Beckham is ok. In the South the use of surnames as first names is common but they are usually family names. Without the family connection, it seems a bit odd.
This.
Regardless of who you're naming him after, most people will assume it's David Beckham, as he is the most popular Beckham out there right now. It's the first thing I would have thought of. If you want to name him after Odell Beckham, maybe name him Odell?
It's kind of like when people name their kid Hudson. The #1 thing I think of is Kate Hudson. You could tell me that you had actually named him for Henry Hudson (like the Hudson river) or Jennifer Hudson the singer, but I'm still going to think of Kate Hudson first. Maybe Henry Hudson if I'm from NY. Unless you walk around saying "this is my son Beckham, we didn't name him after David Beckham, we named him after Odell Beckham" every time you introduce him, that is the assumption people will make. If there's a family connection I'm on board...otherwise I don't really get the last name as first name thing in general.
Totally see where you're coming from. But we're not naming him after either of them, we just like the name. And we got the inspiration from watching a football draft, not from caring about soccer. So I understand where people will assume it's after David, but I think I'll be okay enough to say "Nope, after my son, Beckham." I'd see everyone's point in the whole surname only if it has a meaning, but we're not naming him that because it's a last name. It's simply because we like the name and how it sounds with our names, and it just so happens to be a last name. I've never met anyone named Beckham and I've been told by several men in my family that if he ever acts feminine he'll be called Becky, and that was my main concern with the name, not having to deal with people thinking I'm trying to be too trendy, lol.
Totally see where you're coming from. But we're not naming him after either of them, we just like the name. And we got the inspiration from watching a football draft, not from caring about soccer. So I understand where people will assume it's after David, but I think I'll be okay enough to say "Nope, after my son, Beckham." I'd see everyone's point in the whole surname only if it has a meaning, but we're not naming him that because it's a last name. It's simply because we like the name and how it sounds with our names, and it just so happens to be a last name. I've never met anyone named Beckham and I've been told by several men in my family that if he ever acts feminine he'll be called Becky, and that was my main concern with the name, not having to deal with people thinking I'm trying to be too trendy, lol.
I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
Lol I really don't wanna get into the whole gender norm thing on another board. I'm just relaying why I'm worried about his name. Kids will be kids and the name you give them they will be stuck with. If he's less resilient than other boys, I'd hate for him to be called Becky, but if no one else thinks he'd be called that, then I shouldn't worry. And no, the people saying that aren't ignorant jerks. The men in my family joke. We call my brother Eli-etta when he starts acting like a drama queen, just like they call me Ginormica (Monsters vs Aliens reference) when I get angry. They're not meaning to be assholes. That's just my family. And I wouldn't have them any other way.
I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
9 times out of 10 I'm pretty sure parents have this same worry that their child will be made fun of because of their name. It's the world we live in. It's almost the same worry someone would have if you have a son that wants to be a girl or vise versa. This whole sensitivity thing over gender is getting a little out of hand. All of a sudden now that Catelyn Jenner was born nobody can say something gender related without offending someone. @kqualls5 my family is the same way!
I think it's a fine name. I liked Beckett for a while, and Beckham is similar. Maybe people will initially think," oh like David Beckham?" And you may deal with that, but I don't really see how that is a big issue. Also, the association will fade with the people who interact with you and your child.
I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
9 times out of 10 I'm pretty sure parents have this same worry that their child will be made fun of because of their name. It's the world we live in. It's almost the same worry someone would have if you have a son that wants to be a girl or vise versa. This whole sensitivity thing over gender is getting a little out of hand. All of a sudden now that Catelyn Jenner was born nobody can say something gender related without offending someone. @kqualls5 my family is the same way!
I mean, I'm worried that if my future progeny is Trans people will think they just "want" to be their non assigned sex as opposed to that actually being who they are but that's cool that you think it's "getting out of hand"
I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
Lol I really don't wanna get into the whole gender norm thing on another board. I'm just relaying why I'm worried about his name. Kids will be kids and the name you give them they will be stuck with. If he's less resilient than other boys, I'd hate for him to be called Becky, but if no one else thinks he'd be called that, then I shouldn't worry. And no, the people saying that aren't ignorant jerks. The men in my family joke. We call my brother Eli-etta when he starts acting like a drama queen, just like they call me Ginormica (Monsters vs Aliens reference) when I get angry. They're not meaning to be assholes. That's just my family. And I wouldn't have them any other way.
