I could have sworn I was having a girl! All of my gut feelings, dreams, and even my family all thought I was having a girl but I found out today that I'm having a boy! So thrilled! Just 20 weeks left now to finalize the name.
Just found out today I'm having my first girl! I have two boys who are extremely excited to be having a sister. I was pretty shocked to not see a penis this time. I'm hoping all the measurements looked good because the tech didn't give me any info. But I'm in love!
I am finding out tomorrow! I have had a solid gold feeling that it's going to be a boy from the moment I found out I was pregnant. I'm still dead certain, but the only disappointment I'll be feeling when they say we're having a healthy girl is the disappointment of a failed mother instinct LOL! I honestly don't care what our baby will be, we hope to have more kids anyway. Either way it's going to be amazing and I'll cry loads just because it's healthy and we can connect to it a bit more.
Sorry to hear about people who's parents told them that they where the "wrong" gender. My mother never hid from me that I was not at all planned and that everyone was devastated when they heard that my mom wanted to keep me, my father included. Not a fun thing to hear. All the "oh but they fell in love with you as soon as they met you" doesn't seem to quite mask the Unwanted Child label...
19 week ultrasound confirms that we're having a baby boy. DD is three and a half and we're all thrilled. We didn't care about gender either way but are happy to have one of each. Just praying for a full term baby this time!
It's actually a girl! I laughed and cried so hard at the same time! So much for mother instinct. Oh dear, I am so so happy that SHE is healthy! Couldn't be more grateful
It's a girl! After weeks of "feeling" like I was having a boy... We were told that our first child is a girl ! My husband has been telling people that we are having a "tomboy" when people ask... A healthy child is all that matters, boy or girl with loving parents to raise them... Good luck to all of you, I'm sure they will be perfect each one of them !
"We're having a BABY!" LOL. We're Team Green, but I'm about 80% sure I saw girl parts in there at our early a/s (at 16 weeks). I didn't want to say anything in front of the tech (then I'd analyze her reaction) so I just told my H I thought I knew.
Baby is 100% healthy, so I can breathe easy until our real a/s in 4 weeks
As soon as we got out the door, H told me that he was excited because he "saw it too". I'm all, "Yay! Another girl!" and he looks at me incredibly confused. Why? Because he saw a penis in there, and is sure we're having a boy. We are vastly amused. Se made a bet, TBD on delivery day. Loser changes the first diaper.
As far as disappointment, I admit that I have a leaning. That the baby is healthy is the most important, because I desperately want DD2 to have a close-age sibling. (Her closest sibling is 10 years older than her.) I have this idea in my mind that I want a girl because I always wanted a sister, and I'm projecting. I know that. I also know that a girl would be "easier". We already have all DD2's clothes, and a shocking number of pink things, because, well, PINK.
H is kinda the same way. He desperately wanted a little girl, and he got her. Now he wants a son. He says that he feels awful admitting it, but that if we had another girl, he would be a little disappointed.
In the end, he said that no matter what, he will love this babby, as well I. And no matter what I think about them being "closer" because they are the same sex, I know how close DS1 and DD1 were at 22mos apart. They were the best of friends. As teens... they tolerate each other, but deep down, there is love. Somewhere, lol.
I'm rambling, but yeah, gender disappointment is real. But if you find it all consuming, you should speak to someone so you can deal with it.
Also, because it hasn't been said, it's totally normal to not love your baby the instant he/she is born. It sounds awful, but it's true. All my kids are the light of my life. I would do anything for them. But with DD1 I was so drugged and groggy, I remember thinking, "How long do I have to hold her so they won't think I'm a bad parent?" All I wanted was SLEEP. Luckily, they took her from me and I was able to rest for several hours. (H was on deployment, so I was alone during/after birth.) With DD2, I remember thinking, "OMG, it's a girl. I have a baby now. WTF am I supposed to do with her???" I never said anything to anyone IRL, and I wasn't upset because of their sex, (I honestly just can't remember the boys) I think it was mainly just physical/emotional exhaustion. With both, after some rest, and some 1on1 bonding time, we really began to connect. It can take seconds, minutes, hours, or maybe even days. I had a friend where the love snuck up on her after a few weeks.
Our babies really are their own individual little people. Sometimes you just have to get to know them a little before you realize how unbelievably amazing they are.
OMG its a boy! I'm so overwhelmed. DH said who hoo! I'm happy he's all good and healthy and still happy but I was so sure it was a girl and I REALLY wanted to use my grandmothers name. Now I have no clue of names and I'm starting to realize my disappointment is related to fear more than anything else. I just really want a good relationship with my child no matter what it is. Hopefully I'll turn him into a dorky science and nature nut like me.
me & my SO found out today we are having a little boy we couldnt be more happy about it, especially because it was what we were both wanting. I'm so happy we get our little boy, but more importantly, we are happy that our little man is healthy & growing! congratulations to all you ladies as well (:
DH and I found out yesterday that we are expecting a little girl. DH is over the moon. I will admit that I was hoping for a boy. I have 4 brothers that I love more than anything and I was hoping for a little boy to take after them. I told them last night and they are very excited to teach their niece how to play video games and shoot arrows. I'm excited too, just a little surprised.
