When you can't nest

Taylovesbrad · November 2015

Well I literally just had a hormonal melt down because I want my son's room to be done.
My husband has this huge work project that has forced me to be very patient waiting for him to do things.
Shelves are sitting in our babes room because his drill battery died.
Him and his dad are building the crib and it is still not complete.
Car seat is sitting in the car uninstalled.

I feel like I'm going insane. I just want to have books on his shelves and his crib all done in his room.
I don't know what to say to my husband to get him to get this shit done!! Due in two weeks and I feel this huge need to have everything ready by now.
Doesn't help when your husband is laughing as you are having a hormonal melt down telling you it will get done.

I want it all done NOW.
Wish I had learned to gif so I could post a good one in this post.

lalg28 · November 2015

Could you hire someone to help? Or do you have a brother or father that can help? I know it's frustrating, I have to nag so much to get things done. Still nowhere near the progress I want.

momotheflyinglemur · November 2015

If I were you I would start doing it myself. I put together LO's crib and bookshelf by myself. I marked the walls for where SO needed to drill holes, so all he had to come in and do was drill 'em and I'd come behind him and hang 'em. Do you have wall art that just needs to be tacked up? You can do that, and your car seat as well. You might want to be careful. The last three ladies I have known to get their car seats installed went into labor the very next day.

ammnam14 · November 2015

Agree with PPs. Have someone else come in and help or start doing small stuff by yourself. My husband put the crib together and hasn't been in the nursery since. I have been working on it by myself.

Taylovesbrad · November 2015

I have done all I can do myself.
They are literally building the crib not assembling it.

Daphneh28 · November 2015

Ph I feel your pain! we are in the same boat. I'm going nuts here and what's worse I can't do much about it either. I'm exhausted and can barely get things done. But now hopefully being on leave I can rest and gather some strength and get some things done (I have this organizer I want to get done and get some boxes out of my room). First order of the day is cleaning the car and having that car seat installed!

hopefully it does put me into labor lol!

Taylovesbrad · November 2015

Goodluck @Daphneh28 !!!!
Wish I wasn't so frusturated.
Everything needed is ready (bassinet, changing table). It's just my wants that aren't done.
Deep breaths it will happen just not on our time table. Loving all this lack of control... NOT

JElizbetty · November 2015

I know exactly what you are going through, our whole house is being remodeled by my husband and FIL (we have no kitchen right now at all), I started going insane so he decided to at least install the new floors in the babies room, still no doors on but he finished everything else and put in the new moulding and door frames. I've been trying my best to take it one day at a time, I kept myself busy crocheting hats and washing clothes that I had to keep in laundry baskets for a few days until we finally got furniture in there. Its nice having a handy man and all but at times you wish you would have just sprung for hired help instead of waiting for work to get done only on weekends. Keep calm and just do what you can. It will come together soon enough.

blended10 · November 2015

My nursery is not even close to done- I'm in the same boat. Totally at the mercy of my husband & being told to "relax" about it. It is his fourth kid so he's not exactly worried about it! But I have a good cry about it maybe once a week.
Intellectually, of course you know, it's all going to be ok. But emotionally I can toooootally relate

ssn109 · November 2015

I'm jealous of those of you with actual nurseries. My nesting abilities are limited by the fact that we are currently in a 1 bedroom apartment that is really barely big enough for one person, let alone two. Or even three. So I'm severely limited in what I can put out for baby, and right now as I'm trying to set up I had to laugh with DH last night. I told him that the process of getting things set up and organized has me feeling like I'm just moving things back and forth between the living room and the kitchen.

To complicate matters further, it looks like we will be buying a house and moving when LO is 1-2 months old. So I'm going to have to do it all over again! It's all very frustrating, and I feel your pain PPs. I have been consoling myself with cleaning. Lots and lots of cleaning. We've probably never lived in such a clean place before LOL

TomekiaB · November 2015

We just moved into a rental and they inventoried every single hole and nail...to top it off they painted over wallpaper so I am scared to even try a command hook. So the nursery will not have anything decorative hung in this house. People keep asking me about the nursery...and I am like it has a crib and a dresser.

NellieHarringtonCarter · November 2015

Know how you feel. We don't even have a nursery! Second kid in a row

For our first, we moved out of an apartment into our first house two weeks after she was born, and the room that was supposed to be her nursery needed completely remodeled ("It'll take two weeks max, I swear!"). Once the damaged plaster was knocked down (my husband was going to replace with dry wall), we found out that we had knob and tube wiring! So then we couldn't finish the room until the wiring was updated/replaced. But before that could happen, our sewer main cracked and flooded the basement with sewage.....yeah, we don't live there anymore.

