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Mutiple losses...when did you decide to try again?

We are currently grieving our 40 week old still born daughter (cord accident). Approx. 2 years ago, we also had a 12 wk m/c. I am very worried to get preg. again even though recent preg. was normal/healthy. I am scared for obv. reasons. I am seriously considering surrogacy. When did you decide to have another? What kind of couselling/testing did you do before?



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Re: Mutiple losses...when did you decide to try again?

  • I'm so sorry for what you've been through.  I've had lots of early losses, but the pain of losing a baby at term is incomprehensible.  Remember that you can still have the same problems with surrogacy, so I don't know if it will help alleviate your worries.  All I can say is that with our third loss, our mindset sort of flipped into treating pregnancy as a sort of experiment that was likely to work at some point.  That helped a bit, but the worry never ended until we held him - and then a different sort of worry started.  It's all a leap of faith.  If you and your husband love each other, you'll make it through somehow.  
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    4 early losses 2009, 2010, 2015.  Baby #1 born 2/13/11.  
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