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TauntyCupcake · November 2015

Nothing like swelling and bleeding after sex to make a momma feel almost defeated! I had no idea it was normal to swell this severe and/or bleed this much after sex. Any other mommas struggling with the 'afters' of sex? I didn't get to have sex my last pregnancy and I was not prepared for what it's like, I guess!

PugsandKisses · November 2015

Spotting after sex is ok, but bleeding 'this much' is not. Call your Dr.

stillcozy · November 2015

I have had spotting and slight cramping after sex a few times. So I feel your pain I haven't had any swelling though.

TauntyCupcake · November 2015

I called my midwife or I would be in sheer panic. It was quite a bit at first. Then just light spotting after. The initial amount scared me. She said it's okay, especially if not cramping and it's getting lighter.

I guess since we are more vascular during pregnancy swelling of the vulva is pretty normal. So i'm putting my feet up and waiting for swelling to go down. does pregnancy ever have a comfortable time? lol

acadia07 · November 2015

What's sex?

acadia07 · November 2015

Oh, that penis-vagina thing that got me here in the first place? Yeah. We don't do that anymore.

In all honesty, I'm just too sick. I go to bed too early. We've done it once in 5 weeks and it was miserable. Just another reason I can't wait for second tri! Uuuuuugh hurry uppppp.

LinzerBinzer · November 2015

DH has noticed I'm not as into it so I had to explain what's happening to my cervix and innards and such. So that was a fun convo. Ha!

I just try to maintain control over it so it's not pushing on my cervix as much. It's definitely not as enjoyable, but it gets the job done.

TauntyCupcake · November 2015

sorry ladies. I guess I'm more fortunate than I feel. I'll try to keep things in perspective next time.
I'm so ready for second trimester too!

Taymiller · November 2015

Shop is closed until second trimester.

TauntyCupcake · November 2015

Taymiller said:

Shop is closed until second trimester.

If this is what first trimester sex is like- mine will be too!!

stillcozy · November 2015

It hasn't been terrible for me during just after I'm more sore than normal

erin7264 · November 2015

We've been doing it less because I'm either exhausted or sleeping most of the time, but when we do I honestly haven't experienced any bleeding, swelling, or pain... maybe I'm just a weirdo. But I am usually the one in charge so maybe that's contributed to my lack of trouble. It's actually more enjoyable for me right now than before BFP, I just wish I wasn't so tired. I did have to explain all the stuff that is going on with my body right now and reassure DH that I'm not mad or withholding from him intentionally.

addyplusone · November 2015

Well we regularly only do it once a week maybe anyway. Now it's about once every 2 weeks

noelietrex · November 2015

I thought it was pretty good! Extra sensitive and stretchier than before. The afterwards is weird though... I'm with you on swelling. Definitely not up for 2 days in a row $:\$ Also I've had a few mild cramps right after, no spotting and not as bad as period cramps, but definitely like some shifting or annoyance from the cervix is happening. Has anyone tried anything else?? This is probably way TMI but I kind of hated being touched before and now the hand play is so good! Try some exploring- sex can look like a lot of different things. My lady bits have changed their preferences, but there are new positives that came with the new negatives.

juliagulia38 · November 2015

Yeah I don't even know that word. My DD still sleeps with us so we don't have sex much. I think that's why I was so shocked I got pregnant. It was the one time we did it in like a month. Our schedules are crazy too and I feel like we have a lot going on and don't see or spend enough time together. After thanksgiving I'm getting DD in her own bed.

usually the first semester I'm too sick and too tried. Second trimester sex is good though, once you get bigger, you'll have to be creative with positions.

EasterEggs · November 2015

We're still having sex twice a week or so, which is less than usual because I'm so tired and queasy these days. But I haven't experienced any differences during or after sex.

blackgirlmagic · November 2015

We haven't been having sex as often because I'm tired after work and he's coaching wrestling right after work Monday Wednesday and Friday. But when we do have sex it's AMAZING!!!! I am loving pregnancy sex.

macc2 · November 2015

Found out Monday we were expecting, currently about 6w2d. Had sex last night for the first time, it was actually kinda painful! Has anyone experienced this??

danicaa&baby · November 2015

I havent bled at all but i did get soooo sore after sex!

decoycandy · November 2015

I am going to be away from my Hubby for 6 weeks starting Tuesday so I'm trying to get in some loving, despite the exhaustion, headaches, and nausea. Sex is good, though my paranoia has made it so we go more "gentle", also I'm a tad drier than usual, and omgoodness, after the big "O" I get fairly bad cramps, anywhere from 30

BostonBaby1 · November 2015

UO- we are still active.

jennyleigh16 · November 2015

I have pretty strong cramps in the hour or so afterwards, and I usually have just a touch of brown spotting the next day. It's always gone after one wipe so I'm not worried about it.

