather than doing things on his own, so good on him.
QBF-----------------
First, I think ranting on a thread that is literally created for that purpose is a lot different than unsolicited complaining at the workplace. Sooo what I did is not the same. It started with me agreeing with PP.
I never said he should be doing other things and neglecting family time. I get that being a parent isn't easy and your time allocations change. He just tries to make his life sound a million times harder than everyone else's. My other coworkers with kids hardly ever complain.
I think the reason it irritates me is because someone will be reading a book over their lunch hour and he will say, "Oh I wish I could read a book. I have kids, so I can't." It'd be different if someone asked him about the books he's read, but it comes off as condescending because other people make time/have time for the activity.
WTF is "on fleek"? Never heard that one.
ETA: I hope you don't hate "WTF" as internet slang. That one is necessary!
Also know what you mean about family car stickers but I was once told they are for emergency services to know who in car? Not sure if that true or not? Thinking for the baby ones- but then point would be to take them out if baby not in car and not sure if people do that? Anyone know if that's true?!!