@jenniferamcooper I don't think you're being hormonal or unreasonable! Not your business? DON'T SHARE IT! I mean for crying out loud who on earth would think that their nephew's news would be their own to share? Sounds like your mama knows the stuff that will get the likes and just goes buckwild lol. Unfortunately it will probably have to come down to people just not sharing things with her before she makes a change.
My FFFC - I am not being very productive at work today......but I just can't get the motivation needed to deal with these projects today, and I don't feel even the slightest bit guilty about it.
@flowerpower5838 you're right we didn't tell her about this pregnancy til 14 weeks. She doesn't know that though The crazy thing is that my cousin is a really private person.
Who turned the heat on in here?! Wowza. So I have those dreams maybe twice a month and we do have a healthy sex life. Sadly, since being pregnant I've only made it to the finish line a hand full of times. It was never a problem before so I'm like UGHH
Even manually?? I can't during sex - never have, but always manual. It's even more intense pregnant.
Wait a minute. Stop. Hold on. You've NEVER "crossed the finish line" during sex? I will say, it took me a long time before I did but now, if I don't, I get pissy and make him finish me off. Every squirrel needs a nut! I agree 1000% that the pregnant orgasm is AMAZING. I just got slightly sad that this is my last turn at the pregnant sex.
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Who turned the heat on in here?! Wowza. So I have those dreams maybe twice a month and we do have a healthy sex life. Sadly, since being pregnant I've only made it to the finish line a hand full of times. It was never a problem before so I'm like UGHH
Lol
Even manually?? I can't during sex - never have, but always manual. It's even more intense pregnant.
Wait a minute. Stop. Hold on.
You've NEVER "crossed the finish line" during sex? I will say, it took me a long time before I did but now, if I don't, I get pissy and make him finish me off. Every squirrel needs a nut! I agree 1000% that the pregnant orgasm is AMAZING. I just got slightly sad that this is my last turn at the pregnant sex.
Nope not at all. But I don't mind because he's so generous beforehand. Like I got a good husband.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Who turned the heat on in here?! Wowza. So I have those dreams maybe twice a month and we do have a healthy sex life. Sadly, since being pregnant I've only made it to the finish line a hand full of times. It was never a problem before so I'm like UGHH
Even manually?? I can't during sex - never have, but always manual. It's even more intense pregnant.
Wait a minute. Stop. Hold on. You've NEVER "crossed the finish line" during sex? I will say, it took me a long time before I did but now, if I don't, I get pissy and make him finish me off. Every squirrel needs a nut! I agree 1000% that the pregnant orgasm is AMAZING. I just got slightly sad that this is my last turn at the pregnant sex.
Nope not at all. But I don't mind because he's so generous beforehand. Like I got a good husband.
Well round of applause to the good husbands then! Mine's pretty awesome too
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Jumping in with all the DTD talk, my husband and I sometimes joke that I'm the "guy" when it comes to our sex life because it is always much easier for me to finish than him. Things have definitely slowed down since I've gotten pregnant (took a while for DH to get over the weirdness), but the last time we DTD I didn't finish, even after quite a while with some battery-powered assistance. I know I shouldn't worry about it and there's a lot going on that could have contributed to it, but it kind of freaked me out! I feel like Samantha from Sex and the City when someone told her maybe she used up all her orgasms!
Jumping in with all the DTD talk, my husband and I sometimes joke that I'm the "guy" when it comes to our sex life because it is always much easier for me to finish than him. Things have definitely slowed down since I've gotten pregnant (took a while for DH to get over the weirdness), but the last time we DTD I didn't finish, even after quite a while with some battery-powered assistance. I know I shouldn't worry about it and there's a lot going on that could have contributed to it, but it kind of freaked me out! I feel like Samantha from Sex and the City when someone told her maybe she used up all her orgasms!
