Let's talk irrational fears.

SouthernVOL · November 2015

Anyone brave enough to share a pregnancy fear that you know is completely idiotic?

Here's mine:
I'm freaking out that my giant blump and poor posture are squishing my baby to death.

Your turn!

itsStackie · November 2015

I will share one my friend's husband had... That his child would be born with a tail.

TaylorK89 · November 2015

I have some serious thunder thighs. Within the first week of finding out I was KU I asked my husband, "Are my fat thighs gonna get in the way at delivery?" Like what? lol

cattlebride · November 2015

Twins. In my husbands family there are 7-8 sets of twins within his first cousins. I get so scared because I don't think I'd do well with a twins pregnancy and I would worry about the increased chances of complications where we are so far away from hospitals that could handle that type of birth.

Emztron500 · November 2015

cattlebride said:

Twins. In my husbands family there are 7-8 sets of twins within his first cousins. I get so scared because I don't think I'd do well with a twins pregnancy and I would worry about the increased chances of complications where we are so far away from hospitals that could handle that type of birth.

Only your family history of twins affects your odds of having them, not his

My friend once told me she was afraid her baby would by some freak of genetics be born black and her husband would think she'd had an affair. Every once in a while that one pops into my head and I'm like "OH GOD WHAT IF!", haha.

dennyandlee · November 2015

@cattlebride I don't think your DH's family history of twins has any bearing whatsoever on your chances of conceiving them. Of course it's always possible, but luckily you're not at higher "risk" based on DH's fam.

I have an irrational fear that I will never have a pretty round baby bump. I feel like I'll just look more pudgy...

cattlebride · November 2015

@denny+lee I sure hope so. It makes me nervous because its not just the women on his side who have them its also some of his guy cousins. Of course with 30 some cousins I guess a few sets of twins aren't abnormal.

ahernandez16 · November 2015

Both my husband and I have a very light complexion but we're also both half Hispanic so I've been like, omg what if the baby comes out with some recessive gene that makes them way darker than both of us and nobody believes it's ours....

FutureMrsCAF · November 2015

I'm always slightly paranoid when I have to work hard to poop (which right now is always) because even though I know this would never happen, I'm worried that I'll push the baby out. I had this ridiculous fear with DD too. She's fine. I never pooped her out.

TaylorK89 · November 2015

@FutureMrsCAF that gif tho! ;p

GinnyJ2012 · November 2015

Mine isn't about my pregnancy, but I only have this thought while pregnant. I'm terrified of cracking an egg and finding a partially formed baby chick inside. I know this won't happen, but it's a thought every morning when making eggs for the family and it makes me want to puke.

Emztron500 · November 2015

FutureMrsCAF said:

I'm always slightly paranoid when I have to work hard to poop (which right now is always) because even though I know this would never happen, I'm worried that I'll push the baby out. I had this ridiculous fear with DD too. She's fine. I never pooped her out.

oh my gosh, I was so worried about this with my first even though I knew it wouldn't happen. but literally every time I went to the bathroom for a while I was mentally preparing for a premature toilet baby.

FutureMrsCAF · November 2015

Emztron500 said:

FutureMrsCAF said:

I'm always slightly paranoid when I have to work hard to poop (which right now is always) because even though I know this would never happen, I'm worried that I'll push the baby out. I had this ridiculous fear with DD too. She's fine. I never pooped her out.

oh my gosh, I was so worried about this with my first even though I knew it wouldn't happen. but literally every time I went to the bathroom for a while I was mentally preparing for a premature toilet baby.

*QBF

I'm so glad I'm not the only one!!

Atlast111 · November 2015

GinnyJ2012 said:
Mine isn't about my pregnancy, but I only have this thought while pregnant. I'm terrified of cracking an egg and finding a partially formed baby chick inside. I know this won't happen, but it's a thought every morning when making eggs for the family and it makes me want to puke.

This used to happen in the old days! It's gross. My mother remembers it happening with her grandmothers chicken eggs! Now they separate the cocks and hens so the eggs won't ever be fertilised, thank God!

HBamama2B · November 2015

Great thread!! My irrational fear is that all my symptoms are psychosomatic, that I'm just getting 'fake' fat and 'fake' nauseous for no reason, and the pregnancy was a MMC. BC of the IVF, I've had 4 US to date, so this is pretty ridiculous!

