HELP! Baby Name Confusion!

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

All opinions welcome.

So. Long story short...We are having our first boy after two girls together. My husband also has another daughter from a previous marriage making it 3 girls for him. To honor him, I am giving in and letting him name our baby boy after him. His name will be Adrian Tremayne _____ II.

I want him to have a somewhat of his own name.... I don't want to call him Two. Deuce. Little Adrian. etc. I was thinking of using Rian from the end of Adrian. How do you pronounce it at first glance?
What is your honest opinion of the name?

Or. Would you just go with Tre from Tremayne?
I'm so confused and it's driving me crazy! I am 20 weeks this week and feel like I should have my son's name by now.

What would you call your son if those were him names?
PLEASE HELP!

mrstrax · November 2015

I just commented on your post on the name board, but I re-read here as wanted to add that there is absolutely no need to have a name this early. You have days AFTER he's born to pick a name - and that's (hopefully!) still almost 5 months out!

NachosAndPeaches · November 2015

When I saw it as part of the name I thought just like the last bit of Adrian but if I were to see it alone I would eye roll that someone tried to spell Ryan in a "yooneek" way.

Ready4theParty · November 2015

I agree. I actually know a guy named Ryan who spells it Rian. It's obnoxious, and I feel so bad for anyone answering the front desk phones when someone is looking for him. It's a five minute issue on whether or not he works for the company.

Jessiesweetpeajones · November 2015

I sort of understand how you feel. My husband's mother is insisting we name our boy James which is my husband's name. She claims it's tradition even though it was broken by his father's parents.
Anywho, I said no. The baby already has their last name and I want a little part of me in there.
Maybe just use your husband's name as a middle name?
Imagine calling out your husband's name in bed and your kid pops into your mind? Blech.

I do like Tre though, it's a pretty cool name.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

mrstrax said:

I just commented on your post on the name board, but I re-read here as wanted to add that there is absolutely no need to have a name this early. You have days AFTER he's born to pick a name - and that's (hopefully!) still almost 5 months out!

Yeah, I agree. I just don't like calling him "the baby."

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

Jessiesweetpeajones said:

I sort of understand how you feel. My husband's mother is insisting we name our boy James which is my husband's name. She claims it's tradition even though it was broken by his father's parents. Anywho, I said no. The baby already has their last name and I want a little part of me in there. Maybe just use your husband's name as a middle name? Imagine calling out your husband's name in bed and your kid pops into your mind? Blech. I do like Tre though, it's a pretty cool name.

Girl. I feel you! I really do. I'm torn between it because I wanted to name him my maiden name...but the husband is so adamant about him being named after him. Ugh!

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

Ready4theParty said:

I agree. I actually know a guy named Ryan who spells it Rian. It's obnoxious, and I feel so bad for anyone answering the front desk phones when someone is looking for him. It's a five minute issue on whether or not he works for the company.

So when you read Rian you don't see Ree-uhn? Or you see Ryan?

aa79606 · November 2015

When I read your post in my head, I thought "Ree-un."

I prefer Tre to Rian in this case, but since Tre is often a nickname given to a "III" (name name the 3rd), that's a smidge "confusing" too.

Would "Ade" be too weird for a nickname?

AliSummer · November 2015

If you want to name him after your husband, call him Adrian. "My name is Rian because my dad's name is Adrian..." doesn't make sense to me.

aa79606 · November 2015

@AliSummer I may have misunderstood, but I think she's asking what nickname would you give/call your son if his full given name is Adrian Tremayne ____ II, that he can use in school, etc so that he'll have a bit more of his own separate identity.

Edit for clarity

jonesl12 · November 2015

Maybe the nickname will come on its own after he is born ?

AliSummer · November 2015

aa79606 said:

@AliSummer I may have misunderstood, but I think she's asking what nickname would you give/call your son if his full given name is Adrian Tremayne ____ II, that he can use in school, etc so that he'll have a bit more of his own separate identity. Edit for clarity

Okay, that makes more sense.

kalanieileen · November 2015

Rian was pronounced like "Ryan" in my head.

cortney626 · November 2015

Knowing Rian is a part of Adrian, I'd think you'd want to pronounce it like Ree-uhn. But If people didn't know the back story, I'd probably think it's a "you-neek" way of spelling Ryan.