Ooh don't worry, it will be back. Orgasms can be seriously tricky with pregnancy.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Who turned the heat on in here?! Wowza. So I have those dreams maybe twice a month and we do have a healthy sex life. Sadly, since being pregnant I've only made it to the finish line a hand full of times. It was never a problem before so I'm like UGHH
Even manually?? I can't during sex - never have, but always manual. It's even more intense pregnant.
Wait a minute. Stop. Hold on. You've NEVER "crossed the finish line" during sex? I will say, it took me a long time before I did but now, if I don't, I get pissy and make him finish me off. Every squirrel needs a nut! I agree 1000% that the pregnant orgasm is AMAZING. I just got slightly sad that this is my last turn at the pregnant sex.
Nope not at all. But I don't mind because he's so generous beforehand. Like I got a good husband.
Well round of applause to the good husbands then! Mine's pretty awesome too
Hahahaha well honestly I haven't tried the manual route. My drive is pretty low these days so I haven't really been that upset about it
Jumping in with all the DTD talk, my husband and I sometimes joke that I'm the "guy" when it comes to our sex life because it is always much easier for me to finish than him. Things have definitely slowed down since I've gotten pregnant (took a while for DH to get over the weirdness), but the last time we DTD I didn't finish, even after quite a while with some battery-powered assistance. I know I shouldn't worry about it and there's a lot going on that could have contributed to it, but it kind of freaked me out! I feel like Samantha from Sex and the City when someone told her maybe she used up all her orgasms!
Ooh don't worry, it will be back. Orgasms can be seriously tricky with pregnancy.
Totally! For me, sex is really hard unless I'm feeling super confident about myself/my body. Since I'm not right now, it's just not doing it for me. However, I'm not willing to miss out on pregnancy orgasms, and I'm super efficient when taking care of myself...and I don't worry if I think I look fat. LOL!
So off of the sex topic, we broke DS2 of bottles about 2 weeks ago. He got sick a few nights ago and I gave him a bottle so that he'd go to sleep (and he was asking for it). We've done bottles since - I think he's teething too and it feels good to his gums. He's been sleeping great since.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
@skruhmin I can't remember when we broke our son of bottles, but I think (think) it was his 3rd birthday. At that point it was only one nighttime bottle, but it really helped soothe him...so we hung on to it for a really long time. Don't worry, sweets, what's important is that he's happy and comforted.
It's funny because with DS1 I was adamant that he was done with bottles after I was done nursing when he turned 1 - like he'd be scarred for life or something. But with DS2 I've been way more relaxed - and I actually love that snuggle time we have, so it's been a little sad breaking him of it. So the last few nights haven't been too bad
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I've gone the opposite way. My 1st didn't get completely off the bottle until almost 3. 2nd was around 2. 3rd was a little more than 1. 4th and 5th haven't gone over a year. This one will probably be about a year as that's when I quit breastfeeding. I think the whole bottle timeframe is a learning curve for every parent and child and I don't fully agree with putting a strict timeframe on it.
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@flowerpower5838 we definitely married brothers.
@skruhmin I'm sorry to hear that
Good thing this is flame free because it might ruffle some feathers but I can't help but roll my eyes at women who post month markers on breast feeding or pumping. I woke up to see a post from a Facebook friend about how she's exclusively pumped for 4 months. Okay, so do you want a cookie? I don't doubt it's difficult but are we all supposed to praise you for feeding your child? Do you think doing that has made you a better parent than someone who formula feeds and therefore worthy of some special praise? Just no.
I belong to a couple of breastfeeding support groups on FB and I see a lot of those milestone posts on the group pages. I think if I ever were going to make a post like that, I'd do it on a support group page instead of my personal page.
I've gotta say, though, that breastfeeding is a lot of work and can be really hard at first, and it often feels like a totally thankless job. I have heard that exclusively pumping is even harder to do, so I get why someone would want to celebrate persevering through those hardships, and if my "like" might help them keep it up, then why not?
What I think is absurd is when people assume that others' lifestyle choices and/or celebration of milestones is somehow personally shaming them. I'm not directing this comment at anyone here, but I've noticed (mostly on Facebook) that simply choosing to breastfeed, for example, and being open about that choice will cause some to complain that they're being shamed for making different choices. It's kind of silly.
