I love pit bull breeds. I volunteer at my local Humane Society and, almost without exception, every pittie on our adoption floor is a million times better behaved than my very naughty labs (who are sweet but, you know, a little dumb).
Please please please, train your dogs. Educate yourself and supervise your kids. There are no inherently bad dogs, and no breed is more or less likely to attack a child.
Oh, and I hope this is a Popular Opinion, but please consider adoption if you're looking for an new pet!
This is unpopular here in the South: I'm all for a cute little bow in a baby girl's hair, but hate the GIANT bows/headbands that are very disproportionate to their heads.
I so agree with this. And those HORRIBLE ruffled bell bottom pants I've been seeing on little girls. Barf.
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Yes! My niece wears them, and they look so hard to walk in.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
This is unpopular here in the South: I'm all for a cute little bow in a baby girl's hair, but hate the GIANT bows/headbands that are very disproportionate to their heads.
Oh amen sister. There's a lady I went to school with whose daughter's bows are so big that they should be on new cars instead.
Me: 27 DH: 30 Married in 2011 Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014) Baby 2: Due May 2016
For those of you looking to re-home your animals- have you considered hiring a behaviorist to help you out before re-homing it? They can help a lot with solving these kinds of problems. Of course, find a qualified, knowledgeable one, since there are no regulations and anyone can set up shop.
@sarawifenow- just to play devil's advocate, usually no-kill shelters do need to euthanize up to 10% of animals they receive due to behavioral problems (usually aggression). It sucks, but many animals are given up due to these behavioral issues, and it would be unethical to adopt out a dog that is likely going to harm someone someday; the vast majority of people are not knowledgeable enough on behavior to handle these issues. There are also many animals that keep getting returned to the shelter or won't be adopted due to more benign behavioral problems (such as separation anxiety), and while they aren't a threat to people, it's not fair to keep an animal in a shelter environment for several months or even years. Euthanasia is sometimes the kinder thing to do.
For those of you looking to re-home your animals- have you considered hiring a behaviorist to help you out before re-homing it? They can help a lot with solving these kinds of problems. Of course, find a qualified, knowledgeable one, since there are no regulations and anyone can set up shop.
@sarawifenow- just to play devil's advocate, usually no-kill shelters do need to euthanize up to 10% of animals they receive due to behavioral problems (usually aggression). It sucks, but many animals are given up due to these behavioral issues, and it would be unethical to adopt out a dog that is likely going to harm someone someday; the vast majority of people are not knowledgeable enough on behavior to handle these issues. There are also many animals that keep getting returned to the shelter or won't be adopted due to more benign behavioral problems (such as separation anxiety), and while they aren't a threat to people, it's not fair to keep an animal in a shelter environment for several months or even years. Euthanasia is sometimes the kinder thing to do.
Perfectly said! Also, while no-kill shelters do wonderful things, some of them simply won't take in strays or animals with behavior or health problems so they can preserve their no-kill status (e.g., less than 10 percent euthanasia rate). Finally, most shelters and rescue organizations that do not qualify for no-kill status will NOT euthanize an animal for space or after a certain amount of time. They will only put down an animal when it is the humane thing to do.
I'm talking something more like this. The fabric headbands don't bother me as much but this...I can't go on.
Eta: I'll go further and say I don't like ear piercings on tiny babies, either.
1) I don't let DD near any dogs. None. They aren't allowed in my home and if we're visiting friends I ask people ahead of time if the dog can be in another room. If not, that's fine, but we're not coming over. I like dogs, but DD is 17 months old and I can't rationalize with her not to pull their tail or get in their faces. When she's older I will introduce how to treat dogs and let her pet ones I know are safe. I also would never let a pit bull near her. I don't care how nice it is. In the news this week a family pit bull just killed an 11 month old. They had the dog for two years, had other children, and it had never shown aggression before.
2) I am an anxious person and currently wouldn't visit major cities and tourist attractions until the world climate is a little less hostile. As in, I won't be visiting NYC, Paris, London, or Washington DC, etc. anytime soon. I know fear cannot rule our lives, but I'm more of a calculated risk kind of person and right now traveling just wouldn't be worth it for me. I think becoming a parent has made this worse for me...
