Have to vent - boyfriend made fish

Mommy2b · December 2015

I'm literally biting my cheek to stay calm but my boyfriend was at the dentist and had said he wasn't feeling well and not hungry.
I ate McDonald's and then he came home and made jasmine rice, vegetables and fish!!!! He never makes fish and we currently live in a small one bedroom where the kitchen is where the living room and laundry room and bedroom are basically all in the same room. So all I smell is fish and all I wanted to do was come home and relax. I opened Windows turned on fans, took my bath and I'm hiding in a fan cocoon in our room. All I smell is fish. And now he is watching tv and I asked him to turn it down twice and it's still loud. Would it be wrong to start throwing things like a child having a temper tantrum??!!

kynbar5 · December 2015

To answer your question, yes.

ammnam14 · December 2015

Yes, very child like. Why don't you just be grateful and thank him for cooking dinner?

SarahFoley725 · December 2015

Is this real?

sarahufl · December 2015

Yes, it is always wrong to throw a tantrum like a child. Unless, you know, you are a child.

Did you talk to him about it first? Or are you just pissed off?

ecwk · December 2015

Mommy2b said:
I'm literally biting my cheek to stay calm but my boyfriend was at the dentist and had said he wasn't feeling well and not hungry.
I ate McDonald's and then he came home and made jasmine rice, vegetables and fish!!!! He never makes fish and we currently live in a small one bedroom where the kitchen is where the living room and laundry room and bedroom are basically all in the same room. So all I smell is fish and all I wanted to do was come home and relax. I opened Windows turned on fans, took my bath and I'm hiding in a fan cocoon in our room. All I smell is fish. And now he is watching tv and I asked him to turn it down twice and it's still loud. Would it be wrong to start throwing things like a child having a temper tantrum??!!

QFP.

Boyfriend cooked fish.
Smell of fish lingering.
TV too loud.

Definitely warrants a tantrum. Totally reasonable of you.

SarahFoley725 · December 2015

DH bought pasta sauce when I sent him to the store for pizza sauce so I guess I should just move out.

kynbar5 · December 2015

I don't eat fish and don't like the smell. I cook it for my husband quite often (including tonight). Dear God, what's wrong with me?!!!

Mommy2b · December 2015

I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself...
I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

kynbar5 · December 2015

Mommy2b said:
I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself...
I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

But all you complained about was the smell. Also, if it was something I wanted I'd just eat it. Whether I'd eaten already or not. Problem solved. And no, you're an adult. Being 34 weeks pregnant doesn't justify a temper tantrum. You're having a child so you shouldnt really act like a child.

Mommy2b · December 2015

I'm clearly in the wrong group here because for over 8 months I've read the most ridiculous things on here and this just sent me over the edge and it's annoying people can't cut me some slack and let me whine for a minute.

SarahFoley725 · December 2015

Being pregnant, no matter how far along you are, isn't a justifiable excuse to throw a fit. Guess what, the rest of us here are pregnant as well.

Things like this are the exact reason that so many people don't think women are capable of rational thinking of they happen to be carrying a child.

ecwk · December 2015

Mommy2b said:
I'm clearly in the wrong group here because for over 8 months I've read the most ridiculous things on here and this just sent me over the edge and it's annoying people can't cut me some slack and let me whine for a minute.

No one said you can't whine. You asked if it would be unreasonable to have a tantrum and the consensus is it is. Being pregnant is not an excuse to act like a brat. Also, I'm not a mind reader, some days I'd rather have fast food than fish and vegetables; how were we supposed to know that pissed you off too?

Mommy2b said:
I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself...
I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

kynbar5 · December 2015

Mommy2b said:
I'm clearly in the wrong group here because for over 8 months I've read the most ridiculous things on here and this just sent me over the edge and it's annoying people can't cut me some slack and let me whine for a minute.

Ehh, you obviously stuck it out for 8 months so what's a few more weeks? Also, if you've been reading "the most ridiculous things" how did you not see these responses coming?

jonesl12 · December 2015

Dude... My DH cooked spaghetti while I was at work tonight and the smell of onions he put in the sauce is lingering still after 2 hours. I'm packing my bags and looking for a one way ticket to mexico. I called my lawyer and left a message telling him how ridiculous these onions are and I can't live like this. It's a damn onion crisis in my house. DH can clearly cook for himself so I know he will be ok without me.
FTW!!!

kyraaD · December 2015

I'm confused as to what you were expecting to get out of posting this.. you want us to tell you, "oh totally throw a temper tantrum! how dare your SO make himself food AND watch tv!!"..? doubt it. take a deep breath & relax. the poor guy hasn't done anything wrong.