So I think that's why I'd only ever post about something like that on the support group page. All of the women there are going through or have been through the same challenge s an d understand where the poster is coming from, and no one will take the post as a personal attack or shaming. It just makes much more sense to consider the audience when making those kinds of posts, I guess.
I've gone the opposite way. My 1st didn't get completely off the bottle until almost 3. 2nd was around 2. 3rd was a little more than 1. 4th and 5th haven't gone over a year. This one will probably be about a year as that's when I quit breastfeeding. I think the whole bottle timeframe is a learning curve for every parent and child and I don't fully agree with putting a strict timeframe on it.
He kind of started breaking himself - and it helped that we moved him in with his brother.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I've gone the opposite way. My 1st didn't get completely off the bottle until almost 3. 2nd was around 2. 3rd was a little more than 1. 4th and 5th haven't gone over a year. This one will probably be about a year as that's when I quit breastfeeding. I think the whole bottle timeframe is a learning curve for every parent and child and I don't fully agree with putting a strict timeframe on it.
He kind of started breaking himself - and it helped that we moved him in with his brother.
I think that helped my youngest also. They're only a year apart so it's some serious "Pete & RePete" around here. Lol. I imagine this one will be pretty much the same since the current youngest and him won't be but a little over a year apart.
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All I can say is I could never exclusively pump. I hate it that much. Pumping at work is hard enough as it is. Those women deserve major props, but yeah, I don't like the Facebook public look-at-me posts. I agree with posting in a support group - there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but not a public facebook.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I agree with what @cmerribury said earlier - reach a MAJOR milestone? Hell yes share it on Facebook! 6 month or 1 year of BFing - cool, I will (and have) totally throw a "like" of encouragement your way. Post every.single.week/whatever about your successful BFing? Sorry, I will hide you. As @kitteh81 said, there is kind of a time and place. Post somewhere where your content will be appreciated - like the support groups or on a blog or on a forum here, etc.
It's a thankless job because you're literally feeding a child that cannot thank you. Same as providing a roof for your children, but that's not something that I see people "bragging" about on FB. Hopefully a SO/H will be vocal with his thanks though? Perhaps this is insensitive or naïve of me, but I just don't see the point of sharing certain things on SM that are totally "Hey look at how awesome I am!" over and over and over.
ETA: I don't mean to diminish BFing AT ALL - super props to women that can and do, but I get the general impression that parenting overall is a fairly thankless job so I don't know why women would expect breast feeding to be much different.
I'm exhausted, I don't want to cook. We'll be doing yet another Christmas movie tonight in front of the fire (ummmmm that's been like every night this week). Anyone want to come adult for me?
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I'm exhausted, I don't want to cook. We'll be doing yet another Christmas movie tonight in front of the fire (ummmmm that's been like every night this week). Anyone want to come adult for me?
That depends- Do you have room for 7 1/2 more? What movie are you watching? Will there be hot chocolate? Can we roast marshmallows? If you'll allow the marshmallow roasting I'll cook dinner.
March '16 December Siggy Challenge - Favorite Christmas Movies/Quotes
I'm exhausted, I don't want to cook. We'll be doing yet another Christmas movie tonight in front of the fire (ummmmm that's been like every night this week). Anyone want to come adult for me?
That depends- Do you have room for 7 1/2 more? What movie are you watching? Will there be hot chocolate? Can we roast marshmallows? If you'll allow the marshmallow roasting I'll cook dinner.
Welp our fireplace has glass over it, so roasting marshmallows might be difficult. Although we could do oven s'mores. But yeah, I'd take it. Maybe Home Alone. Maybe the "new" Miracle on 34th Street.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I don't want my baby to stay with my inlaws. There, I said it. I'm a terrible person.
Like a week after announcing my pregnancy and a few weeks before my nephew was born, the whole family took a trip to the attic to pull out all of DH and his brother's old toys, clothes, and other junk. Seriously, JUNK. Don't judge me. I'm not into hanging on to things. I give stuff away, sell it, or throw it out.