@buzzbee614 I completely understand about the avoiding major landmarks/tourist attractions. A year after 9/11, my school was taking a trip to NYC and my mom wouldn't let me go (I am seriously surprised that the school didn't cancel!). At first I was so pissed at my mom that I had to stay back while my friends had this fun trip, but now that I am a mom, I totally get it! After the news of the Paris attacks, I have been really reluctant to get on the subway or go to any big crowded spaces with my son. I hate to say that fear is controlling these decisions, but how can I ignore the very real risks? It just makes me sad and more than a little angry that this is the state of the world right now, but I need to face reality and do whatever I can in my power to keep my family safe...even if it is as silly as avoiding tourist attractions or the city.
My UO is one that, so far, everyone just looks at me weird over: I hate pickles. They glow green, they're sort of translucent and they're weird. Food shouldn't glow. Yuck.
Re. Pit Bulls - I grew up with dogs, my Dad and other (mostly males, exceptfor my sister) family members hunt so they always had an assortment of dogs they would train to take with them - mostly beagles and hounds, but my cousin had a pit bull and a Rottweiler - and now they have a South African Ridegback too. I am short, all their dogs are about breast-height to me, and they look scary, sure. But because they've been trained well and are treated well, they are the sweetest dogs in the universe. That being said, for years I couldn't go near German Sheppards because when I was 4 I was bit and dragged by one at the park. I've since gotten over it (mostly) since I have interacted with sweet German Sheppards, but I remember my Mom wanting to ban all dogs everywhere for a while after it, so I totally get the sentiment.
Re. Bows on head - I have always hated them, but maybe it's because I always thought I looked ridiculous in them as a child (because my hair didn't grow in for about a year and a bit). But those pictures @yogahh and @ladysamlady are adorable so I may have to rethink my position!
Re. Sex Reveal Parties - I am not a fan. I have gone to a few Baby Shower/Sex Reveal parties for my friends (my family looked at me weird when I said sex reveal party - apparently we immigrants are just not there yet), and I just always feel a little awkward when the pink or blue balloons come out of the box or the cake is cut to reveal a bright pastel center of icing. *shrugs That being said - totally always call it sex reveal party. Gender is a social construct, so unless you want to call it "what we think the gender is based on statistics and anatomy" party or "the gender we so desperately want because it would make life a little easier" party or something, I will stick to sex reveal party.
I have another one. I like birthdays, but I hate traditional birthday parties. Especially kid birthday parties, which I try to avoid at all costs. H and I never make our own birthdays a big production, and don't plan to with our kids. This year for DDs second birthday, we're taking her to the aquarium with our closest friends and their daughter, and then will go home and have cupcakes or cookies and let her open her birthday present. The end.
I have another one. I like birthdays, but I hate traditional birthday parties. Especially kid birthday parties, which I try to avoid at all costs. H and I never make our own birthdays a big production, and don't plan to with our kids. This year for DDs second birthday, we're taking her to the aquarium with our closest friends and their daughter, and then will go home and have cupcakes or cookies and let her open her birthday present. The end.
Parties are my jam!! Did you have parties as a kid or in other words, did your family make a big deal of your birthday? I tend to find that people who grew up with low-key birthdays end up liking the same as adults and do the same for their kids (and vice versa). Just wondering.
I have another one. I like birthdays, but I hate traditional birthday parties. Especially kid birthday parties, which I try to avoid at all costs. H and I never make our own birthdays a big production, and don't plan to with our kids. This year for DDs second birthday, we're taking her to the aquarium with our closest friends and their daughter, and then will go home and have cupcakes or cookies and let her open her birthday present. The end.
Agreed! I would much rather have my kids choose a couple of close friends and we can go and do a special activity... amusement park, aquarium, whatever. I think it's a little ridiculous when people throw a 50 person bash for a 1 year old's birthday.
Me: 27 DH: 30 Married in 2011 Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014) Baby 2: Due May 2016
@txmamatobe - There probably is a connection! My family totally didn't make a big deal out of my birthday. Even back then it never bothered me, but maybe that's because I never knew anything else. But I remember in college once my housemates threw me a huge surprise birthday party. On one hand I was super grateful, but on the other hand I was thinking OMG this is horrible!!!!
