As someone who is a FTM, now mastered the search function, not a bitchy housewife and is sick as all get out like can barely function at work these posts make me cry! Cool you have no symptoms would you like a cookie or handshake? How about I tell you how I had to vomit outside a gas station because you know MS is an unpredictable MOFO. So if we come across as crabby it's because we are tired of having people with "no symptoms " rubbed in our sick exhausted feeling awful faces!
As someone who is a FTM, now mastered the search function, not a bitchy housewife and is sick as all get out like can barely function at work these posts make me cry! Cool you have no symptoms would you like a cookie or handshake? How about I tell you how I had to vomit outside a gas station because you know MS is an unpredictable MOFO. So if we come across as crabby it's because we are tired of having people with "no symptoms " rubbed in our sick exhausted feeling awful faces!
But at the same time all these "I feel so miserable" posts don't have an affect on us "no symptom" folk? Uhm no. I have cried plenty because everyone else has the reassuring symptoms I dont. I feel like shit I dont feel like shit. We are all preggo, and we all chose to join this board, we could stand to see another side to things. I am living with my good friend right now who got pregnant at the drop of a hat with her 2nd while I struggled with fertility meds for a long time for my 1st. She has every symptom in the world and does nothing but complain, I have none. That terrifies me something is wrong, so does it mean I don't feel bad for her? No!
BTW. I too know how to use a search function. Cookie, handshake?
I am not trying to make anyone mad or be an asshole but we are ALL a little right and ALL a little wrong here. We are ALL cranky and we are ALL wanting support.
This thread with negativity is utterly ridiculous coming from a group a women who should be supporting one another. We should not be judging another by what "we" would have our have done. There are all different types of women in this group, with different backgrounds and DIFFERENT worries. Like the young lady, I don't get any nausea or morning sickness. I wish I did because in a crazy way it would ease my mind about my pregnancy. I've had two miscarriages both without any symptoms. So dont judge somone else's story because it doesn't fit yours. I joined because I wanted support from other going through the same thing as I and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Like the old saying, If you can't be positive please be quiet. If you thought someone should use the search button message them and explain to them where to find it. Me personally, I can't locate the search feature. Also, it's completely crazy to judge what someone else does by your standards! Stop it! Support one another! Keep it cute it keep it on mute!
As someone who is a FTM, now mastered the search function, not a bitchy housewife and is sick as all get out like can barely function at work these posts make me cry! Cool you have no symptoms would you like a cookie or handshake? How about I tell you how I had to vomit outside a gas station because you know MS is an unpredictable MOFO. So if we come across as crabby it's because we are tired of having people with "no symptoms " rubbed in our sick exhausted feeling awful faces!
This is pot stiring. And let me know when you when you want this ftm, to start rubbing having my no symptoms in your face, I'm available quite often. Don't bash some woman because they're nervous they're not riding the morning sickness train like you are. It is stressful. Would you like a cracker or some ginger ale instead of the cookie because that might help how you're feeling right now(did that sound super passive aggressive and rude because that's how the do you want a cookie statement sounds when you say that).The point of this was not to attack the people with or with out symptoms. The point was that there is literally the same topic 3 posts down and no need to create a new thread on the exact same thing. Read first then be snarky for a purpose.
And to the other ladies that are ftm and don't have ms or really anything else noticeable going on I started our own thread to get your stress out. Please look for that before creating a thread on the exact same thing.
As someone who is a FTM, now mastered the search function, not a bitchy housewife and is sick as all get out like can barely function at work these posts make me cry! Cool you have no symptoms would you like a cookie or handshake? How about I tell you how I had to vomit outside a gas station because you know MS is an unpredictable MOFO. So if we come across as crabby it's because we are tired of having people with "no symptoms " rubbed in our sick exhausted feeling awful faces!
This is pot stiring. And let me know when you when you want this ftm, to start rubbing having my no symptoms in your face, I'm available quite often. Don't bash some woman because they're nervous they're not riding the morning sickness train like you are. It is stressful. Would you like a cracker or some ginger ale instead of the cookie because that might help how you're feeling right now(did that sound super passive aggressive and rude because that's how the do you want a cookie statement sounds when you say that).The point of this was not to attack the people with or with out symptoms. The point was that there is literally the same topic 3 posts down and no need to create a new thread on the exact same thing. Read first then be snarky for a purpose.
