my lo is 9, almost 10m, old. And I can't stand my husband. I don't know why but he gets under my skin and says and does things with our son that I either love or hate. Example: our son was super cranky tonight and he felt warm. I said I want to take his temp before his bath. So I'm taking his temp & he starts fighting and pulling away from me and my husband says why does it matter to know if he's got a temp or not? What's it going to matter, I don't think he has one. I snapped back and said I know you're a doctor and all but I want to be sure.
I wake up every morning with the intent to be more attentive to my husband and try and make love at the end of the day but it NEVER fails that he does something that pisses me off that I don't even want to look at him let alone get naked with him. I see all these families with 2 or more kids and the moms & dads look in love and like they at least like each other. I'm wondering when my love will come back. Idk if this is PPD or sleep deprivation or bc I'm breastfeeding or a combo of all but I'm starting to lose it. I want to like/love my husband again. Anyone have any advice? And yes I am the one who entertains/plays with our son every night after my 40hr/wk job and every weekend (husband does the cooking).
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Re: Hating On husband
I find it difficult to not get annoyed with my DH all the time. Being pregnant again has definitely not helped our sex life. We try to go out on a date night at least once a month but that doesn't always happen. I am a stay at home mother so o take care of our child and the house. He brings home the money so I try not to get annoyed with hi for not helping or just wanting to sit and numb his brain with the TV. I think for me my DH is not my issue. My sister has been living at my house for the last almost 2 years and she is probably what has been causing stress for my marriage. I thought I was doing her a favor by getting her out of her situation, get her back on her feet. She ha improved a lot but is still freeloading and barely does anything to help around the house. With this second child on the way we told her she has until the new one is 6 weeks of to find a new place or we'd buy her a ticket and send her back to ca. I've been counting down the days until it's just my happy little family like it should be. 5 months ...!
On another note I have a hovering helicopter parenting style. I constantly hover and caught myself doing this to DH. Once I backed off and let him do his thing everything changed. It's like a light bulb clicked on and our relationship improved.