Ok, I have another one since its been front and center in the news this week, and slightly touched upon here....I don't think we should be allowing any refugees in the country right now. The #1 job of the POTUS is to keep the citizens safe. And if there is even the slightest chance that one refugee can cause the type of harm and chaos we saw in Paris, then we need to take precautions. I am all for helping in safe ways, and feel for the children in particular that are fleeing Syria. But allowing 10,000 in the country at this very fragile time seems risky. I found this opinion piece in the Post today summed up my views on this debate.
Living in NYC, the fear is real. I try not to dwell on it when on the subway, or shopping in some of the more busy areas, but we need to be aware that the threat is real and tangible.
UO- I HATE when people re-home their animals. Absolutely cannot stand it. I was raised to see my animals as family members, my mom has always referred to our dogs and cats as her "favorite kids" because they don't talk back or break curfew. If you get a cat or a dog you get that animal for the rest of their LIFE. You (general you) don't get to just get rid of your animal because now you need to move to an apartment that doesn't accept animals. If I have animals, I don't even CONSIDER places that don't allow animals. If your animals don't react well to your children or your change of life, consider how you'd react to such a change. If you're used to having it be you as a dog and two adults, and then this child comes and WHAM takes all the attention and pulls on your hair and your tail and pats your head and jabs your eyes how would you feel? That's when you take the time to hire somebody who knows what they're doing to help your animal through this transition that they're having such a time with. If you can't do what you need to in order to keep your animal as part of your family then maybe you should strongly consider whether or not an animal is a responsibility you are ready to take on. End of rant.
Ok, I have another one since its been front and center in the news this week, and slightly touched upon here....I don't think we should be allowing any refugees in the country right now. The #1 job of the POTUS is to keep the citizens safe. And if there is even the slightest chance that one refugee can cause the type of harm and chaos we saw in Paris, then we need to take precautions. I am all for helping in safe ways, and feel for the children in particular that are fleeing Syria. But allowing 10,000 in the country at this very fragile time seems risky. I found this opinion piece in the Post today summed up my views on this debate.
Living in NYC, the fear is real. I try not to dwell on it when on the subway, or shopping in some of the more busy areas, but we need to be aware that the threat is real and tangible.
I actually don't want them but not for a safety issue. I live near where there are a lot of Somali refugees. I worked with many of them in the school system. I see what it has done to the economy, jobs, etc. We don't need more drain on the system, more people and less jobs, etc.
My governor is one of the ones that will not allow the Syrian refugees in the state. I'm actually quite grateful. The economy here is getting worse every day as paper mills are closing. The paper and timber industries have been big here since the 1800s. It is the main economy. Closing that down means those hundreds/thousands of people will need jobs. They don't need more competition for those jobs than there already is going to be.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
My UO is one that, so far, everyone just looks at me weird over: I hate pickles. They glow green, they're sort of translucent and they're weird. Food shouldn't glow. Yuck.
I hate pickles too!!!!!
Jesse835235 Couldn't agree more. Not a Beyonce fan either. Or hip-hop, pop, or rap in general honestly.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
@yogahh I didn't want to be the one to open the can of worms. But since you did...And I agree with you completely, I'll comment.
I am normally have a "help all the people" mindset. However, my best friend is German and lives outside of cologne. Her stories about the refugees are frustrating and make me worried for her. First of all, she said the majority of refugees in Germany are male. Out of these refugees the majority of them are rude, disrespectful, and have little regard for native Germans or their culture. They are complaining about the food and shelter they are given. They are threatening, aggressive, and many of the Germans are sorry that they have "helped" them. Many German people feel endangered and angry they are not protected by their government.
Her correspondance over the past few weeks In addition to the Paris attacks has completely changed my mindset on our country blindly accepting refugees.
I have another one. I like birthdays, but I hate traditional birthday parties. Especially kid birthday parties, which I try to avoid at all costs. H and I never make our own birthdays a big production, and don't plan to with our kids. This year for DDs second birthday, we're taking her to the aquarium with our closest friends and their daughter, and then will go home and have cupcakes or cookies and let her open her birthday present. The end.
