I changed jobs in August and reeeeeeeally debated over it before doing so. I had multiple discussions with the boss I was leaving and the one I was going to work for about all the details of my employment, time off, vacation, pay, potentially having a baby, etc. The new boss made every promise, even said they'd give me the week of vacation I earned with the old boss before the end of this year, and of course if I were to have a baby it would be no problem at all, "we're a family business" they said. As soon as I let them know I'm pregnant (which happened only 6 weeks later, much sooner than expected, so I can understand they were hoping I didn't mean right away when I asked about potentially having a baby), everything went to hell in a hand basket. No vacation. Time off was such a concern that I was taken off salary and put on hourly pay and using a time clock for the first time in my career since I was 18. And comments like "I just don't know how we are going to work it out when you have to take time off for your situation." SITUATION. I'm hyper aware that I might be hormonal, sensitive, paranoid even, given my SITUATION. But I'm so hurt and feel so betrayed by these people that were just three months ago begging me to work for them. And I feel stuck. Now that I am pregnant, it would be practically impossible to get a new job elsewhere. I'm good at what I do, really, but even I would hesitate to hire someone knowing they will have to be out for at least one extended period of time. Utterly frustrated and disappointed...
Ugh. I am in a similar "family business" situation. There's literally 5 of us in the entire office. My boss is acting fine with my pregnancy now, but I am genuinely terrified for when we start to discuss my time off after the baby is born. He's already been kind of passive aggressive ("well you better hope so and so can come in while you're out") about my appointments even though I try my best to make them when I'm off or early in the morning so I'm only an hour or so late coming in but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. And him and his wife have already made comments like, "so how many of these kids are you planning on having?" like it's their business.
So, we'll see.
It's definitely irritating. But I hope everything works out for you!
Omg @MsBeachNJ, I'd be furious as well, that's just awful! Please, find a new friend.
My bitchfest - Thanksgiving. DH accepted his parents' invitation, without asking me, assuming I'd be cool with it. I'm not. First off, driving from San Diego to LA on any given day is terrible; on Thanksgiving it can turn into a 5 hour ordeal. Plus, we have to pick up my grandma on the way, which is not on the way at all. Being that I have to pee every half hour I'm basically going to have to dehydrate myself in order to make it up there without an accident. Also, DH's family is from England and mostly vegan so have no idea that bland sides made up primarily of kale, beans and lettuce are not the norm. (Or they do and don't care.) Also, DH's brother's wife will be there and for some reason unbeknownst to us, she has hated me since before she ever met me and cut all ties to DH a couple months after we started dating a few years back (e.g., uninvited to nieces' birthday parties, no xmas cards, defriended him on FB). DH's brother can't even tell us why. She actively avoids us like the plague. It's the stupidest, most baffling thing, and his parents are completely unaware. And I might not be able to hold my tongue this year. Actually, I'm kind of hoping I can't. Truthfully - I'm already thinking up ways to turn the conversation so I can slip in a quick "I don't know, for some reason she refuses make eye contact with us, let alone speak." (Also accepting other snarky remark ideas. ).
End rant.
On the plus side, it will be impossible to overeat (wait, is that a plus?) and my SIL will be in town and she's the best!
We told my in laws this weekend that I'm pregnant. We specifically asked that they not tell anyone. Then again when we left from staying for the weekend, we said to remember that it was still a secret. Later in the evening we got texts from 2 different extended family members congratulating us. Just frustrated because we feel like it is our news to share and not theirs.
Ugh! That would make me sooooo pissed. My mom did something similar with my 1st pregnancy, but having it be your MIL makes it worse to me for some reason.
Also, my bitchfest:
This is going to sound really vain, and it totally is, so here we go: I hate being at this stage in pregnancy where people can't tell if you're fat or just pregnant. I kinda wish I could wear a sign that said. "It's a baby, not a beer gut".
Pretty sure my dog has an ear infection...he's a beagle with big floppy ears that trap any moisture that happens to get into them so he's quite prone to them but its been almost a year since his last one and I thought we were finally on a good cleaning routine to keep them dry and bacteria/yeast free. I don't mind administering the drops but we ran out of them during his last infection and I really don't want to buy them again because they're expensive but I need to get the infection under control now so it doesn't get super nasty.
Squeeeee you have a beagle?! I love beagles so much. DH and I rescued one together at the beginning of our relationship and he was the greatest. He had floppy ears, too, and a whole host of health problems, unfortunately--epilepsy, thyroid issues, eventually lymphoma. But he lived a great life with us until he passed away and we definitely would love to get another someday. Oh, and I remember the struggle to keep those ears healthy.
Yeah! He was a failed hunting dog that ended up in a rural shelter and then was transported to a local rescue. He came in with yeast all over, including his ears and it took 2 weeks of ear drops to get rid of the insane amount of yeast he had in there. It came back twice before we got a good routine and I'm thinking it's making a resurgence again. He's been healthy otherwise other than a pollen allergy (yes, pollen allergy in a dog) but everything you listed are super common in beagles and we're on the look out for. Sorry you lost your beagle, definitely get another, they're such great dogs!
