FTM need advice so scared.....

AppleJax2015 · November 2015

Hi I'm due in 2 weeks with my first. At the doctor today I was told my baby is measuring way bigger than he should and if I don't go into labor this week then he will have to do a C section next week. I'm already dialated to 3 cm and 50% effaced. I really don't want a C section but I'm terrified of tearing up my vagina by delivering a large baby. I read somewhere that there are stretching techniques to prepare your perineum for birth. I don't think I have enough time to do it. I have a variety of dildos in different sizes I thought about using...maybe trying 2 at a time? Has anyone successfully stretched their own perineum before delivery? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

Mother0fDragons · November 2015

mrsdecember15 · November 2015

Might I suggest fisting?

VesperLove · November 2015

I was all prepared to answer this one seriously and then I got to the dildos.

kristen2b · November 2015

mrsdecember15 said:
Can't tell if you are serious or not.
Might I suggest fisting?

Don't joke. Fisting is a real technique that my midwife actually suggested. I think I've just about got myself stretched out real good.

Freedomofspeechluv · November 2015

This isn't something to joke about. Obviously OP needs support. This is a support group!

I recommend 3 dildos or double fist technique. YouTube it for proper execution.

BostonBaby1 · November 2015

Please don't use multiple dildos. Google perineum massage

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bakingqueen15 · November 2015

AppleJax2015 said:

Hi I'm due in 2 weeks with my first. At the doctor today I was told my baby is measuring way bigger than he should and if I don't go into labor this week then he will have to do a C section next week. I'm already dialated to 3 cm and 50% effaced. I really don't want a C section but I'm terrified of tearing up my vagina by delivering a large baby. I read somewhere that there are stretching techniques to prepare your perineum for birth. I don't think I have enough time to do it. I have a variety of dildos in different sizes I thought about using...maybe trying 2 at a time? Has anyone successfully stretched their own perineum before delivery? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

Have DH/SO/bf stretch it for you, it might get him in the mood to try some fisting-which I've heard can help move labor along! Good luck!!

mrsdecember15 · November 2015

AppleJax2015 said:
What is fisting? I've never heard of it.

313Meg · November 2015

Cucumbers and bananas work great too.

breezypip · November 2015

suchaglencoco · November 2015

I'm team knee if you're in a rush. Do the fisting for a few nights and then use someone's bent knee to really get it loose.

merbear32 · November 2015

They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.

313Meg · November 2015

suchaglencoco said:
I'm team knee if you're in a rush. Do the fisting for a few nights and then use someone's bent knee to really get it loose.

Omg!! Might as well try a head, and not one on a penis.

Hahahaha

caitlyn5454 · November 2015

Pro-tip: Lube.

mrsdecember15 · November 2015

kristen2b · November 2015

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.

As long as her husband washes his hands she's good. Pro tip, make sure he hasn't been eating hot wings.

mrsdecember15 · November 2015

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.

I'd be horrified to ask my MD permission to use a dildo. Is that really necessary?

Daphneh28 · November 2015

Freedomofspeechluv said:
This isn't something to joke about. Obviously OP needs support. This is a support group!

I recommend 3 dildos or double fist technique. YouTube it for proper execution.

This made me laugh SO HARD.

Mother0fDragons · November 2015

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.

Or harm the baby..

kristen2b · November 2015

Mother0fDragons said:

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.
Or harm the baby..

Well you have to be gentle so you don't hit the baby in the head.

BostonBaby1 · November 2015

Freedomofspeechluv said:
This isn't something to joke about. Obviously OP needs support. This is a support group!

I recommend 3 dildos or double fist technique. YouTube it for proper execution.

This is NOT a support group. It is an online forum. Is there support to be found here? Yes. But you have to give it to get it. Telling the OP to double fist isn't supportive, it's reckless!!!

suchaglencoco · November 2015

kristen2b said:

Mother0fDragons said:

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.
Or harm the baby..
Well you have to be gentle so you don't hit the baby in the head.

Exactly. This is more of a "just the tip" type of scenario.

bakingqueen15 · November 2015

GodIsFaithful93 · November 2015

I can't even

Freedomofspeechluv · November 2015

BostonBaby1 said:

Freedomofspeechluv said:
This isn't something to joke about. Obviously OP needs support. This is a support group!

I recommend 3 dildos or double fist technique. YouTube it for proper execution.
This is NOT a support group. It is an online forum. Is there support to be found here? Yes. But you have to give it to get it. Telling the OP to double fist isn't supportive, it's reckless!!!

Woah! No need to attack me. Bullies bullies everywhere.

nik6499 · November 2015

There is an entire thread on page one about perineal massage, other than that......... Ask your OB before putting things in your vagina.

bakingqueen15 · November 2015

suchaglencoco said:

They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.
Or harm the baby..
Well you have to be gentle so you don't hit the baby in the head.
Exactly. This is more of a "just the tip" type of scenario.

That's no fun...

colsen4 · November 2015

Um what?

BostonBaby1 · November 2015

Freedomofspeechluv said:

BostonBaby1 said:

Freedomofspeechluv said:
This isn't something to joke about. Obviously OP needs support. This is a support group!

I recommend 3 dildos or double fist technique. YouTube it for proper execution.
This is NOT a support group. It is an online forum. Is there support to be found here? Yes. But you have to give it to get it. Telling the OP to double fist isn't supportive, it's reckless!!!
Woah! No need to attack me. Bullies bullies everywhere.

I was not attacking you. I just wanted you to know that it actually is not a support group. I'm sorry that you got a litt hurt... Butt it will all be okay. Peace?

Mother0fDragons · November 2015

suchaglencoco · November 2015

bakingqueen15 said:

suchaglencoco said:

kristen2b said:

Mother0fDragons said:

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.
Or harm the baby..
Well you have to be gentle so you don't hit the baby in the head.

Exactly. This is more of a "just the tip" type of scenario.

That's no fun...

****qbf****

Well this isn't done "for fun".

Freedomofspeechluv · November 2015

BostonBaby1 said:

Freedomofspeechluv said:

BostonBaby1 said:

Freedomofspeechluv said:
This isn't something to joke about. Obviously OP needs support. This is a support group!

I recommend 3 dildos or double fist technique. YouTube it for proper execution.
This is NOT a support group. It is an online forum. Is there support to be found here? Yes. But you have to give it to get it. Telling the OP to double fist isn't supportive, it's reckless!!!
Woah! No need to attack me. Bullies bullies everywhere.
I was not attacking you. I just wanted you to know that it actually is not a support group. I'm sorry that you got a litt hurt... Butt it will all be okay. Peace?

I see WUT u did there.
Butt hurt?

Beckah31 · November 2015

kristen2b said:

Mother0fDragons said:

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.
Or harm the baby..
Well you have to be gentle so you don't hit the baby in the head.

In utero concusions are nothing to sneeze at.

mtownhespes · November 2015

amwaiau · November 2015

Beckah31 said:

kristen2b said:

Mother0fDragons said:

merbear32 said:
They are joking. Do not put ANYTHING in your vagina without consulting your MD. You could cause an infection or cause an irritation.
Or harm the baby..
Well you have to be gentle so you don't hit the baby in the head.

In utero concusions are nothing to sneeze at.

Yes you must angle it correctly to get the maximum stretch with out actually harming the baby.