Totally agree! My SIL (while we are still on good terms) insisted that DH and I make it from CA to WA for 2nd and 3rd birthday parties. We made it up for a 3rd just because we were going to visit around then anyway and we got stuck with the food bill. They did hamburgers and hot dogs for everybody but when you have other 2 and 3 year olds and their parents (because who would send their 2 or 3 year old off by themselves to a birthday party) DH and I wound up spending upwards of $400 for food, drinks, plates, and cups. That's not including the massive amount of Frozen decor my SIL bought and goodie bags for the kids. I'd rather have that money in my kids college savings account personally. Until my child is old enough to really appreciate a SMALL birthday party, not an option. And when they are old enough, I'll give them an option between having a few friends over for a party or picking one friend to go to an amusement park, aquarium, etc. This is what my parents did with us and I can tell you, my two siblings and I ALWAYS picked the one friend and amusement park or a trip to the mall (we lived 4 hours from a mall so it was a day trip). When they're young, it'll be DH, myself, and our child/children ordering some pizza, I'll bake a cake, and dad and I will drink some beer while the birthday girl or boy opens gifts. Guarantee they'll be just as stoked with this as they would with a huge expensive party.
Ok, I have another one since its been front and center in the news this week, and slightly touched upon here....I don't think we should be allowing any refugees in the country right now. The #1 job of the POTUS is to keep the citizens safe. And if there is even the slightest chance that one refugee can cause the type of harm and chaos we saw in Paris, then we need to take precautions. I am all for helping in safe ways, and feel for the children in particular that are fleeing Syria. But allowing 10,000 in the country at this very fragile time seems risky. I found this opinion piece in the Post today summed up my views on this debate.
Living in NYC, the fear is real. I try not to dwell on it when on the subway, or shopping in some of the more busy areas, but we need to be aware that the threat is real and tangible.
And you're made out to be a horrible person if you don't think it's the right thing to do! Sorry but my number 1 priority is keeping my family safe and if there are even a few people that think these people could jeopardize that, then no. We already have too many crazy, dangerous people in our own country, why make the risk of danger greater? I also don't think we have any type of "obligation" to take in refugees. I think we first and foremost have an obligation to take care of our military and since the president can't even do that, then I don't think we should be reaching out and spending probably millions of dollars on bringing these people in and giving them everything they need. They've been taking things away from our military for the last few years and it's getting ridiculous. DH is Army Reserves, his unit was recently moved to over 3 hours away so the military has always paid for his hotel room while he's there. A couple months ago he drove the whole 3 hours to the city that his unit drills in and finds out when he gets to the hotel that his room wasn't paid for and that all the soldiers were required to pay for their own rooms. Thanks for the heads up?!? And they want to deploy a large majority of his unit next year, but can't even help them out to get to drill every month to be ready for a deployment. So annoyed! The hotels in the area cost more for 2 nights than he makes being there for the whole weekend.
Ok, I have another one since its been front and center in the news this week, and slightly touched upon here....I don't think we should be allowing any refugees in the country right now. The #1 job of the POTUS is to keep the citizens safe. And if there is even the slightest chance that one refugee can cause the type of harm and chaos we saw in Paris, then we need to take precautions. I am all for helping in safe ways, and feel for the children in particular that are fleeing Syria. But allowing 10,000 in the country at this very fragile time seems risky. I found this opinion piece in the Post today summed up my views on this debate.
Living in NYC, the fear is real. I try not to dwell on it when on the subway, or shopping in some of the more busy areas, but we need to be aware that the threat is real and tangible.
A-freaking-men! So beyond scared. My husband is in the military and due to deploy end of June and I cried and cried and cried after seeing this BS on the news. He will be gone for 8 months and on the ship we've been told likely will not get to have communication. I just have this ill feeling that he will be sent to take care of the messes made in other countries and I think the absolute worst like will he be captured and tortured? Beheaded? So flippin scary. Then we are moving from CA to VA in four weeks and I've had dreams this whole week that my kid and I get slaughtered while daddy is off getting his fingernails peeled off one by one by these sick bastards (excuse my language). People have NO CLUE what's going on outside of this country and our service men and women are DYING every single day and still with these refugees have no clue that we are simply allowing evil into our country to threaten our safety and the safety of our families. Absolutely sick.
