So while I fully support breastfeeding in public, I do not get this sudden movement that everyone has to be comfortable with it. I saw an article on FB where this girl went off because she was breastfeeding and someone was looking at her (I am sure there are multiple, but this one irked me). This is, like many things, something that was kept behind closed doors for a long time. It will take some people time to get used to it happening.
I don't understand the logic in assuming anyone looking at you is automatically judging you. I have been very lucky to be comfortable in my skin for awhile. I wear tutus in public randomly because I want to, no occasion. I also worked for a company that participated in The Black Tape Project (you can google it, you won't see our pictures but you can have an idea of what it is). I am fully comfortable with both of these things.
However, people look. People are curious, especially if it's something they are not used to seeing. If you are doing nothing wrong, then continue what you are doing. Nobody feeding their baby is doing ANYTHING wrong. So continue on girl. People are not all judging. Some may, but others are curious. Also there are people who are not comfortable being that open and may just be in awe that you are able to.
I understand the normalize public breastfeeding movement. However, I think the best way to normalize it is for it to happen more often. Not to jump down anyone's throat who happens to look at you while you are doing it. I definitely plan on feeding in public if my LO cooperates, and I am prepared to be looked at. It won't stop me, but that's because my focus will be on feeding my baby, not seeing who is looking at me.
Now, let me clarify. Getting looked at is not the same as someone being a creeper and trying to see your boob or someone saying something trying to shame you. Then I absolutely think you should feel free to respond. Then they have made their intentions clear.
My UO: I think it's beyond ridiculous to want a $1000 diaper bag.
Yes, so much yes. It's going to get thrown everywhere, it's going to get food, milk/ formula, and everything else spilled on it/ in it. You are going to throw dirty clothes (from puking, spit up, and blow outs) in there. NOT worth buying a $$$$ bag for all that!
My UO: I think it's beyond ridiculous to want a $1000 diaper bag.
After three kids, my diaper bag is now an old grocery bag filled with diapers and whatever else I need while I'm out. 1000 dollars for a diaper bag is absurd.
My UO: I don't think pictures of screaming kids on Santa's lap are cute. If my kid wants to sit on Santa's lap, sure. If they don't, I'm not forcing them to do it while they scream bloody murder. (Ps. Mine like to look from afar, but haven't sat on his lap)
Also, this is totally ridiculous and hormonal maybe but I think this is fucked up. That poor dog just has to sit and watch that cat do whatever the hell it wants. I mean, I get not wanting your dog in certain areas of the home but the cat could just jump the gate instead of the pet owner providing the cat with it's own special door so as to say "Dog, you are less important than cat even though cats are known to piss on things and sleep on baby's heads.".
@yodiggity I want to know where they get a gate that wide! Do you know? Haha. We need one for our pup desperately that fits a very wide doorframe and I can't find one anywhere.
@yodiggity I want to know where they get a gate that wide! Do you know? Haha. We need one for our pup desperately that fits a very wide doorframe and I can't find one anywhere.
@yodiggity I want to know where they get a gate that wide! Do you know? Haha. We need one for our pup desperately that fits a very wide doorframe and I can't find one anywhere.
Could he be dissuaded by one of the DIY fabric ones? There are a bunch of examples if you search fabric baby gate on Pinterest/Google.
@yodiggity I want to know where they get a gate that wide! Do you know? Haha. We need one for our pup desperately that fits a very wide doorframe and I can't find one anywhere.
You're awesome! I now have a new gate heading my way! Haha. We've been struggling with not wanting to crate our guy all day in winter but he spends a lot of time outside and with our work schedules changing its been tough. He will be happy to have his whole room back.
Sooo I just went to the ladies room and looked down and was shocked to see my maternity Gap cords are labeled as "Sexy Boot" - whaaaaat... really? I'm about 575 degrees from feeling "Sexy Boot" about now...
UO: I think going to bathroom in front of your kids is weird, and I don't find it necessary for potty training. My son is seriously not going to get anything from seeing me sit on a toilet than he would from watching the cat use a litter box.
