@ceu I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish there was something I could do to help you. Creepy internet hugs will have to do. Prayers for both you and your mom.
Just so you know, some websites claim that women with a tilted uterus (falsely) measure "behind" in early pregnancy. About 20-40 percent of women have a tilted uterus, and may not realize it. I'm not intending to overstate my bounds, but did the dr consider that maybe in a couple weeks the baby will be measuring fine? If you miscarry naturally in the meantime, I think (someone may know more about his than me,) that they can still do genetic testing. I don't think it has to be a d&c to run tests. You maybe want to consider just letting things go a couple more weeks before ending the pregnancy... And finally, thoughts and prayers to you while you go through this difficult time.
Praying for you. I'm shocked your doctor is so quick to suggest a D&C. I hope you are able to find peace and clarity through this crazy storm you're experiencing. Hugs to you.
Thank you, I had a few hours before going in to teach last night. I think my doctor was very hasty, and barely searched for a different angle in the baby, or considered that some fetuses take more time to develop than others. She was very curt, explained my only options were d&c and testing, or stop the progesterone and lose the pregnancy. I can't do either when I saw the heart is still beating. I've made an appointment with another obgyn for Monday. He comes highly recommended. I'm hopeful that my doc was wrong. She didn't even measure the heart rate! How can I abort when I'm not convinced? Am I living in denial? There are people all over the forums who have said they were dated like three weeks short who turned out to have perfectly normal pregnancies. I hope I'm one of them. I'm working on breathing in and out before going in for this biopsy today. Fingers crossed, legs crossed! Haha.
Married 4/2011 TTC since 4/2015 bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d Status: Benched
I have no experience with this whatsoever, but I am very sorry you're going through this. I also have to agree with PPs though. When I first read your update I was shocked to see they suggested a D&C even though they were able to pick up a heartbeat. Listen to our gut. I'm glad you made another appt with a different doctor! Thoughts, prayers and good luck!
Wow. So sorry this is happening to you. I am also glad you are seeing another doc. I don't understand why the doctor would want to abort the baby if you are only measuring a week behind? That seems crazy! I had an ultrasound last week and the baby measured 6w4d and based on my last period i thought i was 7w5d. My doc didn't seem to care at all. Hopefully you will receive some much better news at your next apt. Lots of prayers! Keep us posted.
Thank you all. I had the biopsy today. It didn't go well. They decided last minute to do 3 core biopsies. It isn't a cyst as the originally thought it might be. Fingers crossed it is just fibrous tissue, not cancer. My mom surprised me and is on her way from Cleveland to LA tonight! I can't wait to (lightly, ouch!) wrap my arms around her. I did speak to my other doc and nurses at the hospital today about the ultrasound. They were all flabbergasted that my doctor would tell me to abort so incredibly early. They all were very glad I was getting a second opinion, and my other doctor told me to fire the one who told me to d&c! I feel better about it already. Xo you guys.
Married 4/2011 TTC since 4/2015 bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d Status: Benched
Wow. You are so brave. And it sounds like your mom is an equally strong and amazing woman. So glad she is coming to be with you! I think you made the absolute right call in getting a second opinion and have been handling indescribably difficult time unbelievably well. My T&P are with you! FX for a positive US with your new doc and positive outcome with your lab results!
Wow, I can't believe you are going through so much. I also can't believe your doctor. I'm so glad you are getting a second opinion. Continued love and support your way. Please keep us posted.
I'm so glad you are getting a second opinion... a miscarriage is hard, but so would going though the rest of your life wondering "what if? (the baby was actually ok).
I'm so shocked your lump isn't a cyst. I really thought it would be! I have a lump of fibrous tissue that comes and goes. Sometimes it's pretty sore. I really hope that is what's happening to you.
So I got some decent news, and some excellent news. 1. The baby is still with us, measuring yesterday at 6w1d. We heard a tiny bit of the heartbeat! My new doctor says if I had just come in off the street, without having anyone telling me there would be a problem, he would say, "not to worry, we see this sort of thing all the time. Come back in one week for another ultrasound." He is a bit concerned that the embryo is small, but the heartbeat is strong and consistent. So I go back and see what's what in a week. Hoping maybe a steak would be good for the lil guy? 2. Benign. My boob lumps are BENIGN. I'm so thankful for this. I do feel a bit guilty because now my mom has to go through this by herself, without someone else with a bald head nearby. I am counting my blessings though. Today, I am cancer free, and am pregnant, and spent a wonderful weekend with my husband and mama. Breathing in, breathing out...