And to the other ladies that are ftm and don't have ms or really anything else noticeable going on I started our own thread to get your stress out. Please look for that before creating a thread on the exact same thing.
Hey your right I would love some ginger ale and crackers I don't have any out here right now and it could help but no cookies for me I was bitchy Last night. I was super sick and then coming across three of the exact same no sickness posts was so frustrating I just lost it. @ninji15 my comment about the search was more geared towards OP when there are numerous threads on this same topic from yesterday. I understand the need to commiserate with your like bumpies with symptoms or no symptoms. So I think the thread for the woman without ms is great but we don't need 3-4 separate ones each day for either side. As I said hormones and sickness got the better of me last night and I apologize.
This thread with negativity is utterly ridiculous coming from a group a women who should be supporting one another. We should not be judging another by what "we" would have our have done. There are all different types of women in this group, with different backgrounds and DIFFERENT worries. Like the young lady, I don't get any nausea or morning sickness. I wish I did because in a crazy way it would ease my mind about my pregnancy. I've had two miscarriages both without any symptoms. So dont judge somone else's story because it doesn't fit yours. I joined because I wanted support from other going through the same thing as I and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Like the old saying, If you can't be positive please be quiet. If you thought someone should use the search button message them and explain to them where to find it. Me personally, I can't locate the search feature. Also, it's completely crazy to judge what someone else does by your standards! Stop it! Support one another! Keep it cute it keep it on mute!
Don't judge she says in a super judgy way...
I refer to my previous statement: you do you. Be the change you wish to see. One cannot dictate the responses on a public forum, so if one feels the need to not be positive, They can.
This thread with negativity is utterly ridiculous coming from a group a women who should be supporting one another. We should not be judging another by what "we" would have our have done. There are all different types of women in this group, with different backgrounds and DIFFERENT worries. Like the young lady, I don't get any nausea or morning sickness. I wish I did because in a crazy way it would ease my mind about my pregnancy. I've had two miscarriages both without any symptoms. So dont judge somone else's story because it doesn't fit yours. I joined because I wanted support from other going through the same thing as I and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Like the old saying, If you can't be positive please be quiet. If you thought someone should use the search button message them and explain to them where to find it. Me personally, I can't locate the search feature. Also, it's completely crazy to judge what someone else does by your standards! Stop it! Support one another! Keep it cute it keep it on mute!
But support does not always equal responding to every thread like it's the first time it's been said. Sometimes it means giving factual information, like "hey use the search feature" or "check out the 2 other threads about this exact same topic with tons of helpful information and support that are one the first page so you don't even have to search!". Plus, how does it make sense to have 5 threads about the EXACT same thing. Wouldn't it make more sense to have 1 thread about it where everyone could get support and information? Frankly I think it's rude for someone to feel like their issue is more important than the person who started a thread before them. It says either you didn't take the time to look around and give someone else support who is feeling the same way OR your issues are so much more important than that person so you need your very own thread.
With my first pregnancy it hit me like a brick wall at 10w. Since I was so close to my 2nd tri I thought I wouldn't have any morning sickness, but it stuck around til the day my kid was born!
Wow ladies. I just want to say thank you. Thanks for the terribly cold & incredibly rude welcome into this group. I'm a FTM & I found out 5 days ago I was expecting... I downloaded this app & asked a question in a forum I was completely unfamiliar with, in the hopes of being reassured by other moms. Instead I was met with rudeness & attitudes I want nothing to do with. May God strike me down for not utilizing the "all mighty" search tool I wasn't aware even existed. I never intended this simple & honest question to piss anyone off. Nor was I "bragging" about not being sick. For those of you who were polite & answered. . . Thank you. Thank you for understanding that not having symptoms is also frightening. For those of you who were catty, came into it wanting to argue & ruined this experience for me. . . Thanks. Your not people I want to be associated with anyway. Wishing you all healthy pregnancies... morning sickness or not.
