This is so me too!!! I have really vivid sex dreams too and often (like a few times a week). It drives me crazy because clearly I'm horny in my dreams, but not in real life when I wish I was! My poor hubby! :-(
Been having the sexy dreams, too, which leave me wanting it badly in the morning. My DH would love it but he leaves for work about an hour before I get up
Just hit 2nd trimester and starting to get my sex drive back. We have a 14 month old and it's hard to find time when he works all day and the toddler is wanting to play when he gets home. Just made a plan to do it right after we put her to bed so that I'm not too tired and we can still have it most every day. Just may need to find different positions as I grow!
I want to have sex, but I'm scared to bleed or, for whatever reason, cause some sort of harm to the baby. I'm a FTM so I'm paranoid about everything...
I want to have sex, but I'm scared to bleed or, for whatever reason, cause some sort of harm to the baby. I'm a FTM so I'm paranoid about everything...
I experienced minor spotting after sex, but I've noticed if the sex is "gentle" versus "hard" then it's not a problem. Lol. Hopefully that makes sense.
Don't worry about hurting baby. Your cervix is a physical barrier between his penis and baby. You may even explain that sex can feel better. Personally, I find I don't need as much foreplay to get going.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
I'm with you @susiec923. I panicked this week after sex, when it felt like my husband "hit" something and it actually really hurt for a minute. I *knew* in my head he can't be hitting he baby, and it felt fine after a moment so we continued! Later on I had bleeding, cue the panic for both of us!!!
Luckily the next day we had an ultrasound scheduled. Baby was FINE but we brought up The incident to my OB. She assured us nothing was wrong, and I could almost swear she wants trying to fight back laughter...!!
I actually had some pain for a couple days from a bruised cervix since it was sitting so low. Ouch! Nothing to worry about as far as the baby though!
Anyway, she said a tiny bit of bleeding after sex is normal... Just to change positions to something more comfortable next time!!
@malgal85, @meggyme, & @laurendiaz02 Thank you!!!! Definitely makes me feel a little better about it. Now to try & put my thoughts in check so it doesn't get in the way of fun time
I can't lie, I didn't exactly have the highest sex drive BEFORE I got knocked up ha.... So I'm just over here hoping my 2nd trimester brings me a NEW sex drive, not necessarily getting my old one back.
I had a really high sex drive before pregnancy. Thought for sure that would change after pregnancy. Nope. Not so much. Now I'm a crazed sex monster. I want it every day, all the time. And it scares and frightens my DH. I believes he prays this will soon pass.
I've never liked being on top - it just didn't feel that great to me. I prefer doggy style on all fours with DH behind. That's my fave. Plus my belly can hang and just be free. Missionary isn't so bad and laying on our sides works well until someones arm falls asleep or the hips cramp.
If you are interested in some new positions, go to Youtube.com and type in "Sex Education - Kama Sutra". (Caution: Explicit i.e. nude but perfect bodies writhing and gyrating although no genitalia shown.) Some of these positions are downright laughable but some I think I'm going to try at home! (Especially the facing each other, my legs over his shoulders one. Yippee!) There's no way I'm going to pass up these amazing pregnancy orgasms until mid next year - no thank you! Even considering a "Liberator" pillow on Amazon. This IS supposed to be fun!
We couldnt do until after like week 12 or 13 or so because i was still on the progesterone and they told us it would be bad for him to be exposed to it. But we've done it a few times since and its been completely random, one time was better than normal, so i was all excited that 2ndtri was going to be really good, but then another time after that was super eh. To be fair i barely had a sex drive ever in my whole life, so i mean i cant expect too much.
ugh, I feel like the only one who has an insane sex drive, but a husband who isn't interested in doing anything about it! I'm literally ready to go all the time, but he just seems so uninterested in it and I'm not sure why. He said he's not really freaked out by the baby too terribly much, he's just not in the mood. I've always had a more active sex drive than him, but the gap seems worse now, and it's starting to really get to me since I'm not very confident with the weight gain, oily skin, and all the other 'fabulous' pregnancy side affects.
@edeibel89 Hang in there. He may be more worried about the baby than he realizes and it may be affecting his mood. I am sure you are as beautiful as ever and that is not what is affecting his mood. You may have to fly solo for awhile. Actually, that might help his mood.
