Over Being Pregnant Already

Charla1224 · October 2015

When I first saw that BFP I was soooo excited. We'd been trying for several months and I couldn't wait to tell my H and our parents. I felt great those first couple of weeks and I was on cloud 9 getting excited about the LO to come.

Fast forward to week 8 and nausea came in full force. Not just nausea but vomiting. A lot of vomiting. But, after a few hospital visits and Zofran I finally feel like we've got a handle on that part. Just in time for an acne flare up. And then constipation kicked in. And I'm just over it already.

I'm not the glowing pregnant woman I thought I'd be. I see all of you post about weekend hikes, exercising, and going to social events and I feel like a loser. It takes a lot for me to get our of bed at this point. I could lay in bed and alternate between watching Netflix and sleeping for DAYS. If I didn't have to go to work M-F I'd never leave home. I just don't have the energy to socialize with real life people. I don't feel at all like myself. I'm usually really in to mindfulness and being in tune with my body, but I don't know what's going on with it. I feel like a guest in my own body, trying to figure out what's next and where we're going, but totally out of the communication loop.

I just need to know that I'm not the only pregnant loser out there. Is there anyone else that's not enjoying every sunshine moment of their pregnancy?

JessicaB0627 · October 2015

Pregnancy is hard. And gross at times! I feel the same way you described and I felt that way with DD too, but here I am again. The exhaustion really does get better after 1st tri and hopefully your nausea will be better the rest of the pregnancy too. One day you will forget how miserable you were because it's all worth it for a LO in the end.

Dasha420 · October 2015

Hi. I'm a pregnant loser too. ;;)
I am nauseous as I type and will probably throw up within the next five minutes. This is ruling my life right now. Everything depends on how I feel - whether I go out or even go to work. I haven't told anyone yet but people are guessing.

I am congested to the point of no return. Back aches like crazy. Some pimples came out on my chest- weird for me. I am breathless the majority of the time and I'm having a really hard time finding pants for work!! =( or for anywhere else for that matter.

I've actually cancelled things and called in sick a few days already. When I am at work - I have an arsenal of food around me to keep stuffing myself to scare the nausea away. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. There were times that I was lucky enough to make it to the bathroom calmly to throw up into the sink then back to my desk like nothing happened.

Last week food had a bitter taste and it was hard to eat and keep things down. Nausea and vomiting greet me in the morning and see me off at night. It can strike at any moment so I'm constantly checking in with myself.
This is my first and we want more- if I make it past this. Which I will - we all will.

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Jparke2 · October 2015

I haven't exercises once since like week 5. It takes everything in me to leave the house. Friday night I went to bed at 7:30 and slept for FOURTEEN hours! I'm very lucky in that I haven't been throwing up, but the nausea, exhaustion, and food issues have been just awful. You aren't alone!

Charla1224 · October 2015

@Dasha420 Although I hope you feel better, it's comforting to know there are other's feeling similar to me.

@JessicaB0627 I know you're right. I'll get over this and when I see that little face it'll all feel worth it. I guess I just had other ideas of what pregnancy would be like. The way people fawn over pregnant women and they smile I thought this would be a happy 9-10 months. I knew nausea and things like that were possible, just never thought it would be so exhausting and emotionally draining to make another person. lol

Dasha420 · October 2015

I think the fawning over and glow will kick in a little later in the pregnancy. At least I hope it does. I see a bunch of women strolling along and they have a good sized bump. Maybe after all this we will kind of settle in like the babies in our bellies have and we will feel okay.

Turtle37 · October 2015

Yes! I am right there with you. This has been a totally miserable experience so far. I have missed a bunch of work due to nausea and vomiting and don't feel like doing anything socially. Everyone keeps saying it will get better, but I am in week 13 now and it is still a awful. I don't know how to work and function when I feel like this.

JessicaB0627 · October 2015

Turtle37 said:
Yes! I am right there with you. This has been a totally miserable experience so far. I have missed a bunch of work due to nausea and vomiting and don't feel like doing anything socially. Everyone keeps saying it will get better, but I am in week 13 now and it is still a awful. I don't know how to work and function when I feel like this.

