Sprinkle?

likeabel · November 2015

No, I'm not talking about the weather!

What's your option on a sprinkle? (A mini baby shower for 2nd+ time moms)

One of my Facebook acquaintances had one today - her kids will be 17 months apart - and it just screamed TACKY to me.

Thoughts?

hockeyfan42 · November 2015

Tacky indeed!!! I side eye them. (though maybe, maybe, if there's a really big age gap or something.)

I've already told my parents and in-laws absolutely no shower.

MynaBird · November 2015

Yeah, I side-eye this.

VikingGirl12 · November 2015

I actually don't have a problem with it. especially diaper showers or money tree showers. Every mom needs new things even the second time around. I don't think it's that different to a shower the first time around.
I do not, however, believe in grandparent showers. No no no.

vulpini · November 2015

Tacky unless the invitation specifies no gifts and calls it something other than a shower/sprinkle (which implies gifts)

Linsbins · November 2015

I've thought about this a lot since joining TB...a small sprinkle actually wouldn't bother me, as long as people weren't forced to go or buy a gift. If your friends want to take you to tea or come over and do baby things, fine by me, but the invitations and forced gifts would rub me the wrong way. I think it's a thing for some people, but I wouldn't go to one for anyone that wasn't in my close group.

Corts · November 2015

As long as you are not throwing it yourself then no big deal. I think it should just be a small get together with closest friends. If anyone thinks it's tacky they don't need to go.

catherinekate · November 2015

There's so much judgment around pregnancy, motherhood, etc. that I say "to each their own". I agree with PP that if friends/family want to have one for you, it can be nice. I definitely wouldn't host my own. Co-signed on the "anyone who doesn't want to go", shouldn't.

goldie987 · November 2015

@VikingGirl12 what on EARTH is a grandparent shower????

If the "sprinkle" guests are all people that are very close and would likely purchase a small gift for the child anyways, I don't have an issue with it, but if its a big show with a huge guest list of people who normally wouldn't care, then its quite different.

HeartLikeMine3 · November 2015

Glad you posted this. My cousin just had one today which I did not attend. She sent the invitations out herself and it was at her moms house. Ummm no

Curbs12 · November 2015

I don't think sprinkles are tacky at all. From what I understand gifts are not something that is even expected at a sprinkle. Just a way to celebrate the new life that is being brought into the world! My babies will only be 16 months apart, and if someone wanted to throw me a sprinkle, sure! Wouldn't want it to be a big huge thing, but I have no problem celebrating my baby.

Emztron500 · November 2015

Guys, I have never heard this referred to as a "sprinkle" before and it just makes me envision pee. Can we please just call it a shower :P

I think it's up to the mom's friends and family if they want to do something for the mom-to-be! I would never ask for it. I had two lovely showers thrown for me by family members for my first less than 2 years ago and it's my dumb fault I didn't save enough for this baby, lol. I think it's nicer, for the second + baby, to do something after the baby is born rather than before, more as a "come meet the baby!" than a "come give me all the baby stuff I need!" party.

Emztron500 · November 2015

Reminds me...my sister had her 5th child earlier this year (4 years after her last) and we totally threw her a shower. All she asked for was diapers. We wanted to help her out and support her because she was having a tough pregnancy and hadn't planned on having another so just had nothing baby left. It's also a lot of $$$ just to keep the little one in diapers when you've got 5 other kids at home (her step-child included). So totally depends on the situation and what the rest of the family wants to do!

KayDray15 · November 2015

I don't see what the big deal is. You shouldn't be throwing yourself a shower at all, so if someone else wants to throw one that's on them.

Curbs12 · November 2015

@Emztron500 that's why showers and sprinkles are different! Showers = gifts, sprinkles = no gifts.

likeabel · November 2015

Curbs12 said:
@Emztron500 that's why showers and sprinkles are different! Showers = gifts, sprinkles = no gifts.

I've always thought of a sprinkle as a small shower. Less people and probably less expensive gifts. But not no gifts.

Corts · November 2015

I've been to lots of sprinkles and it's usually diapers wipes or outfits that's given. Never seen anyone not bring a gift.

