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Vobregon91 · October 2015

Hiiiii,
I have no idea what my body is doing! I was hoping maybe someone had something similar or any insight. I had AF the 15-19 and a weekish later starting the 25 to even today I've had bright red and some brown mucus... And last night/today some cramping.... It only happens when I wipe so it's not AF worthy I guess? But it's almost every time! Any other month isn't like this.
Any thoughts? Thanks ladies.

chanfa · October 2015

Vobregon91 said:

Hiiiii, I have no idea what my body is doing! I was hoping maybe someone had something similar or any insight. I had AF the 15-19 and a weekish later starting the 25 to even today I've had bright red and some brown mucus... And last night/today some cramping.... It only happens when I wipe so it's not AF worthy I guess? But it's almost every time! Any other month isn't like this. Any thoughts? Thanks ladies.

I think you should speak with a doctor about the above. It could be nothing or it could mean something, sorry that might not sound helpful but unfortunately not all of us are doctors.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · October 2015

I'm not really sure what you're looking for or think we can tell you. If you're worried, call your doctor.

Vobregon91 · October 2015

Thanx ladies, not really worried just frustrated. I'm suppose to ovulate this week and it seems the exact opposite.

Kristin712 · October 2015

Sounds like spotting. Spotting can happen any time throughout your cycle. Are you noticing this after a bowel movement? If so, it could be from your other hole.

If you're concerned, call your doctor.

butter bean · October 2015

I have actually had spotting before ovulation so that may very well be it!

Vobregon91 · November 2015

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life.. That I don't know what it means to be a girl and have spotting... And not know what "hole" it's coming from?

I hate how so many ladies approach a post like they are so high and mighty. Like every single post is approaching them like a doc and they are the only person you talk to and wouldn't contact a doctor. Before you comment something dumb to a women's post why don't y'all stop and think maybe it's to hear someone else's experience, and have a convo.

ANYWAYS....

I haven't checked this post in a while.... Been absent from social media for a minute. Turns out it was a very early miscarriage..... SO.... Sorry for the above rant. I know you can't express emotions through text but it irked me. And needs to be said.... I see it on so many post. Some ladies are vicious and don't know when it's enough.

LittleMissTimeLord · November 2015

Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life.. That I don't know what it means to be a girl and have spotting... And not know what "hole" it's coming from? I hate how so many ladies approach a post like they are so high and mighty. Like every single post is approaching them like a doc and they are the only person you talk to and wouldn't contact a doctor. Before you comment something dumb to a women's post why don't y'all stop and think maybe it's to hear someone else's experience, and have a convo. ANYWAYS.... I haven't checked this post in a while.... Been absent from social media for a minute. Turns out it was a very early miscarriage..... SO.... Sorry for the above rant. I know you can't express emotions through text but it irked me. And needs to be said.... I see it on so many post. Some ladies are vicious and don't know when it's enough.

Did I miss something here? People told you to see a doctor and that they can't give you advice. That's. Um... logical?

I'm sorry for your loss but I don't see how your reaction is on par with the responses you received.

ETA more words.

mom2adoodle · November 2015

I wouldn't read into what anyone said or didn't say. They were just trying to be helpful. Don't sweat it and sorry to hear about your loss!

PrimRoseMama · November 2015

Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life.. That I don't know what it means to be a girl and have spotting... And not know what "hole" it's coming from? I hate how so many ladies approach a post like they are so high and mighty. Like every single post is approaching them like a doc and they are the only person you talk to and wouldn't contact a doctor. Before you comment something dumb to a women's post why don't y'all stop and think maybe it's to hear someone else's experience, and have a convo. ANYWAYS.... I haven't checked this post in a while.... Been absent from social media for a minute. Turns out it was a very early miscarriage..... SO.... Sorry for the above rant. I know you can't express emotions through text but it irked me. And needs to be said.... I see it on so many post. Some ladies are vicious and don't know when it's enough.

I say this gently-- it really sounds like you don't know your how your body works at all. Respectfully, your ovulation time is not a static event that happens at the same time every month. You can't predict ovulation. So, that by itself tells me that you need to go back to biology and fertility 101 to learn how your body works. That's not said in a mean spirited way. It can only benefit you to be more educated about your body.

I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm not sure how that actually makes any sense to mention? Its really not at all conducive to building a community to label anything you've had in this post as "vicious". Also, how is it overkill to suggest that you contact your doctor? I think that is very sound and prudent advice. Can you please explain exactly what you found to be the problem with any responses here? I'm honestly curious because I read this and found your response here to be completely out of left field. You've been absent from "social media" for a whole entire month. In Message Board Time that is significant.

So, I respectfully disagree with you. I've found these boards to be incredibly supportive and great at educating others. I think, perhaps, you are being unreasonable in your expectations. Please take a deep breath and try to calm yourself.

