Name Remorse

mamakculb · December 2015

We are expecting our first girl and a couple months ago we picked the name Liliana. It's a nice name and family and friends like it too. Now we are having our third bout of name remorse with it. I just am not in LOVE with the name. I think it's pretty but it's just not the one my heart is set on. Problem is, we don't have a favorite we love that much. It doesn't help that everyone keeps asking me how to spell it (Liliana, Lilliana, Lily Anna) and everyone's been shortening it to Lily already.

We were so in love with DS's name and we picked it out before we knew he was a boy. We never once second guessed it. I feel like we've picked this name because we couldn't figure out any better name, and it's just really bothering me.

SusieG85 · December 2015

Why don't you change it then? She hasnt been born yet so it wouldnt be hard to switch. You could just tell people that when you saw her she didnt feel like a Liliana (which by the way I really like) but you just knew she was a Sarah/Marybeth/Angela etc... so you went with that at birth!

SmrBrd2012 · December 2015

I think there's a lot of pressure to "be in love with" names but I don't think it necessarily works that way all the time. We didn't have a name that was "the one" when DS was born. We had 2-3 that we flip flopped between and even after we met him I still couldn't decide and made H make the decision. There are 2 variants of the name we chose and it is still often mispelled but that hasn't give me name remorse. Maybe you're just overthinking it? Once your daughter is around for awhile, people will get the hang of her name spelling. I don't think you can avoid people shortening it to Lily though so if you don't like the NN, you might want to think of another name.

It seems like you still have several weeks to go. You have plenty of time to keep brainstorming. Can you each bring your top 10 to the table and see if there is anything else you can agree on?

mamakculb · December 2015

We do want to change it, we just can't figure out another name we like better. We keep discussing it and we're getting nowhere.

bbiutmcph · December 2015

What's your sons name? Maybe we can offer suggestions

SnarkasaurusRex · December 2015

kristanoah said:

We do want to change it, we just can't figure out another name we like better. We keep discussing it and we're getting nowhere.

Flip through some name lists and browse some name sites. Write down any names that you like, and have DH do the same. Swap lists, and both of you cross out names you don't like (veto power!). Circle any that you both have on your lists. You might find a name you love then, but that should give you a good base list that you can mull over for a few weeks so you can come up with a short list to bring to the hospital and see which one fits her best.

Luckily we had a boy (we've been set on his FN forever, and only changed his MN at the last minute), but we managed to get it down to a list of 4 girl names that we brought to the hospital with us.

mamakculb · December 2015

My sons name is Troy Joseph. Joseph is my husbands middle name and we loved Troy because it's a name everyone knows but it's not super popular. Plus I just love strong manly names for boys. We have a long last name that starts with a hard C.

Some girl names we kinda like are Liliana, Isabella, Aria, and Talia. One of the main reasons we didn't choose Isabella or Aria is that they are very popular names. We both like Talia but we have a close relative with the name Natalie and DH thinks they're too close. I kinda disagree with him.

Some family middle names we are wanting to use are Louise, Marie, Michelle and Noelle.

Latina211508 · December 2015

You can change it

you still have plenty of time. I really like talia, biased because my youngest is named Natalia. But I always call her talia for short. Talia noelle sounds very nice together.

littleloves3 · December 2015

Luciana Marie

Eliana Noelle

Emilia Louise (favorite)

Vivienne Marie

Laila/Layla Marie

Lyla Michelle

bbiutmcph · December 2015

I like Troy a lot and personally find a Lily name too popular with it personally. We picked Trent for one of our sons for the same reason it's uncommon yet recognizable. Some suggestions:

Anita
Rosalie
Simone
Flora
Dahlia
Nina
Elin
Heidi
Mallory
Ada
Clara
Celeste
Corrine
Bianca

alexks42 · December 2015

Viviana
Lucia
Camilla
Aurora
Cora
Mirabel
Arabella
Isla
Evangeline
Audra
Audrina
Victoria
Seraphina
Violetta
Elora
Gemma
Genevieve
Sylvia
Rosalie
Juliette
Felicity
Helena
Stella

MamaWren919 · December 2015

If you don't want popular, I'd definitely stay away from a Lily name. There are so many variants they don't show up very high on the rankings, but Lilys are everywhere.

Suggest
Thea
Tessa
Violet
Celeste
Camilla/Camille
Ivy

cmerribury · December 2015

I'd suggest changing it now because it will be so much easier than changing it later. A lot of the suggestions here are lovely.

Knottie1442268460 · December 2015

I love noelle.

You've got to go through the book or name matchmaker to find a new name now.

Disneygeek77 · December 2015

what is your middle name ?

mamakculb · December 2015

Disneygeek77 said:
what is your middle name ?

Mine is Elizabeth. I'm not a fan of the name at all, or who I'm named for.