JLaVO888 · December 2015

@kynbar5 That unicorn is so cute!! I want one now haha. Completely unrelated I know....

kynbar5 · December 2015

JLaVO888 said:
@kynbar5 That unicorn is so cute!! I want one now haha. Completely unrelated I know....

It's Buttercup from Toy Story (love them all!) and you can get one!
Toy Story 3 Buttercup https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004GHN3AM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_kNoAwbR6ES63F

JLaVO888 · December 2015

kynbar5 said:

JLaVO888 said:
@kynbar5 That unicorn is so cute!! I want one now haha. Completely unrelated I know....
It's Buttercup from Toy Story (love them all!) and you can get one!
Toy Story 3 Buttercup https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004GHN3AM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_kNoAwbR6ES63F

Is it in the first toy story? I don't remember him. I'v only seen the second and third one once each so I hardly remember them. The first was just way better in my opinion.

kynbar5 · December 2015

JLaVO888 said:

kynbar5 said:

JLaVO888 said:
@kynbar5 That unicorn is so cute!! I want one now haha. Completely unrelated I know....
It's Buttercup from Toy Story (love them all!) and you can get one!
Toy Story 3 Buttercup https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004GHN3AM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_kNoAwbR6ES63F
Is it in the first toy story? I don't remember him. I'v only seen the second and third one once each so I hardly remember them. The first was just way better in my opinion.

In the 3rd. But I do agree (with pretty much every movie) you just can't beat the 1st one. Home Alone is the only movie I have a hard time deciding if I like the first or second better

JLaVO888 · December 2015

kynbar5 said:

JLaVO888 said:

kynbar5 said:

JLaVO888 said:
@kynbar5 That unicorn is so cute!! I want one now haha. Completely unrelated I know....
It's Buttercup from Toy Story (love them all!) and you can get one!
Toy Story 3 Buttercup https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004GHN3AM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_kNoAwbR6ES63F
Is it in the first toy story? I don't remember him. I'v only seen the second and third one once each so I hardly remember them. The first was just way better in my opinion.
In the 3rd. But I do agree (with pretty much every movie) you just can't beat the 1st one. Home Alone is the only movie I have a hard time deciding if I like the first or second better

Agreed. Sometimes I don't even watch sequels because I can't handle knowing how much I will be let down at the end of it.

cMichelle0423 · December 2015

Seriously? If this is what sends you over the edge, wanting to throw a full blown tantrum, I'd hate to see how you'd react to a real problem.

kynbar5 · December 2015

I'm honestly feeling a little bad for her boyfriend. I mean, goodness, how bad are these tantrums going to get and for all kinds of silly reasons.

sarahufl · December 2015

Mommy2b said:

I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself... I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

FYI- your justification makes it worse.

kalanieileen · December 2015

Mommy2b said:
I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself...
I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

I legit LOL'd at this. Was it his fault you had McDonalds and not a home cooked meal? I don't get how this correlates.

Knottie59802221 · December 2015

@Mommy2b I feel your pain. Should you throw a tantrum? No. Would I? Maybe. Somedays I get flabbergasted that my husband isn't more understanding and doesn't take my needs or issues into account. Then I just have to remind myself that ten months is a long time to get fawned over and it would probably drive me crazy if he did. Somedays all things just piss me off and the best thing to do is find your happy place. One time I flipped out because the dog was breathing too hard, lol. Just ask yourself if you think you're being reasonable or if it's just crazy hormones.

Oh, and don't even get me started on the super loud tv!! Our roommate has a 70" tv with surround sound in our 1100 sq ft home and both he and my husband have hearing damage from their military days.... I'm pretty sure our neighbors down the block can hear every word. I bought myself some nice headphones and watch a movie on my cell phone until I fall asleep. Just keep telling yourself that it will be better tomorrow.