And for some reason I'm having constant dreams about me or DH getting amnesia. Every night. Like, what?

Atlast111 · November 2015

FutureMrsCAF said:

Emztron500 said:

FutureMrsCAF said:

I'm always slightly paranoid when I have to work hard to poop (which right now is always) because even though I know this would never happen, I'm worried that I'll push the baby out. I had this ridiculous fear with DD too. She's fine. I never pooped her out.

oh my gosh, I was so worried about this with my first even though I knew it wouldn't happen. but literally every time I went to the bathroom for a while I was mentally preparing for a premature toilet baby.

*QBF

I'm so glad I'm not the only one!!

Lol. I have the same worry with sneezing!

MissSaritaF · November 2015

I sleep on my stomach a lot and am afraid that the baby may be smushed to death!

MsBeachNJ · November 2015

I dreamt that I told my whole family on Thanksgiving and no one cared, like they just kept talking & going about their business and I was like hello didn't you hear me I'm having a baby?! I was screaming and they laughed at me and I cried... so I guess I'm irrationally afraid to tell them all next week!

VikingGirl12 · November 2015

I'm scared of having sex because in my mind my vagina is sealed up and holding baby inside and if he penetrates me, he will break the seal and baby will come out.
I know my "theory" doesn't match up with the anatomy of female sex organs, but I still can't get past it.
And DH frequently shows me research on how sex is safe during pregnancy. So I know this too. But still no.

Also, no sex drive right now. Too tired. Poor DH.

FutureMrsCAF · November 2015

VikingGirl12 said:
I'm scared of having sex because in my mind my vagina is sealed up and holding baby inside and if he penetrates me, he will break the seal and baby will come out.
I know my "theory" doesn't match up with the anatomy of female sex organs, but I still can't get past it.
And DH frequently shows me research on how sex is safe during pregnancy. So I know this too. But still no.

Also, no sex drive right now. Too tired. Poor DH.

Yeah, I'm nervous about it too. We haven't had sex since my fertile window 10 weeks ago. Yikes.

theatremandy · November 2015

Oddly enough, I've had none so far this time. It's weird because I have a history of being an irrational, weepy mess when pregnant. Maybe I'm too tired for thinking.

Now opening a can of crescent rolls...shudder. Just can't.

june2016baby · November 2015

My irrational fear is of sleeping in any position but my left side. If I roll on my right side, I have nightmares that my baby is in there starving of nutrients and oxygen. I woke up on my back last week and was sure baby was damaged. I know all this is silly, but after learning the left side is "best", other positions, even a perfectly fine one like sleeping on my left side, have me freaked out. Very irrational!

Rosehip15 · November 2015

I'm terrified I'll be exhausted and sick forever. This is my third, I know I'll be better in a month, but...

vampbride99 · November 2015

Ohh let's see...I was terrified I was having twins (I am a twin by the way)...and that by the time of delivery I'd be like 800lbs....I have a fear that I'm smashing my baby every time I lie on the couch in the fetal position...and I have weird thoughts that my kid will turn out with blonde hair and blue eyes and everyone would look at me all confused lol (I'm Black and my husband is Mexican). He never really knew his grandfather, but it is rumored he was blonde with blue eyes.

Ah yes...I think too much...

june2016baby · November 2015

vampbride99 said:

Ohh let's see...I was terrified I was having twins (I am a twin by the way)...and that by the time of delivery I'd be like 800lbs....I have a fear that I'm smashing my baby every time I lie on the couch in the fetal position...and I have weird thoughts that my kid will turn out with blonde hair and blue eyes and everyone would look at me all confused lol (I'm Black and my husband is Mexican). He never really knew his grandfather, but it is rumored he was blonde with blue eyes.

Ah yes...I think too much...

LOL, my second baby was conceived though IUI, and I worried the WHOLE time that there was a mix up, and that my baby would be/look like another race. It didn't help that my husband told me there was another guy in the clinic (presumably also leaving a sample,) and he was much darker skinned than us. I actually thought, well at least it will be obvious if there was a mix up. I'm white and my husband is Asian, and fortunately it was very obvious from the moment we saw him, that the baby came from us.

likeabel · November 2015

I'm scared to throw away my positive pregnancy test. Like some how me throwing it away will affect this pregnancy. Oh yeah, that means I still have my positive test from DS from over 2 years ago...

ashleyrobertson0113 · November 2015

Okay so this irrational fear doesn't have anything to do with being pregnant... Except the fact that since I started having crazy pregnancy dreams I'm now dreaming about it ALL THE TIME!!!