Sooo I just went to the ladies room and looked down and was shocked to see my maternity Gap cords are labeled as "Sexy Boot" - whaaaaat... really? I'm about 575 degrees from feeling "Sexy Boot" about now...
Sooo I just went to the ladies room and looked down and was shocked to see my maternity Gap cords are labeled as "Sexy Boot" - whaaaaat... really? I'm about 575 degrees from feeling "Sexy Boot" about now...
Sooo I just went to the ladies room and looked down and was shocked to see my maternity Gap cords are labeled as "Sexy Boot" - whaaaaat... really? I'm about 575 degrees from feeling "Sexy Boot" about now...
What are cords?
Corduroy pants.
Is this new slang terminology? I never heard them called that.
UO: I think going to bathroom in front of your kids is weird, and I don't find it necessary for potty training. My son is seriously not going to get anything from seeing me sit on a toilet than he would from watching the cat use a litter box.
Good luck avoiding LO coming into bathroom with you. My almost 5 yo is currently obsessed with bodily functions and any time I go into the bathroom and he sees me he runs to the door and yells ARE YOU PEEING OR POOPING MOM?! He also JUST realized that I sit to pee and he doesn't. There's no lock on my bathroom door, so I don't stand a chance.
Sooo I just went to the ladies room and looked down and was shocked to see my maternity Gap cords are labeled as "Sexy Boot" - whaaaaat... really? I'm about 575 degrees from feeling "Sexy Boot" about now...
What are cords?
Corduroy pants.
Is this new slang terminology? I never heard them called that.
I've heard them called cords my entire life so as far as I know, no. Unless it's regional?
@RoseShadow873 I didn't know that people still wore corduroy or that it was still sold in stores? I thought it phased out around the same time velour track suits did. Lol
Are they stretchy or what? They sound itchy to me @dayzchic9
Maybe it is regional, although I don't think I remember corduroy ever being popular so I don't hear about them that much. I never wore any before because they look weird. I pretty much only wear jeans for pants.
UO: I think going to bathroom in front of your kids is weird, and I don't find it necessary for potty training. My son is seriously not going to get anything from seeing me sit on a toilet than he would from watching the cat use a litter box.
Haha. Do you have any kids now? If so, I'm amazed you are able to make this rule. Teach me your ways. My DD hunts me down when I am in the bathroom. To sit and read books or just stare at me.
My UO: I think it's beyond ridiculous to want a $1000 diaper bag.
LOL, totally agree with you in principle. But I'm one of those people. Guilty as charged. I gave it to myself as a bday present, hope that helps absolve me of my crime.
LOL - i've always called them Cords... um love them - I'm a teacher so I don't have to be super fancy dressed but jeans are typically only on Fridays, so corduroy (lol annnnd had to spell check that) pants are a pretty good compromise. it's prob a regional thing as these are strictly a winter thing here in New England.
My UO, especially in light of tonight/tomorrow's Giant Cultural Event (i.e. the release of the new Star Wars movie): I think everybody who's already whining about the possibility of having anything in the movie spoiled for them needs to take a giant chill pill. I read some comments on a review the other day where someone actually griped about the reviewer's description of a shot from the movie, which somehow is a spoiler? Not a scene, not a plot point, a shot (something along the lines of "The movie opens with a view of [a desert or a planet or a spaceship or something... I don't actually remember]."
This is basically one of the largest theatrical Events-with-a-capital-E to happen in 30 years. You can't expect people to wait to talk about it or react to it or post about it until you've seen it. If it is THAT important to you to know absolutely nothing about the movie before you see it, then you need to either see it as quickly as is humanly possible, or avoid the internet and other forms of news media yourself. I mean, people probably shouldn't go intentionally and maliciously revealing plot twists, but crying because someone who saw it said "Wow, I liked the movie a lot, especially that big fight between Bobby Badguy and Peter Protagonist!" or "Wow, that scene where they were on a spaceship was the worst!" is dumb.