It took me getting to about week 16-18 with DD until 1st tri symptoms (nausea, exhaustion, smells making me puke all the time) really disappeared. Once I got to that point I really felt fine the rest of the pregnancy. Other than back pain, not sleeping well when I was huge and peeing my pants on a regular basis, I never really had the awful 3rd tri that everyone talks about. I was admitted to the hospital at 36 weeks due to pre-e and induced at 37 weeks, so maybe those last few weeks would've been awful had I made it that long.

yogahh · October 2015

While the MS never hit me hard, the exhaustion did, and there were weekends that I just didn't leave the couch. I remember saying the same thing "how does everyone have the energy to do these things"! Give it a few more weeks, and I bet you start feeling better. Pregnancy, as you know, is different for everyone. You might be that woman that looks FANTASTIC in 3rd tri, while the rest of us are waddling and lack luster

LadySamLady · October 2015

Charla1224 said:

@Dasha420 Although I hope you feel better, it's comforting to know there are other's feeling similar to me.

@JessicaB0627 I know you're right. I'll get over this and when I see that little face it'll all feel worth it. I guess I just had other ideas of what pregnancy would be like. The way people fawn over pregnant women and they smile I thought this would be a happy 9-10 months. I knew nausea and things like that were possible, just never thought it would be so exhausting and emotionally draining to make another person. lol

This. I feel like all of the things I read about pregnancy and how beautiful it is were a crock of s***. It's like all of the mothers got together and agreed to keep the reality of pregnancy on the DL but once you're in the pregnant club they tell you the truth. I'm not saying that it isn't a miracle and beautiful (in theory) but in reality, it is pretty gross. I'm not glowing, I'm overheated and red. My stomach is hoarding poop and I've taken to blaming my farts on the dogs. I've got blue veins coming to light and cellulite for the first time in my life. It's not pretty. The only consolation is that I'm too exhausted to care!

I'm not saying I'm not grateful to be pregnant and excited to meet my LO because of course I am, but I'm with you 100% - pregnancy isn't all smiles and glow like I'd imagined, either.

AnastasiaBeaverhausen09 · October 2015

You are 8 weeks right now? Yeah, I felt awful at that point also. Basically from week 6 to about week 11 I felt TERRIBLE. I only left the house when I had to. Didn't see friends, didn't exercise, didn't really do anything at all. This is my first pregnancy and, while I didn't think it would all be sunshine and rainbows, I didn't think it would be as bad as it was. I am 12 weeks now and JUST starting to feel a bit better. We are telling people and my nausea is waning so I'm getting more excited and feeling more normal.

I sympathize with you though. I really struggled for a while. You are not alone in how you are feeling. I just keep telling myself that people do this multiple times, so it must be worth it!

TXmamatobe · October 2015

Around weeks 7-10, I swear I didn't want to do anything. I wanted to sit on the couch, lay in the bed, eat one cracker if I could keep it down and that was it. I felt like such a loser and so guilty as a mom since I have an almost 2yo to entertain. I just had zero energy. Around week 10, things really started getting better energy wise. I've gone on walks, taken my DD all over the place and just feel so much better in general. There are still tough days where I feel tired but I'm able to power through now. I hope the same is to come for you very soon! Hang in there!

Charla1224 · October 2015

@AnastasiaBeaverhausen09 and @TXmamatobe I'm freaking 12 weeks. Things still suck.

@LadySamLady YOU GET ME! I just feel like I was kept in the dark on how emotionally, psychologically, physically, and even spiritually draining it all can be. I always knew part of being a mom was sacrificing for your kid(s), but I guess I just didn't realize what a sacrifice simply the pregnancy would be. I feel like I've had the flu for two months and my H is just his regular ol self... nothings changed nothings new. Grrrr

kbrands7 · October 2015

Hang in there! Pregnancy can be hard, especially in the second half of the first trimester! I completely understand that feeling that the nastier side of pregnancy is a big secret -- I felt that way about going back to work too.

My first trimester symptoms started getting a lot better around 10 weeks this time and around 14 weeks with my son. I did go out Saturday night, but it kicked my butt. If it weren't for DS, I would have lounged around all day yesterday. I'm patiently awaiting the second trimester energy boost.
Edited for typo

AnastasiaBeaverhausen09 · October 2015

@Charla1224 I just saw your EDD - we are due date twins! I'm sorry you are still not feeling well. I really hope that in the next few weeks as we finish up the first tri it gets better. It straight up pisses me off that my husband is just fine and dandy and I'm going through so much physically, mentally, emotionally. He has been wonderful and accommodating but damnit, it's just not fair!

sosweet487 · October 2015

Yep! I was totally stoked when I found out I was pregnant. After vomiting again yesterday morning my husband turns to me and jokingly says, "You sure you want 2 kids?"