Edit- not saying all of these refugees are evil, they're not. But like you said, even ONE of them coming into our country with ill intentions is enough for me to say NO THANKS to every single one of them. Sorry, but I'd like my family and I to keep our heads and not be stabbed or shot to death.
I'm struggling with the whole Syrian refugee situation. My conclusion for the time being is that it is a very complex issue and I'm tired of people (on my Facebook, not here) spouting hateful speech and clearly not looking at the whole situation. Part of me agrees that the best way to keep a few bad apples out is to keep all of them out. As a Christian, I know people need more compassion and heaven forbid any of us would be in such a dire situation where we didn't know where our families were going to sleep at night. I should also add, that if ISIS wants to attack the US, they have plenty of members on our soil right now to do so. It's not like they would all just be coming over now as Syrian refugees.
Then there's the strategic argument of things. I think Daesh/ISIS/ISIL WANTS us to show hatred and exclusion to the Muslim community because it makes it easier for them to push their agenda. Every negative reaction we have improves their argument that the world is against Islam and they must continue the war until it is over.
It's all quite sad and I realize there is no textbook answer on what we need to do. This world can be a very ugly place and I hope it can improve for the sake of these little babes we're bringing into the world.
Me: 27 DH: 30 Married in 2011 Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014) Baby 2: Due May 2016
This is unpopular here in the South: I'm all for a cute little bow in a baby girl's hair, but hate the GIANT bows/headbands that are very disproportionate to their heads.
Oh man, that reminds me. I'm from the deep south, but I live outside the south now. I'm still friends on facebook with a lot of people I went to high school with, and can someone please tell me why in the hell these people are dressing their kids as clowns? I mean, what are these clothes???!!!! I only see them on my deep south friends' facebook pictures, and I cringe every time.
@yogahh I didn't want to be the one to open the can of worms. But since you did...And I agree with you completely, I'll comment.
I am normally have a "help all the people" mindset. However, my best friend is German and lives outside of cologne. Her stories about the refugees are frustrating and make me worried for her. First of all, she said the majority of refugees in Germany are male. Out of these refugees the majority of them are rude, disrespectful, and have little regard for native Germans or their culture. They are complaining about the food and shelter they are given. They are threatening, aggressive, and many of the Germans are sorry that they have "helped" them. Many German people feel endangered and angry they are not protected by their government.
Her correspondance over the past few weeks In addition to the Paris attacks has completely changed my mindset on our country blindly accepting refugees.
One of my very good friends and her family is moving to Sweden in January. While I know these horrible attacks can happen anywhere, the thought of her in Europe where there is so much unrest makes me nervous. So I totally understand where you and your friend are coming from.
Honestly, I keep telling DH we should move to the corn fields of Kansas. I would feel safer there than in the epicenter of NY.
A-freaking-men! So beyond scared. My husband is in the military and due to deploy end of June and I cried and cried and cried after seeing this BS on the news. He will be gone for 8 months and on the ship we've been told likely will not get to have communication. I just have this ill feeling that he will be sent to take care of the messes made in other countries and I think the absolute worst like will he be captured and tortured? Beheaded? So flippin scary. Then we are moving from CA to VA in four weeks and I've had dreams this whole week that my kid and I get slaughtered while daddy is off getting his fingernails peeled off one by one by these sick bastards (excuse my language). People have NO CLUE what's going on outside of this country and our service men and women are DYING every single day and still with these refugees have no clue that we are simply allowing evil into our country to threaten our safety and the safety of our families. Absolutely sick.
Edit- not saying all of these refugees are evil, they're not. But like you said, even ONE of them coming into our country with ill intentions is enough for me to say NO THANKS to every single one of them. Sorry, but I'd like my family and I to keep our heads and not be stabbed or shot to death.
I can't imagine no communication! It drives me nuts when people get mad about us not sending troops over to fight them. Nobody has the right to that opinion unless they or a close family member (child or spouse) has themselves served.
My dad served in Iraq in 2003 and it disgusts him how worthless our presence ended up being there. After all the lives lost of people he knew.
Prayers for your H's safety.
