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I haven't seen one so I'll start one. What kind of opinions do you have that may be unpopular?
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  • briterfly84briterfly84 member
    I think chocolate is gross!  I tolerate it when it's mixed with other tastier things (Butterfingers, etc), but I'd prefer to live in a world without it! 
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    I got a good one: I like hearing about the presidential debates. Most of the time the highlights sum it up so I still can be informed without having to watch 2-3 hours of it.
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  • mrstraxmrstrax member
    rebelone said:

    I got a good one: I like hearing about the presidential debates. Most of the time the highlights sum it up so I still can be informed without having to watch 2-3 hours of it.

    Ugh I could not be more over this election already. I'm in Iowa, so they've been here (commercials and live) since late spring. I can't wait to caucus just so they'll go away until the candidates are selected. Of course, then they tend to come back since Iowa swings, but not nearly as badly as Ohio, so it at least gets better!
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  • brie_and_almondsbrie_and_almonds member
    edited October 2015
    I love Ethiopian food. (I'm assuming this is an UO only because most people haven't necessarily tried it, because it's great.)

    I know it makes the staff lounge smell funky when I heat it up, but I DGAF because this stuff is delicious.
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    brenlo42 said:

    I love Ethiopian food. (I'm assuming this is an UO only because most people haven't necessarily tried it, because it's great.)

    I know it makes the staff lounge smell funky when I heat it up, but I DGAF because this stuff is delicious.

    I love Ethiopian! Love the meats n wraps :)
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    kimey1 said:

    brenlo42 said:

    I love Ethiopian food. (I'm assuming this is an UO only because most people haven't necessarily tried it, because it's great.)

    I know it makes the staff lounge smell funky when I heat it up, but I DGAF because this stuff is delicious.

    I love Ethiopian! Love the meats n wraps :)
    Ethiopian food is phenomenal! I've only had it once in a trip to SF but if I could find some in Texas, I'd be a regular...only partly because I love eating with my hands like a caveman.
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    brenlo42 said:
    I love Ethiopian food. (I'm assuming this is an UO only because most people haven't necessarily tried it, because it's great.) I know it makes the staff lounge smell funky when I heat it up, but I DGAF because this stuff is delicious.
    My husband LOVES most ethic foods, but he hates Ethiopian food with a passion. He only had it once, but he said the bread had the texture of human skin. OMG. that's enough to convince me not to try it... although I"m more of an American food/soup, salad, and sandwich type of girl anyway.
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    I have another one, and this pertains to glasses. I don't like crizal lens. It was literally a headache.   
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  • skc040512skc040512 member
    edited October 2015
    mrstrax said:

    rebelone said:

    I got a good one: I like hearing about the presidential debates. Most of the time the highlights sum it up so I still can be informed without having to watch 2-3 hours of it.

    Ugh I could not be more over this election already. I'm in Iowa, so they've been here (commercials and live) since late spring. I can't wait to caucus just so they'll go away until the candidates are selected. Of course, then they tend to come back since Iowa swings, but not nearly as badly as Ohio, so it at least gets better!
    Suckssss....I'm in North Carolina, which has recently become more of a swing state, and we always have some of our laws brought up in the debates (most recently is we're trying to ban sanctuary cities, which I'm 100% for, but the dems got all fired up about it).

    My UO: I really don't understand women who drink while pregnant. My god, have some self contol. I get it if you have like one or two drinks over the entire course of the pregnancy, but these people who are talking about a drink a day drive me insane. I've had friends who suffer from FAS, and why the hell would you take the risk?

    Edit: I like wine, beer and the occasional mixed drink. This isn't saying I don't miss having the occasional glass of wine (I stopped drinking the day we started TTC), but it's just not worth it to me.
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    My UO: I refuse to thank MIL for her recent gift for LO. It's a Denver Broncos onesie with booties and a hat. DH is not an NFL fan and I am a die-hard Packer fanatic. She knows this and she did it to get under my skin (not in a mean way). The last time she visited, she left behind a freezer full of tamales and a Denver statue. And of course, it just happens to fall on the week 6-0 Packers head to 6-0 Denver. If it wasn't MIL, I'd take a vulgar picture and tell her thanks for the rag, but DH and I are still newly married and it's too soon to stir the pot. Le sigh.
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    Wooo! Packer Fan here too!! Sorry about your MIL. It seems like she's doing it to razz you. OMG that's going to be THE game to watch! That will be a nail biter for sure!!


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    Broncos FTW!
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    rebelone said:

    Wooo! Packer Fan here too!! Sorry about your MIL. It seems like she's doing it to razz you. OMG that's going to be THE game to watch! That will be a nail biter for sure!!


