No sex happening here. At first it was just because we had a first appointment that made me super nervous, but after the second appointment alleviated a lot of those fears, DH got sick with a cold. And then just when he started to feel better, I caught it, so the waiting continues. I miss sex.
I am nauseous quite a lot of hours a day but not during sex. Its nice. But blow jobs are not working anymore, I have the feeling of puking then haha. For me it's important to stay fysical with my boyfriend, it helps in keeping connected and I don't want him to only see me as 'mother to become', I still want to be seen as his girlfriend.
@BostonBaby1 Glad I could make you laugh! It was so crazy that I haven't been able to tell anyone but my husband! The other day he jokingly rubbed up against me and asked if he should get the mixer out!
ME: 28 DH: 27
Started Dating: 10/20/2006
Married: 10/20/2013
MMC @ 8w 12/15 MC @ 5w 03/16 ALEXANDER JAMES DUE JULY 15th!
The sex is great. But some of the stuff I normally like is a no-go. I have to enjoy it while I can. I don't get to have any for the last 6 months of pregnancy. Stupid cerclage....
My husband loves sex while I'm pregnant. I feel exhausted all the time but I try to throw him a bone as much as possible. Once we get started, sex is great....it's just hard to get motivated when all I want to do is sleep!
I FINALLY had some sex yesterday. My poor husband has been patiently waiting for me to not feel repulsed be the idea. It was good, but my vag was a bit sore and swollen after. No cramping or bleeding, so that is good! I am hoping I start feeling more up for sex as this pregnancy progresses.
I'm so tired and sick that it's been few and far between, but amazing. Last pregnancy I had bleeding at 11 weeks from a subchorionic hematoma and then was on pelvic rest until my anatomy scan, so hopefully that doesn't happen again because that was the stretch I felt my best!
We had sex like 2 times before the first appt and ultrasound bc I was paranoid. It wasn't that great because we are so paranoid.
Fast forward after seeing the heartbeat and everything was normal at the first appt we have been having at it! It's been really good and my drive has gone back up.
I control penetration and if it starts irritating me we switch positions or stop and finish in other ways. No bleeding, but I have had some slight cramping which is unpleasant at times.
Any STMs out there that had a good sex life during the second tri? I've heard its supposed to be pretty good... Extra blood flow and whatnot.
I never enjoyed sex more than in my second trimester of pregnancy... Whoop whoop
Me too. Finally I was getting to the big O at the same time or first instead of him waiting for me. I loved my pregnant bod once I was showing and think that was half of it and the other half was the increased sensitivity.
There hasn't been much sex in our house since I've been so nauseous and vomiting all the time. I miss it but i feel this bad,there's just no way. Have an appointment tomorrow. I'm hoping they'll give me something to help with the nausea.
Only had sex once since the BFP due to anxiety before the first u/s and feeling shitty most of the time afterward. But I'm really looking forward to this amazing 2nd trimester sex you all keep raving about!!!
I have to say sex after having DS (after I was approved for fun time) was better than ever before. Maybe it's just me, but apparently through the course of labor I learned to use some muscles down there I didn't know about before! Any other STM's (and beyond) have a similar experience?
So, I finally felt okay enough the other day to give it a shot. I thought that it might be painful since it had been a while but there were no issues. However, I could feel my uterus doing this weird ripple thing during the whole thing. My husband said he could feel ripples, too. With my last pregnancy, after orgasm, my uterus would contract and it would hurt like hell but this was not like that..I had not gotten there yet and it was just like ocean waves in there. Anyone else had that happen?
normal sex life over here, which is to say infrequent but good when it happens! LOL! I never experienced any cramping or anything with my first pregnancy or this one. I will say that I feel much sexier now that I have boobs again. DH is loving it.
What do you do when both you and DH want it, but you're just feeling...well, gross? Between the bloat and the gas, I'm feeling unsexy as hell, and that can be hard to get over to get in the mood.
No sex happening here. At first it was just because we had a first appointment that made me super nervous, but after the second appointment alleviated a lot of those fears, DH got sick with a cold. And then just when he started to feel better, I caught it, so the waiting continues. I miss sex.
Here either. It's started out cause I had cramping ND spotting so didn't want to risk it. Now because of cramping and extreme discharge I'm told no sex for couple weeks. I miss it so much too
Hubby and I had sex for the first time since finding out we were pregnant. It was really nice, actually. I was nervous/scared to bleed afterward but there was nothing. Now that I don't feel nauseous at night, hopefully we can do it more frequently. I haven't had any crazy sex dreams, but the few I had always got me in the mood when I woke up but by the time work was finished and we were both home I felt sick again. Fingers crossed that's over with!
