Monday B¥tch Fest 12/14

rmarie13 · December 2015

Because it's technically Monday where I live and I need to vent... ❄️❄️❄️❄️❄️

rmarie13 · December 2015

I'm so over people not understanding my inability to make set plans for the next few weeks. I'm due at the end of the week, which really doesn't mean anything. Even if I do give birth before the holidays I'll need time to heal. I don't care about parties and dinners and no I don't want to host one in my apartment! Just leave me alone!!!!!

mltarrio · December 2015

It's still Sunday where I am, but I really need to complain.

I fell down the stairs at 38 weeks. I spent 36 hours in the hospital, (which is reason enough to complain!), because they were worried something was wrong and I was having too many contractions. Luckily baby girl is just fine and I didn't go into labor, but I dislocated my fibula and now I am on crutches for the last two weeks of my pregnancy. I feel ridiculous and huge and awkward already, and now with the crutches it just feels like a bad joke.

I am sore all over from the fall, and my leg is killing me, and I think this is seriously going to get in the way of the birth that I wanted. It's going to be hard to manage different birthing positions on crutches, let alone get into the tub, and I am worried this will interfere with my desire to have a natural birth. Oh, and I still have 8 more days of work to somehow get through in this ridiculous condition. Oh, and I had to cancel my weekend of pregnant pampering and the special Christmas date night with my hubby that I have been looking forward to, (my mom got me a haircut, pedicure, and prenatal massage as a gift).

I know in the grand scheme of things that I was lucky. Baby girl is not hurt and no placental abruption, which is what really matters. And I could have broken bones, or torn something that required immediate surgical repair, so I know I am lucky. But man, does this SUCK!

Ok, now I am done with my "poor me" pity party. Happy Monday!

EEB88 · December 2015

mltarrio said:
It's still Sunday where I am, but I really need to complain.

I fell down the stairs at 38 weeks. I spent 36 hours in the hospital, (which is reason enough to complain!), because they were worried something was wrong and I was having too many contractions. Luckily baby girl is just fine and I didn't go into labor, but I dislocated my fibula and now I am on crutches for the last two weeks of my pregnancy. I feel ridiculous and huge and awkward already, and now with the crutches it just feels like a bad joke.

I am sore all over from the fall, and my leg is killing me, and I think this is seriously going to get in the way of the birth that I wanted. It's going to be hard to manage different birthing positions on crutches, let alone get into the tub, and I am worried this will interfere with my desire to have a natural birth. Oh, and I still have 8 more days of work to somehow get through in this ridiculous condition. Oh, and I had to cancel my weekend of pregnant pampering and the special Christmas date night with my hubby that I have been looking forward to, (my mom got me a haircut, pedicure, and prenatal massage as a gift).

I know in the grand scheme of things that I was lucky. Baby girl is not hurt and no placental abruption, which is what really matters. And I could have broken bones, or torn something that required immediate surgical repair, so I know I am lucky. But man, does this SUCK!

Ok, now I am done with my "poor me" pity party. Happy Monday!

That really sucks! I can barely walk up the stairs, I cannot imagine having to hobble around with crutches. Sorry mama!

kathleeeenrose · December 2015

mltarrio said:
It's still Sunday where I am, but I really need to complain.

I fell down the stairs at 38 weeks. I spent 36 hours in the hospital, (which is reason enough to complain!), because they were worried something was wrong and I was having too many contractions. Luckily baby girl is just fine and I didn't go into labor, but I dislocated my fibula and now I am on crutches for the last two weeks of my pregnancy. I feel ridiculous and huge and awkward already, and now with the crutches it just feels like a bad joke.

I am sore all over from the fall, and my leg is killing me, and I think this is seriously going to get in the way of the birth that I wanted. It's going to be hard to manage different birthing positions on crutches, let alone get into the tub, and I am worried this will interfere with my desire to have a natural birth. Oh, and I still have 8 more days of work to somehow get through in this ridiculous condition. Oh, and I had to cancel my weekend of pregnant pampering and the special Christmas date night with my hubby that I have been looking forward to, (my mom got me a haircut, pedicure, and prenatal massage as a gift).

I know in the grand scheme of things that I was lucky. Baby girl is not hurt and no placental abruption, which is what really matters. And I could have broken bones, or torn something that required immediate surgical repair, so I know I am lucky. But man, does this SUCK!