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    @cmjenkies I know she's only doing it because she knows I'm crazy, but still...why waste your money on something baby will NEVER EVER EVER AS LONG AS I BREATHE wear. Whatever, it's her money.
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    @AmadorRose AMEN, sister.
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    brenlo42 said:

    I love Ethiopian food. (I'm assuming this is an UO only because most people haven't necessarily tried it, because it's great.)

    I know it makes the staff lounge smell funky when I heat it up, but I DGAF because this stuff is delicious.

    I love it. It's a favorite.

    I'll admit that injera might be an acquired taste but the sauces! So yummy.
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    My UO: I HATE my MIL. Hate her. She's a drug addict, lies about serious health issues and everyone gives her sympathy but I know better. I haven't heard from her but once since I've been pregnant. Yet I know when baby is here she will want to be my BFF. I can't stand her and don't want her in my LOs life at all. DH understands, though it hurts him. But a lot of people act like I'm being too harsh. I don't think so at all..

    (Now I feel the need to try Ethiopian food)
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    cglr2012 said:


    (Now I feel the need to try Ethiopian food)

    Do it! Get whatever sampler platter. Especially if it has zilzil tubs.
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    amaniupendo said:

    cglr2012 said:


    (Now I feel the need to try Ethiopian food)

    Do it! Get whatever sampler platter. Especially if it has zilzil tubs.
    Definitely will do! I love trying new foods and the pictures online look WONDERFUL.
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    edited October 2015
    My UO is that kids really need to be spanked (or just under control really, I know that's harsh) when they're acting a fool in public!

    I went grocery shopping last night and a three or four year boy was pulling all the pie crusts off the shelf and knocking cake mixes off the shelf while screaming he wants cake at the top of his lungs to his mother. What did mom do? (In a calm quiet tone, almost flippantly) "Ian hush. Ian stop it. Ian why are you doing this to me?"

    I looked at her and said "I understand little man is frustrated, he might be better off in the cart until he calms himself down." She glared at me, said to mind my own business and f*** off. I responded with "well I was going to mind my own business but your screaming banshee of a toddler got in between me and cake mixes, and is ruining everyone's shopping experience. I figured you're tired, and not thinking clearly about the situation for ALLOWING his behavior to continue in such an absurd manner!" I turned to "Ian" and firmly said "I KNOW you are upset. It's time to clean this up" and sat in the aisle and had him hand me items while I put them away for him. Mom literally walked out of the aisle and finished her shopping while this went on and flipped me off when they left.
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    I cant get enough of the presidential debates. I love them! It might have something to do with the fact that I live in DC and love all things politics related. But if I'm not watching political debates on TV then I'm usually reading through tens of thousands of political news articles online (although it's nearly impossible to find non-biased sources in this country), or just sifting through the latest poll numbers. I guess that's a UO.
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    Stance is not a crime! Not all car enthusiasts support illegal car activities! Ugh!
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    Knottie9983816 said:
    Mom literally walked out of the aisle and finished her shopping while this went on and flipped me off when they left.


    Whaaaaat...Lemme just leave my kid with some stranger...

    But, as far as that whole situation, yeah...what @AmadorRose said.
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    AmadorRose said:

    Knottie9983816 said:

    My UO is that kids really need to be spanked (or just under control really, I know that's harsh) when they're acting a fool in public!

    I went grocery shopping last night and a three or four year boy was pulling all the pie crusts off the shelf and knocking cake mixes off the shelf while screaming he wants cake at the top of his lungs to his mother. What did mom do? (In a calm quiet tone, almost flippantly) "Ian hush. Ian stop it. Ian why are you doing this to me?"

    I looked at her and said "I understand little man is frustrated, he might be better off in the cart until he calms himself down." She glared at me, said to mind my own business and f*** off. I responded with "well I was going to mind my own business but your screaming banshee of a toddler got in between me and cake mixes, and is ruining everyone's shopping experience. I figured you're tired, and not thinking clearly about the situation for ALLOWING his behavior to continue in such an absurd manner!" I turned to "Ian" and firmly said "I KNOW you are upset. It's time to clean this up" and sat in the aisle and had him hand me items while I put them away for him. Mom literally walked out of the aisle and finished her shopping while this went on and flipped me off when they left.

    While I agree to an extent that kids need to be disciplined, I don't feel that it's anyone's job to tell a mother she's doing a shitty job. If her kid is fed, relatively clean, and has a roof over his head, her legal obligations are fulfilled. Anything else is extra. As someone who has never been a mother, I have strong opinions on parenting that I keep to myself because I've never been in those shoes. No matter how well disciplined a child is, at that age they have tantrums. You can't spank in public without fear of CPS being called and leaving the store of giving in and getting what they want will only make the next trip worse. Kids are pushing their boundaries - they will never, ever be well behaved 100% of the time (unless they are abused) and giving them attention is giving them what they want.

