I am still on a board from my first baby and fb was so much easier to chat on than here... I'm open to making one of enough people are interested and someone would like to co-admin.
I agree, so much easier! I am in one for my J13 baby and my N14 baby! We definitly didn't wait until after our babes were born to create the group. I think it was sometime during 2nd trimester.
I was on a BMB for my first daughter, and they started a Facebook page really early. Some people were eager to jump over to Facebook and others didn't feel comfortable sharing their real names yet. It was a mess! The people that jumped to Facebook early didn't participate on the Bump anymore, so the people that wanted more time to get to know everyone never got the chance.
Hmmm. I loved when my last group went to fb. But it was about midway through the pregnancy and you could tell the active members from the trouble making jerks by then. And it was babyzone so MUCH smaller than the bump. It doesn't exist anymore though. I would be ok with a fb group now or waiting awhile.
I'd also like to wait a bit and get to know people/weed out any crazies. I'm literally the only person in the world with my first and last name combo so that could be potentially dangerous.
I would LOVE to see a Facebook group. I am always on Facebook so I would absolutely love to see a group eventually! I am still in the FB group from when I had my son in late 2012! I tend to be on there more often but I will definitely be on the boards here for a bit.
I finally figured out the ticker thing! (I was so excited I thought I'd tell you all) LOL
I think Facebook would be fun but way in the future. I won't even be announcing my pregnancy on Facebook until it's born. Maybe third trimester if I think everything will go all right. I'm not comfortable with any Facebook people finding out I'm pregnant due to possible miscarriage or my work finding out too soon.
I started a fb group from the bump with my 14 baby, right away. I will NOT be a part of that this time as it made me enemy number one in my bump board. LOL. BUT, I would join(assuming it was secret- I am not announced publicly yet) and would love to know when it exists. I believe in internet safety but everyone feels comfortable with different levels of safety
I would join as long as it is secrect group. I agree that we should wait at least a few more weeks for the women still finding out they are due in the end of August. I was in a group but it ended because a lot of the women were saying hurtful things. Let's wait until we know each other a little better on here.
I realize people have different comfort levels with their privacy, but I guess I'd just like to encourage everyone to be cautious.
This is a public internet forum. Anyone can join it. I would like to believe that all of you are exactly who you say you are, but maybe not. There could be a pedophile that's here posing as a pregnant woman.
Facebook identifies people using their real names. Our tickers list the children in our homes. We have a GTKY thread where people have listed basic information about where they live. Once you have a name and location, it's not too tough to use whitepages.com or a county assessor's database to get an address.
Think about whether you really feel comfortable giving a large group of strangers access to that information after you've been posting online with them for just a few weeks.
Agree with Others! Fb group would be awesome! I didn't join with my N14 baby, any now wish I would have because it would be nice to have other moms to check in with!
Agreed! It is a bit early to join now (although I wouldn't necessarily be opposed...). But maybe once we get to know each other better and can filter out the trouble makers?
I vote for waiting a while for all the trouble makers and crazies to be weeded out.
Definitely had some on my last BMB. The admin of the Fb group that was started just before babies were born denied ppl from joining the Fb group. And then made a secret group with a select few to talk about members in the group. I wasn't apart of that Fb group, just what I was told. Fx that there is nobody like that here.
But I do want to join one when the time is right.
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Totally agree with you @telicious2. On my other BMB, there were so many nasty moms on there. It seemed like if you weren't part of the "clique" you couldn't even post a discussion, much less get on their FB group. I think it's best to wait awhile. Maybe the end of the 2nd tri?
I think waiting till 3rd tri before a group is made, sorry the internet is a scary place and I was on a board on the bump when a catfish was discovered so I am always Leary of sharing personal photos especially of my DD. I deleted my entire account last time because of the catfish and had all my content deleted.
It's just a lot harder to gtk people in this forum from Mobile device when I do have free time. The really awesome thing about Facebook is that you can set your privacy settings so people can only see the name you put and your profile pic unless you are their friends.
I agree it would be fun and easier some days, but also doesn't matter to me when it's started. Keeping it private would be ideal. Either way when it's started I'm sure I'll join. My regular FB is so locked down and private due to a psychotic ex that stalked me via internet so groups don't really scare me too easily as long as they remain private.
Allie
Married Since - 11.19.2012 Daughter Born - 10.16.2013 Angel Twin Boys - 07.03.2014 Baby #2 Due - 08.21.2016
It would of course be a secret group! I think most do it that way
The problem with this is that the admin has to friend every single person who wants to become a member in order to add them. Yes, they can defriend immediately, but there are still risks involved. There have been many catfish stories here on TB alone. There was a major event a couple years ago where one of the most active, well-liked members turned out to be a catfish. She had used u/s photos and baby pics of her facebook friends' kids to pass off as her own. She was a regular, active poster for over a year!