Look guys: This movie will have spaceships and robots. This movie will have original cast members from the previous films. Probably at some point the good guys and the bad guys will fight, just like they do in every other movie ever created. A one-sentence description of the basic premise of the film that you'll find out in the first fifteen minutes of the film ("Susie tries to find her lost robot" or "Peter wants to stop the rise of Intergalactic Donald Trump") is NOT a spoiler. To put it in terms from 15 years ago: you can be mad that somebody told you in advance that he's been dead all along, but getting upset that someone tells you that the kid sees dead people and the movie features some people who are not alive makes you a crybaby.
Then again, I already looked up the plot on the Interwebz so that I could go in fully prepared for whatever heartbreak or happiness I'm likely to encounter. Of course the powers that be would wait until I'm pregnant to release a sequel to one of my all-time favorites. I am way too emotionally fragile to handle uncertainty right now.
We will not be teaching any form of religion in our household. If the kids want to know about a specific religion, we'll talk to them about it, but we will not be going to church or things like that.
DH is a non-affiliated Christian, I'm an athiest. My dad's side of the family is Jewish. My mom's side of the family is a mix of Southern Baptist and non-affiliated Christians. If my kids decide to affiliate themselves with a faith group, that's completely up to them when they get old enough to understand what faith really is. Both of my parents and DH grew up with some form of religion in their household, but I didn't, and each of my siblings and I have very different ideas about higher powers and what happens after death.
We will not be teaching any form of religion in our household. If the kids want to know about a specific religion, we'll talk to them about it, but we will not be going to church or things like that.
DH is a non-affiliated Christian, I'm an athiest. My dad's side of the family is Jewish. My mom's side of the family is a mix of Southern Baptist and non-affiliated Christians. If my kids decide to affiliate themselves with a faith group, that's completely up to them when they get old enough to understand what faith really is. Both of my parents and DH grew up with some form of religion in their household, but I didn't, and each of my siblings and I have very different ideas about higher powers and what happens after death.
Atheist high five! We'll talk to our girls about whatever religion if they come to us with questions, but I definitely won't force the issue. Being that we live in the south it's pretty inevitable they will though.
My UO kind of goes with this. I think if you're religious and find out someone you know isn't, asking that person to just "try" coming to church is incredibly offensive especially when combined with "don't you want your child to be a good person?". I'm an adult. If I wanted to go to church (or temple or mosque or whatever) I would. Not going doesn't mean my children will automatically be murderous lunatics. I don't shove my lack of beliefs down people's throats and would love being shown the same courtesy.
I have actually seen articles saying that non-religious kids are kinder than religious ones. I would post a link but I can never figure out how to post them on this site.
I really despise when women who have gone through pregnancy make condescending remarks to a FTM.
Ie: a woman asked me last night how far along I was, to which I responded around 5 months. She asked how I was feeling and I told her that I was actually really uncomfortable. (My night nausea really kicked in last night, coupled with the worse sciatica I've ever felt)
She then responds with "pshh oh honey you still have 4 more months to go" while simultaneously rolling her eyes. Luckily we were in an elevator and she got off right when she made that remark otherwise I would've told her off.
Yes I know I have 4 more months to go, I know the basics of pregnancy. I know I'm going to become more uncomfortable the further along I am. That doesn't minimize the fact that I was in pain last night!
This may be an overreaction to her remark, BUT it really did irritate me. Like no shit lady, I'm not an idiot.
We will not be teaching any form of religion in our household. If the kids want to know about a specific religion, we'll talk to them about it, but we will not be going to church or things like that.
DH is a non-affiliated Christian, I'm an athiest. My dad's side of the family is Jewish. My mom's side of the family is a mix of Southern Baptist and non-affiliated Christians. If my kids decide to affiliate themselves with a faith group, that's completely up to them when they get old enough to understand what faith really is. Both of my parents and DH grew up with some form of religion in their household, but I didn't, and each of my siblings and I have very different ideas about higher powers and what happens after death.
