I'm probably not in the majority here but I have no desire whatsoever to have a baby shower, I was very uncomfortable being the center of attention at my bridal shower and have no desire to repeat the experience. My mom and I are very similar and she is totally on board with the no baby shower thing (she didn't allow anyone to throw one for her for similar reasons) but my MIL is upset that there will be no shower for her first grandbaby and keeps saying I'll regret it and asking how else am I going to get the stuff we need (uh, idk, we'll go buy it ourselves? Or is that not allowed? ). Any recommendations on how to politely tell her it isn't happening and head off her trying to throw one herself?