Ok, now I am done with my "poor me" pity party. Happy Monday!

Oh man! I feel for you!! When I was pregnant with my last I sprained my ankle at 37 weeks and was on crutches too

it really really sucked. You deserve your pity party! If you can reschedule that prenatal massage, get it in a couple weeks and it will feel extra amazing on all the extra soreness from moving around in those crutches. Also not sure what your projected healing is but I was able to have a walking boot by time of delivery and also got the natural birth I wanted. I wasn't even thinking of my ankle when the pain of contractions came, heh. Very best of luck to you though! Xoxo

groovylocks · December 2015

I'm tired of people thinking that because I am a new mom who is weepy over how amazing her newborn daughter is, I must have post partum depression. Dad gets to be weepy over how beautiful his newborn daughter is and nobody is worried about his mental health. And he DIDN'T just give birth, have major hormone changes, have anxiety over her health and well being, or get accused of being depressed.

I'm NOT depressed at all, fyi. I'm so grateful for this amazing thing that i IN NO WAY deserve (because not only do i have a baby daughter, I have a PERFECT, quiet, patient and agreeable baby daughter) and sometimes it's more than my heart can take and I overflow.

blended10 · December 2015

rmarie13 said:
I'm so over people not understanding my inability to make set plans for the next few weeks. I'm due at the end of the week, which really doesn't mean anything. Even if I do give birth before the holidays I'll need time to heal. I don't care about parties and dinners and no I don't want to host one in my apartment! Just leave me alone!!!!!

YES!!!
I was just saying this to dh. Of course I'd love to make plans but I really can't predict how I'm going to feel/how nursing is going/sleep etc etc etc. and these are other moms asking! Helloooooo??!?!

And @mltarrio that stinks. Plain & simple. You complain away!!

groovylocks · December 2015

mltarrio said:

It's still Sunday where I am, but I really need to complain. I fell down the stairs at 38 weeks. I spent 36 hours in the hospital, (which is reason enough to complain!), because they were worried something was wrong and I was having too many contractions. Luckily baby girl is just fine and I didn't go into labor, but I dislocated my fibula and now I am on crutches for the last two weeks of my pregnancy. I feel ridiculous and huge and awkward already, and now with the crutches it just feels like a bad joke. I am sore all over from the fall, and my leg is killing me, and I think this is seriously going to get in the way of the birth that I wanted. It's going to be hard to manage different birthing positions on crutches, let alone get into the tub, and I am worried this will interfere with my desire to have a natural birth. Oh, and I still have 8 more days of work to somehow get through in this ridiculous condition. Oh, and I had to cancel my weekend of pregnant pampering and the special Christmas date night with my hubby that I have been looking forward to, (my mom got me a haircut, pedicure, and prenatal massage as a gift). I know in the grand scheme of things that I was lucky. Baby girl is not hurt and no placental abruption, which is what really matters. And I could have broken bones, or torn something that required immediate surgical repair, so I know I am lucky. But man, does this SUCK! Ok, now I am done with my "poor me" pity party. Happy Monday!

It's not a pity party. What happened to you is a complete pain in the ass and dealing with a dislocation is very painful and uncomfortable even when you're NOT pregnant. I dislocated my thumb as a HIGH SCHOOL ATHLETE and it sucked complete balls and made life SO annoying and it was all i could think about trying to live life around it. So don't feel bad at all. Bitch away, momma!

celainev · December 2015

Ugh!!!! I am soooo sorry you've dislocated your fibula!!!

I can't imagine. I hope you can get into a boot soon and heal well, and still have a magical labour experience!

My bitching this week is about my DH's family. My DH thinks it's a good idea to have them sleep over here after visiting on Wednesday. They live a little less than an hour away and are coming over for supper. Why do they need to sleep over? I have no idea. I already have a super busy week planned and now I have to add getting two bedrooms ready. (Because they are bringing my SIL as well who lives at home.)

I already don't sleep at night and have been really suffering from an itchy rash covering my body, and now my DH thinks it's a good idea to have three guests with us.