I'm very confused by my husbands sex drive honestly. I'm bigger than I've ever been by far, my face looks like a pizza threw up all over it because of all the pregnancy acne and I've had no sex drive. That being said, my husband is even more so turned on by me and the growing bump. I hate that I haven't wanted to do it much. Im not sure if it's an awkwardness thing for me or what. I feel "full" in my lower abdomen at all times which almost makes sex hurt in most positions, tbh. Ugh. I'm hoping this changes soon.
QUESTION: Sorry if TMI, but wondering if anyone else is um, more dry? This is normally never a problem for me, but now I find we are needing some help in that department from KY... I don't remember this from my previous pregnancies, but since it's been 9 years, I suppose I could have forgotten or perhaps my body's just changed. Anyway, hoping this is just transient hormones & not permanent! Anyone else?
@edeibel89 I can totally relate! I think I've always had a bit of a higher sex drive than him to begin with, but now it seems like the gap is even bigger... Especially since half the time I don't even feel like sex lately! I think it must be a bit about the baby, and worry that they will somehow shake the baby lose or harm them. I hate to tell the guys, it would take a LOT for that to happen!!! hang in there! Xo
QUESTION: Sorry if TMI, but wondering if anyone else is um, more dry? This is normally never a problem for me, but now I find we are needing some help in that department from KY... I don't remember this from my previous pregnancies, but since it's been 9 years, I suppose I could have forgotten or perhaps my body's just changed. Anyway, hoping this is just transient hormones & not permanent! Anyone else?
@Rosehip15 totally my issue! I haven't used any KY help so I'll be irritated for days after to the point I got checked for infection just in case! It's weird cuz the issue comes and goes. So I feel your pain!! Doc said I'm fine, just gotta use the extra help due to the hormones and it's not uncommon.
Anyone have bleeding with sex? I had sex last Monday and Saturday was in the ER with heavy bleeding. ER doc said it could be related to sex but my OB said it could have been pretty much anything. I'm pretty freaked out to do anything now.
I'll be 16 weeks tomorrow and I finally got the ok to have sex. Woohoo! It's been 3 months! The doctors kept telling us no, because I miscarried last time during sex, even though that is not what caused it.
37 y/o Married 9/1/13 Off OCP 3/1/14 TTC 6/1/14 DX Endometriosis in 2002 Laparoscopy 2002 and 2007 HSG 8/2014, right tube partially blocked 1st BFP 1/5/15 EDD 9/12/15- miscarried 1/8/15
I love pregnant sex! Orgasms are easy to get and super plentiful. And as an added bonus, the boyfriend is really enjoying the way my body is changing and making everything a little tighter. I wish I were pregnant all the time just for the sex! Haha.
QUESTION: Sorry if TMI, but wondering if anyone else is um, more dry? This is normally never a problem for me, but now I find we are needing some help in that department from KY... I don't remember this from my previous pregnancies, but since it's been 9 years, I suppose I could have forgotten or perhaps my body's just changed. Anyway, hoping this is just transient hormones & not permanent! Anyone else?
Yes I'm super dry. I told DH if he wants more he has to guy buy some KY . I don't usually have a problem with it.
@cqhof I'm right there with you! DH and I had sex three times in less than 24 hours the other day. We've been keeping up with once a day since the beginning of this pregnancy which is more sex than when we were TTC. DH actually said "I'm keeping you pregnant for the next 10 years". Now that's a scary thought!
We have done it three times in the last 48 hours. Any stupid thing can make me turned on right now! Pretty fun stuff lol. Normal though is three or four times a week. With my daughter sometimes I was jumping him two or three times a day! It was insane to say the least.
I don't know what is wrong with me but I haven't been able to even get interested more than once...in the last 3 months. I hope, at least for DH sake that things change soon!
I love my husband more than anything. And even though I have zero desire for sex, I try anyway because I want to satisfy his needs. But I just feel like crap. When we have sex I feel zero mental/emotional connection. I literally just go through the physical motions until he finishes and I can go to sleep.
And it's not that I don't want sex at all, but sometimes it's easier to just "do it myself" so to speak because I can do what I want how I want without worrying about him and then I can just go to sleep. And I feel like a terrible lover and wife and person. And just... Ugh.
@ashleyrobertson0113 That makes me really sad. My DH would be so upset with me if I forced myself into it but wasn't feeling connected. I always think it's worth trying to get excited with him but if it doesn't work you shouldn't force yourself. I'm sure DH loves you so much and would be sad to hear that you're guilting yourself over this!