Lulucooks · November 2015

I'm very sorry for your loss but it's in terribly rude form to resurrect a very old thread to essentially finger wag at us. The advice you were given was sound, that's all we can offer. Discussing our own unique experiences doesn't help anyone because it's all different for each one of us and what's normal for me could be a concern for you.

Vobregon91 · November 2015

This is rude but yet suggesting idk what "hole" it's coming from isn't? There is no need to "calm" myself lol it's social media. This is what I'm saying, some ladies take this and themselves way to highly. It wasn't the "see a doctor" comment at all that triggered this. But, Thanx for all the input. If y'all don't see the wrong in some things that's fine. But you should it brings women to have to delete post or admin to step in.

Lulucooks · November 2015

Vobregon91 said:
This is rude but yet suggesting idk what "hole" it's coming from isn't? There is no need to "calm" myself lol it's social media. This is what I'm saying, some ladies take this and themselves way to highly. It wasn't the "see a doctor" comment at all that triggered this. But, Thanx for all the input. If y'all don't see the wrong in some things that's fine. But you should it brings women to have to delete post or admin to step in.

How did anything trigger this a month later? You say not to take it seriously, but you came back after a month to fuss at everyone....

chrlyr · November 2015

Something is telling me that there's some misdirected anger here...

Kristin712 · November 2015

Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life.. That I don't know what it means to be a girl and have spotting... And not know what "hole" it's coming from? I hate how so many ladies approach a post like they are so high and mighty. Like every single post is approaching them like a doc and they are the only person you talk to and wouldn't contact a doctor. Before you comment something dumb to a women's post why don't y'all stop and think maybe it's to hear someone else's experience, and have a convo. ANYWAYS.... I haven't checked this post in a while.... Been absent from social media for a minute. Turns out it was a very early miscarriage..... SO.... Sorry for the above rant. I know you can't express emotions through text but it irked me. And needs to be said.... I see it on so many post. Some ladies are vicious and don't know when it's enough.

I'm the gal who made the "hole" comment. My advice was sincere. I was trying to help you sort through your problem that you requested help addressing. Many people tear and have blood after a BM; it's a common thing. Sorry it's still bothering you a month later.

mom2adoodle · November 2015

I concur, there is some displacement here. OP, sorry you're feeling down but really, I don't think anything was said out of malice. I say stick around, lurk and contribute to the board. It's fun, you learn tons and you'll get a better feel for the community.

JournoGrl23 · November 2015

I don't get how the hole comment was bad. I thought the advice from @Kristin712 was good. When I had questions about spotting I had in the past, I looked up a lot of things online and consulted a doctor and they all said to put a tampon in to see if the blood is even coming from your vagina because it could be hemmroids causing blood to come out of your other hole. The type of blood looks the same and can be confusing for women. It's important to figure out where it's coming from because the other kind of spotting requires further investigation from a doctor to make sure it's a benign reason like hemmroids. So I think she gave some good advice.
I'm sorry for your loss though. This is a great board for helping you through a tough time like that. These ladies have helped me and many women cope with loss and TTC.

NovaSaysNo · November 2015

Kristin712 said:

Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life.. That I don't know what it means to be a girl and have spotting... And not know what "hole" it's coming from?

I hate how so many ladies approach a post like they are so high and mighty. Like every single post is approaching them like a doc and they are the only person you talk to and wouldn't contact a doctor. Before you comment something dumb to a women's post why don't y'all stop and think maybe it's to hear someone else's experience, and have a convo.

ANYWAYS....

I haven't checked this post in a while.... Been absent from social media for a minute. Turns out it was a very early miscarriage..... SO.... Sorry for the above rant. I know you can't express emotions through text but it irked me. And needs to be said.... I see it on so many post. Some ladies are vicious and don't know when it's enough.

I'm the gal who made the "hole" comment. My advice was sincere. I was trying to help you sort through your problem that you requested help addressing. Many people tear and have blood after a BM; it's a common thing. Sorry it's still bothering you a month later.

Ummm QBF? Can't tell, on mobile.

This actually does happen more often than you would think. @Kristin712 was just giving an honest opinion. We don't know how well you know your body, so we give advice based on what it could be.
I am sorry for your loss.

Edited bc quote box and spelling.

PrimRoseMama · November 2015

Vobregon91 said:

This is rude but yet suggesting idk what "hole" it's coming from isn't? There is no need to "calm" myself lol it's social media. This is what I'm saying, some ladies take this and themselves way to highly. It wasn't the "see a doctor" comment at all that triggered this. But, Thanx for all the input. If y'all don't see the wrong in some things that's fine. But you should it brings women to have to delete post or admin to step in.

To me, the clarification of which orifice (hole) is actually pretty valid. Some women can have bleeding from the anus, or a UTI/bladder infection can cause bleeding when you urinate. If you've been backed up you can have some bleeding associated with passing stool. Medically-- its a good idea to ask which area the bleeding is coming from or any other excretion. So, I'm not following you on how that part was rude. It wasn't done to make you feel stupid. Often, its a legitimate questions. When/if you become pregnant the whole "where is this coming from?" question will be a regular thing usually. Its not rude to ask. I think you are just being sensitive because you didn't get the responses that you wanted. So, in turn you are taking your frustrations out on us here in this post.