I CANNOT tell them they can't come because we live on the same property as my parents and see them all the time, But we only see his family maybe once a week.

dec15mum · December 2015

rmarie13 said:
I'm so over people not understanding my inability to make set plans for the next few weeks. I'm due at the end of the week, which really doesn't mean anything. Even if I do give birth before the holidays I'll need time to heal. I don't care about parties and dinners and no I don't want to host one in my apartment! Just leave me alone!!!!!

Omg this!
According to SO's parents since I haven't made plans to visit them at Christmas and since they're not allowed at the hospital we're keeping the baby away from them.
Like no. I need time to bond and heal with my son.
And how can I be keeping a baby away from you when he's not even here yet?
They've been adding unnecessary stress about everything, and if I don't fold to their every desire they get so bitchy.

Also I wish people would stop messaging me asking if baby is here yet. Clearly not if I haven't messaged you saying so- bugger off

amye02 · December 2015

Also I wish people would stop messaging me asking if baby is here yet. Clearly not if I haven't messaged you saying so- bugger off

THIS! I woke up to 4 texts this morning. I updated my social media "No baby yet" and still got texts up until an hour ago.

Lucy1108 · December 2015

Instead of receiving my beautiful baby boy on my due date, Friday, I received my first ever yeast infection! & now I'm impatiently waiting for baby and so incredibly itchy.

stephaniechen82 · December 2015

After having had a house with sick DH and sick toddler off and on for a month, and they were finally better we have been keeping to ourselves and trying to stay healthy before the baby arrives. The family knows that if they feel ANY sickness they are to stay away. My FIL F's it all up and they invite us over for dinner knowing he is fully sick with a sinus infection. I was so pissed and wanted to leave right away but DH said not to worry. I should have listened to my gut. Cut to me waking up with a sinus infection this morning. The second I mentioned it to DH, he starts to feign sickness as well. Don't even try to steal my sickness-thunder dude! You are taking care of DS all day now while I rest because your father sucks and you didn't say anything to him about what he did. Now I'm hoping baby will stay put until I am all better. Due date...12/30.

ATolentino89 · December 2015

I need to bitch about disposable breast pass that gave me a rash on my boobs and made it feel like fire when my son would nurse. Of course I thought it was thrush and had the pediatrician look at his mouth for five minutes before she assured me it's not. Then I thought I broke my kid because he broke out in baby acne and a heat rash.

Oh, and my drunk step-dad who shoved his drunken dirty finger in my sons mouth and gave me stupid drunken advice about the child that I have had by my side for ten days.

caityleigh92 · December 2015

I'm sick and tired of girls trying to give me advice on pregnancy and parenting when my children are OLDER than hers. I'm not opposed, but it's sort of annoying. I literally now point out, "This is my 3rd pregnancy, and my two older kids are 6yrs and 4yrs, I got this, not my first rodeo"

NellieHarringtonCarter · December 2015

@caityleigh92 I had a small moment like that at the grocery store. A girl was all talking cute to her new baby, probably a month or two old, in the bread aisle, and when I walked by, she says to me "Looks like this is going to be you before too long! I recommend a good baby carrier." I tried to feign a smile, but all I could think was "Honey, I have a five year old at home, and if you think that the most important thing for you to have for a baby is a carrier, then you might have some rude awakenings coming down the line."

I'm of course going to bitch about this project that is due tomorrow because it's the one thing standing in the way of my complete relaxation and stress-free pre-baby time. Of course, as soon as I email it off to the client, I'll probably go into labor.

My mom is here, which is great, but sometimes she goes gung-ho on wanting to move around my house, and my DH gets really annoyed by it. For instance, she wanted to switch my daughter's room and the extra room for no good reason, and she wanted to completely move our couch to another part of the living room. When I said no, my 5yo said "You need to listen to your mom, because kids should ALWAYS do what their mom says." So I pulled out the "When I was little, Grandma told me that when I had my own house, I could do things the way I wanted, but as long as I lived with her, I had to do things the way she wanted. Well, whose house is this?"

merbear32 · December 2015

My DH is entitled to 8 PAID weeks of parental leave at his job but has opted to only take 5.5 weeks. He doesn't want to have to catch up on projects. He is taking an opportunity that most men would only wish for for granted. It also hurts my feelings a little that his job comes before our LO and me but I realize his job feeds us. I feel if he can choose to opt out I get to pout and complain!