Bluejay3030 · October 2015

You're SO not alone. I had a long rant on Friday about how I've cancelled almost every social obligation for weeks, and didn't leave the house for 4 days in a row (I work from home) starting on Thursday. Some days I can't even stand to cook my daughter meals for fear of vomiting, so I let her eat the most unhealthy things.

I've had horrible nausea, vomiting (diclegis starting at 11 weeks has helped with that somewhat), and exhaustion. Tomorrow I'll be 13 weeks, and I have to say I really thought I'd be better by now.

This is my favorite time of year to be outside, and I have pretty much missed all of it. I had been looking forward to taking DD to a specific trick-or-treat event at a museum for WEEKS, and 2 hours before we were supposed to leave I finally threw in the towel and decided not to go because I felt so sick.

Anyway, I'm so sorry you're feeling the same way. I hope 2nd tri is nicer to both of us!

salbb · October 2015

Yup agreed with all above! Currently in docs waiting room to see if I can get anything to help with m/s so I can function again
Hubby has been great but I couldn't even get to grocery store non vom at weekend, that with time off work and feeling housebound and that's me - give me some drugs!!!!

Bring on the glow

finnybooboo · October 2015

You're not alone at all! I have been nauseous, bloated, and just feeling blah and oh so exhausted! On top of that, I have broken out in an insanely itchy rash that I believe is pregnancy related, and my acne has flared up HARDCORE this week. GUH!!!!!!

I was never that glowing pregnant woman or new mom. I felt fugly and just plain gigantic by the end. I'm jealous of the women who only grow a belly and look gorgeous even at 9 months, and who seem to make being a new mom absolutely flawless and easy. I know FB is 95% a lie, but it still gets to me when I see them post a picture of the amazing homemade apple bundt cake they just made 2 weeks after giving birth. I was lucky if I got a SHOWER at that point the first time.

sillyfox · October 2015

Settle in, it will be a while! I put a countdown on my phone but 210+ days is just depressing so I deleted it. And being at the end of the month just makes it seem like I have that much further to go than even most of the ladies here. Plus my first was 4 days late. I have come to terms with the fact that I will be pregnant forever.

pavlicekb18 · October 2015

When I told my mom She asked "are you excited to be pregnant again" I replied with "no, just excited for the end result" I hated being pregnant with my first and I still don't like it. With that said I just remind myself on tough days that the baby is worth ever symptom I have throughout the pregnancy.

laurenmdrn16 · October 2015

Oh, man! I am so with you all!

I love being a mom, but my body HATES being pregnant. Seriously, it is just one thing after another. I love caring for newborns and children and always knew I wanted to be a mom, but the physical toll of pregnancy is wearing me down. After my son was born, we seriously started the adoption process, but it is ridiculous! We were planning to adopt an older child out of foster care, but the system does not make that easy. We really wanted to expand our family, but figured my body couldn't handle being pregnant again. Well, here we are and it is not going well.

All I can say is with my last pregnancy, there was this beautiful window around the 2nd trimester where I felt like a gorgeous, glowing pregnant woman. My nausea had disappeared, my skin was clear, the PNVs were making my hair glorious, I had this big, round, hard bump (nothing like the squishy misshapen blump I had been sporting), and as I proudly waddled through life, everyone could clearly tell I was carrying a baby and not just fat and dumpy. That was the best few weeks ever! And I think it would've lasted until almost the end because my friends who were pregnant at the same time sailed through the last months of pregnancy looking like glamorous goddesses! Yeah, you get the swelling and other issues that spring up in the later months, but it really is this first stretch that is brutal! Hang in there and know that you are a strong and beautiful woman carrying life inside you! This too shall pass and in the end you get the greatest reward ever!

CBS78 · October 2015

Right there with you. This is my second pregnancy and I'm miserable. I'm 13 weeks now and it's so hard to do anything and I'm still on a bunch of different meds for nausea. It's a little depressing because I'm basically just counting down the weeks, days and hours until it's over. May is along way from here!

saraleigh2 · October 2015

Omg... Me too!!!

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caterin · October 2015

I always thought I would be this happy pregnant woman, perfect glow on her face, just spreading happiness all over, do yoga and take long walks with my husband, delicately picking babyoutfits...
Well, that's just a fairytale...
I absolutely hate it so far. We can't even speak about morning sickness, it's allday sickness. Doesn't matter where, restaurants, parking lots, work, in front of my house, or when.... When I look in the mirror I just see an exhausted woman, with messy hair and unclear skin. Going for a walk or yoga?! I'm happy when I make it to work and back..
I thought things would change but at almost 13 weeks I still can't see the light of the tunnel. I hate being grumpy but can't help it...
So yes, you are not alone

Turtle37 · October 2015

It's nice to feel like I am not alone, but I'm sorry so many of us are having a difficult time. I feel like just when I think things should be getting better more symptoms appear...