Same here, I'm just too afraid of bleeding. I don't have many symptoms, which scares the crap outta me, so if I were to see any blood right now I'd probably freak. I told hubby he's more than welcome to "take care of business" while I'm at work.
Ugh. It sucks reading all this. I used to freaking love sex with my H. (Who doesnt?!?) Now I can't even get in the mood. I get all these great dreams and super excited and I wake up...and I cant. I suffer from severe PTSD and Anxiety around people and I can't take my meds because of my pregnancy &being high risk. I get all panicky when he kisses me or does anything else. It's like I stop breathing and freak out. I feel so bad. I cry because it's not like he'd ever do what was done to me but I still freak. I can't even go to Walmart for a shopping trip with out freaking out about too many people. I get to the checkout line and I'm so frazzled. People give me dirty looks if I'm short with my husband or grab the keys and run. It's just so scary. I even considered a food delivery service. I try to put out when I can but I feel SO bad. He is SO patient. I always cry over it and feel stupid. The other day everything was fine and we were play wrestling, it got a bit further and he had my wrists and I was freaking out so bad I kneed him in the gut unintentionally I cried so hard because I felt so bad. I just get. So. Scared.
Sex was great when we first found out that we were pregnant. But now it is so not enjoyable because some positions just do not feel the same and we were both thinking about the baby and what we are doing to it. lol. I know we are not doing anything to the baby but being FTP it's hard not to think about it.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
Any lube recommendations? I didn't really have this problem before BFP and now I'm as dry as the sahara. I have Pur and Jo already, but there are some ingredients that I'm not sure about.
Any lube recommendations? I didn't really have this problem before BFP and now I'm as dry as the sahara. I have Pur and Jo already, but there are some ingredients that I'm not sure about.
Any lube recommendations? I didn't really have this problem before BFP and now I'm as dry as the sahara. I have Pur and Jo already, but there are some ingredients that I'm not sure about.
Coconut oil. DH is allergic to parabens and so we can't use many lubes and he is super cautious with all products that go on his body and more so in that area. Coconut oil works great for us!
Any lube recommendations? I didn't really have this problem before BFP and now I'm as dry as the sahara. I have Pur and Jo already, but there are some ingredients that I'm not sure about.
KY has been shown to be safe and works great for us. Also a little more time in foreplay than usual for us has helped a lot too.
I'm finally into the I just want sex all the time ohase, unfortunately we just moved in with my FIL and our bed is in the living room while he finishes the bedroom so....yeah. Hubs was playing a video game last night while I was reading a book and my FIL told us he was going out for a little bit. I practically jumped my husband as soon as the door shut. He kept laughing at me during the act because I just kept saying oh my god I needed this so f***ing bad!!! But yeah. It was awesome. I love pregnant sex. Everything just feels so amazing
I am right there with you. I have a super high sex drive this pregnancy. But my husband is like whoa we need a break lol. I have all sorts of crazy dreams too.
I don't want it at all ever. My DH tries so hard too and I just constantly turn him down. He kind of gets it. The thought of sex makes me feel sick though lol
The sex has been on point it's the one thing I've found that helps when I'm feeling not so great maybe it's the adrenaline rush but man it's been good!
I have continuously wanted it since we found out. But the sickness has gotten in the way a few times. I'm on week 14 now and feeling better. I'm looking forward to 2nd tri bliss.
I've been having dreams since about 6 weeks.. OMG are they insane! and I'm not sure if I am waking up satisfied from the realness and lack of actual effort needed, or disappointed that it wasn't real.
As for the real thing, my desire is finally returning now that I'm officially in my 2nd tri!
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Married: 10/2008
DD: 4/2012
TTC #2: 12/2013
BFP: 12/6/2015
EDD: 8/17/2016
MC @ 5w 03/16
ALEXANDER JAMES DUE JULY 15th!
Fast forward after seeing the heartbeat and everything was normal at the first appt we have been having at it! It's been really good and my drive has gone back up.
I control penetration and if it starts irritating me we switch positions or stop and finish in other ways. No bleeding, but I have had some slight cramping which is unpleasant at times.
With my last pregnancy, after orgasm, my uterus would contract and it would hurt like hell but this was not like that..I had not gotten there yet and it was just like ocean waves in there. Anyone else had that happen?
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Edited: words + pregnancy brain = struggletown.
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 since September 2015
For others here was a good article I found.
https://www.ucsfhealth.org/education/sex_during_pregnancy/
I've been having dreams since about 6 weeks.. OMG are they insane! and I'm not sure if I am waking up satisfied from the realness and lack of actual effort needed, or disappointed that it wasn't real.
As for the real thing, my desire is finally returning now that I'm officially in my 2nd tri!