For this kid, we are one room (or $500 worth of organization stuff) shy of enough space to dedicate a whole room for the baby at the moment.

tewinkle27 · November 2015

Can't nest because he doesn't have a room in our current house (it's up for sale) so I took my urge out and moved furniture around in DDs room. Now it's time for a nap! Lol

neanerbeaner4 · November 2015

Lol, I just got on my husband about dragging is feet and delaying me of all the nesting. Nursery is (hopefully) going to be finished this weekend. Which, it needs to be because I will be nine months on Saturday. Only problems now are that we are getting a new car next month (a two door Jeep Wrangler is not conducive to transporting a baby around when you are 5'3) so no car seat is installed and someone was nice enough to give us a crib, but neglected to include all the screws and we can't find matches anyway. We may be buying a brand new one, which stinks but, honestly, I just want to nest, so I could care less.

iqueeley · November 2015

Boy do I understand where you're coming from. My bf bought the paint, crib and dresser when I was like five months. I'm nine months already and the painting isn't done. In my eighth month I assembled the crib and glider and all that jazz by myself because he apparently has no sense of urgency. I just want the painting to be finished so I can arrange all the stuff I put together but NOOOOOOO I'm just waiting, twiddling my thumbs. Ugh, there are few things in life more frustrating than waiting for someone to do something for you. This is his third child and my first and its makes me feel unimportant when he drags his feet on stuff like this. Sighz....

kawolt · November 2015

ssn109 said:
I'm jealous of those of you with actual nurseries. My nesting abilities are limited by the fact that we are currently in a 1 bedroom apartment that is really barely big enough for one person, let alone two. Or even three. So I'm severely limited in what I can put out for baby, and right now as I'm trying to set up I had to laugh with DH last night. I told him that the process of getting things set up and organized has me feeling like I'm just moving things back and forth between the living room and the kitchen.

To complicate matters further, it looks like we will be buying a house and moving when LO is 1-2 months old. So I'm going to have to do it all over again! It's all very frustrating, and I feel your pain PPs. I have been consoling myself with cleaning. Lots and lots of cleaning. We've probably never lived in such a clean place before LOL

-I seriously could have written this!!
Just moved to a new state...living in a one bedroom while looking for a house! I keep wanting to nest but scan the Internet for houses our agent may have missed and clean instead!

kepoole · November 2015

Is any of it stuff you can do yourself? I put the crib together myself, the car seat takes all of a min-2min to install... Lol I guess I am just one who doesn't depend on anyone else to do anything because I've been let down too many times

Taylovesbrad · November 2015

@kepoole yeah I've done everything I can. I want a second eye there with the car seat so want to do that together. Crib is being built not just assembled. Ive moved into the acceptance phase with this though. Trying to put my husband first and realize he is doing the best he can.

Rratledge · November 2015

I'm with PPs about cleaning. My husband began working from home in August so we turned the nursery into his office (it's still decked out in Winnie the Pooh from DS

). I've just been cleaning and arranging baby things in our bedroom. Our son stayed in there with us until he was 5 months old even though he had his nursery, and we will probably move in the Spring.

alley911 · November 2015

The only way things get done in my house is if i nag and nag and nag until DH does it or if i do it myself lol
I am too impatient though and always want it done asap so if he can't help i rally up another family member (my parents are great!)
Hopefully you get it done ☺ try not to stress

thatgirlree24 · November 2015

I haven't put the crib up yet because the baby will sleep with us for the first few months and then will share a room with his two brothers until we find a bigger place. Idk if it's because I'm a ttm so I'm not really stressing but part of me wants to have things ready for when baby comes and the other part is like "everything will come together eventually". I guess that's part of being a procrastinator lol

LaceyH13 · November 2015

If you really want the car seat installed, make an appointment at a fire station or other car seat checkpoint, take the car seat, and have them install it. Then you have it done and know that it was done right. Win-win!

Angelface225 · November 2015

I put the car seat in after watching a YouTube video and then had DH come and tighten the straps (yay for pregnancy induced carpal tunnel making my hands not work), frustrating but it got done!

colsen4 · November 2015

I put my car seat in myself. I am planning on taking it to the police station to be checked because my BF has no clue and is too busy working on trying to get our new house ready to move in. It drives me crazy that I have all this stuff I can't put together till we move so I am setting up things like car seat, diaper bags, and doing laundry. If you go to this site you can find out where to get your car seat inspected. Some people like to have it done for them but I wanted to make sure I can do it so that if I have to switch cars I can, I just want to have someone tell me if I did it right.
https://www.safercar.gov/cpsApp/cps/index.htm

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