This is how I was raised (I'm baptized in the Catholic Church though). My parents did not want to impose a religion on me so I could grow up to practice/ believe whatever I wanted. I'm not saying that is right or wrong, but it is likely how we will raise our LO as well.
@kalanieileen no but really, even as a STM, I don't give unsolicited advice or anecdotes unless they are asked of me. It's rude. This pregnancy is completely different than my first one anyway.
Besides, non-parents/non-pregnant people giving me unsolicited advice really pisses me off.
My UO: I think it's beyond ridiculous to want a $1000 diaper bag.
LOL, totally agree with you in principle. But I'm one of those people. Guilty as charged. I gave it to myself as a bday present, hope that helps absolve me of my crime.
I was a handbag lover long before this pregnancy. (It may not make sense to some, but handbag obsessions are real!) I see all my bags as investments. I know I will probably end up using a bag that I already own as LO's diaper bag, but I would love to purchase something new to represent my LO and this new chapter in my life. If it happens to be $1000.....Mama will still find a way to get it!
My UO: I think it's beyond ridiculous to want a $1000 diaper bag.
LOL, totally agree with you in principle. But I'm one of those people. Guilty as charged. I gave it to myself as a bday present, hope that helps absolve me of my crime.
I was a handbag lover long before this pregnancy. (It may not make sense to some, but handbag obsessions are real!) I see all my bags as investments. I know I will probably end up using a bag that I already own as LO's diaper bag, but I would love to purchase something new to represent my LO and this new chapter in my life. If it happens to be $1000.....Mama will still find a way to get it!
----QBF----
Noooooooope. A *car* or a *house* is an investment. A bag is.. a bag. They slap a little label on it and mark the price up 1000%. It has no real value. (Still fun to have though and if that's how people want to spend their play money - by all means, more power to ya!) Unless it's something really classic like a Berkin or a staple from a label, it'll rotate out of style anyway. Every once in awhile I ogle a Kate Spade or Michael Kors bag from afar but I could never justify spending that much on anything that is non-essential. I live in a very blue collar/middle class area of the country though so some of this may just be cultural.
Right now I'm slowly chipping away to get a new mattress and it's not even $1000, but that is such a huge expenditure for us that it's a big deal. Student loans are the pits! Ask me again in 10 years my thoughts on this. Haha
@kalanieileen no but really, even as a STM, I don't give unsolicited advice or anecdotes unless they are asked of me. It's rude. This pregnancy is completely different than my first one anyway.
Besides, non-parents/non-pregnant people giving me unsolicited advice really pisses me off.
Another UO turned BF, but since y'all already started it......
I was standing on the bus this morning and this woman was talking (loudly) to the woman in the seat next to her about how pregnant I am and how I need to step aside so they can get off. Before the bus even reached the stop! I said- "look, I will move when it is time, but I can't do anything right now". She must have said 5 times that I was pregnant and to watch out for me. I'm pregnant, not fragile. Also, maybe offer me your seat instead?
Then, I have a male co-worker (we are actually friends) who called me over to his desk while I was at the water fountain. Just to point out that "I am already walking funny" (said with a snicker). Um, my pregnancy is NOT an open invitation to comment on my appearance. So shut your face.
We will not be teaching any form of religion in our household. If the kids want to know about a specific religion, we'll talk to them about it, but we will not be going to church or things like that.
DH is a non-affiliated Christian, I'm an athiest. My dad's side of the family is Jewish. My mom's side of the family is a mix of Southern Baptist and non-affiliated Christians. If my kids decide to affiliate themselves with a faith group, that's completely up to them when they get old enough to understand what faith really is. Both of my parents and DH grew up with some form of religion in their household, but I didn't, and each of my siblings and I have very different ideas about higher powers and what happens after death.