Then don't "get into it." Seriously, you're the one who keeps bringing it up. No one thought "Becky" until you brought it up, much less as a punishment by your family for "acting feminine." Are the gender RULES seriously so strict in your family that you have family members threatening an unborn child with planned out, cruel nicknames? What is happening here?! Ugh. Gross.
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I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
Lol I really don't wanna get into the whole gender norm thing on another board. I'm just relaying why I'm worried about his name. Kids will be kids and the name you give them they will be stuck with. If he's less resilient than other boys, I'd hate for him to be called Becky, but if no one else thinks he'd be called that, then I shouldn't worry. And no, the people saying that aren't ignorant jerks. The men in my family joke. We call my brother Eli-etta when he starts acting like a drama queen, just like they call me Ginormica (Monsters vs Aliens reference) when I get angry. They're not meaning to be assholes. That's just my family. And I wouldn't have them any other way.
Then don't "get into it." Seriously, you're the one who keeps bringing it up. No one thought "Becky" until you brought it up, much less as a punishment by your family for "acting feminine." Are the gender RULES seriously so strict in your family that you have family members threatening an unborn child with planned out, cruel nicknames? What is happening here?! Ugh. Gross.
I didn't get into it, lol. I brought it up because it's the main reason I was hesitant to name him Beckham, and this whole post is about his name.. And this whole board is about baby names.. And "threatening" is a little intense wording. It's called looking out for future bullying. My dad did it with all of our names. He made sure there was no way some little kid could make fun of our names by thinking of things little kids think of.
Guuuurl, you just don't know when to stop. You're outta your league on this one.
I just don't see why?? I didn't say anything offensive. I expressed a concern I had with the name. All I needed to hear was "no I wouldn't ever think of that", not "oh my gosh how dare your family threaten your unborn child with a nickname for not fitting gender norms". Obbbbviously this whole gender/sex thing is a BIG deal on The Bump. Now I know. This whole post was about how people felt about the dang name.
I was just worried about people calling him Becky, honestly.
This is the second time you made a reference to your kid possibly being made fun of for not fitting into traditional gender norms. Maybe you should just teach him to be himself and be confident. Also it's high time you learned the importance of that yourself as an adult.
Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
9 times out of 10 I'm pretty sure parents have this same worry that their child will be made fun of because of their name. It's the world we live in. It's almost the same worry someone would have if you have a son that wants to be a girl or vise versa. This whole sensitivity thing over gender is getting a little out of hand. All of a sudden now that Catelyn Jenner was born nobody can say something gender related without offending someone. @kqualls5 my family is the same way!
I mean, I'm worried that if my future progeny is Trans people will think they just "want" to be their non assigned sex as opposed to that actually being who they are but that's cool that you think it's "getting out of hand"
It's almost becoming a trend. I don't care what people do. If you're born a man, and feel you were meant to be woman, OKAY. This woman is just trying to get an opinion on a name and doesn't want her MALE child to be called Becky I guess IF he "CHOOSES" to be a man. Becky is a feminine name.
I think he's unlikely to be called "Becky" considering how dated that name is (other than by your family when he acts "girly," I guess). It seems more likely he'll be made fun of if he's not athletic considering the strong association with two professional athletes.
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
I do think that Beck is a possible nn. And that's also a famous musician. For me, this name doesn't work no matter which way you spin it. I'd be going back to the drawing board.
If you've already decided on a name, why the hell does it matter what "internet strangers" think? Then ask for brutal honesty and get bent out of shape when you get it. I hate posts like this.
If you've already decided on a name, why the hell does it matter what "internet strangers" think? Then ask for brutal honesty and get bent out of shape when you get it. I hate posts like this.
Lol I never once got bent out of shape over people saying they didn't like it? I don't like a lot of names people on this board are going with, it's natural to not like every name, and I didn't expect to get all positive feedback. If you actually read the post, you'll see I didn't get "bent out of shape" at all, and the only time I could see where you'd see that is when the gender norm thing got brought up again and everyone freaked out about my concern at a bad nickname.
I do think that Beck is a possible nn. And that's also a famous musician. For me, this name doesn't work no matter which way you spin it. I'd be going back to the drawing board.
There will be someone famous with the name you choose no matter what. I have one of the most common white girl names and people will still associate it with a celebrity or someone from their past. Unless you're going to throw around a bunch of letters and name your child Cgribha, there will be a connection to something that someone is going to think about. We've discussed the possibility of Beck and we both really like it, so that's not an issue at all. Again I think it matters what generation you grew up in, cus I have no idea who the musician Beck is.