Me: 27 DH: 30 Married in 2011 Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014) Baby 2: Due May 2016
Hm ... I realize that this is a highly contentious issue, I am a die hard liberal and of course, I am only a US resident which may cause the flames to burn, but I'm going to weigh in on the whole refugee thing:
(1) The screening process for refugees is, like, extreme. That's why the wait time between application and admittance is so long. Added to that, the previous refugees that have been accepted and come to live in the US have never, not once, been arrested for any domestic terrorism/links to domestic terrorism, etc. The idea that this is a fragile time is prevalent right now because fear is high, but the likelihood of admitting militants in with the refugees is very low. True, not impossible, but then this is a country that already is very comfortable with such a high insurance rate (see the school shootings vs. gun control debate). And don't forget - the CIA and border patrol agencies are onboard with the refugee thing. They have already made statements saying that they can handle it and are confident about it. Since they are actually on the font lines of this (rather than, say, Ted Cruz of Mike Huckabee or Chris Christie), then maybe we should believe them with their experience and knowledge and not politicians who are trying to monopolize on your worries?
(2) GOVERNORS CAN'T JUST BAN REFUGEES! Sorry for the caps, but this bothers me as a lawyer and a politics junkie. Refugees are a FEDERAL issue, not a state issue. What that means is that the federal government goes "Okay, this is our quota of refugees for the year, and here's where it makes sense to send them in the country" and that's that (If you still have some doubt look up the Refugee Act of 1980 and the USSC case of Hines v. Davidowitz). All the States can do is make things more difficult which will be a further strain on the federal government and by extension, all of us. How about them tax hikes, eh? Anyway, what this boils down to his Governors who can basically play on fears and xenophobia for votes without actually doing much but publicly disagreeing with the federal government. Literally - all your governor can do is sit on his or her hands and proclaim loudly that they do not like this and by hell or high water, this will not happen ... and then do nothing but rake in praise from Fox News because there's nothing actually to do.
Further, as an immigrant to the US (my husband is a dual Canadian-American citizen and we moved here a few years ago), these attitudes terrify me because of my status - how far is it to leap from "refugees drain our economy!" to "Immigrants come and take our jobs!" ? This is a land of immigrants, let us not forget, and it should be pointed out that if you're really going to fight terror on an international level - accepting the people who are running away from the very terrorists that are threatening world order is probably a smart move.
So, even though I don't get a vote (permanent resident, yo), I side with taking in those people who have lost everything in a war they didn't start and I trust the professionals tasked with screening them and keeping us safe. Not the governors and presidential hopefuls who apparently don't understand the basics of the Constitution they hold so dear.
@ncm0328 I just want to say hugs!! We don't know for certain if DH is getting deployed next year yet, but I am terrified! There is so much evil going on in the world that I am completely terrified of DH leaving the country. I don't know if I'm allowed to say for security sake, but the location of DH's pending deployment makes me even more nervous. I couldn't imagine not communicating for 8 months! I am so sorry!
I'm struggling with the whole Syrian refugee situation. My conclusion for the time being is that it is a very complex issue and I'm tired of people (on my Facebook, not here) spouting hateful speech and clearly not looking at the whole situation. Part of me agrees that the best way to keep a few bad apples out is to keep all of them out. As a Christian, I know people need more compassion and heaven forbid any of us would be in such a dire situation where we didn't know where our families were going to sleep at night. I should also add, that if ISIS wants to attack the US, they have plenty of members on our soil right now to do so. It's not like they would all just be coming over now as Syrian refugees.
Then there's the strategic argument of things. I think Daesh/ISIS/ISIL WANTS us to show hatred and exclusion to the Muslim community because it makes it easier for them to push their agenda. Every negative reaction we have, improves their argument that the world is against Islam and they must continue the war until it is over.
It's all quite sad and I realize there is no textbook answer on what we need to do. This world can be a very ugly place and I hope it can improve for the sake of these little babes we're bringing into the world.