Curbs12 · November 2015

@likeabel interesting. I'm not sure how I'd feel about something like that... If someone were to throw me one I would insist on no gifts. Just a small get together with close friends and family. But hey! To each their own!

mrsp2213 · November 2015

I think they're in poor taste. From what I've heard about sprinkles, it is a mini-shower for second time moms and gifts are expected, hence the tacky element.

scotten · November 2015

I don't really have a problem with a sprinkle I guess, but I would much prefer a mommy brunch. Just me, my close girlfriends, a pretty tablescape and some amazing food. That's all I could ever want! Lol

likeabel · November 2015

Specifically getting/wanting diapers seems worse to me. If someone really wanted to throw me one I'd prefer a blanket or book that's specially for this child and can be enjoyed for many years.

But, I may be biased since I cloth diaper and am already all set for this LO! All I'll need is a box of Tide.

violetmarie61516 · November 2015

Okay, am I the only one who has never heard of either a "sprinkle" or a "grandparent's shower?" I totally thought this post was going to be about cupcakes!!

likeabel · November 2015

Love4Labs326 said:
Okay, am I the only one who has never heard of either a "sprinkle" or a "grandparent's shower?" I totally thought this post was going to be about cupcakes!!

Sorry to disappoint! There were sprinkles cupcakes at the "sprinkle" I was talking about. That probably just makes you hungry through...

TaylorK89 · November 2015

Literally never heard of a "sprinkle" before lurking on TB. Where I'm from (smalltown Midwest) showers to begin with are a small group of close friends/family and usually nothing "big" is given as a gift anyways. If someone wants to throw another woman a shower/sprinkle/party/celebration/whatever for having a child regardless of how many she's had I personally think that's perfectly acceptable. If I'm invited to an event I find in bad taste I just decline and move on.

fishwife799 · November 2015

I say to each their own. I don't believe in throwing your own shower ever though. I think it really is something that's decided by your social circle. I've been to a lot of showers/sprinkles that where for 2nd, 3rd and even 4th babies. My friends look at it as a celebration of the baby not the mother.

meggyme · November 2015

@Love4Labs326 @Sgoldberg247
Some people at my work recently had a baby shower for a coworker/grandmother to be. I thought it was the oddest, tackiest thing. Maybe if I had met the mother to be it would be different, but then why not just invite the grandmother's friends to the shower? Needless to say, I didn't participate.

on3in2015 · November 2015

I think every baby deserves celebration and I don't have any issues with buying gifts for even a 5th baby. I think they are fun no matter what number child. Im sure my opinion is the unpopular one but whatever. Im about to have my 3rd child. I absolutely don't expect a baby shower, sprinkle or any gifts but I would appreciate any gifts of course.

I look at it like a form of birthday celebration..Its kind of like saying my first child should get gifts and a party just because they are first, my 2nd shouldn't get a party but it would be appropriate if maybe they received a couple small gifts and my 3rd shouldn't get any celebration or gifts because that would just be tacky.

j19mama · November 2015

I actually just attended a sprinkle for a friend a couple weeks ago-- this was hosted by a friend, FYI. This is her second (her kids will be 2.5yrs apart) and it was only close friends invited-- really, it was just a chic brunch to celebrate the new baby on the way. While we all brought a little something for our friend/her LO, it wasn't nearly as big as her shower 2.5yrs ago. This didn't seem tacky, but I can see how something that's setup more like a regular shower might be.

Another thought, just since my brain is on the subject now:
I do love the idea of a "Sip and See" (especially for 2nd time Moms) and will probably suggest this to my MIL in the Spring. Since this is our first, I would lovea regular shower with friends and close family, but I know my MIL has many friends that she would like to include and that's a bit of a far reach-- I think suggesting she host a Sip and See after the baby is born is a great way to include whoever she wants to show her first grandchild off to

aloha5736 · November 2015

I don't like the idea of them...one shower IMO. Never heard of a sprinkle. My cousin had twins several years after her first, which I was semi okay with. it was 7 years later and she needed two of everything.

NicknShan · November 2015

I am fine with them if a small group of friends/family wants to throw a sprinkle.