SophiaAlbert · October 2015

Lol! Same here. All I seam to read is that ftm barely gain any weight until 16 weeks or so but they do have the pregnancy glow. I barely sleep and survive the days eating tons of xarbs... so heavy weight gain and horrible complexion which both don't make me feel great. Add that to the exhaustion and random hair loss and I think this will be an only child! Ha

autumnlynne1221 · October 2015

I'm so right there with you! At 6 weeks I felt great but then at 7 weeks it was like a freight train hit me. I've been so sick ever since. Nothing tastes good and everything smells bad. The vomiting, the dry heaving, and the nausea just won't take a break. I don't wanna do anything but lay in bed but that's not realistic. Praying the feeling good, glowing part is just right around the corner in the 2nd trimester!

TheThornBird · October 2015

sillyfox said:

Settle in, it will be a while! I put a countdown on my phone but 210+ days is just depressing so I deleted it. And being at the end of the month just makes it seem like I have that much further to go than even most of the ladies here. Plus my first was 4 days late. I have come to terms with the fact that I will be pregnant forever.

Frilled sharks are pregnant for 3.5 YEARS. With multiple babies. Imagine how depressing that would be

Sienna516 · October 2015

I can't agree more. Between the nausea, tiredness, needles, and now headaches, I told my husband I'm not gonna make it to the end lol. Several times. I was working out for the last year, losing weight and gaining muscle prior to getting pregnant and that all went out the window once all these lovely symptoms got ahold of me. I just feel overall crummy like I did when I was in a junk food binge, which I've been eating a lot of junk food (thanks food aversions). Surprisingly my scale varies between me being down 1-3 pounds from when I first got pregnant, but I'm pretty sure it's muscle loss

. I'm going to try to slowly start working out again once I ditch some of these symptoms. I've felt more depressed overall the last 2 months too, but I think that is for several reasons: being off bc, not exercising anymore, eating bad food, sunlight: staying dark later in the morning & getting dark earlier, dirty house constantly, constantly worried something will be wrong with the baby.

mswizzard · October 2015

I am completely with you. I'm at 15 weeks right now and still feeling like crap. Seems like every time I get one symptom under control, a new one sprouts up and throws me for a loop. All the other pregnant women I know, or women who have had children, have all told me that I shouldn't still be feeling this way. I don't know anyone else besides me who has had these constant cramps and uterine pains, regular spotting, horrible headaches, backaches, you name it. Not to mention feeling like my legs are going to pop out of socket from your hips widening! Why does no one warn you about that?!

Anyway. We'll be alright. Just gotta keep your eyes on the prize. Keep thinking about that little nugget on the sonogram. I have told my husband no more after this one, though.

SaraJan2014 · October 2015

I am in the same boat too. So far nothing enjoyable about pregnancy. My sister had the same experience and said when she was pregnant her fear of a miscarriage wasn't about losing the baby but about having to start the nausea/vomiting all over again. I have never been such a sloth in my life and my house has never been such a disaster. I should have cancelled my gym membership for the first trimester. I am also greatly looking forward to being myself again! But in the good news department, I have figured out some ways to manage the nausea and vomiting so at least those are not 24/7 anymore.

Pascal86 · October 2015

@SaraJan2014 - This is my exact concern! I haven't had an ultrasound yet and feel like I'll have to see it before I have any attachment to it, so at the moment the fear of miscarriage is totally around having to do all of this again. I would probably have to take a break.

camillaandcarson · October 2015

My first pregnancy was pretty good in regards to nausea/throwing up for the most part. I was sick for some weeks but it was tolerable. I didn't have the severe food aversion for months that I have this time. I was extremely tired but could take naps and maybe even get a chair or something to sit down and/or watch TV during the hard parts.

This pregnancy I have had vomiting and nausea is 24/7. Food and water aren't my friends. No resting, napping, or sitting is possible. It is 100% about chasing and keeping my toddler safe, well fed, entertained, and happy while also blocking all daily attempts to harm the baby bump. Toddler decided on day of my BFP to stop taking naps.