This is how I was raised (I'm baptized in the Catholic Church though). My parents did not want to impose a religion on me so I could grow up to practice/ believe whatever I wanted. I'm not saying that is right or wrong, but it is likely how we will raise our LO as well.
DH is the black sheep in his family because of this decision. His grandfather is a pastor, so most of his family either don't know that I'm an athiest or have talked about converting me to Christianity. His step-grandmother actually made me cry (after she had left) because she kept pressuring me to have a religious wedding ceremony "for my DH's sake." My grandmother (who is Jewish) got divorced and married my Catholic step-grandfather. Both agreed on a secular ceremony, since they weren't going to force one person to deny their faith for the other person. Instead of a secular ceremony, they sent out a Catholic priest, who gave them a Catholic ceremony. My grandmother was furious and embarrassed, but went through with it. That fiasco made her feel like she was actually not married to my step
We will not be teaching any form of religion in our household. If the kids want to know about a specific religion, we'll talk to them about it, but we will not be going to church or things like that.
DH is a non-affiliated Christian, I'm an athiest. My dad's side of the family is Jewish. My mom's side of the family is a mix of Southern Baptist and non-affiliated Christians. If my kids decide to affiliate themselves with a faith group, that's completely up to them when they get old enough to understand what faith really is. Both of my parents and DH grew up with some form of religion in their household, but I didn't, and each of my siblings and I have very different ideas about higher powers and what happens after death.
Atheist high five! We'll talk to our girls about whatever religion if they come to us with questions, but I definitely won't force the issue. Being that we live in the south it's pretty inevitable they will though.
My UO kind of goes with this. I think if you're religious and find out someone you know isn't, asking that person to just "try" coming to church is incredibly offensive especially when combined with "don't you want your child to be a good person?". I'm an adult. If I wanted to go to church (or temple or mosque or whatever) I would. Not going doesn't mean my children will automatically be murderous lunatics. I don't shove my lack of beliefs down people's throats and would love being shown the same courtesy.
I have this problem all of the time! As a kid, going to youth group was "the thing," and if you didn't go, something must be wrong with you. I ended up being forced to go by a friend because I needed to "try out being a Christian" since I wasn't being taught at home. I've even had "interventions" because family members were concerned that I did not believe in some kind of higher power.
I also have religious friends who are 100% behind me and don't try and push anything on me. They don't even tell me that they're praying for me if I have issues, but say that I'm in their thoughts.
I hate maternity pants. I find them really uncomfortable
Uncomfortable and not at all flattering! None of the ones I have tried on fit right. I tried on a pair of skinny maternity jeans, and the thighs/butt were way too loose! I'm still in my regular jeans, which thankfully still fit.
UO: I think going to bathroom in front of your kids is weird, and I don't find it necessary for potty training. My son is seriously not going to get anything from seeing me sit on a toilet than he would from watching the cat use a litter box.
I'm with you on this. I don't think it's weird if someone else wants to let their kids in, but it's just not for me. And it's totally not necessary for potty training. I've got 4 kids (9, 7, 3, and 2), and I lock them outside the bathroom, I don't care if they are standing there screaming. They will not die during the 3 minutes it takes me to do my business. (The exception, of course, is when one of the littles is with me or in a stroller and has to come with me in the public bathroom. But I've trained my 3 year old to turn around and face the wall. ;-)
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I don't understand the logic in assuming anyone looking at you is automatically judging you. I have been very lucky to be comfortable in my skin for awhile. I wear tutus in public randomly because I want to, no occasion. I also worked for a company that participated in The Black Tape Project (you can google it, you won't see our pictures but you can have an idea of what it is). I am fully comfortable with both of these things.
However, people look. People are curious, especially if it's something they are not used to seeing. If you are doing nothing wrong, then continue what you are doing. Nobody feeding their baby is doing ANYTHING wrong. So continue on girl. People are not all judging. Some may, but others are curious. Also there are people who are not comfortable being that open and may just be in awe that you are able to.
