I'll make this kind of short. I'm 100% the kind of person that will turn into a rage beast if I start to feel smothered by visitors. I just tried to explain to SO that he needs to not speedial his friends (who i hate anyways) to come be up my buttcrack right when we get home from delivering at the birth center. I will miss not having an iron wall of nurses like I did at the hospital with my first baby. If I said "everyone needs to leave me alone" they cleared the room like a swat team. I know it's his baby too and he has a right to be excited and share this experience with people he likes but man... i really don't want to have to stuggle with wanting to throat punch people. I tried to explain to him "listen my boobs will be flying everywhere trying to get him to latch, and I'm going to be uncomfortable" and he says the right words back to me, but I also know how he can be impulsive and just do stuff anyways.
Is anyone else in the same situation? Are there solutions other than just locking yourself in your room like a cave troll and not allowing anybody in? Also if your baby is on the outside did you feel really cranky about visitors or did you feel pretty good? I just feel like i'm going to be a crankysaurus rex... but I dont know if that's just because I feel like crap right now at full term. lol
Re: Concerned about visitors....
Don't be afraid to set rules and enforce them.
I find getting up to feed the baby and taking them to another room and not coming back out helps
Talk to your husband and a time limit and make him stick to and enforce it.
When when ILs came and stayed with us about 2 weeks after my daughter was born I would just go I tot her room and close the door to feed her. They knew not to bother me. And I never feel bad abut taking my baby back from someone who is holding them.
You've got to communicate with him and tell him how important it is that you get space.
DH is respectful of that, but his family basically invited themselves to stay with us when baby comes. I was able to put my foot down when they told us they were going to come now and stay til after thanksgiving. HELL to the NO. I told them they were welcome at thanksgiving, but that's it.
I think it's important to set your limits and I think it's perfectly acceptable to disappear if you feel overwhelmed. Your emotions are going to be crazy anyway.
Plan B is to just pack up the baby and go to my parents house for a few hours if things get out of control with visitors. I'm just expecting a struggle with him about this. I hope hope hope he can just respect my wishes because I am past the point in my life where I will suffer though things that I don't want to deal with.
^^this! My EDD is this Sunday. My mom and brother are coming this weekend. Which I don't mind. She had planned on it since we announced our pregnancy. BUT, my mother in law, both brother in laws and one of their girlfriends (who I've only met twice), will be flying in on the same day, 2 days after my EDD. I'll have at least 9 people in my house combined when we get home from the hospital and it's stressing me out beyond belief. I know his mom is going to be way to up mine and the babies ass trying to smother him, and I have a feeling I will be flipping my sh*t. She's only been a "mother" to my husband when it's benefited her, so I already have animosity. I'm sure hormones and her won't mix well. I plan on nursing so I'm hoping I can lock myself in my bedroom for the week his family is here and blame it on that. I just already can't deal.
I wanted nothing to do with anyone for like 2 months after my first was born. Haha. So I guess it depends on how hard the pp hormones hit you and how you're healing etc.
I think when LO comes, I'm just going to recluse into the nursery and keep my boobs out all the time.... haha. Kidding, but it really annoys me when people treat us like a zoo animal.
I've been so excited to show off my son because I've waited so long to have a baby and really thought it might never happen.
I also wish I had the overbearing parents in law problem. The father and his family don't give a crap about my baby and that breaks my heart.