Married 4/2011 TTC since 4/2015 bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d Status: Benched
Thank you for the update! I agree with PP that your mom is probably thrilled that you're not going through the same experience as her. I'll keep praying for you and your family. Grow baby grow!
I am so, so happy for you. It brought some tears to my eyes. Please don't feel guilty. Your mother needs you to be strong and healthy for her, and now you will be. I'm sure your mother is so grateful that her baby is cancer free. Sending so many prayers your way!
Oh my goodness @ceu I am so happy to read this update! Praying that baby continues to do so well and thankful you are cancer free!! I know your mom is so relieved. Praying for her as well. Thank you for updating us!
I just read all of your updates. So glad to hear you got a good, second opinion for your little one and that your biopsy showed benign tissue!!! I'm sure it's an enormous relief. Thoughts and prayers with you that all continues to go well for you, and for your mom as well.
So happy to be reading these updates! I have no doubt, that cancer free or not, your mom will feel like she has you on her side :-) hugs to you. And lots of prayers too!
You've truly been on a roller coaster for the past couple of weeks. Hoping walking, meditation, and deep breathing have helped to manage your stress. Working out is also good. For me pre-natal pilates and yoga are great at reducing stress.
Between working two jobs, going to doctors appointments and being sick (really bad cold) there hasn't been time for walking or exercise! I am relying heavily on hugs from my husband, and constant phone calls to my mom to get me through. I have to say I really feel a resurgence of pregnancy symptoms these past three days, including a sore back and bb's. Though I'm on progesterone, I think this baby might be adding to the progesterone department. At least that's what I'm hoping!!! I want so badly for this little one to stick. I can't imagine losing another pregnancy while my mom is going through chemo and is so sick. She starts chemo Monday!
Married 4/2011 TTC since 4/2015 bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d Status: Benched
I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't fathom the pain you've been through these last few weeks. Your mom will of course remain in my prayers along with new prayers for you. I hope you have a quick recovery. My heart is heavy for you.
Re: Update: preg after loss, found a breast lump & mom just diagnosed with metastatic ovarian cancer
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bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d
bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d
Status: Benched
I did speak to my other doc and nurses at the hospital today about the ultrasound. They were all flabbergasted that my doctor would tell me to abort so incredibly early. They all were very glad I was getting a second opinion, and my other doctor told me to fire the one who told me to d&c! I feel better about it already. Xo you guys.
TTC since 4/2015
bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d
bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d
Status: Benched
I'm so shocked your lump isn't a cyst. I really thought it would be! I have a lump of fibrous tissue that comes and goes. Sometimes it's pretty sore. I really hope that is what's happening to you.
1. The baby is still with us, measuring yesterday at 6w1d. We heard a tiny bit of the heartbeat! My new doctor says if I had just come in off the street, without having anyone telling me there would be a problem, he would say, "not to worry, we see this sort of thing all the time. Come back in one week for another ultrasound." He is a bit concerned that the embryo is small, but the heartbeat is strong and consistent. So I go back and see what's what in a week. Hoping maybe a steak would be good for the lil guy?
2. Benign. My boob lumps are BENIGN. I'm so thankful for this. I do feel a bit guilty because now my mom has to go through this by herself, without someone else with a bald head nearby.
TTC since 4/2015
bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d
bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d
Status: Benched
I'm sure your mother feels the complete opposite and is SO GLAD not to have you go through this with her!
I'm very happy for you about both updates!
Please don't feel guilty. Your mother needs you to be strong and healthy for her, and now you will be. I'm sure your mother is so grateful that her baby is cancer free.
Sending so many prayers your way!
TTC since 4/2015
bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d
bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d
Status: Benched
DST T4L
TTC since 4/2015
bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d
bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d
Status: Benched
TTC since 4/2015
bfp 7/14/2015 EDD 3/22/16 m/c 7w0d
bfp 10/2/2015 EDD 6/22/16 d&c 9w0d
Status: Benched