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.
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While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context. Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.
I know, read that drama. And still think pos are reaching.
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While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name". ____________________________________________
It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.____________________________________________________________
Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
If you weren't worried about him acting girly, you wouldn't even worry about the NN "Becky." We're aren't making this stuff up. You are putting it out there, and people are reacting to it.
There are so many other things you could spend your time worrying about. I can send you my list of pregnant lady freakouts that don't revolve around gender BS if you need some ideas.
Edited again to add- this has nothing to do with whether others like you. We just don't like what you're saying on this particular topic with the "man up" comments and concerns over whether your boy is boyish enough.
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I like surnames as first names. If it flows then I think just go for it. I like the name. If my sister had a boy, she would have named him Brooks and that name is not in our family.
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
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It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.
Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
If you weren't worried about him acting girly, you wouldn't even worry about the NN "Becky." We're aren't making this stuff up. You are putting it out there, and people are reacting to it.
There are so many other things you could spend your time worrying about. I can send you my list of pregnant lady freakouts that don't revolve around gender BS if you need some ideas.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
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It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.
Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
If you weren't worried about him acting girly, you wouldn't even worry about the NN "Becky." We're aren't making this stuff up. You are putting it out there, and people are reacting to it.
There are so many other things you could spend your time worrying about. I can send you my list of pregnant lady freakouts that don't revolve around gender BS if you need some ideas.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
People are judging you based on your words, yes. A lot of what you said on the other board was.....let's say loaded. There are definitely people on here who believe/prefer traditional gender roles who don't receive the response you did, but they state their opinions in a, less loaded way.
People on this board will often point out unfortunate nicknames if they see them/know of them. Bringing up a worry of people using a traditionally feminine nn when no one even mentioned nns, with your other post, and what you said in the Oakley thread does convey as a whole that you are worried about your son conforming to gender norms. If you were worried about nns, it would have made more sense to have mentioned it in your original post.
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
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It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.
Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
If you weren't worried about him acting girly, you wouldn't even worry about the NN "Becky." We're aren't making this stuff up. You are putting it out there, and people are reacting to it.
There are so many other things you could spend your time worrying about. I can send you my list of pregnant lady freakouts that don't revolve around gender BS if you need some ideas.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
People are judging you based on your words, yes. A lot of what you said on the other board was.....let's say loaded. There are definitely people on here who believe/prefer traditional gender roles who don't receive the response you did, but they state their opinions in a, less loaded way.
People on this board will often point out unfortunate nicknames if they see them/know of them. Bringing up a worry of people using a traditionally feminine nn when no one even mentioned nns, with your other post, and what you said in the Oakley thread does convey as a whole that you are worried about your son conforming to gender norms. If you were worried about nns, it would have made more sense to have mentioned it in your original post.
You're right I should've mentioned it in the original post on here. I'm not worried about him fitting into gender norms. I expressed fear of a nickname, and in the Oakley thread all I said is that Quinn to me is a girl name (which the OP even said). Sorry how I worded things were more "loaded" than most people who share my views, and offended so many people. If I were to say I was offended by things all of you say I'd be told to accept that people on TB don't sugarcoat things. But since I'm going against things you all believe, I'm an ignorant hillbilly with a backwoods way of viewing things. All of this is beating a dead horse. I will refrain from posting on any board from now on since I left such a memorably bad taste in everyone's mouth. Good luck on all of your pregnancys.
This post is getting a little ridiculous.....I want to say, If the OP is worried about a nickname pinned to her son when and if he is acting feminine ........WHO CARES? She never said that acting feminine was bad........she just doesnt want a traditional Girls name used on her son. If her son Does get called Becky, OP isnt the one pointing out the behavior or determining that it is considered feminine behavior.....the NAME CALLER is. It is her mind and her kid and her worries...........This is getting weird!
To the OP.....if you are at all worried about the nn Becky, then move on to another name. Sounds like there are people in your life that might cause you some grief with Beckham. I dont care for Beckham, Beckett or Beck..........I much prefer Benjamin, Bennet, or Benedict...........or any name without a feminine NN...............Sheesh......cut a pregnant girl some slack
While I don't agree with ops thoughts on gender norms, I really think some of you are reaching with the "Becky" comment. She just wondering if this is a nickname that people will call her kid. End of story. @kqualls5 I wouldn't think Becky from beckham. And if anyone calls him that, and you don't like it, just say "that's not his name".
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It's not just this thread, though. OP has another thread (on 3rd tri I think, which has since been closed) that got into the whole gender dispute. It's not really a "reach" when put into context.
Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
If you weren't worried about him acting girly, you wouldn't even worry about the NN "Becky." We're aren't making this stuff up. You are putting it out there, and people are reacting to it.
There are so many other things you could spend your time worrying about. I can send you my list of pregnant lady freakouts that don't revolve around gender BS if you need some ideas.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
People are judging you based on your words, yes. A lot of what you said on the other board was.....let's say loaded. There are definitely people on here who believe/prefer traditional gender roles who don't receive the response you did, but they state their opinions in a, less loaded way.
People on this board will often point out unfortunate nicknames if they see them/know of them. Bringing up a worry of people using a traditionally feminine nn when no one even mentioned nns, with your other post, and what you said in the Oakley thread does convey as a whole that you are worried about your son conforming to gender norms. If you were worried about nns, it would have made more sense to have mentioned it in your original post.
You're right I should've mentioned it in the original post on here. I'm not worried about him fitting into gender norms. I expressed fear of a nickname, and in the Oakley thread all I said is that Quinn to me is a girl name (which the OP even said). Sorry how I worded things were more "loaded" than most people who share my views, and offended so many people. If I were to say I was offended by things all of you say I'd be told to accept that people on TB don't sugarcoat things. But since I'm going against things you all believe, I'm an ignorant hillbilly with a backwoods way of viewing things. All of this is beating a dead horse. I will refrain from posting on any board from now on since I left such a memorably bad taste in everyone's mouth. Good luck on all of your pregnancys.
I am from the Caribbean and there is a very tall, dark, and handsome badass musician with the last name "Beck". Everyone calls him Becky and it's hot and nobody goes around thinking he is girly or has a girl name. I actually don't even know his real first name. Names are very situational and I really don't think it works to worry about it in advance (in most situations).
This post is getting a little ridiculous.....I want to say, If the OP is worried about a nickname pinned to her son when and if he is acting feminine ........WHO CARES? She never said that acting feminine was bad........she just doesnt want a traditional Girls name used on her son. If her son Does get called Becky, OP isnt the one pointing out the behavior or determining that it is considered feminine behavior.....the NAME CALLER is. It is her mind and her kid and her worries...........This is getting weird!
To the OP.....if you are at all worried about the nn Becky, then move on to another name. Sounds like there are people in your life that might cause you some grief with Beckham. I dont care for Beckham, Beckett or Beck..........I much prefer Benjamin, Bennet, or Benedict...........or any name without a feminine NN...............Sheesh......cut a pregnant girl some slack
Yeah but have you read her other threads? She has alluded to the fact she thinks acting feminine is bad. I think that's the source of frustration here, not the 'Becky' thing.
This post is getting a little ridiculous.....I want to say, If the OP is worried about a nickname pinned to her son when and if he is acting feminine ........WHO CARES? She never said that acting feminine was bad........she just doesnt want a traditional Girls name used on her son. If her son Does get called Becky, OP isnt the one pointing out the behavior or determining that it is considered feminine behavior.....the NAME CALLER is. It is her mind and her kid and her worries...........This is getting weird!
To the OP.....if you are at all worried about the nn Becky, then move on to another name. Sounds like there are people in your life that might cause you some grief with Beckham. I dont care for Beckham, Beckett or Beck..........I much prefer Benjamin, Bennet, or Benedict...........or any name without a feminine NN...............Sheesh......cut a pregnant girl some slack
Yeah but have you read her other threads? She has alluded to the fact she thinks acting feminine is bad. I think that's the source of frustration here, not the 'Becky' thing.
Breathe.......Drop it........Let it go. She said that she doesnt think feminine behavior is bad. ..........Soooooo, Hows the weather?? (new topic)
This post is getting a little ridiculous.....I want to say, If the OP is worried about a nickname pinned to her son when and if he is acting feminine ........WHO CARES? She never said that acting feminine was bad........she just doesnt want a traditional Girls name used on her son. If her son Does get called Becky, OP isnt the one pointing out the behavior or determining that it is considered feminine behavior.....the NAME CALLER is. It is her mind and her kid and her worries...........This is getting weird!
To the OP.....if you are at all worried about the nn Becky, then move on to another name. Sounds like there are people in your life that might cause you some grief with Beckham. I dont care for Beckham, Beckett or Beck..........I much prefer Benjamin, Bennet, or Benedict...........or any name without a feminine NN...............Sheesh......cut a pregnant girl some slack
Yeah but have you read her other threads? She has alluded to the fact she thinks acting feminine is bad. I think that's the source of frustration here, not the 'Becky' thing.