Rratledge · December 2015

I can't sleep more than 2 hours at night before waking to go to the bathroom or turn over. About every other day I can't fall back asleep after waking. I want to sleep so badly that I've started dreaming that I've slept until 2 or 3am before waking only to be disappointed when I actually wake up at midnight.

mbecca11 · December 2015

I wanna bitch about how BAD my nipples hurt right now from starting breastfeeding as a FTM. DD is now 2 days old, and I know my nipples will adjust, but it just hurts sooooo bad. And I'm sure I'm going to start engorging in just a day or so, so I know that will make it worse. I know how important breastfeeding is for her and I both, but damn why does it have to hurt so bad?! Seriously. The pain makes bottle feeding look not so bad....

JenniferKate315 · December 2015

mbecca11 said:
I wanna bitch about how BAD my nipples hurt right now from starting breastfeeding as a FTM. DD is now 2 days old, and I know my nipples will adjust, but it just hurts sooooo bad. And I'm sure I'm going to start engorging in just a day or so, so I know that will make it worse. I know how important breastfeeding is for her and I both, but damn why does it have to hurt so bad?! Seriously. The pain makes bottle feeding look not so bad....

Not sure if you are using it already, but have you tried lanolin? With my first, his latch was bad and I was in pain for 5 weeks. Lanolin saved my life! I just put it on after every feeding.

AnnH74 · December 2015

JenniferKate315 said:

mbecca11 said:
I wanna bitch about how BAD my nipples hurt right now from starting breastfeeding as a FTM. DD is now 2 days old, and I know my nipples will adjust, but it just hurts sooooo bad. And I'm sure I'm going to start engorging in just a day or so, so I know that will make it worse. I know how important breastfeeding is for her and I both, but damn why does it have to hurt so bad?! Seriously. The pain makes bottle feeding look not so bad....
Not sure if you are using it already, but have you tried lanolin? With my first, his latch was bad and I was in pain for 5 weeks. Lanolin saved my life! I just put it on after every feeding.

I agree lonolin is your best friend!!

ssn109 · December 2015

First: I wish we had a second bedroom in the shoebox apartment. DH either snores or breathes loudly with congestion, which he can't get rid of since he still has a sinus infection. I wake up to pee, then can't fall back asleep because he's so loud. I tried sleeping on the couch but just can't get comfortable. So, while I'm 40+2 and can go into labor at any second, I can't sleep. And it doesn't occur to him to sleep on the couch to help me out. I'm about ready to tell him I want him to go home from the hospital and sleep at night so maybe I can get some in between nurse visits and feedings/changings.

Second, I had a friend call me out of the blue last night. We only talk or hang out a few times a year, but I guess she was procrastinating on her school work. She asks how I'm doing, if I'm ready for labor. Of course I'm ready, I'm overdue! She then proceeds to tell me that when I'm in labor, I'm going to wish I'm not and will prefer being pregnant over the pain of labor. Then goes on about how her friends with kids have all said how incredibly painful breastfeeding is. This girl has never had a baby. Yes, I may be a FTM but I'm not stupid. I know labor, delivery, and breastfeeding can be painful. But for crying out loud, shut the f*** up about it, you have no idea what you're talking about. I, on the other hand, have heard many stories about all of the above from the lovely ladies of TB and am fully aware of the fact that this isn't a pain free experience. But I wanted to have a baby, and will woman up and do what I have to no matter what.

And then she wraps up the call by talking about how she's excited to come visit us in the hospital so she can meet and cuddle my baby. Didn't recall inviting anyone to visit except for our families...

*autocorrect and to finish a thought

mbecca11 · December 2015

AnnH74 said:

JenniferKate315 said:

mbecca11 said:
I wanna bitch about how BAD my nipples hurt right now from starting breastfeeding as a FTM. DD is now 2 days old, and I know my nipples will adjust, but it just hurts sooooo bad. And I'm sure I'm going to start engorging in just a day or so, so I know that will make it worse. I know how important breastfeeding is for her and I both, but damn why does it have to hurt so bad?! Seriously. The pain makes bottle feeding look not so bad....
Not sure if you are using it already, but have you tried lanolin? With my first, his latch was bad and I was in pain for 5 weeks. Lanolin saved my life! I just put it on after every feeding.

I agree lonolin is your best friend!!