I say "calm yourself" because only someone in a profoundly emotional state would take the time and energy to finger-wag and tell us off using a message board. The average, emotionally stable person would simply take it in stride and not throw a hissy fit. Its ok to be upset about your miscarriage. Its ok to be upset that you didn't get the answers you wanted from us originally. However, our responses are incredibly limited (with regards to your previous question). That doesn't make them rude. It makes them real. I'm sorry for your loss and that you are feeling so poorly that you have to take your anger out on internet strangers that were trying to help you.

Vobregon91 · December 2015

LOL ok thaaaaanx

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · December 2015

Vobregon91 said:

LOL ok thaaaaanx

I'm a little confused who this is directed at (the quote box or tagging can really help eliminate confusion, BTW) but I certainly hope it wasn't to Prim. She is a valued and supportive member of the community and everything she said was spot on. The question asked about where the spotting might be coming from was a valid one.

I too am sincerely sorry for your loss, but like others have said, am not sure I see the value in resurrecting a thread that's more than a month old just to lash out at the community who did their best to help you going off of limited information. Perhaps it's time to just walk away now.

Vobregon91 · December 2015

Yes actually it was

[Deleted User] · December 2015

I'm a little confused... when everyone responded for you to see a doctor you got annoyed... even though it turned out to be a MC which means you probably ended up seeing a doctor. And then when people give you advice of what it could potentially be rather than just telling you to see a doctor you get annoyed again.

OP what specifically were you looking for... if not just a fight?

Umbr+ella · December 2015

I'm probably gonna get reported for this but I don't care

housewifehobbyist · December 2015

antoto said:

I'm a little confused... when everyone responded for you to see a doctor you got annoyed... even though it turned out to be a MC which means you probably ended up seeing a doctor. And then when people give you advice of what it could potentially be rather than just telling you to see a doctor you get annoyed again.

OP what specifically were you looking for... if not just a fight?

tripledaggerWed95976 · December 2015

Vobregon91 said:
LOL ok thaaaaanx

Vobregon91 said:
Yes actually it was

cant tell if you're now just stirring the pot or if you have a serious case of misplaced anger. Either way, these immature comments are totally working against you and whatever point you think you're making.

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TheTamedShrew · December 2015

Vobregon91 said:

Hiiiii, I have no idea what my body is doing!

Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life..

NovaSaysNo · December 2015

@TheTamedShrew, baahahahhahhahahaha. I feel like you've cracked some code.

[Deleted User] · December 2015

TheTamedShrew said:

Vobregon91 said:

Hiiiii, I have no idea what my body is doing!
Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life..

You win today. All of it.

shaami1986 · December 2015

the office nailed it nbc office andy

Lulucooks · December 2015

TheTamedShrew said:

Vobregon91 said:

Hiiiii,
I have no idea what my body is doing!

Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life..

Come on guise! It's been a month, obviously OP has grown a whole lot in that time and now tots knows her body.

chrlyr · December 2015

TheTamedShrew said:

Vobregon91 said:

Hiiiii, I have no idea what my body is doing!
Vobregon91 said:

WELL! I will ignore the gal talking to me like I don't know my body that I've had my whole life..

PrimRoseMama · December 2015

Troll fail?

Vobregon91 · December 2015

Lol it's not a fail obviously you've spent plent of time behind the keyboard typing and looking for clips.

[Deleted User] · December 2015

Vobregon91 said:

Lol it's not a fail obviously you've spent plent of time behind the keyboard typing and looking for clips.

So you're admitting that you were just trying to troll? You're just like... this mom that sits at home trolling people online?

Niiiiiiice.

Vobregon91 · December 2015

Can you read? Haha y'all are cute. It says I don't know what my body is doing. Nooooot idk my body. I feel like I should be concerned that you guys can't tell what spot you have your periods from?

Vobregon91 · December 2015

First y'all complain a month is too long to come back but now your upset I'm "trolling all day". Please pick one.

[Deleted User] · December 2015

Vobregon91 said:

Can you read? Haha y'all are cute. It says I don't know what my body is doing. Nooooot idk my body. I feel like I should be concerned that you guys can't tell what spot you have your periods from?

Are you still trolling us? I actually can't tell.

Vobregon91 · December 2015

But yes, basically trolling. This is my post LOL. And it's entertaining how dramatic y'all are pointing fingers, whining and getting all fired up.

momstahp · December 2015

ELF GIF PARTAAAAYYYY

Lulucooks · December 2015

Vobregon91 said:
But yes, basically trolling. This is my post LOL. And it's entertaining how dramatic y'all are pointing fingers, whining and getting all fired up.

Promise you no one's "fired up". This is child's play.

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