Anyway, long story short, there's these really old things that she plans on using on her grand babies. Onesies and outfits that are 30+ years old! Okay, that grosses me out to think of how long that stuff has been in the attic but that's not my point here.
The worst of it is the crib. Imagine this.....this crib was slept in by all 3 of her kids. This means it was first used 32 years ago and last used somewhere around 20-23 years ago. Since then, it's been in the attic. The mattress (which we put a zip-up cover over) is literally disintegrating. But the crib itself is unimaginably unsafe. I helped her put it together (cringing all the while) and there were parts we had to GLUE BACK TOGETHER!!! OMG!!
Then, there's the fact that my MIL convinced my SIL to sleep her child on his belly. I know, there's a whole debate over belly or back. We don't have to get into that here. I'm sorry for bringing it up. But I can't imagine my baby sleeping face down on a matress that's older than me in a crib that's older than me and held together with glue. EEK!
But I can't say anything. She's family. Her boys are all still alive and healthy. I'll say a prayer every time I drop my baby off, and leave it to the Good Lord to ensure his safety.
I don't want my baby to stay with my inlaws. There, I said it. I'm a terrible person.
Like a week after announcing my pregnancy and a few weeks before my nephew was born, the whole family took a trip to the attic to pull out all of DH and his brother's old toys, clothes, and other junk. Seriously, JUNK. Don't judge me. I'm not into hanging on to things. I give stuff away, sell it, or throw it out.
Anyway, long story short, there's these really old things that she plans on using on her grand babies. Onesies and outfits that are 30+ years old! Okay, that grosses me out to think of how long that stuff has been in the attic but that's not my point here.
The worst of it is the crib. Imagine this.....this crib was slept in by all 3 of her kids. This means it was first used 32 years ago and last used somewhere around 20-23 years ago. Since then, it's been in the attic. The mattress (which we put a zip-up cover over) is literally disintegrating. But the crib itself is unimaginably unsafe. I helped her put it together (cringing all the while) and there were parts we had to GLUE BACK TOGETHER!!! OMG!!
Then, there's the fact that my MIL convinced my SIL to sleep her child on his belly. I know, there's a whole debate over belly or back. We don't have to get into that here. I'm sorry for bringing it up. But I can't imagine my baby sleeping face down on a matress that's older than me in a crib that's older than me and held together with glue. EEK!
But I can't say anything. She's family. Her boys are all still alive and healthy. I'll say a prayer every time I drop my baby off, and leave it to the Good Lord to ensure his safety.
I said "long story short" didn't I? My bad...
Omg....my head would explode. I struggle with some mild OCD/anxiety and control issues...yeah...I think I'd have a panic attack. You're a better person than me for not saying anything.
I'm exhausted, I don't want to cook. We'll be doing yet another Christmas movie tonight in front of the fire (ummmmm that's been like every night this week). Anyone want to come adult for me?
That depends- Do you have room for 7 1/2 more? What movie are you watching? Will there be hot chocolate? Can we roast marshmallows? If you'll allow the marshmallow roasting I'll cook dinner.
Welp our fireplace has glass over it, so roasting marshmallows might be difficult. Although we could do oven s'mores. But yeah, I'd take it. Maybe Home Alone. Maybe the "new" Miracle on 34th Street.
If we can watch Home Alone I'm in!
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Funny story. During Thanksgiving, I was asked to put my nephew down for a nap. I proceeded to the nursery and nephew and I sat on the rocking chair in the room....which is also older than I am....and I seriously thought we were going to fall on the floor! I was afraid to rock even a little bit....not to mention the terrible noises it made. Does my nephew actually fall asleep listening to that thing?!!
Funny story. During Thanksgiving, I was asked to put my nephew down for a nap. I proceeded to the nursery and nephew and I sat on the rocking chair in the room....which is also older than I am....and I seriously thought we were going to fall on the floor! I was afraid to rock even a little bit....not to mention the terrible noises it made. Does my nephew actually fall asleep listening to that thing?!!