Mommy2b · December 2015

Thank you Knottie
I didn't actually throw a fit or anything
That's not my personality that's why I thought I could come on here and vent no matter how silly it sounded. I'm a grown woman who had a bad night and left him alone. I love him but show me one man that isn't annoying and send you crazy.
This is my last post on this because the responses actually made me more annoyed at them then him so I guess that was helpful

missemmawoodhouse · December 2015

Mommy2b said:

I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself... I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

IFL McDonald's so I fail to see how this is an issue.

skruhmin · December 2015

First pregnancy first trimester I ruined baked potatoes in the microwave and we didn't have sour cream. That was legit tantrum worthy. DH thought I was a crazy person. My question is when the newborn exhaustion hits and BF puts the diaper on backward, will you tantrum then too?

On a different note

sarahufl · December 2015

Now I want McDonald's. I may go for lunch.

kynbar5 · December 2015

sarahufl said:
Now I want McDonald's. I may go for lunch.

Just don't throw a tantrum when you come home to a meal a man actually cooked!

skruhmin · December 2015

kynbar5 said:

Now I want McDonald's. I may go for lunch.
Just don't throw a tantrum when you come home to a meal a man actually cooked!

Would that be a McTantrum?

celainev · December 2015

Me, after reading the OP.

kynbar5 · December 2015

skruhmin said:

kynbar5 said:

sarahufl said:
Now I want McDonald's. I may go for lunch.
Just don't throw a tantrum when you come home to a meal a man actually cooked!

Would that be a McTantrum?

missemmawoodhouse · December 2015

skruhmin said:

kynbar5 said:

sarahufl said:
Now I want McDonald's. I may go for lunch.
Just don't throw a tantrum when you come home to a meal a man actually cooked!

Would that be a McTantrum?

/ded

fwtx5815 · December 2015

Mommy2b said:

I'm literally biting my cheek to stay calm but my boyfriend was at the dentist and had said he wasn't feeling well and not hungry. I ate McDonald's and then he came home and made jasmine rice, vegetables and fish!!!! He never makes fish and we currently live in a small one bedroom where the kitchen is where the living room and laundry room and bedroom are basically all in the same room. So all I smell is fish and all I wanted to do was come home and relax. I opened Windows turned on fans, took my bath and I'm hiding in a fan cocoon in our room. All I smell is fish. And now he is watching tv and I asked him to turn it down twice and it's still loud. Would it be wrong to start throwing things like a child having a temper tantrum??!!

Mommy2b said:

I think people missed the part I had McDonald's and he came home and made a gourmet meal for himself... I think the fact I'm 34 weeks pregnant I can have one temper tantrum.

So OP, what you're saying is your boyfriend should have known not to make food that would stink up the house like fish would, but he also should have known that you'd want some of this gourmet meal (that you can't stand the smell of) ??

Act however you want but do the rest of us preggies a solid and don't pass the tantrums off as pregnancy-related. Some of us still want to be taken seriously.

smount2011 · December 2015

I had Mc Donald's for breakfast. It was yummy. A nice treat for the post-glucose test meal.

sarahufl · December 2015

kynbar5 said:

Now I want McDonald's. I may go for lunch.
Just don't throw a tantrum when you come home to a meal a man actually cooked!

I would be so shocked if H came home and cooked, I wouldn't care if I had already eaten- I would join him.

FinePlacentaPie · December 2015

SarahFoley725 said:

DH bought pasta sauce when I sent him to the store for pizza sauce so I guess I should just move out.

ILY

DrillSergeantCat · December 2015

I get being irritated that he told you he wasn't hungry, you ate, then he decided he was hungry, but it doesn't warrant anything other than you saying, "I wish you'd have told me that you were going to cook." IDK what he had done at the dentist, but maybe his teeth were hurting and he wanted to eat something soft, hence the fish. I made an almost exact meal last night, it took a whole 30 minutes. I don't consider it gourmet.

My honest advice to you, is to use your words. You're connected to this man for the rest of your child's life, you need to be able to communicate. If you throw a fit whenever he upsets you (I know you didn't but you wanted to) he will lose all respect for you and possible begin avoiding you just to be certain he never accidentally sets you off. I'm big on telling people around me, "If you're upset, you have to tell me why. I can't fix what I don't know." If he's committed to your relationship, he'll be open to fixing it.

paytonpedro · December 2015

@DrillSergeantCat "use your words" is a direct quote I use EVERYDAY! All the time, whenever I can. Great advice to op!

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