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RANTING FRIDAY

CandacenellieCandacenellie member
in June 2016 Moms
So.. I love in upstate New York, I have been going to St. Josephs hospital for my OB care since I found out I was preggie. Have had 3 appointments so far, I go in the other day for FINALLY my first full prenatal appointment (they kept rescheduling it on me) and I'm 13weeks. The nurse asks if I am okay with a male for delivery, I said ok that's fine. She then tells me the names of the doctors and one just so happen to be this awful doctor I had a terrible experience with when I had my miscarriage in August. He was mean, laughed at any questions we had and just made me feel so unsafe, ugh he was just terrible. So I said that's ok as long as it's not said doctor, the other one is fine. She said they can't predict who would be there when I went in to labor so she didn't know what to do. I said well I won't compromise I do not want him delivering my baby. So she talked to my OB and came back to tell me there is nothing they can do I need to find somewhere else to go for care. Shooed me out of the room and did not even go through with my appointment!!!!!! I cried all the way home because now I have to start all over again!!! I have Medicaid for now but by January I'll have much better insurance with my husband's new job. So in the mean time I am stuck going to a crappy scary place downtown for my prenatal care. I am just so upset and hate having things so uncertain when 3 days ago everything was fine and I had my doctor and appointments set.. now nothing. Just really pissed.. Anyone else rant for Friday????
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  • Trinirican3ondwayTrinirican3ondway member
    @Candacenellie I am so sorry to hear that. It sounds like you will be better off for changing practices but I can see how that would leave you feeling upset and uncertain right now. I hope you are able to find another practice that fits you soon.



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  • Atlast111Atlast111 member
    That is upsetting! They sound very unprofessional. You definitely made the right choice going elsewhere. Don't worry....now that you've had your first scan you should be fine to wait until January. Hope you find a good OB that is kind and caring.
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  • crdocrdo member
    Wow, that's terrible! I agree with PPs that you're likely better off finding another practice alltogether. Hope you're able to find an OB that you like, and one that treats you with more kindness, professionalism, and respect.
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  • sailorchelssailorchels member
    My rant for Friday is I feel like my DH is being a selfish ass. All week. Our daughter has a lot going on with school this week, singing at different events around town for the holidays etc. I asked him to take her to the Liminaria last night since he is bailing on tonight's city tree lighting to go to the race track and watch the drag races (I've taken her to every other event this week). Well 30 min before we leave my brother asks me to take his kid (who also has to sing) BC his wife doesn't want to take their 4 year old daughter and he had to take the other kid to physical therapy (that's a whole other rant in itself that im not even going into right now) I said fine thinking DH won't mind. Then DH comes home late (walks in as we have to leave) and so I just sucked it up and took the kids. We had a great time. I'm happy i went, but I was really looking forward to some quiet time and not having to interact with some of the parents at her school, my hormones and their existing just doesn't mesh lately. So fast forward to his morning. I asked him to help get our daughter ready, as we had made plans last week to host some friends that want to come to the tree lighting, and needed to start prepping for the hors d'oeuvres, cookies, dinner and drinks before work so they would be ready later (which he doesn't get BC he is bailing on his own party to go watch cars race). His response " I'm too tired". So I do it. No problem. She's my kid I can be a responsible parent, but I'm just in need of a little help and support this week and have got nothing. Am I wrong for feeling like I have every right to do whatever I want next weekend? We are supposed to go to a Christmas party that's a 45 min drive, where he'll drink and want to stay and visit really late but I want to go to a Moms Time Out at a friends house that is a 5 min drive from home and won't go very late. I feel I should get to be selfish for one night after this week.
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  • augbride87augbride87 member
    sailorchels Your DH is being a jerk!  "I'm too tired"  Try making a baby!! 
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  • mkemommymkemommy member
    @candacenellie - WTF.  I would be pissed if they did that to me.  I had a terrible experience with an OB in the pracice I'm currently in with one of their female doctors.  I told the nurse that I didn't want to see her again and would honestly see anyone  but her....not only did they happily comply, one of the nurses muttered "I don't blame you" under her breath.  I'm sorry you are going through this but better to find this out now than latter.
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  • mkemommymkemommy member
    @sailorchels - I'd be having a chat with your H about roles and responsibilities (i.e., both of you need to chip in, not just you) in as nice a way as possible.  If he starts complaining, I would just tell him you've asked him for help this week and he's been unable to help out as he has been busy with his activities and tired...I'd let him know you are tired too and need a break (especially carrying a child).  
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  • VikingGirl12VikingGirl12 member
    What in the world??? That is ridiculous. I am so sorry you had to deal with that!!!
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