recent loss and confusing about ttc
Tippy05
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I was just diagnosed with a MMC last week. I'm still recovering physically and emotionally, but we have decided that we will try to have another baby, we just don't know when that will be. We already have 2 boys, so this would have been baby #3. I'm 34 now, but will be 35 when the next baby is born (assuming we start right away).
My question(s) to those of you have been successful getting pregnant after a loss is this - how long did you wait? Why? Were you told to wait? If you got pregnant right away, was there any concern from your dr about getting pregnant so soon? Does having a prior miscarriage and being over 35 now put me in the "high risk" category? What does that mean exactly?
I plan on asking my dr these questions at my 2 week follow up appointment next week, but after this miscarriage I'm feeling very lost and was very unprepared for how this past weekend went. I left my dr office not knowing what to expect or where to go from here. I've never been through this before, so I didn't even know what to ask. Now that I've had time to start to process all of this, I have more questions.
Any help or advice you might be able to offer is appreciated!
Re: recent loss and confusing about ttc
Anyway, I was 35 when I conceived and, high risk or not, I was advanced maternal age. I chose to go to a high risk specialist, but I would have done that if I were 25 after my loss as that was our first pregnancy and I was scared. I loved it because I went more appointments and got more ultrasounds. I also felt like my doctor was looking for red flags instead of just going through the motions. It gave me peace of mind, but not necessary if you're not worried about it.
We waited one cycle per our doctors rec. We decided we wouldn't chart and if it happened then it was meant to be. Turns out I was pregnant.
On the day of my miscarriage, I saw a different doctor than usual--she said waiting one cycle was only for dating purposes.
I saw my regular doctor at follow up and she said to wait one cycle. In case there was any "schmutz" left, and egg would implant onto schmutz, it may increase risk of miscarriage.
I am happy we waited. My first period after was super intense, and I don't think I would have been ready to be pregnant again yet. I got pregnant the next cycle.
My 1st pregnancy was at 33, my 2nd (mc) at 35. The only difference was that I was offered Materniti21 test. With this pregnancy, I am doing weekly bloodwork for "reassurance" until my 1st ultrasound at 8 weeks. The plan is then for bi-weekly ultrasounds until I'm passed my loss point (almost 12 weeks)
Good luck!
2nd Pregnancy: BFP 10/8/15; EDD 6/21/16
I agree with plainjane, I wouldn't say you are in any more risk due to age, but you will be in the advanced maternal age category so they do more tests and screenings if you want them to.
I'm so sorry for your loss. We are here for you.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
My husband and I both feel comfortable trying again now - after my research, so we are. I have no idea when my ovulation kicked in or if it even has yet, so I've taken two pregnancy tests this week, both negative, but it's still early. Some people will probably think it's reckless, but I just can't wait! I can't wait to be pregnant again, even though it'll be scarier this time around. I just want to be a mom!