Bitchfest #2 - I'm so sick of the posts that say "my other family member is also pregnant and I wanted the spotlight!" You get a baby, you probably wouldn't have postponed your life choices to accommodate them, why should it matter? It's just selfish. My SIL is pregnant with her 2nd, my sister just had her 1st, 2 acquaintances also just announced pregnancies, I just can't see being mad at any of them for their timing and I can't imagine changing our timing for them. Get over it and grow up!
I had to go and find what the post was after I saw this. She would have gotten plenty of non-snarky support over here. Whatever, to each their own I suppose....
I had to go and find what the post was after I saw this. She would have gotten plenty of non-snarky support over here. Whatever, to each their own I suppose....
@lynnernon yup!! I also competed on the adult track in USFSA for the past 6 years unfortunately, half of my babies I teach either don't wear gloves, or they do and they wipe their snot on the gloves then grab onto me, and I forget that they've touched me before I can wash my hands. -_- lol
Oh! Bitchfest part 2: just found out we have to "volunteer" to teach the free try it class once during thanksgiving week.... So you want me to drive more than I'll be teaching for? Ok cool. You best pay me decently.
"For some reason the snark level is high". Really? I've read a bunch of posts for our month, and I was actually impressed at the overall lack of snark. Unless someone posts something that comes across as insensitive or just plain dumb. Even then people have mostly just tried to redirect. Apparently I need to read more posts.
I found the elusive underwear one! Well, not that elusive. I saw it yesterday or so and since I am new to the board I just thought that's how you ladies rolled. I am having a good day at work now laughing at the follow up comments.
Yesterday was the one year anniversary of when DH proposed. The weekend he proposed was awesome - we stayed in a yurt in the middle of nowhere, visited the local wineries and he popped the question on a hike of a leg of the PCT. I thought it would be fun to go back there for the anniversary, use the hot tub, drink the wine we bought last year and go try some more. The place we stayed books 6+ months in advance on the weekends so I booked it last March for this past weekend and somehow managed to keep it a secret as I wanted to surprise him.
Obviously none of this happened as staying in a yurt in 40 degree weather, going in a hot tub and drinking wine are not smart options at this point. I told DH and ended up crying after I canceled it (of course). But am still upset that after having the foresight to book ahead, being able to keep the secret, and looking forward to it for 8 months we weren't able to go! And then I feel upset at myself for feeling upset because I should just be grateful for being pregnant and get over it.
We at least tried the hike yesterday but I was too exhausted and cold to make it to the point where he proposed. Plus it started to rain and I started to feel sick because apparently hiking and pistachios aren't a good mix for pregnant me. Ugh.
I'm finding it increasingly difficult to filter anything that comes out of my mouth. I'm still not quite used to all the unicorns and rainbows on our BMB, and find myself not commenting on anything at all if I feel like my snark is going to come out.
Yes! I find myself lurking the TTGP board often because I miss the snark so much. I've seen so many threads that warrant it, but I feel like I can't say anything because they're already full of rainbows & unicorns by the time I see them. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in feeling like I have to hold back on posting. This is definitely not what I'm used to. Support is a wonderful thing, but all the sunshine & rainbows gives me a headache.
When I saw the underwear pic - I couldn't believe nobody had called her out yet!!!! I swear to God that's got to be some sort of record.
The underwear one, yep, but also...how about the "just wondering does an 11 week old fetus look like a baby" post?! So many things to snark on, and almost nothing! And then there was the, "I made a promise to God not to find out the sex." So dramatic.
Yes to all of this!!! I'm not great at the snark but all of those were ridiculous!! I was surprised no one called out the underwear pic! Seriously, what was she thinking?!!?! Something close to "wow, I look hot lying here in my underwear, where on the internet could I post this? Who wouldn't love to see me in my hotness???" Seriously!
@sdLindenberg I'm just waiting for someone to make a comment about "wow, that was quick" when we tell them. Our baby is due 3 weeks after our 1 year wedding anniversary because we didn't expect to be successful our first cycle trying.
Our daughter was born exactly 1 month before our 1 year wedding anniversary....and we weren't trying.