NachosAndPeaches · November 2015

Why don't you call him AJ?

cjbwifey2010 · November 2015

Just call his Adrian or AJ (Adrian Junior). Making up a nickname for the child just defeats the purpose of having him be named after his father.

projectpanda · November 2015

Hi there! I haven't posted much either

but wanted to post as I recognise 'Rian' as a standalone, legitimate name - it is Irish and usually pronounced 'Ree-an' - along the same lines as you would pronounce the second half of Adrian...but if you don't feel at ease with Rian what about 'Ade' - it's the only shortened version of Adrian I've ever really come across (as in Ade Edmondson..English actor in the brilliant series 'Bottom'!)....it's pronounced 'Aid'.

TKaiser91 · November 2015

I think AJ or Tre would work. Also, if your husband goes by Adrian then you could always use his middle name or vise versa. But to help with your other question when I read Rian, I pronounced it Ryan, but that may be because I know two girls whose name is Rian and is pronounced like Ryan.

aa79606 · November 2015

+1 for AJ and Ade.

JadaBlue · November 2015

So did you and your husband's ex insist on naming your daughters after yourselves? I know my personal opinion is harsh but I find this narcissistic and wouldn't agree to it. Good thing your husband isn't married to me! I recommend calling him Adrian and then seeing if a nickname naturally evolves. Hopefully he won't end up like my cousins, middle-aged men known as Little John and Little Ed.

JadaBlue · November 2015

OP, I don't want to dirty delete but apologies for my earlier post. Men seeming to pressure their partners into naming their sons after themselves is obviously a pet peeve of mine, but that wasn't your question and you don't need me judging your husband's behavior. Best of luck finding a solution that makes you both happy!

Sarcasm101 · November 2015

I vote for AJ. And Tre would be a distant second.

pinottoparenthood · November 2015

I would think Rian = Ryan.

Call him whatever you want as a nickname, but I wouldn't worry about "formalizing" it. It may or may not stick when he does to school. You don't need to choose a nickname in advance, honestly.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

aa79606 said:

When I read your post in my head, I thought "Ree-un." I prefer Tre to Rian in this case, but since Tre is often a nickname given to a "III" (name name the 3rd), that's a smidge "confusing" too. Would "Ade" be too weird for a nickname?

Someone also recommended Age. I havent thought about those. I will have to write those down. Thank you!

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

AliSummer said:

If you want to name him after your husband, call him Adrian. "My name is Rian because my dad's name is Adrian..." doesn't make sense to me.

But I dont want the confusion for the rest of my life when I call "Adrian!" and they both come.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

aa79606 said:

@AliSummer I may have misunderstood, but I think she's asking what nickname would you give/call your son if his full given name is Adrian Tremayne ____ II, that he can use in school, etc so that he'll have a bit more of his own separate identity. Edit for clarity

Yes! You got it.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

NachosAndPeaches said:

Why don't you call him AJ?

Because he will be a Second and we already have two in the family.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

projectpanda said:

Hi there! I haven't posted much either but wanted to post as I recognise 'Rian' as a standalone, legitimate name - it is Irish and usually pronounced 'Ree-an' - along the same lines as you would pronounce the second half of Adrian...but if you don't feel at ease with Rian what about 'Ade' - it's the only shortened version of Adrian I've ever really come across (as in Ade Edmondson..English actor in the brilliant series 'Bottom'!)....it's pronounced 'Aid'.

Thank you so much! Someone else mentioned that and I had never thought about it! I wrote it down...

I like Rian and I like the spelling...I love unique and different...and I guess I just want him to have his daddys name legally but at the same time, go by something that is his own.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

JadaBlue said:

So did you and your husband's ex insist on naming your daughters after yourselves? I know my personal opinion is harsh but I find this narcissistic and wouldn't agree to it. Good thing your husband isn't married to me! I recommend calling him Adrian and then seeing if a nickname naturally evolves. Hopefully he won't end up like my cousins, middle-aged men known as Little John and Little Ed.

Oh, I refuse to do "Little" anything. It's not narcissistic to me...it's passing on a name and being proud of who you are and who your father is or was. My brother is a Jr. and his son is a III. They are very proud. My daughter does have my middle name and my oldest has her daddy's initials. I am also named my mother's first name..it's just something to be proud of to me...but I like "different" and I don't like common. So although I'd love for him to have his daddy's name, I still want him to have something of his own at the same time.

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