I understand the normalize public breastfeeding movement. However, I think the best way to normalize it is for it to happen more often. Not to jump down anyone's throat who happens to look at you while you are doing it. I definitely plan on feeding in public if my LO cooperates, and I am prepared to be looked at. It won't stop me, but that's because my focus will be on feeding my baby, not seeing who is looking at me.
Now, let me clarify. Getting looked at is not the same as someone being a creeper and trying to see your boob or someone saying something trying to shame you. Then I absolutely think you should feel free to respond. Then they have made their intentions clear.
Yes, so much yes. It's going to get thrown everywhere, it's going to get food, milk/ formula, and everything else spilled on it/ in it. You are going to throw dirty clothes (from puking, spit up, and blow outs) in there. NOT worth buying a $$$$ bag for all that!
My UO: I don't think pictures of screaming kids on Santa's lap are cute. If my kid wants to sit on Santa's lap, sure. If they don't, I'm not forcing them to do it while they scream bloody murder. (Ps. Mine like to look from afar, but haven't sat on his lap)
You're awesome! I now have a new gate heading my way! Haha. We've been struggling with not wanting to crate our guy all day in winter but he spends a lot of time outside and with our work schedules changing its been tough. He will be happy to have his whole room back.
Corduroy pants.
I've heard them called cords my entire life so as far as I know, no. Unless it's regional?
Are they stretchy or what? They sound itchy to me @dayzchic9
When I wear them, I always think of this commerical...
ETA the link... fail.
@RoseShadow873 - not itchy and yes a bit stretchy!
allaire314 - that's hilarious
Here's a link for those new to the world of cords... https://www.gap.com/products/cords-pants-gapmaternity-C1035551.jsp
This is basically one of the largest theatrical Events-with-a-capital-E to happen in 30 years. You can't expect people to wait to talk about it or react to it or post about it until you've seen it. If it is THAT important to you to know absolutely nothing about the movie before you see it, then you need to either see it as quickly as is humanly possible, or avoid the internet and other forms of news media yourself. I mean, people probably shouldn't go intentionally and maliciously revealing plot twists, but crying because someone who saw it said "Wow, I liked the movie a lot, especially that big fight between Bobby Badguy and Peter Protagonist!" or "Wow, that scene where they were on a spaceship was the worst!" is dumb.
Look guys: This movie will have spaceships and robots. This movie will have original cast members from the previous films. Probably at some point the good guys and the bad guys will fight, just like they do in every other movie ever created. A one-sentence description of the basic premise of the film that you'll find out in the first fifteen minutes of the film ("Susie tries to find her lost robot" or "Peter wants to stop the rise of Intergalactic Donald Trump") is NOT a spoiler. To put it in terms from 15 years ago: you can be mad that somebody told you in advance that he's been dead all along, but getting upset that someone tells you that the kid sees dead people and the movie features some people who are not alive makes you a crybaby.
Then again, I already looked up the plot on the Interwebz so that I could go in fully prepared for whatever heartbreak or happiness I'm likely to encounter. Of course the powers that be would wait until I'm pregnant to release a sequel to one of my all-time favorites. I am way too emotionally fragile to handle uncertainty right now.
DH is a non-affiliated Christian, I'm an athiest. My dad's side of the family is Jewish. My mom's side of the family is a mix of Southern Baptist and non-affiliated Christians. If my kids decide to affiliate themselves with a faith group, that's completely up to them when they get old enough to understand what faith really is. Both of my parents and DH grew up with some form of religion in their household, but I didn't, and each of my siblings and I have very different ideas about higher powers and what happens after death.
@cmjenkies I've always called them cords too!
UO: I was tempted to buy a set because they just look SO soft and comfy...but I resisted, knowing they'd be in tatters after three washes.
My UO kind of goes with this. I think if you're religious and find out someone you know isn't, asking that person to just "try" coming to church is incredibly offensive especially when combined with "don't you want your child to be a good person?". I'm an adult. If I wanted to go to church (or temple or mosque or whatever) I would. Not going doesn't mean my children will automatically be murderous lunatics. I don't shove my lack of beliefs down people's throats and would love being shown the same courtesy.