I can 100% see your position, truly. I am a Christian as well and tend to have more compassion than not in most circumstances. However, I personally don't feel like we have any obligation to take in these refugees. I feel like the US has stuck it's nose where it doesn't belong in so many countries and it is turning around to bite us in the butts. ISIS does most certainly have enough footage in the US (a lot of them even being US citizens) to commit a huge act of hatred right here in the US. I've seen it first hand being a military spouse and being told that I can no longer wear my Navy wife apparel and my husband is to go straight home from work and take off his uniform before heading out into public due to exposure of being US military and the threats involved. And how sad! The commitment to our country that these men and women have and they can't even flaunt this commitment in fear of having their family added to the ISIS threat list? From this I have now changed my mindset to understand that Christians are the biggest target in the minds of these radical Islamists and they don't agree with our belief system and they certainly do not agree with how we as Americans live our lives and therefore want to rid of our religion first, and our nation as a whole second. This here is what has me lacking compassion for these refugees because it only takes one bad apple, one mastermind to actually set action to the plans of the ISIS members who already have roots in the US and we have a huge huge crisis on our hands.
More of a rant than UO, but I really hate when people bathe themselves in perfume/cologne. Even when not pregnant I have a fairly sensitive respiratory system - sneezing, coughing, issues breathing, etc.
I got to work today and all I could smell at my desk was perfume. I could barely breathe and had to step away. Come to find out it's my project manager as I walk into a meeting with my team in a very tiny office with them. Let's just say it was a long 15 minutes. I also now smell like said perfume... Like strongly. And it's making me nauseous. I honestly think I may go home after lunch bc the only way to help this is going to be me going home, changing, showering.
I guess I just wish some people would learn a little goes a long way. Your perfume may smell good to you... But may make someone else feel like complete crap.
Honestly, I keep telling DH we should move to the corn fields of Kansas. I would feel safer there than in the epicenter of NY.
Not to sound cliche, but then you're doing exactly what terrorists want. Back in 2005, I was packing to go study abroad in London for the summer. When I woke up the day to go to the airport, I turned on the news and saw London was attacked. I started getting calls from other people in the program trying to see if people were still going, but I ultimately called my dad who is a retired Lt Col. He told me I needed to zip up my suitcase and get my ass on the plane, and that I should not give up something like that out of fear. So, I did as he said, zipped my suitcase, and went to the airport. Not only was it one of the best summers of my life, but being in London at the time was incredibly moving and what is ultimately lead me to go to graduate school for Public Affairs. Not to mention as soon as I got home, Katrina struck, and my friends and family lost everything. The summer of 2005 was a rough one.
Long story short, I won't give my opinions on the refugees or other things, but I do know that when bad things like this happen, people get scared. But when we start giving up things we love, any sense of adventure to travel, start judging our neighbors, and give up personal liberties, then hate is winning the ideological war. That's why I refuse to quit living. If anything, it makes me want to live even more.
@Jesse835235 thank you very much! And thank you to your dad for his service.
@JessicaB0627 thank you and hugs to you as well! It is super super scary and I'm sure that with everything going on, there isn't a deployment site that would give you any ease of mind either. Hoping that he doesn't wind up having to go out and can stay home with his family! T&P for you guys!
A-freaking-men! So beyond scared. My husband is in the military and due to deploy end of June and I cried and cried and cried after seeing this BS on the news. He will be gone for 8 months and on the ship we've been told likely will not get to have communication. I just have this ill feeling that he will be sent to take care of the messes made in other countries and I think the absolute worst like will he be captured and tortured? Beheaded? So flippin scary. Then we are moving from CA to VA in four weeks and I've had dreams this whole week that my kid and I get slaughtered while daddy is off getting his fingernails peeled off one by one by these sick bastards (excuse my language).
Wow. I'm the wife of someone in the AF that has been deployed 5 times. I feel bad that you think of things like this so much that it makes you ill. If you are really having thoughts that you and your child are going to get slaughtered and your husband is going to get captured and tortured to that level, I would really recommend you talk to someone. Sure bad things cross my mind and the other spouses I'm friends with minds, but not to that level. Do you have other spouses you can talk to?
Re: UO Thursday
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
Eta: I'll go further and say I don't like ear piercings on tiny babies, either.
2) I am an anxious person and currently wouldn't visit major cities and tourist attractions until the world climate is a little less hostile. As in, I won't be visiting NYC, Paris, London, or Washington DC, etc. anytime soon. I know fear cannot rule our lives, but I'm more of a calculated risk kind of person and right now traveling just wouldn't be worth it for me. I think becoming a parent has made this worse for me...