Wow ladies. I just want to say thank you. Thanks for the terribly cold & incredibly rude welcome into this group. I'm a FTM & I found out 5 days ago I was expecting... I downloaded this app & asked a question in a forum I was completely unfamiliar with, in the hopes of being reassured by other moms. Instead I was met with rudeness & attitudes I want nothing to do with. May God strike me down for not utilizing the "all mighty" search tool I wasn't aware even existed. I never intended this simple & honest question to piss anyone off. Nor was I "bragging" about not being sick. For those of you who were polite & answered. . . Thank you. Thank you for understanding that not having symptoms is also frightening. For those of you who were catty, came into it wanting to argue & ruined this experience for me. . . Thanks. Your not people I want to be associated with anyway. Wishing you all healthy pregnancies... morning sickness or not.
This post was not direct at you per say, but at the several multiple posts about the same thing, that is post every single day.
This is not being catty, or rude. It is being honest. As said before, every forum has its own culture and tone. The bump is sarcastic and blunt. That is how it is, how it was and hopefully how it will continue to be. I have been on other forums and I felt 'wow, I don't belong here. This is NOT what I am looking for'. So instead of bitching about it, trying to change things and what not, I left in search of a community that fit my needs.
There is NO WHERE in the TOU that said that this forum is here to support and to give a loving and comforting environment to all women, just because we happened to be knocked up at the same time. Would you go up to a random stranger and say 'omg, we are bist pregnant, that means we are BFF'. No, why... because that is crazy. The point of this board is for TB, and it's mother company XO, to make money. The point of us being here is because we want to.
My job is not to stroke your hair and cuddle you and sing camp fire songs. I don't do that in real life to my loved one, nor will I do it here.
BrookyInn30: Yeah, there are a lot of self-righteous bitches on The Bump, try downloading the What to Expect app, they seem a lot more supportive over there. I remember when I was planning my wedding I was a little turned off by some of the attitudes on The Knot, which is a sister site to The Bump, so there's apparently a subculture of mean girls. Of course there are tons of funny, supportive, sarcastic ladies on here too who aren't rude. Good luck to you and I wish you, and everyone here, a healthy, happy pregnancy!
Re: ZERO Morning Sickness
BTW. I too know how to use a search function. Cookie, handshake?
I am not trying to make anyone mad or be an asshole but we are ALL a little right and ALL a little wrong here. We are ALL cranky and we are ALL wanting support.
And to the other ladies that are ftm and don't have ms or really anything else noticeable going on I started our own thread to get your stress out. Please look for that before creating a thread on the exact same thing.
Married: May 16th 2015
@ninji15 my comment about the search was more geared towards OP when there are numerous threads on this same topic from yesterday. I understand the need to commiserate with your like bumpies with symptoms or no symptoms. So I think the thread for the woman without ms is great but we don't need 3-4 separate ones each day for either side. As I said hormones and sickness got the better of me last night and I apologize.
I refer to my previous statement: you do you. Be the change you wish to see. One cannot dictate the responses on a public forum, so if one feels the need to not be positive, They can.
But support does not always equal responding to every thread like it's the first time it's been said. Sometimes it means giving factual information, like "hey use the search feature" or "check out the 2 other threads about this exact same topic with tons of helpful information and support that are one the first page so you don't even have to search!". Plus, how does it make sense to have 5 threads about the EXACT same thing. Wouldn't it make more sense to have 1 thread about it where everyone could get support and information? Frankly I think it's rude for someone to feel like their issue is more important than the person who started a thread before them. It says either you didn't take the time to look around and give someone else support who is feeling the same way OR your issues are so much more important than that person so you need your very own thread.
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 since September 2015
Wishing you all healthy pregnancies... morning sickness or not.
This is not being catty, or rude. It is being honest. As said before, every forum has its own culture and tone. The bump is sarcastic and blunt. That is how it is, how it was and hopefully how it will continue to be.
I have been on other forums and I felt 'wow, I don't belong here. This is NOT what I am looking for'. So instead of bitching about it, trying to change things and what not, I left in search of a community that fit my needs.
There is NO WHERE in the TOU that said that this forum is here to support and to give a loving and comforting environment to all women, just because we happened to be knocked up at the same time. Would you go up to a random stranger and say 'omg, we are bist pregnant, that means we are BFF'. No, why... because that is crazy.
The point of this board is for TB, and it's mother company XO, to make money. The point of us being here is because we want to.
My job is not to stroke your hair and cuddle you and sing camp fire songs. I don't do that in real life to my loved one, nor will I do it here.
Married: May 16th 2015