For the first few weeks after the BFP we didn't have sex at all. I felt crappy and he seemingly had no interest and I felt so disconnected because I though he was weirded out by pregnant sex and didn't want to touch me. We had a long talk about it and now we're a bit more frequent. Usually once a week depending on how our schedules play out. I don't find it feels any better though. If anything I'm having trouble getting the big O because I can't turn my brain off long enough to enjoy it.

rockinrodeochick · November 2015

Sex? What's that? we've tried a couple times and it ended with my rushing to the bathroom to vomit. I'm so sick I can barely move most of the time.

susykat77 · November 2015

I am on progesterone suppositories 3x/day so I don't really feel like adding a penis to the mix. Not to mention how exhausted I feel. I am holding out hope for second tri though!

Jennifer Berlinghoff · November 2015

Touché acadia07!

DarkCat · November 2015

Sex has been great until I got put on pelvic rest. I'm technically off it now but I'm too terrified of bleeding and so is my husband so we are abstaining from sex. We do other things though.

kmtz89 · November 2015

I find sex has, for the most part, gotten more enjoyable.

That is when I am not exhausted. But we are still doing it pretty frequently. I have noticed mild cramping afterwards but nothing like period cramping and no bleeding.

although my boobs are super sore/sensitive and I constantly have to remind DH that they hurt because he's totally a "boob man" if you know what I mean. Hah

SMLEU · November 2015

I feel bad. We've had sex twice since we found out that I was pregnant and after each time I was sent into cramping

Soooo.... I've sort of become scared of it. Lol. However whenever my fiance mentions it I'm like, "I can give it a whirl! " But then, through no fault of my own....I fall asleep. Like dead asleep lol. I can't help it! As soon as my head hits the pillow I'm out!

megstervt · November 2015

I'm nervous about it even though rationally I know there's no risk. Plus I feel so yucky and bloated I'm not really in the mood. We've been doing other things to keep up the physical intimacy and DH has been understanding of my feelings.

pourmeanothermocktail · November 2015

I've had some great O so far, but also cervix is definitely sensitive so I have to control depth. Unfortunately we're both working full time and putting in 4-12 hours on home renovations a day too, so until we get moved in and a final boat of paint on walls, we're off sex. I don't know how I'm staying awake at work or during dinner anyway.

Edited due to phone issues.

MrsBinPA · November 2015

I'm on pelvic rest. No orgasms allowed

BostonBaby1 · November 2015

MrsBinPA said:
I'm on pelvic rest. No orgasms allowed

Gah! Worth it though

FiancB · November 2015

What sex we've had has been good, but now my cervix feels really weird and I think sex would hurt too much. So shop's closed for now.

elldel · November 2015

It's been really good. No pain, swelling, etc. I will say it DOES feel different though. I'm...tighter, somehow. (I don't know if that makes sense, or if it's TMI, but that's the best I can describe it.)

tennisbabymama · November 2015

**Loss mentioned**

We have decided to abstain from sex for awhile. Possibly until second trimester. I mc last pregnancy the day after we tried sex for the first time pregnant so just paranoid for no good reason. We KNOW sex is fine but we are waiting it out for a bit. We will see how long. Maybe my paranoia will subside sooner rather than later. Until second tri at most, my shop is closed.

khd987 · November 2015

Ha! We have not had sex since this baby was made!

rakel88 · November 2015

I'm 7+6 and we had sex the other night first time since finding out cause ughhhhh so tired all the time. It was great! No cramping, bleeding, sensitivity, and def makes me think I should work through the tiredness more often

RubyRedPirate · November 2015

I don't want sex at all anymore. We used to have a really active sex life, 3-4 times a week, sometimes twice a day. I think we've had sex twice in the past 3 weeks and I wasn't really into it those two times. Its uncomfortable and when we're done I feel so tender and sensitive that even wiping is borderline painful.

m8881 · November 2015

From my last two pregnancies I learned how amazing pregnant sex is after the first trimester and I can't wait. For now it's slowed down some but still good.

amysriddle · November 2015

Anybody just totally not into it? I mean sometimes i feel perfectly fine... Not tired or anything but just don't want sex. We had a very active sex life before but have only had sex a few times since i found out almost 5 weeks ago!

jlgriff11 · November 2015

Man I feel like I'm the odd one out, I've been wayyy hornier than usual. I'm fairly active (few times a week before) but now I'm like..rawr!

Everything is super sensitive and I've had no cramping or bleeding from it. My only issue is I tire out pretty fast so its not exactly an all night thing lol.

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