Ie: a woman asked me last night how far along I was, to which I responded around 5 months. She asked how I was feeling and I told her that I was actually really uncomfortable. (My night nausea really kicked in last night, coupled with the worse sciatica I've ever felt)
She then responds with "pshh oh honey you still have 4 more months to go" while simultaneously rolling her eyes. Luckily we were in an elevator and she got off right when she made that remark otherwise I would've told her off.
Yes I know I have 4 more months to go, I know the basics of pregnancy. I know I'm going to become more uncomfortable the further along I am. That doesn't minimize the fact that I was in pain last night!
This may be an overreaction to her remark, BUT it really did irritate me. Like no shit lady, I'm not an idiot.
This post turned into a BFThursday, sorry
Besides, non-parents/non-pregnant people giving me unsolicited advice really pisses me off.
I was a handbag lover long before this pregnancy. (It may not make sense to some, but handbag obsessions are real!) I see all my bags as investments. I know I will probably end up using a bag that I already own as LO's diaper bag, but I would love to purchase something new to represent my LO and this new chapter in my life. If it happens to be $1000.....Mama will still find a way to get it!
----QBF----I was a handbag lover long before this pregnancy. (It may not make sense to some, but handbag obsessions are real!) I see all my bags as investments. I know I will probably end up using a bag that I already own as LO's diaper bag, but I would love to purchase something new to represent my LO and this new chapter in my life. If it happens to be $1000.....Mama will still find a way to get it!
Noooooooope. A *car* or a *house* is an investment. A bag is.. a bag. They slap a little label on it and mark the price up 1000%. It has no real value. (Still fun to have though and if that's how people want to spend their play money - by all means, more power to ya!) Unless it's something really classic like a Berkin or a staple from a label, it'll rotate out of style anyway. Every once in awhile I ogle a Kate Spade or Michael Kors bag from afar but I could never justify spending that much on anything that is non-essential. I live in a very blue collar/middle class area of the country though so some of this may just be cultural.
Right now I'm slowly chipping away to get a new mattress and it's not even $1000, but that is such a huge expenditure for us that it's a big deal. Student loans are the pits! Ask me again in 10 years my thoughts on this. Haha
I was standing on the bus this morning and this woman was talking (loudly) to the woman in the seat next to her about how pregnant I am and how I need to step aside so they can get off. Before the bus even reached the stop! I said- "look, I will move when it is time, but I can't do anything right now". She must have said 5 times that I was pregnant and to watch out for me. I'm pregnant, not fragile. Also, maybe offer me your seat instead?
Then, I have a male co-worker (we are actually friends) who called me over to his desk while I was at the water fountain. Just to point out that "I am already walking funny" (said with a snicker). Um, my pregnancy is NOT an open invitation to comment on my appearance. So shut your face.
DH is the black sheep in his family because of this decision. His grandfather is a pastor, so most of his family either don't know that I'm an athiest or have talked about converting me to Christianity. His step-grandmother actually made me cry (after she had left) because she kept pressuring me to have a religious wedding ceremony "for my DH's sake." My grandmother (who is Jewish) got divorced and married my Catholic step-grandfather. Both agreed on a secular ceremony, since they weren't going to force one person to deny their faith for the other person. Instead of a secular ceremony, they sent out a Catholic priest, who gave them a Catholic ceremony. My grandmother was furious and embarrassed, but went through with it. That fiasco made her feel like she was actually not married to my step I have this problem all of the time! As a kid, going to youth group was "the thing," and if you didn't go, something must be wrong with you. I ended up being forced to go by a friend because I needed to "try out being a Christian" since I wasn't being taught at home. I've even had "interventions" because family members were concerned that I did not believe in some kind of higher power.
I also have religious friends who are 100% behind me and don't try and push anything on me. They don't even tell me that they're praying for me if I have issues, but say that I'm in their thoughts.