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Is anyone doing anything fun or special for to reveal the sex of their baby? :)
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  • Sarcasm101Sarcasm101 member
    jamurphy26 said:
    Is anyone doing anything fun or special for to reveal the sex of their baby? :)
    Just my opinion but I think gender reveal are completely unnecessary, especially when its a big party. 

    I also think they are AW-ish.

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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    Yes we are having a party as part of our Friendsgiving party. Not a big party. Don't let haters bring you down about it. There's also another thread about this if you use the search bar ;)
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  • RoseShadow873RoseShadow873 member
    Sarcasm101 said:
    jamurphy26 said:
    Is anyone doing anything fun or special for to reveal the sex of their baby? :)
    Just my opinion but I think gender reveal are completely unnecessary, especially when its a big party. 

    I also think they are AW-ish.
    What is AW-ish?
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  • nicolepineapplenicolepineapple member
    Yes!! We are so excited to share the gender news with our families. We ordered gender reveal balloons (etsy of course!). We're planning to pop the balloons after Thanksgiving dinner because most of our family will be there:). We can't wait!
    I love the idea of a gender reveal... It's just one more way friends and family can share the joy of a new baby!
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  • blonde_mamablonde_mama member
    @RoseShadow873 AW="Attention Whore"

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  • BrittnyS10BrittnyS10 member
    After our little one arrives Im gonna have DH call our families to tell what it is!! Im so excited! Team Green all the way BOOYEA!
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  • Meggs2559Meggs2559 member
    We aren't having a specific reveal party, but we are revealing at Thanksgiving. Not sure how yet. Last time, we did the whole cupcake thing.
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  • Brandi81012Brandi81012 member
    We had one with our first but we just called our parents/ grandparents to tell them this LO is also a girl. I think they are totally okay! We just decided not to do one this time around. Ours was very intimate with parents, grandparents and our siblings.
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  • imrachelleaimrachellea member
    We didn't do a party for our DD and we won't do one with this one (DD2). We took a picture using pink and blue mini soccer balls (DH is a soccer player and varsity coach) for DD, for this one we are thinking of going to my CrossFit gym, each of us doing a barbell lift, have DD carrying a little 5lb dumbbell, and then putting a little pink dumbbell on the floor in front of us. Just pictures for us.
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  • Ready4thePartyReady4theParty member
    We are ordering a cake for my dad's bday which is the 27th. White cake dyed wither pink or blue with raspberry filling. I think he is the only one who really cares what #2 is.
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  • g&tlewisg&tlewis member
    Our entire family is excited to find out what we are having so we are revealing at our normal family gatherings at Christmas. I will be making cake balls in either pink or blue and have everyone bite into them at the same time. 
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  • Goldsgirl9Goldsgirl9 member
    edited November 2015
    I don't feel against or for gender reveal parties. It's not for us but I don't side eye anyone who does it. I also don't think it's necessary to purchase a gift for a gender reveal either. In our case, we're going to text immediate family on Thanksgiving and say Happy Thanksgiving from DH, myself, DS and DS's little brother due 4/27/16. That about as much of an announcement anyone will get out of us.
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    @Sarcasm101 and @rebelone My friends actually do care, and are super excited about it. We just made a Facebook event and texted a few people for invites, putting "no gifts please" at the bottom of it. The only person who thought it's a stupid idea in my life was my mother, and now she's totally into it. I guess having a baby and finding out what you're having isn't a big deal to you two, or your friends aren't close enough to you to care which to me is sad. Granted we are throwing a party, and the gender reveal is only part of it. I guess you could assume I'm being AW-ish because I want to be there when everyone finds out... I told most people I was pregnant in person as well. when you go years without the ability to procreate, and then it happens, literally with no explanation and it's considered miraculous, it is a big deal.
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  • rebelonerebelone member
    Knottie9983816 said:
    @Sarcasm101 and @rebelone My friends actually do care, and are super excited about it. We just made a Facebook event and texted a few people for invites, putting "no gifts please" at the bottom of it. The only person who thought it's a stupid idea in my life was my mother, and now she's totally into it. I guess having a baby and finding out what you're having isn't a big deal to you two, or your friends aren't close enough to you to care which to me is sad. Granted we are throwing a party, and the gender reveal is only part of it. I guess you could assume I'm being AW-ish because I want to be there when everyone finds out... I told most people I was pregnant in person as well. when you go years without the ability to procreate, and then it happens, literally with no explanation and it's considered miraculous, it is a big deal.
    Then that's good for you. And YES I've mentioned it wasn't a big deal to me and I didn't say anything bad about those who chose to do it. And that's awfully judgey of you to say I don't have friends aren't close enough to care. Wow. And since you're defensive of what I said (which wasn't directed to you), you must feel at some point it is AW'ish about throwing a separate party.
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    edited November 2015
    @rebelone No I really don't think it is. I'm a little over hearing it from strangers here though. Wasn't my intention to insult you though, I just assumed you felt that way because you said you don't see the point in throwing a separate party. When I see everyone posting how much they disagree with the idea of a gender reveal because X, Y & Z it's pretty insulting to the women who are really into it to constantly hear that. Maybe I should just stick to saying I think Ugly Sweater parties are "stupid as hell" and I think anyone who wants to throw one has a 19 y/o's mentality

    Edit: because I forget certain verbiage is insulting for some.
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  • DougalMcGDougalMcG member
    erind228 said:
    I think that word retarded is probably not the word to be used in your statement @""Knottie9983816 " .
    Thanks. I was trying to figure out how to put that nicely.
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  • kalanieileenkalanieileen member
    edited November 2015
    @erind228 agreed

    @Knottie9983816 I don't think @Sarcasm101 and @rebelone posts were offensive at all. They were just stating their opinion. Your post, however, I found to be offensive to them. Especially "maybe your friends don't care." That wasn't even directed at me, and I feel perturbed about it.

