Thank you, ladies. It's probably an indication of my hormone-fueled craziness that the post from @sarahufl made me tear up. I really hope this is my baby, too.
@Sarcasm101 and @rebelone My friends actually do care, and are super excited about it. We just made a Facebook event and texted a few people for invites, putting "no gifts please" at the bottom of it. The only person who thought it's a stupid idea in my life was my mother, and now she's totally into it. I guess having a baby and finding out what you're having isn't a big deal to you two, or your friends aren't close enough to you to care which to me is sad. Granted we are throwing a party, and the gender reveal is only part of it. I guess you could assume I'm being AW-ish because I want to be there when everyone finds out... I told most people I was pregnant in person as well. when you go years without the ability to procreate, and then it happens, literally with no explanation and it's considered miraculous, it is a big deal.
Oy.
So over the weekend I was at a baby shower for a friend. There's a group of 15 or so of us girlfriends chatting about this topic and the unanimous conclusion was that we absolutely find gender reveal parties to be ridiculous. And guess what, we all have gone to each other's showers, visit each other in the hospital and squee over and love all over each other's babies. Cook for each other, etc. Hmmm. I guess I'll have to tell them that we all don't care enough about each other because... No pink or blue parties.
Just FYI, it's poor etiquette to ever mention gifts on an invitation. Even to say no gifts.
I think the best part of a gender reveal is when the couple finds out a long with the guests. And it's obvious one or both were hoping for the opposite sex. The looks and their face are priceless. A friend of mine from college did this and her mom being the excited grandma posted the photo right away to facebook. Her disappointment was obvious.
I love all my friends' babies/kids. It's not that I don't care about them, I just find gender reveal parties tacky. The only reason we are doing a mini reveal for my dad is because we find out a few days before his bday. Otherwise we'd just text or call.
I guess I'm an AW (new phrase to me and I kinda love it!) but I'm super excited about my mini gender reveal party! No shame here - seriously couldn't wait to find an excuse to hang out with my family and best friends to share in the excitement of finding out what's growing in there - together! I totally understand if it's not people's thing...everyone is entitled to their own opinion - but I'm personally really excited to share this with the people I love the most!
I really couldn't care less if someone has or doesn't have a gender reveal. I've never thrown one for myself but I've attended them and they can be fun. Don't get me wrong, I see both sides but I also think people getting all worked up either way is kind of hilarious/ridiculous. I think it's better to just take the mentality of "you do you and I'll do me," instead of getting all worked up over how someone else chooses to celebrate a new baby. Just my two cents.
@CharminglySouthern just FYI @Knottie9983816 actually asked people on a different thread what she should do so her guests don't feel like they need to bring a gift and many people mentioned adding "Please no gifts" to the invite. I guess I don't get how it wasn't tacky then but it is now? Hmmm...
@Ready4theParty I love the photos where the parents are surprised and one or both are SUPER upset. If you feel that strongly, you should probably let that be a private moment. There's nothing wrong with being let do
@rebelone Thank you for explaining that to me. Honestly, using that word to describe someone's actions as being dumb has never gotten this type of reaction from anyone I know personally, and I really didn't mean it to come across as hatefully as it did. I heard it all the time from the adults in my life as a child, and my social circle uses it a lot. I have legitimately never heard how offensive it actually is, and while you can't take back things you've said, I will be going out of my way to not use it in the future
As far as the 19 y/o comment, that was being bitchy. I'm sure the moms on this board are light years ahead of where I was at your age.
This will probably come off as me being extremely mean but there's really no other way I think I can put it. The Bump is for opinions and everyone is entitled to their own whether you agree with it or not. You may like and want to do a gender reveal party and then other ladies may not. So what if they don't and so what if they think it's a pointless thing to do? Another thing is I have a brother with a disability so yes the word "retarded" does offend me very much. Also, I would just like to add that im 19 but apparently to you I have a mind set of a child. Yeah im young but I can tell you one thing my child has a home, a mother who loves him, and a father who loves him as well as a loving family on both sides. Now tell me if I'm wrong here but aren't you the one living with your friends for right now? You may want to choose what you say wisely because although I may be 19 I work, I have my own house, a job, a car and start back college next fall for Radiography. What's so wrong with that?
@Ready4theParty I love the photos where the parents are surprised and one or both are SUPER upset. If you feel that strongly, you should probably let that be a private moment. There's nothing wrong with being let do
Off topic, but that's actually similar to my prenatal workout:
Hahaha, that is very hot. Is it wrong if I wanna see you do the prancercise trot? *whistle*
@Ready4theParty I love the photos where the parents are surprised and one or both are SUPER upset. If you feel that strongly, you should probably let that be a private moment. There's nothing wrong with being let do
OHMYGOODNESS there's a Thor prancercize video on YouTube. I don't think the cat like it but I still have 100 lbs on him, so I'll be watching it on repeat. All. Night.