Since the moment I knew and confirmed that I was pregnant I wanted a boy!!!! Then after a month or so I couldn't decide what I wanted as long as my baby was healthy. Two weeks ago I had a 2nd level ultrasound and was secretly praying the gender would be revealed and it would be a boy. PRAYERS ARE ANSWERED....ITS A BOY... KINGSTON LEVI 3/18/16
90% certain it's a girl but baby is sitting cross legged right on my cervix with her foot under her rump. We go for the official a/s next week though. My husband and I both felt like baby is a boy but no disappointment, of course. Just aiming for healthy.
My husband is taking a little longer to adjust and change his thinking because I think he really convinced himself it was a boy and so there's just that level of "....huh?" type shock. He's also weirdly old-fashioned in wanting to carry on the family name and our children are probably the last chance. I think because of how hard this pregnancy is becoming he thinks he's out of chances for a boy. He's already asjusting though as three separate times, out of the blue, he would suddenly mutter in a kind if daze "Have to pay for her wedding..." with a funny little look on his face (good look). It's terribly funny.
We found out at our A/S today that it's a healthy baby boy! We already have a boy and a girl, and while I am truly happy it is a boy, I had totally convinced myself it was a girl! Which doesn't make any sense, obviously it's 50/50, but I was so sure it was a girl. I've been wrong on my hunch every time so I should have known better! I feel surprised and like I'm having to adjust to that image of our family instead of what we were thinking. But he's healthy and perfect and I can't wait to see his little face in a few months!!
We were super gunning for a girl because so many people around us have had boys and it would be nice to be a little different, but the second they told me I was just so overjoyed to have a son. He was really healthy and strong, moving all over, good heart, cute little profile--how could I possibly be disappointed in that?
I've just been daydreaming about my little tiny son ever since. It's amazing how much more real it feels--we can call him his name, pick things out, tell our families about their new grandson... It's just awesome. No disappointment.
@AlphabetFish awesome news! Congrats! Also, with a lot of other little boys at least you know he'll have a lot of friends! ETA- not that a little girl can't have boys to play with.
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Were having a girl! Not at all what we thought! I had all the signs of a boy! But we're not at all upset, we have a healthy baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes and that's good enough for me! We will love our baby more than anything either way (:
I found out that I am having my 3rd boy. Being totally honest here, my first reaction was "Of course I am!" and I was a little sad that it wasn't a girl because my DH and I have decided that this was our last baby. I went through a few nights of "Poor me, I'm missing out on a girl".. and then I truly snapped out of it. I have an ISO blood disease/issue with this pregnancy and we just found out that my blood titers are "critical". meaning, I am needing weekly ultrasounds and the possibility of blood transfusions to keep my baby healthy and alive. That snapped me out of my funk really quick and all I pray for is a healthy baby boy who I know I will love just as much as his big brothers. I already do. I truly can't wait to have another boy. My home is filled with noise, laughter, sillyness, superheros, legos, and a TON of love. My boys kiss me and tell me they love me each and every hour of the day. They have the best little friendship and they cannot wait for another baby to love.
Found out this morning that we are having a boy! This is both DH and I's first and he has been convinced it was a boy since 12 weeks. I was split down the middle on the wives tales and I was just excited to see him kicking around in there! I had remained mostly in the middle and hadn't "officially decided" what I "wanted". I had my reasoning's for wanting both boy and girl so when the tech showed us, we were not at all surprised or disappointed that he is a little man. Plus, DH is one of two guys left to carry on the family name so I am super excited to bring another boy into the family to help him out!
We are having a little boy whilst I never told anyone my preference I was defiantly hoping for a boy so was super excited when we found out and have already been out buying some adorable clothes
This is my first pregnancy, so at the ultrasound I had tears running down my cheeks as my husband held my hand. I was over joyed! I didn't know to laugh or to cry. Both my husband and I have an idea of the gender of the baby. We are planning on doing a gender reveal baby shower closer to due date. (We had the gender ultrasound picture separated and tucked away safely in a bottle for us)
Its a boy...i did i alot of wishful thinking for a girl but God has decided to bless me with a prince.. I cant wait to meet my bundle of joy.. Also did 20 weeks anatomy ultrasound and everything is good and baby is healthy and moving alot.. The doctor said it was the most active baby he had come across that day..lol.. Happpy pregnancy everybody
We had our gender reveal two weeks ago and we're having a healthy baby girl. I could have sworn it was a boy as all the old wives tales said boy except I've felt sick most of the pregnancy. However, I am elated to have a little girl and secretly wanted a girl even though I would have been excited either let way. Haha shows how good my instinct is.
We are having a boy and a girl. I am so happy with that, it's not even funny. I love having ds and was hoping at least one would be a boy, but I also wanted a girl to do all things girly. Even if she turns out more of a tom-boy. So happy to know we will have healthy Ember and Owen to welcome home...