Yes! I've started putting it on after every feed and it seems to be helping a bit, thank God.

Bombmom3 · December 2015

DH and I managed to sneak out of the house for a few hours and leave the "big kids" with my mom yesterday (her last day here) while we took Little Man Christmas shopping with us. Apparently I had a *giant* sign over my head alerting shoppers that I was holding a new baby. This is kid number three and I have never been accosted the way I was yesterday. It was seriously so bad at one point that there was a small group of women gathered around us in a loose circle - I felt like I was a character in a zombie apocalypse movie being surrounded by the ravenous undead. Without even asking people were leaning in and trying to touch his face/hands/arms. WTF is wrong with people and why is it everyone thinks they get to touch a new baby?!? I'm not leaving the house again without my Moby wrap, a shotgun and a giant spray can of Lysol.

angbrienza · December 2015

mbecca11 said:
I wanna bitch about how BAD my nipples hurt right now from starting breastfeeding as a FTM. DD is now 2 days old, and I know my nipples will adjust, but it just hurts sooooo bad. And I'm sure I'm going to start engorging in just a day or so, so I know that will make it worse. I know how important breastfeeding is for her and I both, but damn why does it have to hurt so bad?! Seriously. The pain makes bottle feeding look not so bad....

Did you watch that video someone posted in the breastfeeding thread? This is my third baby and I am soooo glad I watched it before she comes as some of the tips mentioned I never really knew! I thought it was "supposed" to hurt at first...

Praying41 · December 2015

No, I don't know when this baby is coming and how the hell do you think I feel at 3 days overdue???? I've stopped reading texts because I hate everyone right now. Why can't people just leave me be and stop asking questions or giving me labor advice???

NellieHarringtonCarter · December 2015

This morning I geared up to sit down and get my own projects out the door, then take a well deserved day off tomorrow, (since I've been working over every day for the past week). Instead, I get copied on an email from my boss to a colleague of mine who has a pretty important deadline (that she hasn't been working as efficiently on, in my opinion), saying that he's out of the office today and that if she needs any help, to ask me or the project manager. Literally ten minutes after the email, she starts asking me for help on a project that I have literally no working knowledge of. I'm not talking about little questions or advice, but "Hey, how am I supposed to do this?" and "Why did so and so do/not do something?" and "I'm not sure how to do this incredibly simple task, can you help me?" Well, it's 940am, and I still haven't started on my own stuff.

No biggie, just could go into labor at any moment.

My mom laughed at me and said "If you go into labor, they are going to be like 'Ma'am, you are 10cm dilated, you are going to have to put that laptop down....."

NDPA · December 2015

40+2 and still no labour in sight yet, my house is already a mess again after mad cleaning all week. So. Done.

redfallon · December 2015

I had a cold around the last time it rained here a few weeks ago: congestion, head feeling bad, sore throat, coughing. I've been fine for about a week. It rained night before last and I have it back again. Not happy.

ACarter0914 · December 2015

I'm really annoyed with myself that I have absolutely zero signs of labor. Is this ever going to happen or is he going to stay in there forever? I've been walking everyday to at least get things moving and STILL nothing, absolutely nothing!

Side note: I'm also really tired of making sure my house is clean and everything's washed in case I go into labor eventually. I'm about to just say f** it but cleaning with a newborn sounds miserable.

stephaniearthurs · December 2015

ACarter0914 said:
I'm really annoyed with myself that I have absolutely zero signs of labor. Is this ever going to happen or is he going to stay in there forever? I've been walking everyday to at least get things moving and STILL nothing, absolutely nothing!

Side note: I'm also really tired of making sure my house is clean and everything's washed in case I go into labor eventually. I'm about to just say f** it but cleaning with a newborn sounds miserable.

I still have 2 weeks, but I'm feeling the same way. I look around and say, man I need to really clean this place but I've been so tired I can't bring myself to clean the way it needs to be. Thank goodness my hubby is done work after this week for Christmas holidays (2 weeks) and then paternity leave (4 weeks) so he will be able to help me!!

ammnam14 · December 2015

My husband is very adament about inducing labor. He is just googling his life away. Last night he had me eating salsa and chips while he gave me a pretty nice foot massage! I know these techniques won't work but he doesn't know that

bring on the food and massages DH!