On another note, sometimes my DH finishes first and thinks it's hot when I finish myself. Usually a little shy and under covers but he's awesome about it. Perhaps you could combine the two? Quickie with him/for him but a finish for you? Good luck! Talk to him ab it!
@lynnernon - I think he knows already. I'm not my normal horndog self so it's very obvious somethings not quite right. And I've told him already how guilty I feel about not having sex regularly and letting my other wifely responsibilities slip (housework and cooking etc).
And normally I totally would finish myself and let him watch or help. But lately it's like once he's done I don't even want that. I'm like okay great now let me go to bed.
And it isn't that I don't want sex. I just always want it at like 10am when he's at work. And by the time he's home from work and done with dinner and grading papers (he's a teacher) and ready to come to bed I'm exhausted and cranky and just want to sleep.
Re: An actual sex thread
This is my life.....and the dreams are really vivid too hahaha
Luckily the next day we had an ultrasound scheduled. Baby was FINE but we brought up
The incident to my OB. She assured us nothing was wrong, and I could almost swear she wants trying to fight back laughter...!!
I actually had some pain for a couple days from a bruised cervix since it was sitting so low. Ouch! Nothing to worry about as far as the baby though!
Anyway, she said a tiny bit of bleeding after sex is normal... Just to change positions to something more comfortable next time!!
I've never liked being on top - it just didn't feel that great to me. I prefer doggy style on all fours with DH behind. That's my fave. Plus my belly can hang and just be free. Missionary isn't so bad and laying on our sides works well until someones arm falls asleep or the hips cramp.
If you are interested in some new positions, go to Youtube.com and type in "Sex Education - Kama Sutra". (Caution: Explicit i.e. nude but perfect bodies writhing and gyrating although no genitalia shown.) Some of these positions are downright laughable but some I think I'm going to try at home! (Especially the facing each other, my legs over his shoulders one. Yippee!) There's no way I'm going to pass up these amazing pregnancy orgasms until mid next year - no thank you! Even considering a "Liberator" pillow on Amazon. This IS supposed to be fun!
EDD: 06/25/2006 M/C: 11/03/2005
EDD: 04/08/2012 M/C: 09/03/2011
EDD: 12/27/2012 Born Sleeping: 07/19/2012
EDD: 12/07/2013 M/C 05/30/2013 & 05/31/2013
EDD: 07/01/2016 Born sleeping: 03/02/2016
Sorry if TMI, but wondering if anyone else is um, more dry? This is normally never a problem for me, but now I find we are needing some help in that department from KY...
I don't remember this from my previous pregnancies, but since it's been 9 years, I suppose I could have forgotten or perhaps my body's just changed. Anyway, hoping this is just transient hormones & not permanent! Anyone else?
(Baby and I are both fine)
Married 9/1/13
Off OCP 3/1/14
TTC 6/1/14
DX Endometriosis in 2002
Laparoscopy 2002 and 2007
HSG 8/2014, right tube partially blocked
1st BFP 1/5/15 EDD 9/12/15- miscarried 1/8/15
BFP 8/4/16 EDD 3/2/18- trisomy 18 girl- no heartbeat 8/25/17 at 13 weeks d&c 8/28/17
BFP 12/4/17 EDD 8/19/18
I love my husband more than anything. And even though I have zero desire for sex, I try anyway because I want to satisfy his needs. But I just feel like crap. When we have sex I feel zero mental/emotional connection. I literally just go through the physical motions until he finishes and I can go to sleep.
And it's not that I don't want sex at all, but sometimes it's easier to just "do it myself" so to speak because I can do what I want how I want without worrying about him and then I can just go to sleep. And I feel like a terrible lover and wife and person. And just... Ugh.
(Rant over)
On another note, sometimes my DH finishes first and thinks it's hot when I finish myself. Usually a little shy and under covers but he's awesome about it. Perhaps you could combine the two? Quickie with him/for him but a finish for you?
And normally I totally would finish myself and let him watch or help. But lately it's like once he's done I don't even want that. I'm like okay great now let me go to bed.
And it isn't that I don't want sex. I just always want it at like 10am when he's at work. And by the time he's home from work and done with dinner and grading papers (he's a teacher) and ready to come to bed I'm exhausted and cranky and just want to sleep.