Breathe.......Drop it........Let it go. She said that she doesnt think feminine behavior is bad. ..........Soooooo, Hows the weather?? (new topic)
Everyone has their panties in a bunch because on the 2nd tri board I did insinuate that I don't want my son to be feminine. What I should've said was that I want my children to be resilient. And also I believe in the "gender norm" roles. Boys being boys and doing boy things, and that pissed a lot of people off. But as for this post, it didn't need to go in that direction. Everyone just took it there because of something I said on a different board. Which is whatever. Thank you for understanding what I was trying to get across on here though.
This post is getting a little ridiculous.....I want to say, If the OP is worried about a nickname pinned to her son when and if he is acting feminine ........WHO CARES? She never said that acting feminine was bad........she just doesnt want a traditional Girls name used on her son. If her son Does get called Becky, OP isnt the one pointing out the behavior or determining that it is considered feminine behavior.....the NAME CALLER is. It is her mind and her kid and her worries...........This is getting weird!
To the OP.....if you are at all worried about the nn Becky, then move on to another name. Sounds like there are people in your life that might cause you some grief with Beckham. I dont care for Beckham, Beckett or Beck..........I much prefer Benjamin, Bennet, or Benedict...........or any name without a feminine NN...............Sheesh......cut a pregnant girl some slack
Yeah but have you read her other threads? She has alluded to the fact she thinks acting feminine is bad. I think that's the source of frustration here, not the 'Becky' thing.
Breathe.......Drop it........Let it go. She said that she doesnt think feminine behavior is bad. ..........Soooooo, Hows the weather?? (new topic)
Everyone has their panties in a bunch because on the 2nd tri board I did insinuate that I don't want my son to be feminine. What I should've said was that I want my children to be resilient. And also I believe in the "gender norm" roles. Boys being boys and doing boy things, and that pissed a lot of people off. But as for this post, it didn't need to go in that direction. Everyone just took it there because of something I said on a different board. Which is whatever. Thank you for understanding what I was trying to get across on here though.
Crazy how worked up some people got. Personally.... I love both sexes equally. I like strong men and strong women. I like boys names on boys and girls names on girls...........no shame in that!
Re: Last name as a first name
This.
Regardless of who you're naming him after, most people will assume it's David Beckham, as he is the most popular Beckham out there right now. It's the first thing I would have thought of. If you want to name him after Odell Beckham, maybe name him Odell?
It's kind of like when people name their kid Hudson. The #1 thing I think of is Kate Hudson. You could tell me that you had actually named him for Henry Hudson (like the Hudson river) or Jennifer Hudson the singer, but I'm still going to think of Kate Hudson first. Maybe Henry Hudson if I'm from NY. Unless you walk around saying "this is my son Beckham, we didn't name him after David Beckham, we named him after Odell Beckham" every time you introduce him, that is the assumption people will make. If there's a family connection I'm on board...otherwise I don't really get the last name as first name thing in general.
Totally see where you're coming from. But we're not naming him after either of them, we just like the name. And we got the inspiration from watching a football draft, not from caring about soccer. So I understand where people will assume it's after David, but I think I'll be okay enough to say "Nope, after my son, Beckham." I'd see everyone's point in the whole surname only if it has a meaning, but we're not naming him that because it's a last name. It's simply because we like the name and how it sounds with our names, and it just so happens to be a last name. I've never met anyone named Beckham and I've been told by several men in my family that if he ever acts feminine he'll be called Becky, and that was my main concern with the name, not having to deal with people thinking I'm trying to be too trendy, lol.me: 27 | husband: 35
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Signed, someone whos last name was turned into a kissing joke and then made a club about it to make it cool.
Edit: missed the THIRD comment. It's not cute or funny, the only people even thinking this are ignorant jerks.
9 times out of 10 I'm pretty sure parents have this same worry that their child will be made fun of because of their name. It's the world we live in. It's almost the same worry someone would have if you have a son that wants to be a girl or vise versa. This whole sensitivity thing over gender is getting a little out of hand. All of a sudden now that Catelyn Jenner was born nobody can say something gender related without offending someone. @kqualls5 my family is the same way!
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I didn't get into it, lol. I brought it up because it's the main reason I was hesitant to name him Beckham, and this whole post is about his name.. And this whole board is about baby names.. And "threatening" is a little intense wording. It's called looking out for future bullying. My dad did it with all of our names. He made sure there was no way some little kid could make fun of our names by thinking of things little kids think of.