You will be surprised at the "noises" that children can/like to fall asleep to.
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You will be surprised at the "noises" that children can/like to fall asleep to.
OMG! So true! My husband put on this really terrible repetitive "song" that someone on youtube had set to repeat for 30 minutes and announced to me, "he really likes this one". I'm thinking, OMG, he's only 4 months old how could you possible know what he likes, KILL ME NOW!
But seriously, the kid fell asleep like magic and STAYED ASLEEP! We thought he would sleep all day and the parents would be mad at us for letting him nap for more than 4 hours....so we woke him up.
You will be surprised at the "noises" that children can/like to fall asleep to.
OMG! So true! My husband put on this really terrible repetitive "song" that someone on youtube had set to repeat for 30 minutes and announced to me, "he really likes this one". I'm thinking, OMG, he's only 4 months old how could you possible know what he likes, KILL ME NOW!
But seriously, the kid fell asleep like magic and STAYED ASLEEP! We thought he would sleep all day and the parents would be mad at us for letting him nap for more than 4 hours....so we woke him up.
Magic song!
DS1 used to fall asleep to duck calls :-/
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
@jstanton0822 You're not terrible! My ILs are good, but I'd never leave my kids with my folks. Especially not at their house. My mom cares for other folks but doesn't understand why I stress out when they are over at her house sick. And she can't pick up my 34 lb. Toddler because her hands have arthritis or carpal tunnel or something. And my dad's stronger and nicer, but he's kinda nuts. Don't feel bad. Just do what you've got to for safety and sanity.
Re: FFFC Dec 4
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
January siggy challenge - Pregnant lady problems
The crazy thing is that my cousin is a really private person.
You've NEVER "crossed the finish line" during sex? I will say, it took me a long time before I did but now, if I don't, I get pissy and make him finish me off. Every squirrel needs a nut! I agree 1000% that the pregnant orgasm is AMAZING. I just got slightly sad that this is my last turn at the pregnant sex.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Well round of applause to the good husbands then! Mine's pretty awesome too
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Hahahaha well honestly I haven't tried the manual route. My drive is pretty low these days so I haven't really been that upset about it
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I think that helped my youngest also. They're only a year apart so it's some serious "Pete & RePete" around here. Lol. I imagine this one will be pretty much the same since the current youngest and him won't be but a little over a year apart.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I agree with what @cmerribury said earlier - reach a MAJOR milestone? Hell yes share it on Facebook! 6 month or 1 year of BFing - cool, I will (and have) totally throw a "like" of encouragement your way. Post every.single.week/whatever about your successful BFing? Sorry, I will hide you. As @kitteh81 said, there is kind of a time and place. Post somewhere where your content will be appreciated - like the support groups or on a blog or on a forum here, etc.
It's a thankless job because you're literally feeding a child that cannot thank you. Same as providing a roof for your children, but that's not something that I see people "bragging" about on FB. Hopefully a SO/H will be vocal with his thanks though? Perhaps this is insensitive or naïve of me, but I just don't see the point of sharing certain things on SM that are totally "Hey look at how awesome I am!" over and over and over.
ETA: I don't mean to diminish BFing AT ALL - super props to women that can and do, but I get the general impression that parenting overall is a fairly thankless job so I don't know why women would expect breast feeding to be much different.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Welp our fireplace has glass over it, so roasting marshmallows might be difficult. Although we could do oven s'mores. But yeah, I'd take it. Maybe Home Alone. Maybe the "new" Miracle on 34th Street.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
If we can watch Home Alone I'm in!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
You're not terrible! My ILs are good, but I'd never leave my kids with my folks. Especially not at their house. My mom cares for other folks but doesn't understand why I stress out when they are over at her house sick. And she can't pick up my 34 lb. Toddler because her hands have arthritis or carpal tunnel or something. And my dad's stronger and nicer, but he's kinda nuts. Don't feel bad. Just do what you've got to for safety and sanity.