We're having a girl. Definitely not what we were expecting but still definitely excited. My husband seemed lost because I think he feels he wouldn't know how to bond with her (my personal suspicion). When he sits down to watch sports (not my thing but I embrace it for him) I have been making comments about how he'll need to teach her to be a proper fan of a team for the game and not because a player is cute; or teasing him that she'll be a fan of the rival team; finding baby clothes for his teams on Etsy, etc. He seems to be a little less scared now at least.
We are having a girl! It didn't matter which gender, but we are super excited to be having a baby girl! I had a feeling it was a girl, but DH insisted he didn't make any! All of the women in our family thought girl aswell!
I have two boys and had easy pregnancies both of them. This time I'm 19 weeks and have been sick all along. We were positive it was a girl with this different pregnancy but just learned we are having another BOY!! We were pretty surprised but adore our boys and are happy to add a 3rd
We are having a girl! Most people have been guessing boy, and I had been trying to convince myself of that (because I always felt I'd have a girl so I wanted to feel ready and have those pictures of what life with a boy). I was just so worried that something would be wrong I'm just so relieved she's healthy! That's all I truely wanted.DH is nervous as he grew up in a family where most of the kids around his age were boys. He's said prior to me getting pregnant that he wanted a girl (and a boy but didn't care of the order). Everyone is happy that she is healthy and definitely takes after her parents-refused to move for the ultrasound tech and punched me cause she doesnt like the noise in there (she runs away from the Doppler and kicks and I guess punches since we saw it during the ultrasound).
We are both only children so this is the first grandchild on both sides-the grandparents are very excited. As is my grandmother-her mother was still alive when I was little so she's second generation in a row to make it to great grandma.
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So glad to hear of everyone being happy with their healthy beautiful babies! Boys and girls galore! Can we all believe yet that we are going to have a new baby to care for? Every day it sinks in more for us, but it is starting to hit that all of you wonderful women are doing this to, that we are all going to have babies! Wow, mommas, just wow
This pregnancy has been different from my first so I at first thought boy. But as time went on I had a gut feeling it was a girl. Turns out my gut was right - girl! I was just hoping for a healthy baby. I would have been happy to have a girl and boy but I also always wanted a sister so I wanted DD to have the sister I always wanted. I was more concerned that DH would be disappointed to not have a son (I'm 99% sure we're done after 2), but I asked him after we found out if he was happy he looked at DD who was with us and said "how can I not be?" That relieved me and now we can just plan for a beautiful little girl. The bonus is we have all the clothes already so we'll save so much $!
We found out at 12 weeks we were having a girl. After my first 3 pregancies ended in miscarriage, all I wanted was a healthy baby. I can't wait to hold her in march!
im having a private gender scan tomorrow! as here in shropshire you have to pay £50 for the hospital to tell you when you have scans which i think is ridiculous! glad your all having healthy babies! this is my biologically my first, i already have two step children (girl and boy) who live with me and my partner, but everybody says its team blue and secretly id love a lil man! but we will see tomorrow xx
I had myself convinced this one was a boy- for no good reason. We have a 4 yo girl now. We did elective sono at 15 weeks, and when the tech said girl I literally had 0 response. With our first, I had been thinking girl and cried when tech confirmed. Before we even drove down the road to a restaurant after appt girl was already making sense in my head, the idea of boy was gone. We actually agreed on a name while still at the sono- something we hadn't done once for a boy name. Two girls just seems like it fits our family now... All in my head! Having equal fun prepping and decorating this time around, and equally invested in my care and making decisions about prepping for baby. For those not happy about what you are carrying- maybe you should try to understand why you feel this way- that's what a therapist is going to do (I see one, although not related to pregnancy). For me, boy just made sense, one girl one boy. I also thought my husband wanted a boy- so I wanted one for him. Turns out neither really make sense or are true!
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Sorry to hear about people who's parents told them that they where the "wrong" gender. My mother never hid from me that I was not at all planned and that everyone was devastated when they heard that my mom wanted to keep me, my father included. Not a fun thing to hear. All the "oh but they fell in love with you as soon as they met you" doesn't seem to quite mask the Unwanted Child label...
It's what we were kind of thinking, but I would have been happy either way. More happy that everything seemed healthy!!!
My husband is taking a little longer to adjust and change his thinking because I think he really convinced himself it was a boy and so there's just that level of "....huh?" type shock. He's also weirdly old-fashioned in wanting to carry on the family name and our children are probably the last chance. I think because of how hard this pregnancy is becoming he thinks he's out of chances for a boy. He's already asjusting though as three separate times, out of the blue, he would suddenly mutter in a kind if daze "Have to pay for her wedding..." with a funny little look on his face (good look). It's terribly funny.
We were super gunning for a girl because so many people around us have had boys and it would be nice to be a little different, but the second they told me I was just so overjoyed to have a son. He was really healthy and strong, moving all over, good heart, cute little profile--how could I possibly be disappointed in that?
I've just been daydreaming about my little tiny son ever since. It's amazing how much more real it feels--we can call him his name, pick things out, tell our families about their new grandson... It's just awesome. No disappointment.
ETA- not that a little girl can't have boys to play with.
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We are both only children so this is the first grandchild on both sides-the grandparents are very excited. As is my grandmother-her mother was still alive when I was little so she's second generation in a row to make it to great grandma.