    You said, not my intention to insult, but then you admit to assuming. IMO assuming is insulting because you think you know exactly how they feel and you don't.

    Neither of them insulted anyone who wants to throw a reveal the sex party. They just stated they weren't really into them. But you have to go and take it to another whole level and actually imply they were saying people who throw sex reveals have 19 y/o mentalities.
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
    Knottie9983816 said:
    @rebelone No I really don't think it is. I'm a little over hearing it from strangers here though. Wasn't my intention to insult you though, I just assumed you felt that way because you said you don't see the point in throwing a separate party. When I see everyone posting how much they disagree with the idea of a gender reveal because X, Y & Z it's pretty insulting to the women who are really into it to constantly hear that. Maybe I should just stick to saying I think Ugly Sweater parties are "stupid as hell" and I think anyone who wants to throw one has a 19 y/o's mentality

    Edit: because I forget certain verbiage is insulting for some.
    You seem a little defensive about this whole thing. So why ask for opinions? You do you and have fun with it.
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  • Sarcasm101Sarcasm101 member
    edited November 2015
    rebelone said:
    Knottie9983816 said:
    @rebelone No I really don't think it is. I'm a little over hearing it from strangers here though. Wasn't my intention to insult you though, I just assumed you felt that way because you said you don't see the point in throwing a separate party. When I see everyone posting how much they disagree with the idea of a gender reveal because X, Y & Z it's pretty insulting to the women who are really into it to constantly hear that. Maybe I should just stick to saying I think Ugly Sweater parties are retarded and I think anyone who wants to throw one has a 19 y/o's mentality

    1)  You don't have to read and post to internet strangers if you don't want to hear what they have to say. And just because someone shares a different opinion and doesn't agree with others does not mean it's insulting. I'm sorry you took it that way. This forum is entitled to both sides and I think both sides when respectfully done deserve to be rightfully heard. You cannot dictate the responses you get on the internet forum. I only had a problem with your comment because you directly called me out and went after me. I never once said, "It's a stupid idea," I said, "I don't understand," and I'm sorry you think that's insulting.

     2) Using the R word is very offensive and insensitive word to be throwing around casually. It's NEVER okay to use that word. That word is used to degrade and insult people with  intellectual disabilities. Additionally, when that word is used as synonyms for “dumb” or “stupid” by people without  disabilities, it only reinforces painful stereotypes of people with  intellectual disabilities. What's worse is you said it in the same sentence comparing it to a 19 year old's mentality. I'm not sure you're aware of this, but we do have 19 year old mothers on this board who might find that offensive and I can surely tell you I know many 19 year olds who are smarter than those their senior.

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  • kalanieileenkalanieileen member
    edited November 2015
    @rebelone beautifully said
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    @Sarcasm101 thanks! You're a doll *kissy face emoji* because I mobile bump which is failing at life right now with the cool features.
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    @rebelone Thank you for explaining that to me. Honestly, using that word to describe someone's actions as being dumb has never gotten this type of reaction from anyone I know personally, and I really didn't mean it to come across as hatefully as it did. I heard it all the time from the adults in my life as a child, and my social circle uses it a lot. I have legitimately never heard how offensive it actually is, and while you can't take back things you've said, I will be going out of my way to not use it in the future :(

    As far as the 19 y/o comment, that was being bitchy. I'm sure the moms on this board are light years ahead of where I was at your age.
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  • geminioftwogeminioftwo member
    We did a cake with family.  It wasn't a party, we just did it at our usually family gathering after dinner. Everyone enjoyed it and having a tasty desert after dinner :)
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  • cmjenkiescmjenkies member
    edited November 2015
    I called my MIL/SIL and texted most everyone else that I wanted to know at that time/told some in person. That's plenty enough excitement for me. Whatever floats your boat.

    ..and no educated adult should ever use that 'verbage' in any forum, public or private. Ugh. I find it hard to believe that anybody thinks that is okay... Take the opportunity to educate your social circle on decency in regards to that practice, even if it's unintentional it's still hurtful. I see little difference between that term and racial slurs.

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    Aaaaaand now you all know why I heart the ignore feature.

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  • NachosAndPeachesNachosAndPeaches member
    I think there's a difference between a full blown party where you invite people behind your closest friends etc. Inwould be annoyed if I got a random invite to someone's gender reveal that wasn't one of my closest friends (like in my wedding close). But for those friends, I think it's awesome. I didn't do a party with DS but I invited my two best friends in town, my moms two best friends (who are basically my aunts), and face timed my best friend who lives out of town and my sister in. (My parents were there too, they're a given). We all went to the elective together and watched it on the big projector screen.
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  • cmjenkiescmjenkies member
    **mic drop**

    Thanks for your candor, @iamrandom.
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