When we say there are privacy risks, we aren't concerned about our family and friends seeing we are in the group (yes, this is an actual concern of us all I'm sure, but the fix is easy by making it private).... the true privacy concern lies with real/legal names, location, occupation, children's names, etc. Based on the info readily available on facebook and here in post histories, one can easily get my real address, place of employment, names of coworkers, phone numbers, etc. I know a girl on TB a few months ago who was stalked by someone random on the TTGP board. This person emailed her husband at work, called her own place of employment, called her personal cell phone, and more. It's scary what kind of people are out there.
Additionally, you can friend me on facebook, add me to the group, and enjoy my posts for the next six months. I'll look like a real normal person.... what happens when it turns out I'm a crazy catfish who made a fake facebook account and used photos of my friends or that were found on Google. You have no way of knowing who is lying or who is a normal, trustworthy person. Trust me when I say WAIT. There is no need to jump ship and head to facebook right now.
It would of course be a secret group! I think most do it that way
The problem with this is that the admin has to friend every single person who wants to become a member in order to add them. Yes, they can defriend immediately, but there are still risks involved. There have been many catfish stories here on TB alone. There was a major event a couple years ago where one of the most active, well-liked members turned out to be a catfish. She had used u/s photos and baby pics of her facebook friends' kids to pass off as her own. She was a regular, active poster for over a year!
When we say there are privacy risks, we aren't concerned about our family and friends seeing we are in the group (yes, this is an actual concern of us all I'm sure, but the fix is easy by making it private).... the true privacy concern lies with real/legal names, location, occupation, children's names, etc. Based on the info readily available on facebook and here in post histories, one can easily get my real address, place of employment, names of coworkers, phone numbers, etc. I know a girl on TB a few months ago who was stalked by someone random on the TTGP board. This person emailed her husband at work, called her own place of employment, called her personal cell phone, and more. It's scary what kind of people are out there.
Additionally, you can friend me on facebook, add me to the group, and enjoy my posts for the next six months. I'll look like a real normal person.... what happens when it turns out I'm a crazy catfish who made a fake facebook account and used photos of my friends or that were found on Google. You have no way of knowing who is lying or who is a normal, trustworthy person. Trust me when I say WAIT. There is no need to jump ship and head to facebook right now.
This is exactly the catfish event I remember and why I am very hesitant of a facebook group so early. Some of my bestfriends are a group of ladies from TTGP from back in the day we are now facebook friends and it is great but it took time to know people on here before we took that plunge.
Im all for a FB group when we get around to it.. This formatting on TB is for the birds. But also I understand safety risks etc. Although I will say that a good catfish is a good catfish.. IDK that 6 months or 9 months or a year will change that. We started our Jan 13 group pretty early and people joined from maybe 3-4 months until basically birth.. We def. had our share of crazies, but they seem to sort of weed themselves out eventually by doing something out of the box. Then the group got so established by 1 year and there were sooooo many of us, that the group closed off and people who didnt join ended up making their own FB group post baby. I guess we just wait and see on consensus down the road. Im hoping we can get something going by 2nd trimester, this format just eats away at your time and trying to remember obscure sn's and siggys makes it hard to feel connected!
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Im all for a FB group when we get around to it.. This formatting on TB is for the birds. But also I understand safety risks etc. Although I will say that a good catfish is a good catfish.. IDK that 6 months or 9 months or a year will change that. We started our Jan 13 group pretty early and people joined from maybe 3-4 months until basically birth.. We def. had our share of crazies, but they seem to sort of weed themselves out eventually by doing something out of the box. Then the group got so established by 1 year and there were sooooo many of us, that the group closed off and people who didnt join ended up making their own FB group post baby. I guess we just wait and see on consensus down the road. Im hoping we can get something going by 2nd trimester, this format just eats away at your time and trying to remember obscure sn's and siggys makes it hard to feel connected!
Serious question: How is remembering a screen name and avatar on TB any different than a name and avatar on Facebook?
Because lots of people have a plain avatar, no signature, and the screen names are often a jumble of random numbers and letters. And any information shared ie where people live and what they do, is on lots of random threads so its hard to put a face/name to occupation, how many kids etc. For me anyways, maybe for some not so much. The formatting here just is long and difficult to wade through.
Married 5/2/09 To my best friend
Lillianna Faith Born 8/26/10- My big girl kindergartner!
Peach- MC 3/2012
Logan Christopher Born 2/3/13- My little fighter, cardiac defects, 2 cancer scares and more surgery, tests, MRIs, cat scans, xrays than most people would have to face their whole life.
This is normal dialogue for TB. Someone starts a FB group early, but most aren't comfortable yet. The real one with most of the regs will start later and that's the one you want to be in. If I still had a Facebook I would wait.