    Long story short, I would've done the same if I were that mother. Actually, I probably would have gone further because I have a short fuse and low tolerance for people talking about what they don't know. You didn't have kids of your own with you and you seem unsympathetic to her situation, so a stranger would assume you don't have children. Everyone is an expert until they've done it.

    um, yeah- you absolutely crossed the line. Sure, it sounds like the kid was being crappy but you had no business talking down to his mother.



    Yeahhhh... Unless I see actual abuse of a child, I don't step in. Yeah it's shitty when parents seem to not have a handle on their children.. BUT we don't know her and her sons background. Never know if there is an underlying condition causing misbehavior and the best possible approach for that specific child.
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    AmadorRose said:
    My UO: I refuse to thank MIL for her recent gift for LO. It's a Denver Broncos onesie with booties and a hat. DH is not an NFL fan and I am a die-hard Packer fanatic. She knows this and she did it to get under my skin (not in a mean way). The last time she visited, she left behind a freezer full of tamales and a Denver statue. And of course, it just happens to fall on the week 6-0 Packers head to 6-0 Denver. If it wasn't MIL, I'd take a vulgar picture and tell her thanks for the rag, but DH and I are still newly married and it's too soon to stir the pot. Le sigh.
    What Packer's gear do you need me to send you? ;)  I used to work at Lambeau, I've got you covered!
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    Jules08 said:


    AmadorRose said:

    My UO: I refuse to thank MIL for her recent gift for LO. It's a Denver Broncos onesie with booties and a hat. DH is not an NFL fan and I am a die-hard Packer fanatic. She knows this and she did it to get under my skin (not in a mean way). The last time she visited, she left behind a freezer full of tamales and a Denver statue. And of course, it just happens to fall on the week 6-0 Packers head to 6-0 Denver. If it wasn't MIL, I'd take a vulgar picture and tell her thanks for the rag, but DH and I are still newly married and it's too soon to stir the pot. Le sigh.

    What Packer's gear do you need me to send you? ;)  I used to work at Lambeau, I've got you covered!


    OHMYGOD how do you feel about being a godmother? ;)
    Can't wait to find out boy or girl to find the receiving outfit (I think that's what it's called) because my baby is coming home from the hospital in Packers gear. I don't care if it's April, it's always football season!
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  • rebelonerebelone member
    edited October 2015
    @amadorrose, @jules08, You live in Green Bay? I remember first time in Lambeau for a game, I was overcome with emotions, I could not hold it in. MH is originally from Florida so he was looking at me as if I had 3 heads. He did not understand until about 4 years ago the power Lambeau has and what it means to be a Packers Fan. And I never thought about bringing baby home in Packer gear before you mentioned it. Why didn't I think of that with my 2 year old??? That's an awesome idea!! Wanna be labor buddies? :D
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    Jules08 said:
    Knottie9983816 said:
    My UO is that kids really need to be spanked (or just under control really, I know that's harsh) when they're acting a fool in public! I went grocery shopping last night and a three or four year boy was pulling all the pie crusts off the shelf and knocking cake mixes off the shelf while screaming he wants cake at the top of his lungs to his mother. What did mom do? (In a calm quiet tone, almost flippantly) "Ian hush. Ian stop it. Ian why are you doing this to me?" I looked at her and said "I understand little man is frustrated, he might be better off in the cart until he calms himself down." She glared at me, said to mind my own business and f*** off. I responded with "well I was going to mind my own business but your screaming banshee of a toddler got in between me and cake mixes, and is ruining everyone's shopping experience. I figured you're tired, and not thinking clearly about the situation for ALLOWING his behavior to continue in such an absurd manner!" I turned to "Ian" and firmly said "I KNOW you are upset. It's time to clean this up" and sat in the aisle and had him hand me items while I put them away for him. Mom literally walked out of the aisle and finished her shopping while this went on and flipped me off when they left.

    No.  You were absolutely in the wrong.  I am assuming that you are a FTM, otherwise you may have had a bit more compassion.  (ETA: I am not trying to imply that all FTMs or non-moms don't have compassion.)  This could EASILY be you in the near future.  Sometimes there isn't a damn thing you can do, your bag of tricks can only run so deep.

    I know you think you "won" because you got Ian to help clean up, however ...

    You don't know what happened earlier in that mom's day or in that child's day.  What if there was a death in the family, what if mom or dad just got fired from their job, what if mom just got a really difficult job at work, what if dad was supposed to be there to help but couldn't, what if another child is in the hospital, what if ANYTHING; you don't know their history. 

    Life happens and you still have to be mom, but you have to understand that you won't always be the best mom that you can be.  You will have difficult days.

    What if the child has a different development than the norm.  You don't know that perhaps that mom knows (BEST) that that child needs to be left for a bit to have that tantrum and mom can only speak calmly and softly to that child without escalating.  Maybe constraining the child in a cart or picking that child up and leaving the store could have potentially caused physical harm to mom or the child.  Again, you assumed and you judged.