I really am starting to like Talia even though DH thinks it's too close to our niece. I am worried about starting a T trend in names though!

magsugar13 · December 2015

I dont think Talia and Natalie are too close. If her name was Natalia then yes.

Adrianna

Nadia

Natasha

Daniella

Love Noelle,can you use that as a first name?

avalentine81 · December 2015

I like the suggestions Stella and Tessa.

yogahh · December 2015

Do you like the "lily" part of it? Maybe a play on it with Lilith or Leanne?

Elsa1984 · December 2015

Definitely not too late to change. I know plenty of people that have had the FN/MN of their kids picked out their whole pregnancy, only to change it at the last minute after baby was born. However, they alway told me that if I did something like that, to NOT bring it up to friends and family because they would try and offer opinions and confuse me even more. And the ones that like the first name better than the new name, would continue rant about how X is a horrible named compared to Z.

Out of the one that you have listed, I think that they are all too popular for my liking, besides Talia. I am not a big fan of siblings with the same first letter, but I actually like Troy and Talia together, and I don't think that it is too close to Natalie. Plus, it reminds me of the sweet little girl named Talia that was on The Ellen Show several times.

Knottie1442268460 · December 2015

I've told people the name and switched too many times to count.

they'll just end up confused. Still haven't picked a middle name but I think knowing the first name has helped them.

breezycat · December 2015

If you're not happy change it. Talia Noelle would be lovely. Maybe:

Gabriella
Sabrina
Valentina
Miranda
Vanessa
Zarha

BelleZBoo · December 2015

Aria Belle was our number one choice if this little one was a girl so I am partial to Aria Noelle!

m8881 · December 2015

Love Troy. Really like Talia with it too.

eileenmcgoo · December 2015

Talia!!! Definitely not too close to Natalie.

LoveLee85 · December 2015

Troy is on our short list for next baby! Love how strong it is. Does anyone ever call him Roy? I love so many names but hate when people are to lazy to say the full name!!! It's a pet peeve of mine.

saham07 · December 2015

Valerie

Bonnie

Vanessa

Pamela

Lillian

Jacqueline

mamakculb · December 2015

LoveLee85 said:
Troy is on our short list for next baby! Love how strong it is. Does anyone ever call him Roy? I love so many names but hate when people are to lazy to say the full name!!! It's a pet peeve of mine.

His two nicknames have been T-Roy (which my husband pairs with destroy) and Troytertot. We always laugh cause they're longer than his actual name, haha. Haven't had anyone call him Roy though. That would definitely bug me.

Aspen1223 · December 2015

Talia Noelle!! I don't think it's too close to Natalie at all. I also like Noelle for a first name.

Rshapiro86 · December 2015

Another vote for Talia!!! Love it and it's not too popular but still recognizable. It's actually on my list if our next baby is a girl. I love it paired with Noelle.

mamakculb · December 2015

Y'all are making me love the name Talia Noelle, haha. I brought it up to MIL and Dh's aunt and they both liked it too. We may have found a new favorite!

Beckah31 · December 2015

What about adding an h and making it Thalia. Gives a bit more space to Natalie (although I agree with you that they aren't that close) but similar feel.

tgrlily287 · December 2015

I hear ya! Keep thinking, you've still got time! I was actually wondering about the spelling myself because I've seen so many variations of that name.

camusoh2011 · December 2015

This is sort of how I feel about the name we have picked for little miss. The name is pretty and I don't really have a good reason why it's been rubbing me the wrong way, but I just don't feel in love with it like I did at first. I wonder how I'll feel about it in a few years if I stick with it. I just want our twins to have names so badly I don't know if I'll change it or not. Maybe when we see them I'll fall in love with it again and it will be perfect for her.

sorarose · December 2015

I like the name Talia, but if her NN was Tali, that would definitely be close to Natalie IMO. It seems you like the ia/iana at the end of names. Definitely look into names like that...many PPs gave you a good list to consider.

VitaLuna · December 2015

No advice more than what others have offered, but I just want to sympathize. We were/are in love with DDs name and never thought twice about it after we found it.

This time around, we can't find anything that we just LOVE like with DD, and it's really stressing/depressing me because I want to feel that same way.

Knottie1442268460 · December 2015

Camusoh what are your current names?

hlvonb · December 2015

kristanoah said:

We are expecting our first girl and a couple months ago we picked the name Liliana. It's a nice name and family and friends like it too. Now we are having our third bout of name remorse with it. I just am not in LOVE with the name. I think it's pretty but it's just not the one my heart is set on. Problem is, we don't have a favorite we love that much. It doesn't help that everyone keeps asking me how to spell it (Liliana, Lilliana, Lily Anna) and everyone's been shortening it to Lily already. We were so in love with DS's name and we picked it out before we knew he was a boy. We never once second guessed it. I feel like we've picked this name because we couldn't figure out any better name, and it's just really bothering me.

@kristanoah

If you don't like it, change it. Family & friends may like it but it's not there baby

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