Then ask for brutal honesty and get bent out of shape when you get it.
I hate posts like this.
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Mmm nope I was definitely just asking if its a nickname others thought he could get called. And if you read this post without already having a negative opinion made up about me, you would see this has nothing to do with the whole gender thing that got brought up on my post on the 2nd tri board.
I know, read that drama. And still think pos are reaching.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
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...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
People are judging you based on your words, yes. A lot of what you said on the other board was.....let's say loaded. There are definitely people on here who believe/prefer traditional gender roles who don't receive the response you did, but they state their opinions in a, less loaded way.
People on this board will often point out unfortunate nicknames if they see them/know of them. Bringing up a worry of people using a traditionally feminine nn when no one even mentioned nns, with your other post, and what you said in the Oakley thread does convey as a whole that you are worried about your son conforming to gender norms. If you were worried about nns, it would have made more sense to have mentioned it in your original post.
...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
People are judging you based on your words, yes. A lot of what you said on the other board was.....let's say loaded. There are definitely people on here who believe/prefer traditional gender roles who don't receive the response you did, but they state their opinions in a, less loaded way.
People on this board will often point out unfortunate nicknames if they see them/know of them. Bringing up a worry of people using a traditionally feminine nn when no one even mentioned nns, with your other post, and what you said in the Oakley thread does convey as a whole that you are worried about your son conforming to gender norms. If you were worried about nns, it would have made more sense to have mentioned it in your original post.
You're right I should've mentioned it in the original post on here. I'm not worried about him fitting into gender norms. I expressed fear of a nickname, and in the Oakley thread all I said is that Quinn to me is a girl name (which the OP even said). Sorry how I worded things were more "loaded" than most people who share my views, and offended so many people. If I were to say I was offended by things all of you say I'd be told to accept that people on TB don't sugarcoat things. But since I'm going against things you all believe, I'm an ignorant hillbilly with a backwoods way of viewing things. All of this is beating a dead horse. I will refrain from posting on any board from now on since I left such a memorably bad taste in everyone's mouth. Good luck on all of your pregnancys.
...except it does, bc as PP pointed out above, YOU continue to bring up your concerns about potential feminine behavior in your son.
Again, this is a baby name board. I expressed my concern with a nickname on a name board. I have normal pregnant lady freak outs. This isn't my sole worry. But this is a name board. So I mentioned it, just to see if anyone else would ever think of the "nickname". I didn't say I'm worried about him being feminine ANYWERE. I said on another board I'm not worried about it, and then on this board that I don't want him to have that nickname and kids are mean and I was just asking if anyone else would think of it. You guys are putting words in my mouth and judging me based on another post on another board.
People are judging you based on your words, yes. A lot of what you said on the other board was.....let's say loaded. There are definitely people on here who believe/prefer traditional gender roles who don't receive the response you did, but they state their opinions in a, less loaded way.
People on this board will often point out unfortunate nicknames if they see them/know of them. Bringing up a worry of people using a traditionally feminine nn when no one even mentioned nns, with your other post, and what you said in the Oakley thread does convey as a whole that you are worried about your son conforming to gender norms. If you were worried about nns, it would have made more sense to have mentioned it in your original post.
You're right I should've mentioned it in the original post on here. I'm not worried about him fitting into gender norms. I expressed fear of a nickname, and in the Oakley thread all I said is that Quinn to me is a girl name (which the OP even said). Sorry how I worded things were more "loaded" than most people who share my views, and offended so many people. If I were to say I was offended by things all of you say I'd be told to accept that people on TB don't sugarcoat things. But since I'm going against things you all believe, I'm an ignorant hillbilly with a backwoods way of viewing things. All of this is beating a dead horse. I will refrain from posting on any board from now on since I left such a memorably bad taste in everyone's mouth. Good luck on all of your pregnancys.
*sigh* I tried.
Yeah but have you read her other threads? She has alluded to the fact she thinks acting feminine is bad. I think that's the source of frustration here, not the 'Becky' thing.
Everyone has their panties in a bunch because on the 2nd tri board I did insinuate that I don't want my son to be feminine. What I should've said was that I want my children to be resilient. And also I believe in the "gender norm" roles. Boys being boys and doing boy things, and that pissed a lot of people off. But as for this post, it didn't need to go in that direction. Everyone just took it there because of something I said on a different board. Which is whatever. Thank you for understanding what I was trying to get across on here though.