Because lots of people have a plain avatar, no signature, and the screen names are often a jumble of random numbers and letters. And any information shared ie where people live and what they do, is on lots of random threads so its hard to put a face/name to occupation, how many kids etc. For me anyways, maybe for some not so much. The formatting here just is long and difficult to wade through.
Because lots of people have a plain avatar, no signature, and the screen names are often a jumble of random numbers and letters. And any information shared ie where people live and what they do, is on lots of random threads so its hard to put a face/name to occupation, how many kids etc. For me anyways, maybe for some not so much. The formatting here just is long and difficult to wade through.
I totally agree!!
Then it seems like a better solution is to encourage everyone to update their avatar and screen name to something more memorable (as opposed to Knottie123456 and the standard rotating pic)
I'm an information security officer for a government agency and have worked in the information security (cyber security) and privacy field for nearly a decade. I can tell you, if someone wants your private information bad enough, it's not too terribly difficult to get. Even on these "anonymized" forums. You just need to use common sense, be vigilant, educate yourself about and use the privacy and security features of the applications/sites you are a member of.
If someone wants to create a FB group, I say great!! I'd love to join it. There are many security and privacy settings on FB that you can customize to control who sees what. For those who are not comfortable with it yet, they don't need to join. As another poster previously stated, if someone is gonna catfish, they're gonna catfish. We can't stop that from happening.
^This. We had this issue in one of my groups and someone was able to find out a husband's name and work place just from the minimal info on her bump profile. I also disagree with the later one being the "real" one and the one you want to be in, as I always joined the early ones and loved my mommy friends made there. I am fine with whatever. I prefer fb just because I already have the app, it is easy for me to navigate since I am on it anyways, etc etc. I am fine waiting, but I also would jump on a fb group train immediately.
I joined the fb group for my Nov 13 baby right around 5-6 weeks and our group has been an amazing resource as well as the reason I have so many new friendships. I'm completely down to join a fb as soon as it opens. I think it's much easier to manage than the bump boards.
I am late to this discussion, but I find it super creepy how many people on this board are already eager to have access to everyone's full names and family photos. It is likely that most of us will never meet in person, and, if meet-ups DO happen, then it will be much later on, when babies are born, and the core active members of the board are still around. Just because there is still a chance that catfish or creeps will still be lingering doesn't mean we should go ahead and make it easier for them.
I say we wait. I will not be joining any FB group for a long while.
i'd be happy to join a secret facebook group. i actually met my man via a facebook group for redditors, so i've really benefited from the personalization of a community. i have a hard time picturing anyone bored enough to stalk me- not super exciting to keep tabs on a girl who spends 90% of her time eating tacos and sleeping.
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Re: Is there a Facebook group yet?
Internet safety, people!
My July 13 bmb didn't move to fb till this year.
I'm with @Kristin712 Internet safety yo!
I've seen too much shit go down. Personal info being passed around and cat fishing. Not cool!
Baby O born 7/17/12
Baby3 due 8/4/16
This is a public internet forum. Anyone can join it. I would like to believe that all of you are exactly who you say you are, but maybe not. There could be a pedophile that's here posing as a pregnant woman.
Facebook identifies people using their real names. Our tickers list the children in our homes. We have a GTKY thread where people have listed basic information about where they live. Once you have a name and location, it's not too tough to use whitepages.com or a county assessor's database to get an address.
Think about whether you really feel comfortable giving a large group of strangers access to that information after you've been posting online with them for just a few weeks.
Definitely had some on my last BMB. The admin of the Fb group that was started just before babies were born denied ppl from joining the Fb group. And then made a secret group with a select few to talk about members in the group. I wasn't apart of that Fb group, just what I was told. Fx that there is nobody like that here.
But I do want to join one when the time is right.
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BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
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Mobile device when I do have free time. The really awesome thing about Facebook is that you can set your privacy settings so people can only see the name you put and your profile pic unless you are their friends.
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Daughter Born - 10.16.2013
Angel Twin Boys - 07.03.2014
Baby #2 Due - 08.21.2016
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Married 5/2/09 To my best friend
I'm an information security officer for a government agency and have worked in the information security (cyber security) and privacy field for nearly a decade. I can tell you, if someone wants your private information bad enough, it's not too terribly difficult to get. Even on these "anonymized" forums. You just need to use common sense, be vigilant, educate yourself about and use the privacy and security features of the applications/sites you are a member of.
If someone wants to create a FB group, I say great!! I'd love to join it. There are many security and privacy settings on FB that you can customize to control who sees what. For those who are not comfortable with it yet, they don't need to join. As another poster previously stated, if someone is gonna catfish, they're gonna catfish. We can't stop that from happening.
I'm all for a FB group!!
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Baby3 due 8/4/16
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
I say we wait. I will not be joining any FB group for a long while.
Stranger danger, stranger danger. Talk a little more about your cervices first.
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