I am anti-shower, anti-sprinkle, anti-whateveryouwanttocallit if the mother throws it for for herself. That's what is tacky in my book.

nrs164 · November 2015

I had a beer & diaper BBQ for my close friends for their second baby. Everyone just brought a pack of diapers, enjoyed food, mocktails, and the men enjoyed beer. It was mainly just a normal friend get together but just a little something to help them out. But I'd say throwing your own second shower would be tacky.

AmberLiz99 · November 2015

NicknShan said:
I am fine with them if a small group of friends/family wants to throw a sprinkle.

I am anti-shower, anti-sprinkle, anti-whateveryouwanttocallit if the mother throws it for for herself. That's what is tacky in my book.

This. If you're friends want to celebrate your baby, why not? It's a big exciting thing, and the gifts are minor and unimportant

alysemci · November 2015

I would never ask for one, and if someone asked me id tell them I was all set but appreciate it. That being said if I was surprised with one I'd be nothing but appreciative and thankful. I would never hurt someone's feelings who tried to do something nice. I would hope if it did happen it would be small, at someone's house and only with people who planned on getting us something anyways

chelthorn · November 2015

My children will be 4 years apart and I have nothing. I honestly hope I have a small shower of some kind (just family), especially if this baby is a boy. Our church typically does a baby shower for anyone expecting. I actually only had a sip & see with my DS after I had her. So, I have never had a baby shower. I think the second baby shower just really depends on gender difference & age difference.

chelthorn · November 2015

aiellomp said:

I actually just attended a sprinkle for a friend a couple weeks ago-- this was hosted by a friend, FYI. This is her second (her kids will be 2.5yrs apart) and it was only close friends invited-- really, it was just a chic brunch to celebrate the new baby on the way. While we all brought a little something for our friend/her LO, it wasn't nearly as big as her shower 2.5yrs ago. This didn't seem tacky, but I can see how something that's setup more like a regular shower might be. Another thought, just since my brain is on the subject now: I do love the idea of a "Sip and See" (especially for 2nd time Moms) and will probably suggest this to my MIL in the Spring. Since this is our first, I would lovea regular shower with friends and close family, but I know my MIL has many friends that she would like to include and that's a bit of a far reach-- I think suggesting she host a Sip and See after the baby is born is a great way to include whoever she wants to show her first grandchild off to

I had a sip & see with my first and no shower. There were some issues so I didn't get to have a shower. I really enjoyed the sip & see for myself, but you will want it a few weeks or a month after the baby is born just because all of the people will want to touch and hold baby. This did not bother me, but I know it does bother most FTMs. It was nice and more relaxed than a shower because people were not expected to bring a gift, just show their love & support.

CourtJack · November 2015

Ditto to whoever said a sprinkle reminds her about pee. I thought this was going to be a thread about incontinence - which, by the way, is something I'd prefer having over another baby shower...or sprinkle...or whatever.

edit -words.

augbride87 · November 2015

I don't really have a problem with it either. At least here, baby showers/sprinkles are thrown by someone other then the expectant mother. It would be weird if the mother threw it for herself! When your children are that close in age there isn't a WHOLE lot that is needed, but diapers are still appreciated/ My children will be 7 years apart, and with DD I didn't have a baby shower so if someone wants to throw me one this time I will be more then happy to accept, if not I will make due.

cattlebride · November 2015

I don't particularly like the sprinkles especially for children that are close together or where gifts are expected. Meet and greets make sense to me though. It lets everyone see the baby without having to entertain for 2 weeks straight after baby is born.

jmohio · November 2015

I have had friends do "sip and see" which is wine and see the baby after they are born. Asked to bring diapers or a small gift. I don't mind this one.

colesmom33 · November 2015

I always thought no way, super tacky. And then they told me there are three babies and I was like "well, maybe..."

berky84 · November 2015

I have zero problem with a sprinkle - especially if the 2nd baby is a different gender. But one of my friends did a Sip and See with her second and I'd probably opt for this - but that's a long ways away for me seeing as this ones my first. Another one of my best friends had a full on shower for her second boy (thrown by another friend). It wasn't taky AT ALL.

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