I am hoping we all feel better soon! It helps me to think about the baby coming since it is all for such a happy cause and a short time in the big scheme of things.

araecasey · October 2015

Yep, grumpy pregnant lady right here. It gets better for me in second tri, but I much prefer having my baby in arms. Now that I've got my daughter I see pregnancy as an annoying means to an end. A lot of discomfort, but hey, motherhood is all about giving of oneself for the good of your child. I felt like my last pregnancy prepared my heart for our very rough first year.

ktous720 · October 2015

omg!! my Boyfriend and I joke about the conspiracy of pregnancy all the time!! We swear we'll be forced to sign a contract before leaving the hospital that says we cannot tell anyone with out children about how horrific it is being sick in the first trimester. I have talked to people with kids about my MS and other symptoms and they all say "Oh yeah, I forgot about that" FORGOT?? Seriously??? We just look at each other and say, " are we going to forget all about this too??"

but regardless.. it sucks. I throw up all day long, have this horrible stuck gassy feeling and once I can actually eat something substantial I get diarrhea with in 20 minutes. Never mind that I haven't done a single household chore in weeks. How do you ladies pull this off with toddlers at home??

ChrisnSteph · October 2015

I wouldn't call yourself a loser, but I can definitely relate. I'm only 9 weeks and constipation has definitely set in which makes me more sluggish and nauseous.... Which makes me dehydrated but I can't really drink because I'll vomit. Ugh. I definitely am over it. I just keep telling myself that my body is temporarily not mine because it is an alien's spaceship and I'm just going along for the ride.... Which will hopefully get a lot smoother at the 2nd Tri. (I'm a bit of a nerd) but you are certainly not a loser. You're going to be amazing! Xo

bikramlass · October 2015

Agreed! My pregnancy with my dd was horrible and I was hoping this one would fare better, but no! It actually made me feel better when Kim Kardashian made her comments about hating pregnancy. I love my dd and I am so excited about this baby. But I am sure I cannot do this a third time!

Soontobejones33 · October 2015

Yes. This sucks. 12 weeks today and my body tricked me into thinking I was done with ms. Only to vomit for the first time in that 12 weeks, outside! I hate vomiting. The horrible taste, the snot. Ugh. I am now sitting at my table to make sure it's not going to happen again, probably going to be late for work again. I've got my 12 week appointment coming up and dang it if I'm not going to be excited. I refuse to let the pain and sickness thwart my happiness. Oh and if one more person tells me I'm not sick, or I did this to myself, I'm gonna come out swinging. Or throw up on them and then ask if that looks like illness.

Charla1224 · October 2015

@birkramlass I know not everyone is a Kardashian fan, but I love Kim for her comments about pregnancy. A lot of trolls talked about her saying she was ungrateful for her comments, but I get it. You can be totally excited for a baby. Go through FT and everything and still hate actually being pregnant. It's a means to an end.

laurenmdrn16 · October 2015

ktous720 said:

omg!! my Boyfriend and I joke about the conspiracy of pregnancy all the time!! We swear we'll be forced to sign a contract before leaving the hospital that says we cannot tell anyone with out children about how horrific it is being sick in the first trimester. I have talked to people with kids about my MS and other symptoms and they all say "Oh yeah, I forgot about that" FORGOT?? Seriously??? We just look at each other and say, " are we going to forget all about this too??"
but regardless.. it sucks. I throw up all day long, have this horrible stuck gassy feeling and once I can actually eat something substantial I get diarrhea with in 20 minutes. Never mind that I haven't done a single household chore in weeks. How do you ladies pull this off with toddlers at home??

I love this! And yes, you do kind of forget. When we announced our pregnancy to my grandmother, she lost it. She is actually my step-grandmother and was never pregnant/gave birth so she was shocked that I would "go through it again". It made me realize that yeah, it sucks, but the reward is soooo worth it and that is hard to fathom if you haven't been on the other side. The idea of having another little baby, a brother/sister for my son, and seeing all those incredible changes to our family is the best pay-off ever. My mom and other moms I talk to completely understand, but those who haven't been pregnant or given birth are always dumb-founded when I say that I am knowingly going through it again. Maybe forget isn't the right word, but you have a different perspective. Now, if you had asked me a year ago or even 6 months ago and I would've said "Hell no am I putting myself through that again!", but when it is the right time, you feel it and you get to a place where you acknowledge the suckitude that is MS, bloating, hemorrhoids, headaches, exhaustion and yet still know it is the right thing for yourself and your family to do.

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