I'm terrified of getting attacked by a shark in the swimming pool.

Yes you read that right. In the swimming pool. Like I can't go swimming alone and am terrified of laying on a pool float and hate being in the deep end where I can't see everything. It is a completely ridiculously insane fear. I know it's crazy. But thats why it's an irrational fear.

And now I dream about it. Non stop. Thanks pregnancy brain.

LizM61409 · November 2015

Before my first ultrasound I was worried that they would look and see a totally empty non-pregnant uterus (not even a miscarriage) and think I was crazy and that I must have misread the pregnancy test

meggyme · November 2015

LizM61409 said:
Before my first ultrasound I was worried that they would look and see a totally empty non-pregnant uterus (not even a miscarriage) and think I was crazy and that I must have misread the pregnancy test

This was my fear too. That they would look at me and just say "why are you here?"

berky84 · November 2015

Ha! I've had the poop fear too! Not necessarily that I'd push the baby out but that pushing too hard would cause a miscarriage or something.

LizM61409 · November 2015

joose159 said:
Ha! I've had the poop fear too! Not necessarily that I'd push the baby out but that pushing too hard would cause a miscarriage or something.

I don't think it does anything to baby, but it can cause hemorrhoids or make them worse. I've been on colace since 8 weeks and it's been awesome

Emztron500 · November 2015

meggyme said:

Before my first ultrasound I was worried that they would look and see a totally empty non-pregnant uterus (not even a miscarriage) and think I was crazy and that I must have misread the pregnancy test
This was my fear too. That they would look at me and just say "why are you here?"

Oh my god...when I went for my first ultrasound with my 1st baby, and the tech asked when my last period was (7 weeks prior), she kind of scoffed and said "oh, so you might not even BE pregnant." Not what I wanted to hear, lady.

samsonator · November 2015

I have an irrational fear of sneezing! I know sneezing can't hurt the baby, but I have some pretty intense and frequent sneezes where I'm convinced I've caused harm! The random round ligament pain doesn't help either

Corts · November 2015

Mine is when I am browsing at a baby store and I have this panic that I need to start throwing EVERYTHING in the cart because what if this baby comes next week and we are not prepared? Ridiculous (and not even possible) I know.

peregrinefalconx · November 2015

That my baby will get my DH's family's eyelashes. Which are extremely short--almost non-existent. Mine are very long, but the baby won't be getting mine! [guess I'm an a-hole]

I like to throw that into the mix with the more scary and upsetting rational worries. I am actually kind of worried that I will NEVER get my energy back and I will be destined to not clean my house, do any projects, cook, or see friends, etc. ever again.

michellabanana · November 2015

MsBeachNJ said:
I dreamt that I told my whole family on Thanksgiving and no one cared, like they just kept talking & going about their business and I was like hello didn't you hear me I'm having a baby?! I was screaming and they laughed at me and I cried... so I guess I'm irrationally afraid to tell them all next week!

Omg...I had this same dream lol...I actually am telling everyone on Thanksgiving, and everyone was mad at me... I'm sure everyone will be excited, but it is still in the back of my mind.

HBamama2B · November 2015

@peregrinefalconx me too! I've been afraid lately that the first trimester will end but I'll just never stop being extremely exhausted and lazy. That I'll just be a lump forever.

MynaBird · November 2015

I held off on reading this thread because I was afraid it would send me into panic mode. I can't believe I've been missing out on all this gold. This is way better than rational fears. You guys are amazing.

cassiopeia5 · November 2015

I keep assuming any symptom I have is some terrible disease and not related to pregnancy. Hypochondriac central!

mom2beEbby · November 2015

So, I am afraid that my baby will not like me. I used to always have dreams that I would have a daughter and she would hate me from birth. Then, I found out this was a girl and my anxiety is taking over. In the dreams she literally likes every other person in the world except me. LOL. I cant make her stop crying unless I don’t touch her, then she is sweet as pie.

catherinekate · November 2015

I'm worried that our baby will like my husband more than me. He's so good with kids. We're first time parents but anytime we hang out with our friends and their kids, they just gravitate to him. When I show up without him, they pout and ask where he is (which doesn't happen when he goes places without me). I'm worried that I lack a fun gene!!

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