Also I'm tired of calling any family member (just to talk because I'm bored) and them freaking out thinking it's time. No..I just want to talk dang it! Calm yourself!

I guess this is a Monday b**** about myself. Haha

ssn109 · December 2015

I'm also sick of trying to keep up with the cleaning and laundry "just in case." Sadly I didn't have time to clean this weekend so I really want to do it tonight fter work. But on Thursday I did my laundry so I would have clothes that fit when I got home from the hospital. Since it was my 40 week appointment I was really hoping I would get to have the baby over the weekend. Nope! Instead there was no progress from the week before. So I'm now back to wondering what to do about my laundry since I have to wear clothes to work...

Court11152325 · December 2015

Ouch! Cervical check today was really super duper uncomfortable and now I'm spotting. Thanks doc!

Court11152325 · December 2015

Just to add to my annoyance - I talked to my friend who is an L&D nurse and delivered with the same doctor I'm going to... she said it sounds like he tried to strip my membrane, particularly b/c the past two checks were not painful or uncomfortable and this one was very very uncomfortable (I'm not even dilated to a 1). Wouldn't a doctor need to ask for consent before doing that?

laurabwalker · December 2015

Uh yes a doctor would need consent to do that.

@Court11152325 I would hope that wasn't what the Dr was trying to do. Maybe just trying to see dilation and can be super painful when not ready and soft

Court11152325 · December 2015

This is my third check and the other 2 were nothing like this, so I'm really not sure @laurabwalker. The other 2 were nothing like this one. She said it could have also been that he was trying to put a finger in my not so dilated cervix. But if the bleeding doesn't stop I'm going to call and figure out what they did.

I was also pretty light headed afterwards.

powellgirl · December 2015

I'm 40 + 4 and for two weeks now my doctor has been saying that anytime i want to be induced I just have to call and she'll send me over to the hospital. Well today at my appointment I told her I'm ready to be induced and she said I'd have to wait until tomorrow morning at 5am! If i had known that I had to schedule it (when I asked her two weeks ago she said no) I would have scheduled for today. DH and I thought we'd be heading to hospital right after appointment. I totally thought last night was my last night "sleeping" as a pregnant woman!

ATolentino89 · December 2015

@Court11152325 sounds like what happened to me after my dr "roughed up" my cervix. She didn't do a membrane sweep but the did basically irritate my cervix trying to get it to dialate more. I was cramping and bleeding the rest of that day too and even had to stop while shopping with my husband because of contractions.

groovylocks · December 2015

Breast engorgement combined with a hatred for breastfeeding and my flat-ass nipples. The bonding is amazing but the mechanics suck.

steffnstuff · December 2015

So last week my kitchen faucet started leaking-water all over my counter and all under the sink in the cabinet. My neighbors tell me it's a manufacturer thing and since they know this, we have all been given a lifetime warranty on it as most of them have had the same problem. I call the company, no lifetime warranty and it's going to cost me. Not in the budget right now so we clean up the water and put a towel underneath to soak everything up and vow to use the sink as little as possible until we can get it fixed. Same day, the washing machine decides to stop working. We are a family of 5 already so I have a ton of laundry to do that now I can't. We are team green but not by choice so I now have a ton of boy and girl baby clothes that I've unpacked but can't wash. This is so frustrating! Of course this also means I can't really pack the hospital and diaper bag like I want because I need to freakin wash! On top of all this, I called my uncle who can fix anything to come fix the washer and faucet. He agreed to do so but has now rescheduled three times in the last week and is now scheduled to come on Wednesday. Um hello, I'm having a c-section on Friday! I don't have time to wait! !

Like PP said, my house already needs to be cleaned again after I busted my hump cleaning it last week.

I ordered a pillow from amazon for while I'm in the hospital. It was supposed to be here two weeks ago. Apparently UPS lost it. I called amazon and got a replacement order. The website says it still hasn't shipped but they expect it to arrive tomorrow. What? !

I feel horrible. Literally have a head sitting in my crotch. I'm in pain. Sex is the last thing on my mind but all DH can think about is "getting it in before he can't for a while." Um, you already can't. Sorry. You'll have to get over it and stop pouting.

Whew! Ok. I know that was a lot but it felt great to unload. Thanks for "listening" ladies.

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