@kalanieileen moves like that are what landed me on this board
On mobile, it's (img*src="pastelinkhere") but make the () to < > instead. I google the image, hold down on it, and choose copy, the paste it between the quotation marks, but it may be different depending on your phone (mines an iPhone).
Edit to add *. Make that a space between img and src.
@AmadorRose I'm on mobile & I have an iPhone too. I'm still so confused, ugh! I know that you put "on mobile it's" and then a box with image wrote in it shows up, not sure if you meant to put that? Where does img and src go? Do the quotation marks go outside of the img and src? Sorry for being so complicated.
@rebelone Thank you for explaining that to me. Honestly, using that word to describe someone's actions as being dumb has never gotten this type of reaction from anyone I know personally, and I really didn't mean it to come across as hatefully as it did. I heard it all the time from the adults in my life as a child, and my social circle uses it a lot. I have legitimately never heard how offensive it actually is, and while you can't take back things you've said, I will be going out of my way to not use it in the future
As far as the 19 y/o comment, that was being bitchy. I'm sure the moms on this board are light years ahead of where I was at your age.
Totally late to the party but I deeply appreciate your change of heart with the r word. I always try to compare it to using "gay" as a term for bad or stupid. Using those terms as synonyms for negative words relays a negative connotation to people who are homosexuals or have cognitive impairments. My brother has Down syndrome and by medical standards is "mentally retarded" (I like the psychological and educational diagnosies better-intellectual/cognitive impairment) but he is no way dumb, bad, or whatever the slang form of retard is used for. I am 200% not judging you for using the word and am in no way offended. I just like to publicly applaud people for helping change the language
When I read this post, I automatically heard Aaron Carter's "Aaron's Party". And it goes, and it goes, and it goes a little something like this.
The gif won't work and my inner tween is heartbroken.
On a more serious note, the words "gay" and "retard" make my blood boil. Also queer and faggot. I put them on the same level as the n-word; I have an awful potty mouth, but use of these words is just ignorant if you know that they're incredibly offensive to large groups of people.
Re: Gender reveal
that may be my favorite gender reveal post yet. Fingers crossed that this is your baby!
So over the weekend I was at a baby shower for a friend. There's a group of 15 or so of us girlfriends chatting about this topic and the unanimous conclusion was that we absolutely find gender reveal parties to be ridiculous. And guess what, we all have gone to each other's showers, visit each other in the hospital and squee over and love all over each other's babies. Cook for each other, etc. Hmmm. I guess I'll have to tell them that we all don't care enough about each other because... No pink or blue parties.
Just FYI, it's poor etiquette to ever mention gifts on an invitation. Even to say no gifts.
I love all my friends' babies/kids. It's not that I don't care about them, I just find gender reveal parties tacky. The only reason we are doing a mini reveal for my dad is because we find out a few days before his bday. Otherwise we'd just text or call.
@CharminglySouthern just FYI @Knottie9983816 actually asked people on a different thread what she should do so her guests don't feel like they need to bring a gift and many people mentioned adding "Please no gifts" to the invite. I guess I don't get how it wasn't tacky then but it is now? Hmmm...
Hahaha, that is very hot. Is it wrong if I wanna see you do the prancercise trot? *whistle*
My hips have never been that narrow, though Thor also pracerciszes. Join us, you'll be in good company!
Dats what I'm talkin aboutttt
@kalanieileen moves like that are what landed me on this board
On mobile, it's (img*src="pastelinkhere") but make the () to < > instead. I google the image, hold down on it, and choose copy, the paste it between the quotation marks, but it may be different depending on your phone (mines an iPhone).
Edit to add *. Make that a space between img and src.
Edit: because I did it! Now I just have to remember how to do it lmao! Thanks!
Yessssss, finally!
Awww haaiillll yahh
Make it not pop up with an image. Ugh. Also:
Me, because I know how to gif
Edit: I am not even sure if that would be the correct expression. I tend to translate directly from Danish to English in my head.
When people post on The Bump asking for an opinion but don't like what they get.
P.s. This is way too fun
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
The gif won't work and my inner tween is heartbroke .
The gif won't work and my inner tween is heartbroken.
On a more serious note, the words "gay" and "retard" make my blood boil. Also queer and faggot. I put them on the same level as the n-word; I have an awful potty mouth, but use of these words is just ignorant if you know that they're incredibly offensive to large groups of people.