People keep eff-ing up the Master Due Date post. There should be a basic computer literacy test before joining the boards. Copy & paste bitches then add yours, it's not difficult!
People keep eff-ing up the Master Due Date post. There should be a basic computer literacy test before joining the boards. Copy & paste bitches then add yours, it's not difficult!
For anyone who was lamenting the tame nature of this board, might I suggest moseying on over to the 11 week bump underwear post? Grab your popcorn. Edited to say... @Sgoldberg247 , amiright?! Good times.
For anyone who was lamenting the tame nature of this board, might I suggest moseying on over to the 11 week bump underwear post? Grab your popcorn. Edited to say... @Sgoldberg247 , amiright?! Good times.
I know! Everyone seemed to decide snark was okay simultaneously and then mixed it with a big 'ole batch of pregnancy hormones and unleashed it everywhere. No one will be complaining about lack of snark anymore.
@Sgoldberg247 & @sdlindenberg I'm right there with you ladies. Ours is due less than a month after our 1 year anniversary will be, and I dread the comments. Because 1. It's no ones business. 2. Actually, we were not trying thank you very much and are just as shocked as you seem to be, and 3. We have been LIVING together for 7.5 years, so if it had been planned who cares. we are not in the getting to know each other phase of our relationship... we are very well acquainted. Bleh. Nosey Nellies wear me out.
We've been together for over 7 years as well, living together for 4.5 years so we're in the same boat. Just because we got married less than a year ago doesn't put us in the "only known each other for a year or so" boat but I'm sure my extended family will still forget that...
Will people really give you a hard time? If so they need to get a life!!
I remember a couple days after I got married my god mother said to me "isn't it funny that now you'd be congratulated on a pregnancy even if it wasn't planned". I always thought that was hilarious... Because seriously who the hell cares when it happens!!!
@Sgoldberg247 & @sdlindenberg I'm right there with you ladies. Ours is due less than a month after our 1 year anniversary will be, and I dread the comments. Because 1. It's no ones business. 2. Actually, we were not trying thank you very much and are just as shocked as you seem to be, and 3. We have been LIVING together for 7.5 years, so if it had been planned who cares. we are not in the getting to know each other phase of our relationship... we are very well acquainted. Bleh. Nosey Nellies wear me out.
We've been together for over 7 years as well, living together for 4.5 years so we're in the same boat. Just because we got married less than a year ago doesn't put us in the "only known each other for a year or so" boat but I'm sure my extended family will still forget that...
Will people really give you a hard time? If so they need to get a life!!
I remember a couple days after I got married my god mother said to me "isn't it funny that now you'd be congratulated on a pregnancy even if it wasn't planned". I always thought that was hilarious... Because seriously who the hell cares when it happens!!!
I dont know about an actual hard time but I can see a lot of " wow that was fast, did you forget your birth control" comments from my dad's side of the family. They all waited until their mid-late 30s after being married for 7-8 years to start families so a kid in my 20s due less than a month after our 1 anniversary is assumed to be an oopsie that gets side-eyed.
@Sgoldberg247 & @sdlindenberg I'm right there with you ladies. Ours is due less than a month after our 1 year anniversary will be, and I dread the comments. Because 1. It's no ones business. 2. Actually, we were not trying thank you very much and are just as shocked as you seem to be, and 3. We have been LIVING together for 7.5 years, so if it had been planned who cares. we are not in the getting to know each other phase of our relationship... we are very well acquainted. Bleh. Nosey Nellies wear me out.
We've been together for over 7 years as well, living together for 4.5 years so we're in the same boat. Just because we got married less than a year ago doesn't put us in the "only known each other for a year or so" boat but I'm sure my extended family will still forget that...
Will people really give you a hard time? If so they need to get a life!!
I remember a couple days after I got married my god mother said to me "isn't it funny that now you'd be congratulated on a pregnancy even if it wasn't planned". I always thought that was hilarious... Because seriously who the hell cares when it happens!!!