I changed jobs in August and reeeeeeeally debated over it before doing so. I had multiple discussions with the boss I was leaving and the one I was going to work for about all the details of my employment, time off, vacation, pay, potentially having a baby, etc. The new boss made every promise, even said they'd give me the week of vacation I earned with the old boss before the end of this year, and of course if I were to have a baby it would be no problem at all, "we're a family business" they said. As soon as I let them know I'm pregnant (which happened only 6 weeks later, much sooner than expected, so I can understand they were hoping I didn't mean right away when I asked about potentially having a baby), everything went to hell in a hand basket. No vacation. Time off was such a concern that I was taken off salary and put on hourly pay and using a time clock for the first time in my career since I was 18. And comments like "I just don't know how we are going to work it out when you have to take time off for your situation." SITUATION. I'm hyper aware that I might be hormonal, sensitive, paranoid even, given my SITUATION. But I'm so hurt and feel so betrayed by these people that were just three months ago begging me to work for them. And I feel stuck. Now that I am pregnant, it would be practically impossible to get a new job elsewhere. I'm good at what I do, really, but even I would hesitate to hire someone knowing they will have to be out for at least one extended period of time. Utterly frustrated and disappointed...
Get a cheap lawyer and have them write a letter. Document everything you can. That's discrimination and utterly disgusting to do to you.
My POS washing machine. I have a stupid Samsung front loader and if you put more than like a single sock in there it gets unbalanced and won't finish the cycle, so everything is soapy and soaking wet. I'm hoping to score a new set on black Friday and hopefully DH will give in after tonight's incident.
I changed jobs in August and reeeeeeeally debated over it before doing so. I had multiple discussions with the boss I was leaving and the one I was going to work for about all the details of my employment, time off, vacation, pay, potentially having a baby, etc. The new boss made every promise, even said they'd give me the week of vacation I earned with the old boss before the end of this year, and of course if I were to have a baby it would be no problem at all, "we're a family business" they said. As soon as I let them know I'm pregnant (which happened only 6 weeks later, much sooner than expected, so I can understand they were hoping I didn't mean right away when I asked about potentially having a baby), everything went to hell in a hand basket. No vacation. Time off was such a concern that I was taken off salary and put on hourly pay and using a time clock for the first time in my career since I was 18. And comments like "I just don't know how we are going to work it out when you have to take time off for your situation." SITUATION. I'm hyper aware that I might be hormonal, sensitive, paranoid even, given my SITUATION. But I'm so hurt and feel so betrayed by these people that were just three months ago begging me to work for them. And I feel stuck. Now that I am pregnant, it would be practically impossible to get a new job elsewhere. I'm good at what I do, really, but even I would hesitate to hire someone knowing they will have to be out for at least one extended period of time. Utterly frustrated and disappointed...
I'm in a VERYYY similar situation! Started my job in June, found out we were expecting in October. My boss has been pretty much a total bitch since and has hassled me about every single dr appt/ ultrasound that I've had to go to. I really hate her!!!!!! I'm a broker at a trucking company, and contribute heavily to our income, so I'm STUCK with working for this bitch. No where else will hire me even if I did quit because I'm pregnant!!!!! It sucks! It's to the point that I cry and/or throw a hissy fit every night because I absolutely do not want to go to work. It's affecting my marriage because I'm so unhappy!!!!!! Idk what to do.
I can't get on Facebook without coming across one of those auto play videos demonstrating how to make some disgusting food (is it just me or are they all some variation of cheese and goo wrapped up inside bread?). I already want to puke all the time -- I don't need any help!
I can't get on Facebook without coming across one of those auto play videos demonstrating how to make some disgusting food (is it just me or are they all some variation of cheese and goo wrapped up inside bread?). I already want to puke all the time -- I don't need any help!
Yes!!! Sometimes I can't look at fb for this reason....I've started uncontrollably gagging because of some food pics I see! And all of them usually involve cheese, bacon and some sort of carb and honestly looks like puke on a plate.....
So I went to my first appointment with my regular OB yesterday. They asked us to get there early to complete some paperwork so we got there 25 minutes early for a 3:00 appointment. I started getting annoyed when 4 women that came way after us were called back.....then we didn't even get called back until 3:40 and the nurse asked some questions and said the Dr. would be right in......yea 20 MORE minutes later. I joked with my husband they of all people should know better than to piss off a hormonal pregnant woman. I can understand maybe a 30 minute wait, but an HOUR wait to see the Doctor is beyond ridiculous. What's funny is you know if we were a couple minutes late for the appointment they would just tell us to reschedule and still charge for the appointment. I just hope it was a one day thing because I can't handle that long of a wait every time I go. On a plus side.....Got to see the baby and heard the baby's heartbeat for the first time....even tho the US machine was ANCIENT and the baby was just a blur in the pictures.
I kept smelling shit and couldn't figure out why. We are potty training DD and she must have touched my hair and I had crap in my hair
Gross! Sorry that happened to you!
My bitchfest also deals with smelling shit. My husband emptied the litter box into our kitchen garbage can and never took the trash out. For two days I couldn't figure out why I smelled cat poop so strongly when the litter box looked clean. I could have strangled him when I finally figured out what he did.
Re: Monday Bitchfest
So, we'll see.
It's definitely irritating. But I hope everything works out for you!
Dare you tell them that that is illegal and they lose their shit. Because that's what would happen at my job. Ugh we need magical paycheck fairies.
My bitchfest also deals with smelling shit. My husband emptied the litter box into our kitchen garbage can and never took the trash out. For two days I couldn't figure out why I smelled cat poop so strongly when the litter box looked clean. I could have strangled him when I finally figured out what he did.