    Next time, rather than judging, go up to her and say: "It's ok.  Can I help?"


    THIS ^^


    amaniupendo said:
    Making a comment like like that @Knottie9983816 seems incredibly short sighted and completely unnecessary. The mom responded better than many might!


    And this. I know I probably would have said F off and mind your business too.

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    Jules08 said:
    Knottie9983816 said:
    My UO is that kids really need to be spanked (or just under control really, I know that's harsh) when they're acting a fool in public! I went grocery shopping last night and a three or four year boy was pulling all the pie crusts off the shelf and knocking cake mixes off the shelf while screaming he wants cake at the top of his lungs to his mother. What did mom do? (In a calm quiet tone, almost flippantly) "Ian hush. Ian stop it. Ian why are you doing this to me?" I looked at her and said "I understand little man is frustrated, he might be better off in the cart until he calms himself down." She glared at me, said to mind my own business and f*** off. I responded with "well I was going to mind my own business but your screaming banshee of a toddler got in between me and cake mixes, and is ruining everyone's shopping experience. I figured you're tired, and not thinking clearly about the situation for ALLOWING his behavior to continue in such an absurd manner!" I turned to "Ian" and firmly said "I KNOW you are upset. It's time to clean this up" and sat in the aisle and had him hand me items while I put them away for him. Mom literally walked out of the aisle and finished her shopping while this went on and flipped me off when they left.

    No.  You were absolutely in the wrong.  I am assuming that you are a FTM, otherwise you may have had a bit more compassion.  (ETA: I am not trying to imply that all FTMs or non-moms don't have compassion.)  This could EASILY be you in the near future.  Sometimes there isn't a damn thing you can do, your bag of tricks can only run so deep.

    I know you think you "won" because you got Ian to help clean up, however ...

    You don't know what happened earlier in that mom's day or in that child's day.  What if there was a death in the family, what if mom or dad just got fired from their job, what if mom just got a really difficult job at work, what if dad was supposed to be there to help but couldn't, what if another child is in the hospital, what if ANYTHING; you don't know their history. 

    Life happens and you still have to be mom, but you have to understand that you won't always be the best mom that you can be.  You will have difficult days.

    What if the child has a different development than the norm.  You don't know that perhaps that mom knows (BEST) that that child needs to be left for a bit to have that tantrum and mom can only speak calmly and softly to that child without escalating.  Maybe constraining the child in a cart or picking that child up and leaving the store could have potentially caused physical harm to mom or the child.  Again, you assumed and you judged.

    Next time, rather than judging, go up to her and say: "It's ok.  Can I help?"

    My niece is one of the sweetest, most loving, well-behaved people I have ever met. But she is also 2.

    My sister called me the other day and said she felt like she wanted a do-over for her trip to Panera because her daughter was acting like a monster. Which she NEVER does. She said she wanted to write letters to all the other diners saying what an awesome kid she is and inviting them over to witness it themselves. She also said that, regularly, since having her 2nd (who is 7 weeks old) people walk past her and say "wow, you sure have your hands full!" instead of offering to help.

    A little bit of kindness goes a long way. I was in line at a cafe a few weeks ago and a father/son pair was behind me. Kid was about 9 and clearly had some developmental delays because the father was holding him tightly in his arms. Kid got loose from his father's arms and came over and gave me a big hug and was asking what I was doing. I said "hey, there! I am ordering coffee- what do you like to eat here?" Dad looked embarrassed but so grateful that I didn't even flinch. Like PPs said- you never know what is up with a family and shaming them just makes it worse.
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    edited October 2015
    rebelone said:
    @amadorrose, @jules08, You live in Green Bay? I remember first time in Lambeau for a game, I was overcome with emotions, I could not hold it in. MH is originally from Florida so he was looking at me as if I had 3 heads. He did not understand until about 4 years ago the power Lambeau has and what it means to be a Packers Fan. And I never thought about bringing baby home in Packer gear before you mentioned it. Why didn't I think of that with my 2 year old??? That's an awesome idea!! Wanna be labor buddies? :D

    I used to!  I was born and raised in GB, but moved to the Metro-Milwaukee area for college and stayed here ever since.  GB is incredible during game time: 0 cars on the streets, local businesses that are open set up tables and chairs and light snacks for people who do come in to sit and listen to the game over the radio!  I actually have a number of friends who they or their parents sold their houses and businesses to the Packers to allow them to further develop and expand.  Of course we are fans year round, but game days are just amazing.  I remember schools shutting down for 3 days straight in the 90's when they won the super bowl(s) just so everyone could attend the parades and celebratory events.

    We put DS on the season ticket waiting list as soon as he was born; he started at 93,103 and is now in the 86,000's.

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