I dont know about an actual hard time but I can see a lot of " wow that was fast, did you forget your birth control" comments from my dad's side of the family. They all waited until their mid-late 30s after being married for 7-8 years to start families so a kid in my 20s due less than a month after our 1 anniversary is assumed to be an oopsie that gets side-eyed.
Same. And MIL already made the comment that we broke the "married for two years before a baby" tradition.
I dont know about an actual hard time but I can see a lot of " wow that was fast, did you forget your birth control" comments from my dad's side of the family. They all waited until their mid-late 30s after being married for 7-8 years to start families so a kid in my 20s due less than a month after our 1 anniversary is assumed to be an oopsie that gets side-eyed.
One of my cousins got pregnant on her wedding night and was super embarrassed about how clichéd it seemed. She's adorable.
For anyone who was lamenting the tame nature of this board, might I suggest moseying on over to the 11 week bump underwear post? Grab your popcorn. Edited to say... @Sgoldberg247 , amiright?! Good times.
I know! Everyone seemed to decide snark was okay simultaneously and then mixed it with a big 'ole batch of pregnancy hormones and unleashed it everywhere. No one will be complaining about lack of snark anymore.
Aren't hormones great?! Lol...no one can say things are boring around here anymore.
Our LO will be due 9 months after our 1st anniversary... I bet everyone will be surprised it didn't happen sooner honestly.
No one else in my family did the baby thing so quickly, but I'm baby crazy so no one expected me to wait!
(I'd love to say the baby was conceived on our romantic anniversary weekend away-- but I was temping/OPKing and jumped my husbands bones after work the Wednesday after we got home. This will not be the story that anyone else knows though!)
I hate everyone. I wish I could punch people in the face through my facebook news feed.
If you're not a Mars bar or a big glass of Diet Coke you can just get the hell out of my life.
I'm finding it interesting that you're all feeling like people are judging you or being dicks about you having a baby within a year-ish of marriage. I come from a mormon family and everyone is pregnant right away after they get hitched. I was married for 6 years before getting pregnant with my first and everyone was like "oh, we figured you weren't going to have a family!" like that was the only possible explanation to waiting until there was a reasonable amount of stability in our lives before bringing a bunch more people into it. I was 28 when my daughter was born, and somehow this was firmly into old childless lady territory.
I was just reminded about dh's company xmas party, It's bad enough when I can drink and this year not only do I get to be sober for it, but I have to fake drink. Shoot me now!!
Re: Monday Bitchfest
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Question about how to tell their mother in law about the baby.
Oh! Bitchfest part 2: just found out we have to "volunteer" to teach the free try it class once during thanksgiving week.... So you want me to drive more than I'll be teaching for? Ok cool. You best pay me decently.
I found the elusive underwear one! Well, not that elusive. I saw it yesterday or so and since I am new to the board I just thought that's how you ladies rolled. I am having a good day at work now laughing at the follow up comments.
The underwear one, yep, but also...how about the "just wondering does an 11 week old fetus look like a baby" post?! So many things to snark on, and almost nothing! And then there was the, "I made a promise to God not to find out the sex." So dramatic.
Yes to all of this!!! I'm not great at the snark but all of those were ridiculous!! I was surprised no one called out the underwear pic! Seriously, what was she thinking?!!?! Something close to "wow, I look hot lying here in my underwear, where on the internet could I post this? Who wouldn't love to see me in my hotness???" Seriously!
@mrsschmity , I feel you on the snark.
Edited to say... @Sgoldberg247 , amiright?! Good times.
Will people really give you a hard time? If so they need to get a life!!
I remember a couple days after I got married my god mother said to me "isn't it funny that now you'd be congratulated on a pregnancy even if it wasn't planned". I always thought that was hilarious... Because seriously who the hell cares when it happens!!!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
One of my cousins got pregnant on her wedding night and was super embarrassed about how clichéd it seemed. She's adorable.
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No one else in my family did the baby thing so quickly, but I'm baby crazy so no one expected me to wait!
(I'd love to say the baby was conceived on our romantic anniversary weekend away-- but I was temping/OPKing and jumped my husbands bones after work the Wednesday after we got home. This will not be the story that anyone else knows though!)
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20