Beyonce... Meh.
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
Agreed! I would much rather have my kids choose a couple of close friends and we can go and do a special activity... amusement park, aquarium, whatever. I think it's a little ridiculous when people throw a 50 person bash for a 1 year old's birthday.
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
My governor is one of the ones that will not allow the Syrian refugees in the state. I'm actually quite grateful. The economy here is getting worse every day as paper mills are closing. The paper and timber industries have been big here since the 1800s. It is the main economy. Closing that down means those hundreds/thousands of people will need jobs. They don't need more competition for those jobs than there already is going to be.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
Jesse835235 Couldn't agree more. Not a Beyonce fan either. Or hip-hop, pop, or rap in general honestly.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
I am normally have a "help all the people" mindset. However, my best friend is German and lives outside of cologne. Her stories about the refugees are frustrating and make me worried for her. First of all, she said the majority of refugees in Germany are male. Out of these refugees the majority of them are rude, disrespectful, and have little regard for native Germans or their culture. They are complaining about the food and shelter they are given. They are threatening, aggressive, and many of the Germans are sorry that they have "helped" them. Many German people feel endangered and angry they are not protected by their government.
Her correspondance over the past few weeks In addition to the Paris attacks has completely changed my mindset on our country blindly accepting refugees.
Edit- not saying all of these refugees are evil, they're not. But like you said, even ONE of them coming into our country with ill intentions is enough for me to say NO THANKS to every single one of them. Sorry, but I'd like my family and I to keep our heads and not be stabbed or shot to death.
Then there's the strategic argument of things. I think Daesh/ISIS/ISIL WANTS us to show hatred and exclusion to the Muslim community because it makes it easier for them to push their agenda. Every negative reaction we have improves their argument that the world is against Islam and they must continue the war until it is over.
It's all quite sad and I realize there is no textbook answer on what we need to do. This world can be a very ugly place and I hope it can improve for the sake of these little babes we're bringing into the world.
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
I can't imagine no communication! It drives me nuts when people get mad about us not sending troops over to fight them. Nobody has the right to that opinion unless they or a close family member (child or spouse) has themselves served.
My dad served in Iraq in 2003 and it disgusts him how worthless our presence ended up being there. After all the lives lost of people he knew.
Prayers for your H's safety.
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
I got to work today and all I could smell at my desk was perfume. I could barely breathe and had to step away. Come to find out it's my project manager as I walk into a meeting with my team in a very tiny office with them. Let's just say it was a long 15 minutes. I also now smell like said perfume... Like strongly. And it's making me nauseous. I honestly think I may go home after lunch bc the only way to help this is going to be me going home, changing, showering.
I guess I just wish some people would learn a little goes a long way. Your perfume may smell good to you... But may make someone else feel like complete crap.
Not to sound cliche, but then you're doing exactly what terrorists want. Back in 2005, I was packing to go study abroad in London for the summer. When I woke up the day to go to the airport, I turned on the news and saw London was attacked. I started getting calls from other people in the program trying to see if people were still going, but I ultimately called my dad who is a retired Lt Col. He told me I needed to zip up my suitcase and get my ass on the plane, and that I should not give up something like that out of fear. So, I did as he said, zipped my suitcase, and went to the airport. Not only was it one of the best summers of my life, but being in London at the time was incredibly moving and what is ultimately lead me to go to graduate school for Public Affairs. Not to mention as soon as I got home, Katrina struck, and my friends and family lost everything. The summer of 2005 was a rough one.
Long story short, I won't give my opinions on the refugees or other things, but I do know that when bad things like this happen, people get scared. But when we start giving up things we love, any sense of adventure to travel, start judging our neighbors, and give up personal liberties, then hate is winning the ideological war. That's why I refuse to quit living. If anything, it makes me want to live even more.
@JessicaB0627 thank you and hugs to you as well! It is super super scary and I'm sure that with everything going on, there isn't a deployment site that would give you any ease of mind either. Hoping that he doesn't wind up having to go out and can stay home with his family! T&P for you guys!
I want these!!! Where are you ladies finding them?